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  • #41
    .... double post
    If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse.

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    • #42
      Hey, hey, hey - no need for the pile-on. OP had a point, and I somewhat agree with her - it is not so much about the $$$ as atmosphere at some shows. Spruce Meadows is as welcoming as anybody could wish for, other venues not so much - but finding a niche for herself and her horse is
      where she should be.
      Proud member of People Who Hate to Kill Wildlife clique

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      • #43
        Originally posted by Foxtrot's View Post
        Hey, hey, hey - no need for the pile-on. OP had a point, and I somewhat agree with her - it is not so much about the $$$ as atmosphere at some shows. Spruce Meadows is as welcoming as anybody could wish for, other venues not so much - but finding a niche for herself and her horse is
        where she should be.
        Posters are telling her to enjoy her TB and seek other training. But then she comes in with other comments that further the fact she is a bit of the have or have not. She sounds young and looks like she needs a bit of a reality check. After all she asked for thoughts and sometimes in life you don't get the pat on the back and get told it's going to be okay. More people need to tell their kids the hard facts and not baby them. They need to learn how to toughen up.
        If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse.

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        • #44
          Originally posted by Goldie locks View Post
          Posters are telling her to enjoy her TB and seek other training. But then she comes in with other comments that further the fact she is a bit of the have or have not. She sounds young and looks like she needs a bit of a reality check. After all she asked for thoughts and sometimes in life you don't get the pat on the back and get told it's going to be okay. More people need to tell their kids the hard facts and not baby them. They need to learn how to toughen up.
          Somehow I get the feeling your exists coasts along 100% on your parents' tab while you are explaining on the internet that people need to toughen up.
          The Noodlehttp://tiny.cc/NGKmT&http://tiny.cc/gioSA
          Jinxyhttp://tiny.cc/PIC798&http://tiny.cc/jinx364
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          • #45
            Originally posted by meupatdoes View Post
            Somehow I get the feeling your exists coasts along 100% on your parents' tab while you are explaining on the internet that people need to toughen up.

            your exists??? I am much older than you are. Laughable, on my parents tab.
            If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse.

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            • #46
              Originally posted by Goldie locks View Post
              I am much older than you are.
              And yet you display a notable streak of unkindness and all the maturity of a spoiled 12 year old.

              But, that's the good thing about the internet.
              You can be whoever you want to be!
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              The Hana is nuts! NUTS!!http://tinyurl.com/SOCRAZY

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              • #47
                Some of you are waaaay too invested in this!!

                Got anything else meaningful to do with your life today?

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                • #48
                  Originally posted by babecakes View Post
                  Some of you are waaaay too invested in this!!

                  Got anything else meaningful to do with your life today?
                  ^I'm going to go out on a short limb here and vote that this is **somebody's** old account.

                  Who is of course not overly invested in anything what with logging in under multiple names or anything.
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                  • #49
                    Weird turn of events.

                    I can see where the OP comes across frustrated and envious; but that is good reason to look for another discipline or training barn.

                    I sure hope it works out for you. I have to drive over an hour to ride with the barn I want to. It stinks but when I get there it's so much fun.

                    You will figure it out.

                    And yes, the internet is a fun place of speculation, good ideas and bad ones too.

                    Good luck OP.
                    Live in the sunshine.
                    Swim in the sea.
                    Drink the wild air.

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                    • #50
                      Hmm - wonder if you are right, Meup? Besides which, another new poster coming on with jaundiced view before even sizing everyone up.
                      Proud member of People Who Hate to Kill Wildlife clique

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                      • #51
                        ok, thread is starting to get weird but these always do when this topic comes up.

                        Anyway...I do understand where the OP is coming from (the sentiment of being jealous that some people can afford things, while I'm going to sulk that I cannot!) but OP I have to ask, have you ever thought about this from the flip side? I mean maybe you don't feel like you fit in and everyone seems "entitled" because you don't actually take the time to be friendly and talk to them. And YOU might actually be coming across as snobby to them. Its all about perception! Because honestly, even the UBER wealthy people I've met in the sport have been super friendly and nice, because I've been friendly and nice with them.

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                        • #52
                          I read the first page and a half before the train derailed, but I will say that there are always going to be people who have more than you have, and there will always be people envious of you. I board with a gal who can afford to take hundreds of dollars of lessons every month, show at rateds, and has several upper level horses. I envy her - and she envies people at her trainers' place who can afford training board and grooms. It's just the way the cookie crumbles. And this doesn't stop in the horse world but applies to all facets of life!

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                          • #53
                            The OP did not seem to be showing envy in her post - other posters put that part in.
                            Proud member of People Who Hate to Kill Wildlife clique

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                            • #54
                              Also remember, that just because somebody's life "appears" to be perfect doesn't mean that it is! One of the wealthiest people that I ever knew as a teen was also the loneliest. Parent's bought her everything she ever wanted but what she really wanted was THEIR attention......it was sad, and it opened my eyes to reality and how good I had it.

                              Also remember, at horse shows, people are too wrapped up in what they themselves are doing to actually care about what you are doing or what you are riding. Find a barn that you have fun with and like to hang out with and then go and have fun.....really, nobody is watching you and judging you....really they're not! (well unless you ride like Reed Kessler and suddenly one day just appear on the show circuit but then THAT would be a good thing)
                              Go Ahead: This is a dare, not permission. Don't Do It!

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                              • #55
                                Originally posted by Foxtrot's View Post
                                The OP did not seem to be showing envy in her post - other posters put that part in.
                                The original post does seem to have been edited.
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                                • #56
                                  Ride your horse and be happy with what you have. The only person making you feel like you don't belong is you.

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                                  • #57
                                    Originally posted by Foxtrot's View Post
                                    The OP did not seem to be showing envy in her post - other posters put that part in.
                                    I agree. I read the original post (where it mentioned the saddle count), but I didn't interpret the OPs comments to be about envy, but about connection.

                                    OP, are you talking about making a connection with other people? Seems like that aligns more with your 'fitting in' concerns. I don't hear you complaining about not having the right things, but more about having the kind of relationships you want to have. Is that right?

                                    It sounds like you're looking for a place to ride/show where you have a common perspective. Next show you go to, see if there's a TB-only class. Hang out at the rail, see who's there, and strike up a conversation. Maybe you'll find someone with a similar passion for TBs?

                                    Some of this may be related to your age. I'm guessing you're between 13 and 17, right? Girls at that age seem to be less open to meeting new friends. Maybe look for someone who's a bit more like you or wait till you're all a bit older. I suspect much of that clique-y-ness will go away when everyone grows up a bit.


                                    And to those posters who want to unleash at the OP because they're sick of never-ending threads on similar topics - please be nice and realize that THIS PERSON may not know about all those other threads. I had a similar experience in Off Course when I asked for advice. Felt like I was being chased by an angry mob for asking an innocent question. Sheesh.
                                    ~ Citizens for a Kinder, Gentler COTH...our mantra: Be nice. ~

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                                      #58
                                      Originally posted by vxf111 View Post
                                      The original post does seem to have been edited.
                                      Of course I edited it. I was attacked by a few names on a computer screen who misunderstood my original post so I changed it for future commenters

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                                        #59
                                        Yes I was talking about connection. I feel I cannot connect with people at shows. I mean I'm not socially awkward but I just don't really have anything in common with them. I am nice and respectful but very quiet at shows. I had someone ask me and I quote, "You are a plain down to earth girl, why are you in this classy expensive sport"?

                                        I honestly just wanted a few peoples opinions and see if others felt the same way, but I got a mob of angry names coming at me telling me Im jealous of what others have. Its not a big deal people can have their opinions and judge me through their computer screen.

                                        And yes I didn't know about those other threads and I didn't mean for my original post to spark such a hateful fire

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                                        • #60
                                          Originally posted by VaudevilleD View Post
                                          Of course I edited it. I was attacked by a few names on a computer screen who misunderstood my original post so I changed it for future commenters
                                          Well, it originally had some different material that explains why the earlier posters (myself included) took your post differently than later posters. Whether you meant it or not, your original post really came off that you were jealous other people had nice things like expensive horses and saddles and you felt like you didn't fit in because you couldn't afford those things. Which is why I made the comment about keeping up the Joneses. I wouldn't have made that comment if you didn't have the original content about fancy saddles and horses. If it's not what you meant, that's fine. But it's how it read and it's something that earlier posters responded to.
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                                          "The Son Dee Times" "Sustained" "Somerset" "Franklin Square"
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