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  • How To Deal:

    There's a TON of how to deal threads floating around!

    Let's face it, wherever you go in the horse world there's gong to be at least one person who intentionally or unintentionally is just BENT on ruining your experience.

    So how to deal:

    Grow a pair of big brass ones. Reach down, grab your ovaries and don't be a door mat. You can only be taken advantage of if you allow it.

    Grow a thick skin, and invest in ear plugs. Words can't bother you if you don't let them, especially if you're tuning the blah blah out with the assistance of a muffling device (I mean the ear plugs, not a sock, polo wrap etc stuffed in an annoying person's mouth. Tempting as it may be sometimes)

    Draw a line in the stone dust. A nice, big, clear, easily spotted one. If need be, label which side of the line belongs to the idiots and make it known that on no uncertain terms is the stupid to cross this line.

    Be proactive. Take steps to throw big ol monkey wrenches in the stupids' attempts to thwart your enjoying horse ownership before they even get started.

    Be honest and up front.

    Don't smack the stupids with crops, 4X4s, rail road ties, whatever's handy. No matter how tempting it gets.

    Be nice when you can, but accept that sometimes it just may not be an option.

    Know when to: Stand your ground, back down, walk away, file a restraining order.

    Wear shirts with clever quotes on them, like
    Do not tread on me, for I am a tiny island littered with land mines.

    Know your limits.

    Always have an escape route, just like when driving. JUST incase a stupid decides to cut you off and stop short, trying to bring your equine joy ride to a screeching halt. Deftly maneuver around them, and carry on your merry way.

    Know when it's time to leave.

    DO NOT under any circumstances mimic the behavior of the stupids. This is not a case of when in Rome. DON'T do it. It just ends badly.


    aaand that's all I've got for now. Feel free to add or attack as you see fit.
    Owned by a Paint/TB and an OTTB.
    RIP Scoutin' For Trouble ~ 2011 at 10
    RIP Tasha's Last Tango ~ 2010 at ~23
    RIP In Sha' Allah ~ 2009 too young at 5

  • #2
    Thank you! This should be a PSA.
    "Kindness is free" ~ Eurofoal
    ---
    The CoTH CYA - please consult w/your veterinarian under any and all circumstances.

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    • #3
      Originally posted by EqTrainer View Post
      Thank you! This should be a PSA.
      That was a nice, full, "how to" PSA.

      And I can't believe it's necessary for Horsers. If you can get a kind, wiggy and arguably stupid 1,000#-er to comply, what's the problem with mere people?

      I'd also add "Ask. Tell. Promise."

      If you walk around knowing two things-- that you can Promise that, by God, things will change-- you rarely have to make that happen. No one wants to find out how this will be forced. They'll take Tell and Ask.

      Also, know how to escalate and de-escalate. You already learned this with horses. Do it with people. The Stupid who begins to change gets a stroke on the neck, even if he offers just 10% different. Escalation should be slow, systematic and considered, with you always looking for a way to lower DefCon.

      Last, but not least, and I think the OP covered it: Know when you need to run or put a fence between you and the raging beast. There's no shame in saving your bacon when you think it's really and truly at risk. Knowing you can take care of yourself actually makes you more kind and generous. No one can be good to another when he's wondering whether or not he has to keep himself safe. Take responsibility for that, and then you can extend yourself.
      The armchair saddler
      Politically Pro-Cat

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      • #4
        can we make this a sticky?
        www.facebook.com/doggonegoodgoodies
        http://doggonebakedgoods.com/

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          #5
          Originally posted by mvp View Post
          That was a nice, full, "how to" PSA.

          And I can't believe it's necessary for Horsers. If you can get a kind, wiggy and arguably stupid 1,000#-er to comply, what's the problem with mere people?

          .
          Thanks.

          and I think it has something to do with 'feelings'....because people have them (in theory, I wonder about some of humanity)...and some are overly sensitive to those of others with little to no regard for their own, while others don't have them, or at least have an underdeveloped/mutated version....and can't possibly fathom that anyone feels any way other than the same..or at all.
          Owned by a Paint/TB and an OTTB.
          RIP Scoutin' For Trouble ~ 2011 at 10
          RIP Tasha's Last Tango ~ 2010 at ~23
          RIP In Sha' Allah ~ 2009 too young at 5

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          • #6
            If you can get a kind, wiggy and arguably stupid 1,000#-er to comply, what's the problem with mere people?

            That needs to be on a fridge.

            I second the sticky!

            Paula
            He is total garbage! Quick! Hide him on my trailer (Petstorejunkie).

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            • #7
              Originally posted by EquineImagined View Post
              and I think it has something to do with 'feelings'....because people have them (in theory, I wonder about some of humanity)...and some are overly sensitive to those of others with little to no regard for their own, while others don't have them, or at least have an underdeveloped/mutated version....and can't possibly fathom that anyone feels any way other than the same..or at all.
              I think there's a different cause of the problem.

              People are capable of lying to one another. They also lie to themselves. I don't think animals can or bother with dishonesty.

              Oh, and as helpless infants, we are conditioned to become connoisseurs of people's emotions. After all, the baby who can't get his parents to care for him dies.
              The armchair saddler
              Politically Pro-Cat

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