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Does it ever get easier? RIP, big guy

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  • Does it ever get easier? RIP, big guy

    My stud had a stupid, silly pasture accident. The sort of thing where they're goofing off, all 4 feet go out from under them, and they fall on thier ass. Get up, act surprised, shake it off, and keep going. Unfortunately, my guy did more damage than that. Potentially fractured his neck. And while he responded well to meds for a few days, and was doing better, he took an ugly fall and we decided to put him down tonight. Yeah, i know, i made the right choice, did what was right for the horse, he's not suffering, i know, mentally, all of that. But as a professional, having owned beaucoup horses, running boarding, training and breeding farms, you come to accept that you're going to have to, at least occassionally, deal with the death of a horse. But this one upsets me just as much as the first one, 25+ years ago. Last summer I had a brand-new boarder who decided to put her old guy down. I bawled like a baby. I hadn't had the horse in the barn for a month, barely knew the horse or his owner. I know i'm rambling a bit, but you'd think this is a fact of life and the business that i'd get used to by now. If i ever do, i suppose i should get out of horses altogether. But right now, i sure wish it was easier to deal with.....

    RIP, One Tough Dude. you'll be missed.
    Different Times Equestrian Ventures at Hidden Spring Ranch

  • #2
    It gets no easier. I'm so sorry for your loss. Hugs.


    • #3

      It's never easy even when you know you're doing to right thing.
      Originally posted by dizzywriter
      My saddle fits perfectly well. It might be a little tight around the waist, but I take care of that with those spandex things.


      • #4
        I am so sorry, Timex. ((hugs))


        • #5
          If it ever does get easier you know it's time to move on to another line of work. Godspeed.
          McDowell Racing Stables

          Home Away From Home


          • #6
            My heart goes out to you. Godspeed One Tough Dude.


            • #7
              I'm so sorry for your loss. I don't think it ever gets easier, because then you wouldn't care and that would be tragic.


              • #8
                I'm very sorry for your loss.


                • #9
                  NO ~ it does not ever get easier ~ ((hugs)) & tears for your loss ~

                  NO ~ it never gets any easier ~ always hurts like Hell ~

                  Thoughts and prayers and tears and ((hugs)) ~ I am sorry for your loss~

                  RIP ~ One Tough Dude ~ knowing you will always be loved and remembered ~
                  Zu Zu Bailey " IT'S A WONDERFUL LIFE ! "


                  • #10
                    It's not supposed to ever get easy, but that's why we're here. To tell you we understand, we've been there, and that tears are okay. Run wild, run free Dude.
                    ~Kryswyn~ Always look on the bright side of life, de doo, de doo de doo de doo
                    Check out my Kryswyn JRTs on Facebook

                    "Life is merrier with a terrier!"


                    • #11
                      I am so sorry. Rest in peace, One Tough Dude.


                      • #12
                        Some duties never get easier.
                        Sorry for your loss.


                        • #13
                          Originally posted by Laurierace View Post
                          If it ever does get easier you know it's time to move on to another line of work. Godspeed.
                          You beat me to it.

                          My condolences, Timex.
                          "It's like a Russian nesting doll of train wrecks."--CaitlinandTheBay

                          ...just settin' on the Group W bench.


                          • #14
                            So sorry for your loss.

                            "I am still under the impression that there is nothing alive quite so beautiful as a thoroughbred horse." -- John Galsworthy


                            • #15
                              Originally posted by Laurierace View Post
                              If it ever does get easier you know it's time to move on to another line of work. Godspeed.
                              I third this. It never gets any easier for me either. Hugs to you, I know it is hard.
                              Blogging about daily life on the retirement farm: http://paradigmfarms.blogspot.com/
                              Paradigm Farms on Facebook


                              • #16
                                I'm so sorry Timex. ((((HUGS))))
                                I would like to think I will die an heroic death...

                                But it's more likely I'll trip over my dog and choke on a spoonful of frosting.


                                • #17
                                  You know you did the right thing and that will help ease your mind as you adjust to the loss.



                                  • #18
                                    So very sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you. RIP Big Guy, hugs to your mom.
                                    Quality Hunter Ponies


                                    • #19
                                      The world completely sucks when we lose an animal-it does. I feel the loss and think the world will never be the same. And I am right, the world is different, and we embrace that difference when we welcome the new animals in our lives.

                                      I keep this thought close to me and my children, I'm currently struggling with the loss of a couple of animals, I need to focus on the animals that have come to me and are here with me now.

                                      Huggs, it really hurts to experience the loss...


                                      • #20
                                        I'm so sorry for your loss, Timex. Godspeed, One Tough Dude....