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  • #81
    We all look at a situation and make a call. If we keep it to ourselves, talk loudly in the barn aisle, or come to a forum and type about it too loudly is another item all together.

    If someone wants to flaunt themselves as a ______ rider and doesn't have a basic understanding of the discipline, I will judge them because a little bit of understanding is more dangerous than none at all.

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    • #82
      I read a good quote once that said

      "Those who know the least usually know it the loudest".

      Where I board there are three types of people:

      1. Know a lot and are modest enough to make sure they don't tell people they know a lot.

      2. Know very little and are happy to ask for help.

      3. Know a little but think they know a lot. They are the ones I don't like, and that tend to cause the most problems.
      "Those who know the least often know it the loudest."

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      • #83
        Originally posted by SoCalGal View Post
        I am not going to spend time defining what I think is obese.

        This forum is about what we judge, there's no need to get scientific about it! If you feel you are overweight and feel defensive, sorry about that. If you think your weight is appropriate for your horse, you have no need to worry about it...anyway.
        Yep, the thread is about who we judge. Doesn't mean I don't get to judge your judgments

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        • #84
          Oh that's OK...it does not bother me in the slightest. You have every right in the world to judge me if I voice opinions, that's the point of the thread, LOL.

          Judge away!

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          • #85
            I agree that we are all judgmental to some degree. It is a matter of whether you choose to share your opinions with no one, a few friends or the entire world.

            I also grew up learning to ride by the seat of my pants (no lessons) and everything I learned was from what I read. I have a photo of me on my first pony sitting in a huge english saddle with the pony wearing a western bridle and a curb bit. I cringe at that now. I'm not sure if someone did take me aside if I could have changed much because I didn't have much money to spend, anyway. I supported the horses 100% through my earnings, starting at age 10. I really envied those people who had lessons and nice tack and could ride really well.

            I would like to believe that many people do the things they do because they just don't know any better. I'm willing to give the benefit of the doubt. I'm happy to share what I've learned as others have done for me.

            I guess I'm most judgmental of those who are close-minded to learning anything new or rethinking how they do things. We can all always improve, no matter how much we know. To think that you are better than anyone else only starts a downward spiral in your education-you have ceased to learn.

            Where I have a hard time is deciding whether I should give advice or opinions if they aren't asked for. If you ask me, I'm happy to tell you what I think. If you don't ask me, I don't want to offend or appear to think I know everything.
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            • #86
              Things that irk me (which I never comment on in real life):

              -A trainer saying "Collect his face" or "soften his face"
              -Using the phrase "horse for sell" (I assume these people must also put water in a pell, walk to the mellbox for the mell...)
              -Using the phrase "own daughter/own son" - why can't they say daughter of, or sired by?
              -anyone drinking beer on horseback

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              • #87
                Originally posted by Equine Studies View Post
                I read a good quote once that said

                "Those who know the least usually know it the loudest".

                Where I board there are three types of people:

                1. Know a lot and are modest enough to make sure they don't tell people they know a lot.

                2. Know very little and are happy to ask for help.

                3. Know a little but think they know a lot. They are the ones I don't like, and that tend to cause the most problems.
                These three types of people are everywhere

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                • #88
                  Originally posted by NoMoReLuCkyHoRsEShOeS View Post
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                  Someone (in highschool) once told me they got their horse to "give head". I said "Uhh, honey, never say that again, especially in public. You got your horse to put its head down, not to give head"

                  .
                  This just goes to show that YOU don't know what YOU are talking about. And you used the term wrong, it's "giving its head." "Giving head" is pornographic.

                  "Giving its head" does not mean putting its head down, in DQ terms it would be more akin to softening the jaw. It is a very common term in western parlance, the fact that you are unfamiliar with it just means you know nothing about riding western horses, not that you are superior or right or anything positive. It can often result in the horse lowering its head, because after the horse softens its jaw and relaxes it will generally then start reaching down. Sound familiar?

                  So there. How does it feel to mock someone for being an idiot -- and then be wrong?

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                  • #89
                    Originally posted by fordtraktor View Post
                    This just goes to show that YOU don't know what YOU are talking about. And you used the term wrong, it's "giving its head." "Giving head" is pornographic.

                    "Giving its head" does not mean putting its head down, in DQ terms it would be more akin to softening the jaw. It is a very common term in western parlance, the fact that you are unfamiliar with it just means you know nothing about riding western horses, not that you are superior or right or anything positive. It can often result in the horse lowering its head, because after the horse softens its jaw and relaxes it will generally then start reaching down. Sound familiar?

                    So there. How does it feel to mock someone for being an idiot -- and then be wrong?
                    Um, I'm inclined to believe that the person you are responding to probably DID hear someone saying the horse "gave head." Because that is hilarious and memorable and who would make it up? I don't think she would have said anything if the person she is referring to had said her horse "gave its head."

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                    • #90
                      Originally posted by grey_pony View Post
                      Things that irk me (which I never comment on in real life):

                      -A trainer saying "Collect his face" or "soften his face"
                      -Using the phrase "horse for sell" (I assume these people must also put water in a pell, walk to the mellbox for the mell...)
                      -Using the phrase "own daughter/own son" - why can't they say daughter of, or sired by?
                      -anyone drinking beer on horseback


                      Well, two out of four...I'm in trouble. "Own son/daughter" is really common in speaking of horses such as QH's and Paint's....it is an old form, true, but still very much used.

                      And when I was doing guided trail rides in 90+ degree heat and climbing up 4000 foot mountains for 10-12 hours a day a cold beer was right up my alley. (and my old cutting stallion loved one as well....could cup the can in his lower lip and suck one right down!)
                      Colored Cowhorse Ranch
                      www.coloredcowhorseranch.com
                      Northern NV

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                      • #91
                        Originally posted by alg0181 View Post
                        Um, I'm inclined to believe that the person you are responding to probably DID hear someone saying the horse "gave head." Because that is hilarious and memorable and who would make it up? I don't think she would have said anything if the person she is referring to had said her horse "gave its head."
                        Oh, given the OP's posts, I'm pretty sure she would. She probably misheard anyway.

                        Same as she would judge all those dressage horses with "no topline" or wearing bits other than a plain snaffle (all you DQs with KKs and french links take note, OP thinks you aren't for real!) etc. etc.

                        What was that, OP, about a little knowledge being dangerous? Pot, meet kettle.

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                        • #92
                          Cool, more beer for me and colored horse.

                          I did make a bet with our pals in Montana, a couple we do pack trips with each summer. He's in charge of the packhorses and he's old school MT from way back. I told him a few years back to either hide his beer can when I took his picture, or risk me slapping an Obama icon over it when I posted his pics on Flickr. I'm proud to report he met that bet and won it, only ONE photo emerged with a beer visible, darn his Republican hide

                          Own son/own daughter, that's old school stock horse and entirely appropriate.

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                          • #93
                            Originally posted by fordtraktor View Post
                            Oh, given the OP's posts, I'm pretty sure she would. She probably misheard anyway.

                            Same as she would judge all those dressage horses with "no topline" or wearing bits other than a plain snaffle (all you DQs with KKs and french links take note, OP thinks you aren't for real!) etc. etc.

                            What was that, OP, about a little knowledge being dangerous? Pot, meet kettle.
                            I didn't notice that the comment about "giving head" was from the OP. Yeah, she does seem to have some rather ridiculous opinions. Whether true or not, the story is pretty funny.

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