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  • Thank you gift for the BO who has everything

    I'm going to be leaving my barn of almost 10 years at the end of the summer. Growing up means moving for work, and while I'm quite excited at my professional opportunity with this job, I am really sad to be leaving my barn. For me, it's as close to perfection as I can get for my needs, and if I had my druthers I'd never move. I've been a boarder there for 10 years, and quite honestly I grew up there.

    The BO is a woman I greatly admire, and feel that I owe an emotional debt to as she was like a first mother when mine was being unbearable (some of it was normal mother/daughter angst, but some of it was horrific and not normal). So many wonderful opportunities for me, horsey and otherwise, came out of my relationship with her. When I leave, I want to give her a present that will in some ways stick around, so that a part of me is still at the barn and in her life. While a bottle of expensive wine would be a lovely gift, it lacks the degree of permanency I am aiming for. It also feels a little bit impersonal after our history.

    She and her family are hard and smart workers, and are quite comfortable in life and don't really *want* for anything, and the barn doesn't really *need* anything, at least not on the scale that I could afford. Plus, the barn/business is in a transition phase (a good one, one she wanted) and I don't know exactly what the future holds.

    I was thinking of hiring an artist to do one of those pencil drawings of the barn, because I know one of her goals is to move south eventually when her kids are out of the house. Then, she could have that to hang in her new house to remember the old. And it is quite a lovely setup.

    But I'm also looking for other suggestions, because I wouldn't know where to even start looking for someone that can do a drawing like that. I'm willing to spend a couple hundred or a little more for something *excellent*, and preferrably unique... not something she can just "go get" at the store for herself.

    Any suggestions are most appreciated. I have about a month (maybe a smidgen more) before I move.

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    Sounds like what you are going for is to convey how much she has meant to you over the years. You should do just that. Get a nice picture of the two of you together, frame it beautifully and present it with a heartfelt letter containing all the lovely things you have stated. I'm sure there's more personal things you can add also.

    This would mean more to most people than any gift you could buy in a store.
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    • #3
      The drawing sounds wonderful! If you can't find the right artist though, how about a photographer? Profession photos of her farm would also be a fabulous memento. And it might be easier to find the right photographer?

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      • #4
        I honestly think that the pencil drawing idea you have is really really a great idea !!

        Another route to go would be an arieal photo of the property.
        Ride it like you stole it....ohhh sh*t

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        • #5
          The pencil drawing is a great idea... the immediate thought that I had was a tree? A little decorative tree maybe in a cute wooden barrel/bucket painted in the barn colours? Something like a crabapple tree maybe. It could sit by the barn doors or maybe at the end of the driveway, and it would remind her of you every time she saw it

          OH, I just remembered, a friend of mine recently bought a dwarf apple tree-- a real, full-size apple tree pruned to stay small enough that she can grow it on her back deck (she lives in an apartment). It's the coolest thing I've ever seen, and it grows real full-size apples that would be great for horses! Let's see if I can find a link...

          http://www.smallgardendesign.ie/plan...ll-garden.html Go here and scroll down to "fruit for the small garden"
          Vancouver Equine
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          • #6
            Ditto the pencil drawing.

            The owner (and very good friend) of a stable where I once boarded gave me a pencil drawing she did herself of the approach to the barn I saw every time I came in from a ride. It hangs in the wall over my desk and evokes very pleasant memories of times past.

            I have several photographs of that same scene, but none mean as much to me as that drawing.
            The inherent vice of Capitalism is the unequal sharing of blessings. The inherent virtue of Socialism is the equal sharing of miseries.
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              VanEq (or any horticulturist)-

              I see you're in Vancouver. When I think of "Canada" I think of snow, but then again I think they film the TV show "Psych" in Vancouver because it makes a nice double for southern California. So maybe (or maybe not) you can help me with the tree idea:

              I love it, but we're in Western New York. That means harsh winters, lots of snow. I realize the apple trees that grow in the ground around here survive just fine, but how would a tree in a barrel/bucket fair? I definitely don't want to get her a gift that she has to drag into her house in the winter or creates more work, lol!

              But it would look so nice at the entrance of the barn... and be very convenient for treats

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              • #8
                Love the tree idea- you could add a brass name tag to the container with a few words. (Thank you would be my choice). A rose bush in her favourite colour would also be an idea.
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                • #9
                  How about glass art, that she can hang in the new house later?
                  It can be made out of any picture of the barn or a favorite horse or her barn logo, if they have one.
                  This is a COTH poster that made one as a Christmas present for our veterinarian of his logo, for the clinic:

                  http://i13.photobucket.com/albums/a2...g?t=1279564610

                  This is the artist and she does beautiful work:

                  http://www.equiglas.com/

                  You may want consider giving her more than one present also.
                  Nice of you to think so much of them.

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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by Jaideux View Post
                    VanEq (or any horticulturist)-

                    I love it, but we're in Western New York. That means harsh winters, lots of snow. I realize the apple trees that grow in the ground around here survive just fine, but how would a tree in a barrel/bucket fair? I definitely don't want to get her a gift that she has to drag into her house in the winter or creates more work, lol!

                    But it would look so nice at the entrance of the barn... and be very convenient for treats
                    The roots are the least hardy part of a tree and in western New York would probably need winter protection if the plant was in a pot.

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                    • #11
                      The drawing sounds awesome!!! I do not know any professional artists who can do it. But I do know a 16 year old boy who has an amazing talent and an eye for detail. He drew a beautiful picture of the old church in Yosemite. Let me know if you would like to talk to him.

                      I think a letter would also be special to her.

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                      • #12
                        I highly recommend Jo Campin as an artist for you. She's on Facebook, but I can't find a website for her. Her work is just incredible. A commission on letter-sized paper is 85 pounds sterling. She's in the UK.
                        Laurie Higgins
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                        • #13
                          Originally posted by Jaideux View Post
                          VanEq (or any horticulturist)-

                          I see you're in Vancouver. When I think of "Canada" I think of snow
                          We get more rain than snow, and (generally) the winters aren't super cold. I hadn't thought about the difference in climate Maybe find a type of tree that grows naturally in your area?
                          Vancouver Equine
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                          • #14
                            Jaideux
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                            • #15
                              I see you're in Vancouver. When I think of "Canada" I think of snow, but then again I think they film the TV show "Psych" in Vancouver because it makes a nice double for southern California.
                              Slightly off topic....you've just given me my first Off Topic Day topic...."Things Americans Think are True about Canada that Aren't"

                              Back to your regularly scheduled discussion....

                              Unless she is an avid gardener, I wouldn't give her anything she had to care for too much.

                              Drawings are nice. If you can get some nice photos of her property, horses etc, and mat/frame them in a collage, that is lovely. My daughter did this one for me, although it isn't framed yet.
                              NJR
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