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  • IdahoRider
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    Originally posted by Rackonteur View Post
    But your post made me feel better about the possibilities.
    Hugs.
    This makes me happy!
    Sheilah

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  • Rackonteur
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    This is IMO definitely a case of "when life gives you lemons, make lemonade." It sounds like you have made some very sweet, refreshing lemonade for the 13yo and your mare, and your gelding and the riders who get to do lessons on him, and your son. I am just so sorry that you are sort of left without the lemon zest. And DH! Good grief! Enough to make one pucker -- and not for kisses!

    I read your post at a time when I have just finished filling out an application for an apartment in a small town that has an active horsey group. Maybe all kids (they do barrel racing) but it was sort of the final attraction that tipped the scales to get me to move ahead with the app. I don't know if or how it will work out, and based on experience I could get there and feel like a third wheel all the time -- lucky to watch from the bleachers if at all. But your post made me feel better about the possibilities.

    Hugs.

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  • IdahoRider
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    I feel a lot better. The fact that is is Friday has helped. Three more weeks of school, 14 days and two Mondays left. I am so looking forward to a peaceful summer. I have a part-time summer job pet-sitting and dog walking, so that will bring in a little extra money, too.

    I will still have Noodle and my barn time. And I will absolutely try to get on Posie weekly. She will be right there where I can keep an eye on her. It could have been worse.

    I wish I weren't so broke that I couldn't have a dinner out with a couple of stiff cocktails though. Okay, I am only interested in the cocktail part. I will have to make due with a bean and yummy cheese burrito and a great book (that just got released on Tuesday, but I had put in a request for it two months ago, so it was waiting at the library for me...this is a HUGE positive)!

    Thank you so much for the support. I can't tell you how much I appreciate it.
    Sheilah

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  • candyappy
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    It can be so hard when things don't end up the way we planned. Focus on the positives. You still own the mare and she is being ridden by a good rider regularly and her board is payed. If things change not only do you still have her, she will be fit and ready to go!

    Sounds like your gelding is still ridable? You may not be doing your dressage riding, but can you still get out a few times a week to ride him and get your "me time"?

    Might just be at the walk or slow trot, but there is something magical and healing when mounted and looking through the 2 ears on your horse

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  • beowulf
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    So sorry to read what you have been through, but it looks as if you handled it all with admirable class. Like Fred I don't really have much good advice.. sometimes life likes to come swinging, and kick us while we're down for good measure.

    Hoping that this summer doesn't just slip away too; or at the very least, you get some kind of break. It sounds like you are needed; your husband and son are very lucky to have you.

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  • Fred
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    Sheilah, what others have said, you have done an incredible job of juggling the needs of so many others, including making sure your horses are happy and healthy. I don't have any good advice, just admiration for you.
    One thing I thought of though was seeing if you can continue to ride your mare one day a week, just to stay connected, without putting too much stress on yourself.

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  • CPL713
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    I am so impressed by your handling of all that, but so sorry that you had to. I hope your husband knows and appreciates how lucky he is to still HAVE a wife, and I hope he fully commits to correcting this issue and never letting it happen again.

    I agree with the fact that you ARE needed, and hooray for you for helping make someone else happy while also making sure your horses are both okay.

    Pulling for you, and hoping things start looking up very soon!

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  • MegBackInSaddle
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    You're a champion, lady! You haven't committed *any* murders (glaring at you, Sheila's hubby), and you've put both of your horses and the lucky riders using them into great positions. Sorry that being a Champion doesn't always feel great. Hope you're able to get the finances sorted and take back your time before too long!

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  • Scribbler
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    Yes, I too am personally impressed with how well you trouble solved and took care of everyone in your circle, including the horses. You have them both placed where they will be loved and used and appreciated, without having to make any hard decisions about selling or worse. You've sorted out your family, for now. I also agree that you need to follow up and get the husband on track.

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  • RMJacobs
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    I am so sorry that you are having to postpone your dreams. I am impressed that you got through all of that without killing anyone. I hope things turn around for you soon.

    Rebecca

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  • IdahoRider
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    Thanks, guys. It really did help to lay it all out. And I knew that you all would understand.
    Sheilah

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  • BlueDrifter
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    Sounds to me like you negotiated those trouble spots pretty darn well! Kept your horses, kept son in transportation, and now can work with hubby on CC bills. It is just life, it will come back around.

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  • Rallycairn
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    Oh, Sheilah, I am so sorry that you've worked so hard and so long and not gotten to enjoy the benefits of all your planning and effort and persistence. I hope you can get your horse back from the lease as soon as possible -- maybe end of summer? -- and enjoy the horse yourself. You ARE needed -- heck, you made all these good things happen for the horses and the other people!

    You shouldn't have to derail your goals so thoroughly because of your husband's spending. Get whatever help you need to get him to resolve the issue and/or resolve the issue together as a couple -- his overspending is certainly not your fault of course but it may be useful to do like Haylter says and seek assistance together.

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  • Haylter
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    I am sorry it has been such a rough patch. Try and focus on the fact that both horses are happy and healthy, your son was able to get to & from SAFELY and a girl has a great start with with a good horse and people and mare has a safety net....all because of YOU you sacrificed, made choices that kept those horses happy and healthy. As for husband, dope slap!! Ok seriously make him agree that you both go to meet with a financial planner or credit counselor together let the punishment fit the crime and actually teach him some skills that will benefit you both in the future.

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  • seabreeze
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    I’m so sorry Virtual hugs to you. Life feels way too challenging sometimes.

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