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How to handle.. a Snooty Patootie!

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  • How to handle.. a Snooty Patootie!

    I have been caught off guard by an older horsey woman. I know, respect your elders. I was grooming my mare and a woman who I had never met.... commented "she sure is fat" what would you do with her? Granted, I do have a QH.
    Do I just let it go... or do I defend my round mare and my pride? I have to see this woman when she comes to the farm with a friend

  • #2
    "Shhh... don;t let her hear you say that...She prefers the term Rubenesque"
    Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans


    • #3
      I don't let other peoples comments/opinions bother me, so I would just ignore her. What does it matter if she thinks your mare is fat?


      • #4
        I would just laugh and say "I think she is perfect" and go back to what I was doing. It just doesn't pay to engage with people like that. Don't explain, don't argue, just don't engage.


        • #5
          I would say something like what Ponyclubrocks suggested. Maybe along the lines of 'thanks, I'm really pleased with her weight/condition right now' or 'thanks, I think she's looking very good this spring' and just leave it at that!
          Cascadia- OTTB mare. 04/04-05/10
          If love could have saved you, you would have lived forever


          • #6
            Ignore her. She probably didn't mean anything by it, and even if she did, who cares?


            • #7
              i had a little dog once who was pretty chubby. When people would comment, my husband would respond something to the effect that we tolerate shapes in humans that we don't tolerate in dogs (or horses)...or more to the point, you could say to her, if my horse was a person, would you walk up and tell her she is fat?

              Or you could always respond a la Churchill (amended of course) Why yes she is fat, but she can go on a diet, you however will always be obnoxious.


              • #8
                Oh btw, i DO agree not to engage, but sometimes people need to be spoken to.


                • #9
                  Say, "She's a Quarter Horse"--because of course every knowledgeable horsewoman knows that Quarter Horses are often stockier than TBs! If you can say it with the sort of look that assumes she is a knowledgeable horsewoman and that no further words on your part are necessary, that might work.

                  Or you could just look the woman up and down, a silent comment on her own figure, then turn back to your mare and give her (the mare) the sort of smile that says "Some people don't have any room to talk ... "
                  Founder of the People Who Prefer COTH Over FB Clique
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                  • #10
                    Awww, don't take life so seriously. It really isn't that big of a deal. I probably would've just laughed, and made a joke out of it, like "yeah, she probably wants to ask the other horses.."Does this rider make my butt look fat?"


                    • #11
                      are you sure she didn't mean phat? I would just ignore it. You know your horse and what weight is healthy, as long as she doesn't start trying to give you nutrition or workout advice, just smile and carry on.


                      • #12
                        Originally posted by jetsmom View Post
                        Awww, don't take life so seriously. It really isn't that big of a deal. I probably would've just laughed, and made a joke out of it, like "yeah, she probably wants to ask the other horses.."Does this rider make my butt look fat?"
                        Love it! Do you mind if I use that sometime with my QH any my friends' QHs?
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                        • #13
                          I agree with others - she was just making a comment on your horse's physical condition. Nothing against you as an owner, your horse as a sweetheart, or anything else.

                          Of course - you could smile sweetly and reply with "IShe just has a lot of potential muscle"


                          • #14
                            The southern standard reply for a comment like that is, "Well, bless your heart!"

                            You can add, "how kind of you to say so," if you like.

                            I personally probably wouldn't bother to respond, but might just look back with a polite, distant smile. She will get the message.
                            We move pretty fast for some rabid garden snails.


                            • #15
                              I'd say you are too lady.... smile and go about grooming


                              • #16
                                Where I come from, when someone says your horse is nice and fat, it's a compliment I think horses are like people, they're more likely to be nice when they are well-fed.
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                                • #17
                                  I show hunters, and spend half my life wondering if my horse is fat enough to take to a horse show. I would have said thank you and been all giddy for the next half hour.


                                  • #18
                                    One polite sentence. Repeat as needed.

                                    "Thanks for your interest."


                                    • #19
                                      "she's not fat, she's fluffy"

                                      She could have meant it as a compliment.

                                      Stoneybrook Farm Afton TN


                                      • #20
                                        Originally posted by Lucassb View Post
                                        The southern standard reply for a comment like that is, "Well, bless your heart!"

                                        You can add, "how kind of you to say so," if you like.

                                        I personally probably wouldn't bother to respond, but might just look back with a polite, distant smile. She will get the message.
                                        Yeah, depending on your mood, this and Crickets. Maybe you also look at her Deer In the Headlights at the same time. She'll get it.

                                        Sometimes I'd defend my butterball horse in a good-natured and over the top way. I might hug his fat butt and say "But he's just so scrum-del-e-icious! When we finally BBQ him, I'll put you on the invite list." She'll get it that way, too.

                                        Really, we old ladies have a hard time. We aren't considered eye candy. We know a lot and no one cares. If you can't use your experience to rain on someone else's parade, then what's the point of being an old know-it-all. Cut her some slack and be glad you aren't her. It's lonely being right all the time.
                                        The armchair saddler
                                        Politically Pro-Cat