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Really? UPDATE: Spinoff..do I look heavy?

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  • Really? UPDATE: Spinoff..do I look heavy?

    Okay I was reading this thread and I want to know honestly if you think I look heavy on my horse. I will be keeping him forever...I bought him as a yearling and he's my "forever" horse.

    A little info.

    - I'm 5'2" and 140lbs. I'm coming 39 years old and I am NOT a gym person. I eat right but I have been curvy ever since college. The lowest I have been since then is 136lbs which does make me look leaner but is really tough for me to keep as I have a sit down computer job...sigh..

    - My guy is 15-3 1/2 TB and 1/2 Trakehner with a pretty long neck and a huge engine.

    - I've graduated from Limit Rider 2'6" and am competitive in the Pre-Adults 2'6" and planning on moving up to Mod Child/Adult and older A/A's next year.

    - So do you think I'm heavy? Do you think I'm matched okay?
    - Favor please? Please help me pick a nice photo from Windcrest to frame his first Champion ribbon from the "A" show. So far, I'm leaning to #1094.

    Here is the link to the Pro photographs from the show.


    Here is the link to the candids taken by a lady at our barn.


    You may be brutally honest...I have a thick skin.
    Proud member of the Clean Horse, Dirty House Clique! Founder of the Goodbye Fat, Hello Muscle Clique!

  • #2
    No, I don't think that you look heavy and I am in the George Morris school of thought.

    I think that you chose a very nice and suitable mount to be your forever horse. He's very cute and you look good on him.

    Good luck and have fun with him!


    • #3
      For the pictures, I like #1566. The second link didnt work for me. From the pictures, I thought you looked fine. You do have a more "stocky" build, however, you are not too big for your horse, IMO.
      "To do something that you feel in your heart that's great, you need to make a lot of mistakes. Anything that is successful is a series of mistakes." -B.J. Armstrong


      • #4
        Rule # 23 of riding... never allow your horses butt to be smaller than your own

        you're nowhere near breaking the rule


        • #5
          You are built like me. To me you don't look heavy, just compact. Every ounce of muscle or fat looks for on shorter people do to out lack of upper body. Show coats also do not do us the favors they do for taller riders.

          I like 1094 the best. Try bringing your lower leg forward a bit, your butt back so that your crotch is not right over the pommel of the saddle. If you steady and strengthen your lower leg more it will help your upper body.

          I do the same thing sometimes. Short legs + short upper body = not as pretty of a picture when something is a bit off with us.

          Here is me on a TB cross when I was about your weight, and he was anywhere between 16h-16.2h depending on when the photos were taken (age wise for him) (Oh and no this is not me trying to link to a sales add, it is the only photos I have of him to show OP a shorter stocky rider, he was SOLD *yay* in Dec of 08) http://mattsontraining.net/Index_files/Page330.htm


          • #6
            You look just fine on him.
            Platinum Equestrian - Florida, USA


            • #7
              I think you make a well suited pair...he is adorable! And I agree never ride a horse that has a smaller butt than you
              Actually if anyone needs to drop a few pounds it *may* be him
              Happily retired but used to be:


              • #8
                You don't look heavy at all. Your horse is lovely. I agree with Parotnutz that he could probably lose some weight.


                • #9
                  So being perfectly honest...... and trust me..... I always am.

                  I read your OP. That height and weight on that size of horse is perfectly o.k. and for sure not too heavy.

                  I saw your professional photo (couldn't get the other ones to work) and that confirmed what I know to be fact from what you said.

                  You're not too heavy for your horse.

                  Whether you think you're a little heavy for your height and to feel comfortable with yourself is another thing entirely and that's up to you to decide. But for sure you look fine in terms of matching on your horse.

                  p.s. My wife has an enormous heavy hunter horse and she says riding him is like wearing vertical stripes. She knows her bum doesn't look big on him!


                  • #10
                    Nope. I don't think you look too heavy for your horse

                    Like Thomas said, any issues you have about your weight/size are another thing. You look good on the horse.
                    Y'all ain't right!


                    • Original Poster

                      Originally posted by Parrotnutz View Post
                      Actually if anyone needs to drop a few pounds it *may* be him
                      Don't let the pics fool you. It's all muscle on him. He's worked 5-6 days a week by either me or my trainer. He's just an easy keeper. 3/4 scoop of senior, electrolytes, 1 squirt of rice bran oil, hay inside...grass turnout 4pm-730am.

                      **disclaimer** NOT advertising...just showing the similarities between sire and offspring. I don't have any business relationship with these links.

                      Here's a link to his sire who sadly passed away this past July. You can kind of see that he stamps his body type.


                      And his approved 1/2 sibling.

                      I also owned a 1/2 sister but sadly had to put her down due to complications post colic. I have a couple of photos of her at this link under Itaka.


                      And I forgot that I have more photos of us at this link. The dressage photos are from 2007 and everything else is 2008-2009 except for the Pro photos (the very last 3 - brown shirt, 2007 pony club show, vest jumper 2008 schooling show, light blue shirt, pink reins 2007 schooling show - my skinniest moment, but no leg muscle)

                      Proud member of the Clean Horse, Dirty House Clique! Founder of the Goodbye Fat, Hello Muscle Clique!


                      • #12
                        pic 1566

                        1566 is the best photo.He looks fabulous and you are looking up and not grimacing. In the others you are "laying on the neck" more and in the one you prefer, he looks a little "close" to the fence.

                        You are not "too big" for your horse, and if someone has planted that idea,know that you are starting to be a threat to them.

                        Your horse is no heavier than most of the winning warmbloods.

                        Have fun!


                        • #13
                          I was joking when I said your horse *May* be fat.....it was a play on the whole thing about you being too heavy....sorry it didn't translate.

                          I think the 2 of you fit each other extremely well.
                          Happily retired but used to be:


                          • #14
                            Awe, I know you and your horse! Y'all are cute together - you suit him just fine! And he seems to like what he does, so he doesn't seem to have an opinion on it! He is a stout one though!


                            • #15
                              You don't even look heavy in the white dressage britches.
                              And almost *everyone* looks bigger in those!
                              I'd say you were a very good match for your horse.
                              Please remember that many times we can be our own worst critics. (others can be purposely oblivious too, but that's not an issue here) I'm also short, same height give or take a millimeter or so. Us short folks tend to think we look heavier or disproportioned due to our diminutive height. We have all the same body parts as normal height folks, just smooshed into a smaller package.
                              You aren't heavy and you're defiinitely not too large for your horse.
                              In these days of seeing people our height all mounted on 17.2hh big beefy horses, we may think we look odd because we actually "fit* our horses when we're more used to seeing people dwarfed by their horses. Not that there's anything wrong with being short on a big horse...it's just that it's so common right now we're changing our perception of what an aptly matched pair actually looks like.
                              Ages ago when my sister and I were both showing...we used to get comments often on how well we both fit our horses. I rode my 14.2hh App mare and my 5'11" all leg sister rode her 17hh narrow built slab sided TB. (okay, so they looked elegant and we looked like wind up toys. ) Nowadays in order to fit the "norm" I would have to be on a 16.3hh horse and my sister would think she needed a 17.3hh to 18.2hh horse.
                              Personally, I think you have a muscular athletic looking build and fit your horse beautifully.
                              Stop being so hard on yourself...I know it's hard not to look at photos or in the mirror and only see flaws...it's a curse us females live with.
                              You jump in the saddle,
                              Hold onto the bridle!
                              Jump in the line!


                              • #16
                                No, you do not look in anyway too fat, heavy or even close to large on that horse. You don't even look chubby or in need of losing pound. I'd even say he looks a scootch big for you. But I think it is a pleasing pairing.

                                You do look very awkward and uncomfortable in photos over fences- like you are collapsing your shoulders forward. The slumping might be why you think you look fat? You could lose 40 lbs and if you kept slumping you'd still be unhappy with the pics. I think if you worked on that posture - pulling shoulders back and not collapsing, you'd be much happier with your photos. The other thing that might help- getting your jacket tailored better- it looks too big, particularly over your shoulders.

                                Your horse looks super nice- and honestly, to jump so nice, you are doing something right. Hunters are not about how we look in the air.


                                • #17
                                  No way do you look too big for your horse!!! Keep on having fun!


                                  • #18
                                    You look great on your horse- I agree with those who say work on your eq a little bit though if you want to improve the image- open up your shoulders and tighten your seat and you may be a little happier with the overall picture. You and your horse look lovely and happy together though and it is great to see that; you make an excellent, well matched pair.
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                                    • #19
                                      Originally posted by shadytrake View Post
                                      - I'm 5'2" and 140lbs.

                                      - So do you think I'm heavy? Do you think I'm matched okay?

                                      You may be brutally honest...I have a thick skin.
                                      Because you asked: yes I do think you're heavy. That's a lot of weight on a 5'2" frame as I'm sure your doctor has probably already told you. It seems you already know that you'll look and feel a lot better if you lose some weight. If it's important to you, get up an hour earlier each day and exercise before you go to your desk job.
                                      Do I think you're matched okay? Absolutely. You look great on that very, very cute horse. (but yes, you'd look even better if you lost some weight.)

                                      Originally posted by shadytrake View Post
                                      - Favor please? Please help me pick a nice photo from Windcrest to frame his first Champion ribbon from the "A" show. So far, I'm leaning to #1094.
                                      I like 1094, too, and also 1566. And next show, wear black gloves!


                                      • #20
                                        You look appropriately matched for each other, but I don't think you would have posted this thread if you agreed with us. You are in control of how you look, so if YOU dont like the picture, change it.
                                        Easier said than done I know (believe me I know)
                                        chaque pas est fait ensemble