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  • COTHaholics Anonymous

    Hello, my name is Allison and I'm a COTHaholic.

    It started out innocently enough less than a year ago. I typed in a question into Google and a COTH thread popped up. Suddenly I was privy to a ridiculous wealth of information and practical advice. Who knew? So for the next few months or so I stopped by occasionally to see if any useful or pertinent questions were posted.

    Well, one day I fell upon a slight "trainwreck" of a thread and was enthralled. And it was then I realized COTH was also entertaining. I started visiting more frequently. Looking back now, I see that was the trigger that started it all.

    And up until then, I was merely a lurker. But then I was watching Rolex live and had a question about the dressage portion I couldn't find the answer to elsewhere. And I knew who'd have the answer. I twitched and broke into a sweat; I paced the hall. I knew if I registered and starting posting I would no longer be able to avoid my building addiction. I'd become a participant.

    My first post was innocent and polite. I knew I was coming into a community with some hard core users; some had 1000's of posts and had been a member for a decade. So I tread lightly and held my breath, waiting for a response. And well, what a rush that was!

    Then I got braver. I started replying to posts. And suddenly before I knew it I was on here every day.

    One night I stayed up until 3am reading the Alisija thread, engrossed like I was reading a Nora Roberts novel

    Prior, I would only stop by to read when I had a brief lapse in my work day or bored on a rainy weekend, but soon enough I was NOT working in favor of seeing what juicy drama was being posted. I was NOT cleaning the house or working on my blog and instead checking to see if anyone had liked/noticed/responded to one of my witty retorts.

    COTH was exacerbating my narcissism. And I used it to escape my own problems by offering random advice to strangers.

    At my worst, I was visiting the COTH forum up to 10 times a day. I had the link pasted as a "favorite" on my browser. I was rabid and frantic when I had to go too long without a '"fix."

    It was then I realized I was an addict and I needed help. I needed to cut back.

    Lately, I've been limiting my time to evenings only. But its not easy and I struggle every day. Trainwreck threads make this particularly difficult and I often find myself trying to resist the urge to.check.the.board. Cant..stop..reading...COTH Forum...must get...back.to.work....go.to.bed....cook.dinner.

    I am a COTHahoic.

    Thank you for letting me share my difficult story.
    Barn rat for life

  • #2
    Hello my name is "stolen virtue" and I am a COTHaholic. My husband thinks I am crazy, he is a twitteraholic and has Kathy Ireland as a "follower", so he is equally crazy(and Kathy well I won't say anything on a public board but really, he is a boring guy).

    I let people like, oh wcporter tell me to do things because he/she is so much more important than me. I cannot seem to resist the urge to speak of harsh bits, people who should seek trainers, topics that make me want to puke, and some political posters that are hiding behind their extreme political views (they likely only ride the horse at the local Woolworth).

    Thank you, I must lurk now.....

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    • #3
      I am also a COTHaholic - I am seeking a 12 step program or an ipad with constant wifi access...
      Originally posted by Sithly
      do NOT give your 5 year old child a big bag of apples and send her out alone into a herd of 20-some horses to get mobbed. There are better ways to dispose of unwanted children.

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        #4
        Originally posted by mackandblues View Post
        I am also a COTHaholic - I am seeking a 12 step program or an ipad with constant wifi access...
        Barn rat for life

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        • #5
          Oh God, me too! And look at what a newbie I am!
          What's wrong with you?? Your cheese done slid off its cracker?!?!

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          • #6
            Originally posted by mackandblues View Post
            I am also a COTHaholic - I am seeking a 12 step program or an ipad with constant wifi access...
            Win.

            I am a COTHaholic who started young.

            I can stop at any time... I'm sure of it. Let's all band together and support each other in this difficult journey of rehab. Although, it'd be a lot easier to just enable each other by insisting this is educational and informative.
            Trying a life outside of FEI tents and hotel rooms.

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              #7
              Originally posted by GingerJumper View Post
              Win.

              I am a COTHaholic who started young.

              I can stop at any time... I'm sure of it. Let's all band together and support each other in this difficult journey of rehab. Although, it'd be a lot easier to just enable each other by insisting this is educational and informative.
              :
              I cant stop whenever I want. I have tried before. Dont worry you soon too will be able to accept and embrace your addiction.
              Barn rat for life

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              • #8
                Originally posted by wcporter View Post
                ...but soon enough I was NOT working in favor of seeing what juicy drama was being posted. I was NOT cleaning the house or working on my blog and instead checking to see if anyone had liked/noticed/responded to one of my witty retorts.

                COTH was exacerbating my narcissism. And I used it to escape my own problems by offering random advice to strangers.
                LOL So true! So far I stay off it on the weekends and think really hard before becoming embroiled in an off topic day. So there is still hope for me.
                ::Sometimes you have to burn a few bridges to keep the crazies from following you::

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                • #9
                  Originally posted by wcporter View Post
                  :
                  I cant stop whenever I want. I have tried before. Dont worry you soon too will be able to accept and embrace your addiction.
                  Addiction embraced.
                  That was fast.
                  Trying a life outside of FEI tents and hotel rooms.

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                  • #10
                    Oh dear... It appears this is my thousandth post. Definitely addicted.
                    Trying a life outside of FEI tents and hotel rooms.

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                    • #11
                      I consider COTH a PSA, Public Service Announcement site, where we try to keep everyone informed so they can go find their way with horses, once they know there are more than a few ways, there are many, many out there and why some are better than others, in someone's mind anyway.

                      I think that my number of post is high because I have trouble explaining myself and need to keep trying to do so, every thought needing several posts.

                      Without COTH, where would we be able to keep all this information together?
                      I have learned and am still learning so much, from so many, there is so much about horses out there, a life time is not enough.
                      "Dancing" horses tied to posts and whipped to "dance"?
                      Who would have thought that.

                      Being semi-retired and lately in the injured reserve list more than off it, COTH is a good place to pass the time.

                      Addiction?
                      Don't think so, as when my computer finally fried itself a month ago and I didn't have one for two weeks or so, I didn't rush out to buy another, as some suggested I do, telling me they could not do without their daily computer fix.
                      I found other to do with that COTH time, didn't miss it a bit, knowing the information would be there when the computer came back.

                      If you really are itching to get back to the computer, if you dream of typing answers, then maybe it is time to seek some 12 step program.
                      Then, why not enjoy your addiction without guilt and shame, who cares if the dust bunnies are happily reproducing and starting to take over?

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                      • #12
                        12 step program

                        or how many it takes you to reach the shelf with the box wine in the grocery store!

                        And pick up some popcorn and pretzels on the way out if you please!
                        Originally posted by BigMama1
                        Facts don't have versions. If they do, they are opinions
                        GNU Terry Prachett

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                        • #13
                          Yes, I am an addict..

                          and I have no desire to stop. If this is my worst habit (and it might be...) I don't think I'm doing so bad.....

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                          • #14
                            I find my COTH addiction is followed closely by my addictions to the Border Collie boards and Bits and Barter. Neither is as busy as this place, so I don't have to check as often (nor do I post as much!).

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                            • #15
                              I adore COTH, and visit frequently, sometimes rising to the level of daily. I've made great friends here, and learned so much about so many things.

                              I am not a fan of the "train wrecks". I have been known, on occasion, to weigh in briefly on a controversial topic. However, I've generally found that once you've gone beyond page 4, those sorts of topics cease to be a discussion and become a series of pronouncements of opinion, without any real sense of listening, answering and gathering facts. I do understand that many people find that sort of thing entertaining, in the same way that many people find Jersey Shore entertaining, but it's not my cup of tea.

                              It's a terrific community; a great place to visit and hang out

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                              • #16
                                Originally posted by Hinderella View Post
                                I adore COTH, and visit frequently, sometimes rising to the level of daily. I've made great friends here, and learned so much about so many things.

                                I am not a fan of the "train wrecks". I have been known, on occasion, to weigh in briefly on a controversial topic. However, I've generally found that once you've gone beyond page 4, those sorts of topics cease to be a discussion and become a series of pronouncements of opinion, without any real sense of listening, answering and gathering facts. I do understand that many people find that sort of thing entertaining, in the same way that many people find Jersey Shore entertaining, but it's not my cup of tea.

                                It's a terrific community; a great place to visit and hang out
                                Great description, COTH is a terrific community.

                                There is something for everyone, those that like to discuss topics, those that like to discuss the ones discussing topics and those that like to lurk and judge it all from a distance.

                                Along with much horse information, there is great entertainment to be found for all here.

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                                • #17
                                  All kidding aside, I feel much more educated since joining here. I did not grow up with horses at home and just bought my first horse 5 years ago and use a boarding barn. If I didn't have COTH I would be much more ignorant.

                                  Recently my horse was VERY sick(most probably Potomac sp?) and I posted the symptoms on COTH and got super support. During the late night treatments my vet told me that she appreciated an "educated" horse owner. I was actually understanding all the medical stuff she was spewing even as my emotions were all over the place. That is thanks to years of mostly lurking on COTH. I also felt like I had the right questions to ask her about continuing treatment and the risk of lamimitis.

                                  So...Call me addicted in a good way!

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                                  • #18
                                    Hello, My name is Munchin'onhay and I am a CoTHaddict.

                                    Like the OP, it started innocently enough; I stumbled upon Coth by accident, then I posted a reply to a naming thread, oh it was fun at first, but now I see that naming threads are a gateway thread to full blown addiction. I am neck deep in my silent addiction, I am more of a lurker than a poster. But naming threads keep me coming back.



                                    Damn you naming threads !!!! ****SHAKING FIST*****
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                                    http://doggonebakedgoods.com/

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                                    • #19
                                      It is an addiction that I have had for over 11 years. I used to think I could stop at any time. I need an intervention.

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                                      • #20
                                        Addicted.......................to the.....

                                        The wealth of Knowledge
                                        The opinions
                                        The train wrecks
                                        O.T. day
                                        The pics and vids
                                        The education


                                        I can't help myself........I spook1 am addicted.....I need at fix several times a day...

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