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  • Am I being too emotional?

    I feel like a total idiot, I am sitting here balling my eyes out, because I was looking through the CANTER website and came across a horse that is somewhat closely related to my 19 yr old gelding I had to put down last year around this time. I know I know... Lots of horses are related, but I haven't found one that close before, and then the pictures and the discription, he looks almost identical and the description, was just crazy, I mean they might as well of descripted my "Frank"... The horse is so nice looking, and right now I am with out much to ride, which is one of the reasons I am looking for a "project"... I wish more then anything I could dip into my savings and buy this horse and then of course get him down here.

    My non horsey friends don't understand, and this horse was my best friend he was with me threw my grandmothers death, my parents divorce, all of high school, and went with me to school my first year of college...Packed me around the CH/AD jumpers when I had no idea what I was doing and absolutely loved his job...
    If you don't have anything nice to say about someone, come sit by me.

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    aww i think thats really sweet. yea most non horse people dont understand how these beautiful animals affect us. Thats so weird how that happens, how you find anotherone that remindes you so much of your horse and how closely related.

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    • #3
      I think it's sweet, too. Not "too" emotional at all.

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      • #4
        Originally posted by Savoy 8 View Post
        I feel like a total idiot, I am sitting here balling my eyes out, because I was looking through the CANTER website and came across a horse that is somewhat closely related to my 19 yr old gelding I had to put down last year around this time. I know I know... Lots of horses are related, but I haven't found one that close before, and then the pictures and the discription, he looks almost identical and the description, was just crazy, I mean they might as well of descripted my "Frank"... The horse is so nice looking, and right now I am with out much to ride, which is one of the reasons I am looking for a "project"... I wish more then anything I could dip into my savings and buy this horse and then of course get him down here.

        My non horsey friends don't understand, and this horse was my best friend he was with me threw my grandmothers death, my parents divorce, all of high school, and went with me to school my first year of college...Packed me around the CH/AD jumpers when I had no idea what I was doing and absolutely loved his job...

        Where theres a will theres a way....call the trainer maybe there is room for considerable negotiation.

        Ask around some commercial shippers used to give TB re-homers a break on shipping never hurts to ask.
        See if there is someone coming close to your way were you could meet and cover just the gas??? Never hurts to flat out ask worse thing is they say no..just don't ask the trainer "To Give" you the horse. Talk to them see what options they have

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        • #5
          I agree with above. If you don't try you will never know- sometimes things just have a way of falling into place.

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          • #6
            Just wanted to agree as well. Contact the trainer and let them know about your Frank and their horses relation. A lot of the trainers are just looking to place the horses in a good home.

            You could try to contact CANTER and see if they can come up with any resources/suggestions for transporting the horse.

            Oh and you're not being too emotional at all. I've actually been searching for horses related to mine. I'd be pretty emotional if I stumbled across one in need of a home.

            Good Luck! Keep us updated.

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            • #7
              Are you being too emotional? Probably.

              But is there anything wrong with that? No.

              My only suggestion is make sure you like the horse you are seeing & not the horse you hope it to be (your old horse).
              "I'm not crazy...my mother had me tested"

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              • #8
                Here's what you need to do:

                1. Step back. Make some tea. Pull out your accordion and have a jam session. Calm down and relax.

                2. Have someone else look at the horse and check it out for you. You're too close to the memory of Frank to make any kind of rational offer to purchase the horse. You can easily throw yourself into a bad situation with the warm fuzzy mindset.

                3. Do not tell the trainer what you have told us unless absolutely necessary. You don't want to give them leverage to hornswoggle you into paying more than they might ask for otherwise.
                Thus do we growl that our big toes have, at this moment, been thrown up from below!

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                • #9
                  Originally posted by LexInVA View Post
                  Here's what you need to do:

                  1. Step back. Make some tea. Pull out your accordion and have a jam session. Calm down and relax.

                  2. Have someone else look at the horse and check it out for you. You're too close to the memory of Frank to make any kind of rational offer to purchase the horse. You can easily throw yourself into a bad situation with the warm fuzzy mindset.

                  3. Do not tell the trainer what you have told us unless absolutely necessary. You don't want to give them leverage to hornswoggle you into paying more than they might ask for otherwise.
                  This, and hugs.
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                  • #10
                    "3. Do not tell the trainer what you have told us unless absolutely necessary. You don't want to give them leverage to hornswoggle you into paying more than they might ask for otherwise".


                    There's just as many trainers out there that just might GIVE her the horse if they heard that story too. A lot of them would give anything to have their retiring horses end up in a forever home.

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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by Giddy-up View Post
                      My only suggestion is make sure you like the horse you are seeing & not the horse you hope it to be (your old horse).
                      Ditto
                      Auventera Two:Some women would eat their own offspring if they had some dipping sauce.
                      Serious Leigh: it sounds like her drama llama should be an old schoolmaster by now.

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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by MIKES MCS View Post
                        "3. Do not tell the trainer what you have told us unless absolutely necessary. You don't want to give them leverage to hornswoggle you into paying more than they might ask for otherwise".


                        There's just as many trainers out there that just might GIVE her the horse if they heard that story too. A lot of them would give anything to have their retiring horses end up in a forever home.
                        I agree.
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                        • #13
                          Anyone who has ever loved a horse, understands why this one on Canter has you in a swoon. (I tend to only like black bays for the same reason). But, as all have said, be careful that you are not expecting any new horse to be 'Frank.'

                          But that said, oh heck - call the trainer. Go for it
                          Good luck - I hope all works out.

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                            #14
                            Ok so I have settled down a bit and am trying to think about this rationally... I have been looking for another horse, pony (something to ride) as you can see by all of my recent posts. I would love to have another tall, big boned TB and he is young so thats a plus...
                            I talked to the trainer and he said they are negotiable on his price, and that they would get back with me about what they would take for the horse.
                            Here is a link to the horses pictures.... What do you guys think?

                            http://www.canterusa.org/index.php?o...s&directory=64
                            If you don't have anything nice to say about someone, come sit by me.

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                            • #15
                              Pretty. I could see it being in the ring.
                              Thus do we growl that our big toes have, at this moment, been thrown up from below!

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                              • #16
                                He's a lovely creature. Can't hurt to give it a shot. They are open to offers...

                                Good luck!
                                Seb
                                Aca-Believe it!!

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                                • #17
                                  I think he's lovely...looks like he's at Penn National - if you want me to see him in person for you, I'd be glad to - track's only about 15/20 minutes from my house.
                                  http://www.tbhsa.com/index.html

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                                    #18
                                    Originally posted by MyGiantPony View Post
                                    I think he's lovely...looks like he's at Penn National - if you want me to see him in person for you, I'd be glad to - track's only about 15/20 minutes from my house.
                                    Your too sweet! and I may take you up on the offer, I am trying to work out possibly going up there myself... I had scheduled some time off from the 19th-23rd about a month ago, and my plans have fallen threw for x-mas with my boyfriends parents, so I still have off for a few days and nothing to do. I also have some friends that live around here and they have trotters and pacers they head to Delaware just about every weekend with the trailer to race their horses (yeah I know)... But they said they could pick him up for me and bring him back if I needed them too. I of course want to see him in person and try him out, and then have him vetted. Fingers crossed I can get up there.
                                    If you don't have anything nice to say about someone, come sit by me.

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                                    • #19
                                      Awwww..... your post made me sniffle Does that make me too emotional too? I'm sending all the good luck and wishes I can find to you!!!
                                      Somewhere in the world, Jason Miraz is Goodling himself and wondering why "the chronicle of the horse" is a top hit. CaitlinAndTheBay

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                                      • #20
                                        Originally posted by Savoy 8 View Post
                                        I feel like a total idiot, I am sitting here balling my eyes out, because I was looking through the CANTER website and came across a horse that is somewhat closely related to my 19 yr old gelding I had to put down last year around this time. I know I know... Lots of horses are related, but I haven't found one that close before, and then the pictures and the discription, he looks almost identical and the description, was just crazy, I mean they might as well of descripted my "Frank"... The horse is so nice looking, and right now I am with out much to ride, which is one of the reasons I am looking for a "project"... I wish more then anything I could dip into my savings and buy this horse and then of course get him down here.

                                        My non horsey friends don't understand, and this horse was my best friend he was with me threw my grandmothers death, my parents divorce, all of high school, and went with me to school my first year of college...Packed me around the CH/AD jumpers when I had no idea what I was doing and absolutely loved his job...
                                        hey well you know what they say about "it was meant to be"

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