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  • #61
    Someone at the barn needs to:
    1) Assess the education level of the Mustang
    2) Assess the spirit level of the Mustang
    3) Assess the horsenality type of the Mustang (prone to "make me!"defiance, prone to be in-your-face playful, prone to freeze then explode, from fear, or prone to go fizzy & run off.)
    4) Assess the skill level of the owner, & the level of challenge between her personality & the horse's horsenality; e.g., if person's timid, the "Make me!" horse will be a bigger challenge.

    Someone must then communicate all of this to the owner, & a skill development plan for her & a training program for Mustang, so that both are safe, confident, & progressing, must be implemented. If owner hasn't the savvy to train the horse (a distinct possibility, as we all know), BO must prohibit her from dealing with the horse, & a qualified person must train the horse, & owner must hone her skills with a safer horse, till such time as they can safely partner up.

    eta: I don't know if BO can prohibit the unsavvy person from dealing with her horse LEGALLY, but it's a righteous attempt to protect the ignorant, as well as to protect the horse who could get sent down the road if he injured the ignorant.

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    • #62
      Originally posted by WarDance View Post
      My horses have never been turned out because they were in training barns and got worked 6 days a week. I've ridden for 18 years and showed at the national level so I am not clueless at all. I was also a working student so I did my share of grunge work to be able to show and have a horse.
      Am too lazy to go read your previous posts, but do you do breed circuit shows, by chance?

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      • #63
        We have 3 plus pages of people criticizing someone for criticizing someone else. And it didn't sound like the OP stood there ridiculing the new boarder (just thinking it).

        Thanks to the person who posted that the gaudy stuff doesn't get stolen. Probably the only thing worth reading in the whole thread. And the reason my current stick is ... hmmmm.... colorful.

        Can't you all let up a little? Haven't most of us rolled our eyes at a newbie to horses that we thought was a disaster? And often have to swallow that first judgement.
        Several of you have told the OP to can the criticism and try to be helpful. Good advice.
        How many times does it have to be said?
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        • #64
          Originally posted by BarbB View Post
          Several of you have told the OP to can the criticism and try to be helpful. Good advice.
          How many times does it have to be said?
          Once....by each person who was offended by it.
          3.141592653589793238462643383279502884197169399375 10582097494459230781640628620899862803482534211706 79821480865132823066470938446095505822317253594081 284811174502841027019385.....

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          • #65
            Originally posted by WarDance View Post
            Oh and I'm not a teenager. I'm in my mid 20's. This girl is probably in her early 20's. She dresses like she's 12 though. She was wearing some leggings with neon galloping horses and a pink skirt over them!
            Mean girls suck and the above quote is about as mean as it gets. Sorry for those of you that think it is too harsh to point out the obvious to the OP. Perhaps you were lucky enough to escape the mean girl treatment in Jr High.

            Originally posted by Western View Post
            Do NOT sit on your hands & forever regret not having given this gal the facts! She needs to understand her situation YESTERDAY! I only hope that it's not too late.
            It is not OP's job to any such thing. Especially since OP has "never boarded, only had horses in training" which I translate to mean that she was a spoiled brat whose parents footed the bills while she only had to show up for lessons on her made horse.

            Originally posted by Western View Post
            Someone at the barn needs to:
            1) Assess the education level of the Mustang
            2) Assess the spirit level of the Mustang
            3) Assess the horsenality type of the Mustang (prone to "make me!"defiance, prone to be in-your-face playful, prone to freeze then explode, from fear, or prone to go fizzy & run off.)
            4) Assess the skill level of the owner, & the level of challenge between her personality & the horse's horsenality; e.g., if person's timid, the "Make me!" horse will be a bigger challenge.

            Someone must then communicate all of this to the owner, & a skill development plan for her & a training program for Mustang, so that both are safe, confident, & progressing, must be implemented. If owner hasn't the savvy to train the horse (a distinct possibility, as we all know), BO must prohibit her from dealing with the horse, & a qualified person must train the horse, & owner must hone her skills with a safer horse, till such time as they can safely partner up.

            eta: I don't know if BO can prohibit the unsavvy person from dealing with her horse LEGALLY, but it's a righteous attempt to protect the ignorant, as well as to protect the horse who could get sent down the road if he injured the ignorant.

            Oh yeah. Figure out the horsinality and whip out that carrot stick. That will definitely help. But I guess if she is Parellified she will never be in danger of getting hurt by riding her horse.

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              #66
              Originally posted by sketcher View Post

              It is not OP's job to any such thing. Especially since OP has "never boarded, only had horses in training" which I translate to mean that she was a spoiled brat whose parents footed the bills while she only had to show up for lessons on her made horse.
              I already said that I was a working student so I frequently had to put girls in the ring on their made horse, run back to the barn, change into my show clothes, ride my horse and get back to the barn to work! My parents never spent big bucks on a horse but I worked hard an it paid off because I won. And I won alot!

              And yes, I show at breed shows.

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              • #67
                Originally posted by MistyBlue View Post
                Wellll, it might be that nobody touches your stuff because they're afraid of a GB fan coming after them.
                In Wisconsin? Here I just have to deal with a BO who's a Patriots fan
                I'm not arguing, I'm just explaining why I'm right
                Violence doesn't end violence. It extends it. Break the cycle.

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                • #68
                  "Especially since OP has "never boarded, only had horses in training" which I translate to mean that she was a spoiled brat whose parents footed the bills while she only had to show up for lessons on her made horse. "

                  WOW, talk about judgemental and mean. Pot, meet kettle! Seems a good many people on this thread need to grow up.

                  ...and I broke a one-eyed shetland pony stallion at the age of 4, and trained him to GP dressage, so I really know what I'm talking about, unlike the rest of you losers

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                  • #69
                    In Wisconsin? Here I just have to deal with a BO who's a Patriots fan
                    HFB...*every* state fears the die-hard GB fan. They put the fan in fanatic!
                    You jump in the saddle,
                    Hold onto the bridle!
                    Jump in the line!
                    ...Belefonte

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                    • #70
                      LMAO! I'm barely on the radar back home in terms of die-hard. The vast majority of my clothing and household goods aren't NFL approved

                      Though I WAS known for asking for game updates while in the ring. I'd ride past someone with a radio and hiss, "What's the score?!" and they'd give me updates every time I rode past. Those were the days.
                      I'm not arguing, I'm just explaining why I'm right
                      Violence doesn't end violence. It extends it. Break the cycle.

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                      • #71
                        Well, it's definitely possible that the new boarder is clueless, but I'm positive that you're classless and I think that's worse.

                        Here's hoping other members of the barn are much more helpful. Sounds like it could be a recipe for disaster if it really is a green mustang (or any horse) and a green rider. But it doesn't sound like OP knows enough much to accurately tell us, so maybe it's a match made in heaven.
                        "to live is the rarest thing in the world, most people merely exist."

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                        • #72
                          i bet the new boarder is a lot of fun to be around, and doesn't mind if anyone laughs at her tack. I am a 43 yr old married woman who puts gold twinkle toes on her horses' hooves and hair gel with glitter in his tail and mane. Life is about having fun!! Be kind to the new person and help her out. This is probably her dream come true to get a horse.

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                          • #73
                            Originally posted by Western View Post
                            We all have reactions to rhinestone tack & a 20-something dressing in pony leggings & a pink skirt at the barn, it's just that we can overlook the bad taste in order to be friendly & helpful..
                            The pony leggings could well be Equissentials riding tights with "Grip Bums" or "Grip Knees". These are my go-to riding tights for summer; they stay cool even though they are black, they hold up, they are not terribly expensive, and best of all, Equissentials will make them in custom sizes. I am 48 and I don't give a flying f*** what stuck-up people think about me riding in tights with fuschia pegasi stamped on them!
                            You have to have experiences to gain experience.

                            1998 Morgan mare Mythic Feronia "More Valley Girl Than Girl Scout!"

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                            • #74
                              "Parellified" - this put-down word & your other words, sketcher, are inappropriate, because someone is possibly in danger with her Mustang, & a fiberglass stick with a removable string on the end is an excellent tool to keep one safe while "getting with" a horse. You don't have to call it a carrot stick if that's "beneath" you, & you don't have to call the horse's personality a "horsenality", but the accurate assessments of both owner & rider, & appropriate plans for their progress should be implemented.

                              I didn't say to buy any PNH merchandise, (you don't want/can't afford a cs, a 3' stick will work fine) & I didn't say that PNH is the ONLY WAY for the newbie to go. I'm fine with whatever'll keep horse & human safe as they learn to partner up. Bill Dorrance's book is another way. A qualified mentor is another way, or any number of combinations.

                              Also, sketcher, your claim that it isn't the OP's job to do a darn thing about a likely impending wreck is just bogus. OP is an adult & it's her duty as a good neighbor to do what she can to protect the newbie. God asked Cain where Abel was, & Cain answered, "Am I my brother's keeper?" Surely, sketcher, you don't agree with Cain.
                              Last edited by Western; May. 2, 2012, 11:43 PM.

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                              • #75
                                Originally posted by Burbank View Post
                                I love my tacky turquoise fly bonnet and would love to get a matching bright turquoise saddle pad but I have boring white trimmed with baby blue b/c it was on sale

                                the problem is not the flashy tack, but if it doesn't fit, not your style to bad its hers not yours
                                If you like tacky and turquoise you might like my new headstall. The boyfriend gave me a gift certificate to the local tack shop for my birthday, and I bought this:
                                http://www.barrelracer.com/Merchant2...y_Code=BHEHABC (the headstall on the right) Am hoping to buy the matching breastcollar when I have the money.

                                I think it sure looks nice on my plain brown mare. But then again, while I've always liked plain leather, I also like the loud/fun colored stuff. I would love to buy giraffe-print for my Saddlebred gelding, (it would be fitting, I think). But while I showed WP for years when I was young, now I only trail ride and compete at local fun/game shows. Wonder what the OP would have thought had she seen my big old bay roan gelding with the matching hot pink tack set?

                                Poor fitting tack and green horse/green rider issues are a big deal, IMO. Loud colored tack, not so much. Each to his/her own.
                                The very existence of flamethrowers proves that sometime, somewhere, someone said to themselves, "You know, I want to set those people on fire, but I'm just not close enough to get the job done".

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                                • #76
                                  Originally posted by ponies123 View Post
                                  Well, it's definitely possible that the new boarder is clueless, but I'm positive that you're classless and I think that's worse.

                                  Here's hoping other members of the barn are much more helpful. Sounds like it could be a recipe for disaster if it really is a green mustang (or any horse) and a green rider. But it doesn't sound like OP knows enough much to accurately tell us, so maybe it's a match made in heaven.
                                  My sentiments exactly.

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                                  • #77
                                    well, I am old here

                                    I don't come here often anymore. I dropped by to check on Leena's always inspirational thread and to thank the universe that she is still alive to give us all much needed perspective.

                                    Then I clicked on this thread.

                                    Talk about the highs and lows! Oh yes, Chronicle has it all!

                                    War Dance, next to PaulaEdwina,( who somehow has made it past 1000 posts already?!?) you may take some sort of prize for being the most oblivious but as yet not banned poster on CotH forums.

                                    Thank you for providing much needed amusement. I am always grateful for the gems that this place brings!

                                    "The Threat of Internet Ignorance: ... we are witnessing the rise of an age of equestrian disinformation, one where a trusting public can graze on nonsense packaged to look like fact."-LRG-AF

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                                    • #78
                                      You might have a stroke over my pink butterflies helmet cover. One of the kids at my last barn gave it to me and it covers my Charles Owen very nicely. It even has a pink bow on it. It looks sort of like this

                                      http://www.amazon.com/Equestrian-Rid...6015946&sr=1-1

                                      except mine has a black background for the pink butterflies and bow.

                                      So PPPPPFFFFFFFT

                                      Paula
                                      He is total garbage! Quick! Hide him on my trailer (Petstorejunkie).

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                                      • #79
                                        Originally posted by WarDance View Post
                                        .....I started talking to her and this is her first horse. He is approximately 4 years old and a BLM mustang. ........

                                        It literally looks like the Tacky Tack blog exploded in our tack room right now! I began to wonder if this was all some kind of joke but it's real.

                                        I think I should take some pictures of what happened in our tack room. It's pretty scary!
                                        Of course, the fact that it's her 1st horse doesn't mean that she hasn't been a working student since she was 10 at top eventing barns and competed at a high level.

                                        This girl came in, was totally excited, obviously "thought" <big mistake!> that you were really friendly, so she showed you all her stuff, that she was obviously delighted with. However, you go right behind her back and just stick it out there. I hope you just stay well away from this girl and let her enjoy her stuff and don't rain on her parade.

                                        Also, let me tell you 2 things:
                                        1. My mother drummed into me that you never said something about someone that you wouldn't say to their face - think about it, it might help you to grow up and be a nicer person.

                                        2. Imagine how she will feel if in fact, as she has just got a horse, she signs up for this forum and reads this. It's not like she isn't going to recognise herself! Can you imagine how completely deflated, hurt and embarrassed she will feel. Can you imagine how she would feel if you said this to her face - believe me, she may well read it - so you might as well have just said it to her.

                                        We are certainly not all anonymous. Someone contacted me through here a week or so ago, that I have never met nor spoken with, that knows someone that I knew > 10 years ago that lives in the completely opposite side of the country. They have never posted on here before and picked up on one post that I made. It really made me think about how everything we write here is totally open to anyone to read. Don't ever think that this person "would never read this" - you have no idea. (And, if the person who did contact me is reading this, I hope you don't mind me using this as a cautionary tale :-)

                                        If this person you are writing about IS reading this. I would LOVE to have bling tack and don't give a rats about what anyone else thinks. Where is it written down that your horse only wants to wear boring old black and brown? Oh, and good luck with your new horse!

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                                        • #80
                                          Indeed; a friend of mine has recently become a re-rider with me at the barn. I had a blast picking out gear with her. I got her to get the leopard print helmet cover. You know what: we're two old broads having a blast.

                                          Paula
                                          He is total garbage! Quick! Hide him on my trailer (Petstorejunkie).

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