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  • Condolence Letter HR

    So this morning I was thinking about the loss of my horse. I was feeling a bit sorry for myself. When I went to the mailbox I found a letter from my eight year old friend . It read as follows.

    Dear Tanner,

    I hope, that after the loss of your perfict horse, that you will find another horse that fits all your needs and wants. I'm sure, that Aiden is having a blast in heven, eating and sleeping, making new friends. I'm sure that he was ment to be in heven, and you alive. I hope you get another perfict horse, that was ment for you. I really do Tanner, I really do.

    Love, H

    It is embellished with rainbow coloured hearts and a picture labeled " Your future horse.

    I am now crying like a baby, but I know all of you know how lucky I feel.
    Equine Art capturing the essence of the grace,strength, and beauty of the Sport Horse."

  • #2
    It gets better with time. Grief really is the price we pay for love, even your year old friend seems to understand that. Your "perfict" horse absolutely will find you whether you want them to or not!
    McDowell Racing Stables

    Home Away From Home


    • #3
      That is so sweet, what a kind little person your friend is.

      I am over here sobbing like a baby.


      • #4
        How blessed you must be to have a such a terrific young friend that cares so much!

        I am very sorry to hear of your loss, CTanner. I think I remember some encouraging words from you on my own thread about my loss. Too many wonderful equine friends have left us COTHers this year, that's for sure.


        • #5
          oh gosh I cant read these kinds of threads at work. Now i'm tearing up at my desk.
          Charlie Brown (1994 bay TB X gelding)
          White Star (2004 grey TB gelding)

          Mystical Moment, 1977-2010.


          • #6
            What a sweet friend to have (and I bet she has great parents too)
            Nevertheless, she persisted.


            • #7
              Children, they get it.

              Both grief and love. Because really, when it's a beloved horse, we all revert to the innocent love and profound grief that only children really understand.

              I hope your young friend gets a pirfikt horse someday too.


              • #8
                What a lovely tribute to your horse and to you, too. I'm thinking your wonderful 8 year old friend has learned a great deal from you.

                And, BTW, she's right. A horse that needs you very much will find you.
                They don't call me frugal for nothing.
                Proud and achy member of the Eventing Grannies clique.


                • #9
                  That kid gets it. (LOL--I see 2ndyrgal agrees with me.)

                  Flip a coin. It's not what side lands that matters, but what side you were hoping for when the coin was still in the air.

                  You call it boxed wine. I call it carboardeaux.


                  • Original Poster

                    I think it shows that Horsewomen and men are born, not made. She's becoming a great little rider and has not one, but two "perfict" ponies right now.

                    I feel so fortunate to have her and all of you in my life.
                    Equine Art capturing the essence of the grace,strength, and beauty of the Sport Horse."


                    • #11
                      What a lovely letter! Yep, no matter their age, a horse person 'gets' it.

                      Give your little friend a hug for me. Like her, I'm hoping you find another perfict horse.
                      Homeopathy claims water can cure you since it once held medicine. That's like saying you can get sustenance from an empty plate because it once held food.


                      • #12
                        That is incredibly sweet!!!

                        Comfort and solace comes from unexpected places. My daughter was just 2.5 when Dan died. We didn't discuss it with her at all, feeling she was too young to understand.

                        A few months later, I was rocking her to sleep one night. She suddenly looked up at me and said "Mama, don't be sad. Dan's in the barn sleeping, and eating grass, and drinking his milk. Don't worry about him."

                        That nugget of wisdom, from a toddler, brought me more comfort than anything the last few years.

                        And Tanner, there is another horse out there for you. It is hard to make sense of tragedies like this, it may never really be comprehensible... but I know there's another four legged friend waiting for you, somewhere.
                        We couldn't all be cowboys, so some of us are clowns.


                        • #13
                          Out of the mouth of babes, I swear!

                          Owned by a Paint/TB and an OTTB.
                          RIP Scoutin' For Trouble ~ 2011 at 10
                          RIP Tasha's Last Tango ~ 2010 at ~23
                          RIP In Sha' Allah ~ 2009 too young at 5


                          • #14
                            What a cool friend you have in H.
                            H has Aiden's deal pegged.


                            • #15
                              Originally posted by 2ndyrgal View Post
                              Both grief and love. Because really, when it's a beloved horse, we all revert to the innocent love and profound grief that only children really understand.
                              Really interesting insite... in my short years (ha! 33, well, I still feel young), I have never felt the grief I felt losing my heart horse to a freak accident. I have been lucky to not yet lose any humans that were so close to me....

                              I could never explain (to non horse people) the DEEP greif I felt when I lost my gelding. I almost couldn't understand it myself.

                              But, I did get a lovely card, from one of the women I boarded with. I really meant a lot to me at the time.

                              Hugs in your grief, morn like an innocent child would, and love again with all of your heart, like a child would.
                              APPSOLUTE CHOCKLATE - Photo by Kathy Colman


                              • #16


                                • #17
                                  Wow, that is just wonderful. It made me cry and smile. I am "this" close to having to put one of our old girls down. Vet is coming to check her over tomorrow, again. I know what is coming and I know what I have to do, but it still terrible.

                                  My thoughts and prayers are with you. I really hope you do find another horse to fill your heart.

                                  Happy Holidays.
                                  Quality Hunter Ponies


                                  • #18
                                    What a sweet note -- and obviously a wonderful child.

                                    Your next horse will find you when you are ready, but I know that doesn't help with the profound grief in the meantime. Hang in there ctanner.
                                    Riding a horse is not a gentle hobby, to be picked up and laid down like a game of solitaire. It is a grand passion.... ~ Emerson


                                    • #19
                                      That is so sweet. I remember when I had to put down my beloved little Morgan mare, years ago, my daughter was about 6, and the next morning when she saw how sad I looked she told me, "Don't feel bad Mom, I saw her in the clouds, running, and she looked so happy."

                                      I think only kids and other horse people can relate, when we lose a special horse. Time does heal, tho. My thoughts are with you.
                                      Ottbs - The finish line is only the beginning!


                                      • #20
                                        What a sweet note. Makes me wanna go AWWWWWWW.
                                        The problem with political jokes is that they get elected.
                                        H. Cate