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  • What have you learned from your horse?

    People of a certain age will remember the book, "All I Really Need to Know, I Learned in Kindergarten". It was soon followed by, "All I Need to Know, I Learned From My Cat".

    Being the owner of a coming 5 y.o. OTTB, I am learning some new things from my horse or being reminded of old lessons.

    What have you learned from yours?

    "If you have the time, spend it. If you have a hand, lend it. If you have the money, give it. If you have a heart, share it." by me

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    Patience, and wear a helmet!
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    • #3
      Patience, patience, patience!!! Also learned from a slightly challenging ottb.

      I have had to learn to be a more sensitive and sophisticated rider. Less is often more. To quit when we are ahead. That more often than not it was my fault. The incredible value of earning the trust of a horse. That ribbons are not the most rewarding success but that they sure are satisfying when the journey was a difficult one.

      Most importantly for my story would be to trust my gut. Not a single person in my life supported my decision completely to buy this particular horse. Glad I listened to my gut and not everyone else because I wouldn't trade him for all the tea in China.
      "look deep into his pedigree. Look for the name of a one-of-a-kind horse who lends to his kin a fierce tenacity, a will of iron, a look of eagles. Look & know that Slew is still very much with us."

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      • #4
        Be here now

        Live in the moment. Pay attention. (I call barn cleaning "my yoga".)

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        • #5
          what HAVEN'T I learned from horses!! I would say the biggest thingg has been compassion.

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          • #6
            That when under saddle all of our mistakes and mishaps are because I wasn't riding correctly.

            Just because someone says your horse can't, doesn't make them right.

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            • #7
              Size does not matter.
              Confidence does.

              And being able to open the cookie jar matters even more.
              My horse is a "Hare-Brained Controvert".

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              • #8
                Humility.
                The Trials and Jubilations of a Twenty-Something Re-rider
                Happy owner of Kieran the mostly-white-very-large-not-pony.

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                • #9
                  Slow down and just enjoy right here, right now...
                  Kelly
                  Zimpatico - 21 year old Hanoverian

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                  • #10
                    I have learned that I can't ride.
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                      #11
                      Originally posted by Chewbacca View Post
                      I have learned that I can't ride.
                      Hahahahah!

                      "If you have the time, spend it. If you have a hand, lend it. If you have the money, give it. If you have a heart, share it." by me

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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by Graureiter View Post
                        And being able to open the cookie jar matters even more.
                        Originally posted by Chewbacca View Post
                        I have learned that I can't ride.
                        Both of these!

                        But I have also learned that even if I think I can't do it... my horse lets me know that we can.

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                        • #13
                          Originally posted by analise View Post
                          Humility.
                          I'm not sure about that.
                          None of my horses ever seemed to be afflicted with that emotion :
                          And as a male of the human species. I'm not supposed to melt down in a wiggly pile of humility just because an animal ten times my size does not accept me as an equal.
                          My horse is a "Hare-Brained Controvert".

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                          • #14
                            Horses like you for who you are.

                            Horses like short people.

                            I am very short.

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                            • #15
                              Originally posted by Graureiter View Post
                              I'm not sure about that.
                              None of my horses ever seemed to be afflicted with that emotion :
                              And as a male of the human species. I'm not supposed to melt down in a wiggly pile of humility just because an animal ten times my size does not accept me as an equal.
                              You mean a horse has never humbled you, you never had to apologize to a horse?

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                                #16
                                Originally posted by Graureiter View Post
                                I'm not sure about that.
                                None of my horses ever seemed to be afflicted with that emotion :
                                And as a male of the human species. I'm not supposed to melt down in a wiggly pile of humility just because an animal ten times my size does not accept me as an equal.
                                I have to say, I was definitely humiliated when mine did a lightning-speed spin, sending me straight to the dirt, when someone's oblivious husband decided to fling his wife's coat out to smooth over his legs just as my horse was approaching that end of the ring.

                                I wanted to walk up and beat the crap out of the man, but, I exercised lessons learned in the past from my horse: patience, temperance and the age old "non-horse people need to stay the hell away from the barn". It also marked the very first fall I'd ever had from my horse. Thanks dude!

                                "If you have the time, spend it. If you have a hand, lend it. If you have the money, give it. If you have a heart, share it." by me

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                                • #17
                                  How to have a sense of humor in a tight situation.

                                  How to listen the first time.

                                  I think the biggest thing I've gained is focus: I love how I completely leave everything else at the big ugly orange gate that leads to the barnyard. That gate is the line in the sand.

                                  What am I still learning? Lately I'm learning how to balance 'go trail ride with SO' and 'work on my dressage stuff: nailing transitions, free walk with stretch down and out, etc etc. I can't nail X on a winding hilly trail. The two are separate activities in my world. DH means well but has zero clue that I can't do both at once and 'just go ride'- I need that time to myself. Maybe I will put a lock on that arena gate

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                                  • #18
                                    Pretty much all of the above.

                                    I used to believe that I was 100% a "mare" person. Then I got my gelding and learned that I was wrong.
                                    "I was not expecting the park rangers to lead the resistance, none of the dystopian novels I read prepared me for this but cool."

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                                    • #19
                                      Originally posted by Graureiter View Post
                                      I'm not sure about that.
                                      None of my horses ever seemed to be afflicted with that emotion :
                                      And as a male of the human species. I'm not supposed to melt down in a wiggly pile of humility just because an animal ten times my size does not accept me as an equal.
                                      That's not really what I meant, Grau.

                                      More like...every time I get to, "oh we're so awesome and I totally know how to do this!" Kieran likes to trip me up, just a little. Keep me guessing.

                                      I mean, I do it to him, too, but still!

                                      Or I fall off and have to laugh at myself. *shrugs!*
                                      The Trials and Jubilations of a Twenty-Something Re-rider
                                      Happy owner of Kieran the mostly-white-very-large-not-pony.

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                                      • #20
                                        Originally posted by Bluey View Post
                                        You mean a horse has never humbled you, you never had to apologize to a horse?
                                        My first horse was a grumpy old mare.
                                        She would never wait for an apology.
                                        Now I have a young gelding and I'm not going to let him know that he may know more about being a horse then I do.

                                        There were a few times when I had the " Shit, I should not have done that!" experience.
                                        But I kept that inside. As any Corporal from Roman times to the present has been trained to do.
                                        My horse is a "Hare-Brained Controvert".

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