Recently, I said hello to someone when I arrived at the barn after a long day at work and a crappy drive that took an hour and a half instead of the usual 30-45 minutes. In an effort to be friendly when I really didn't feel like being friendly, I asked, "How was your ride?" She responded tartly and said, "Well, if you really need to know, it was FINE."
Um? I don't understand why there was any hostility on her part, as it was just a friendly question asked in an effort to make small talk. I felt like snapping back, "Actually, I don't really care how your ride was, but I'm trying to be nice to you, you weirdo!" Instead, I just shrugged, said, "Well, of course I don't need to know, sorry if you felt I was prying," and went on my way. I just don't ask how her rides are anymore. Sometimes she asks me how mine are, which I always think is funny now. But I don't really mind.
Things are fine between the two of us. No idea what was going on there. But, yeah, don't always assume someone is asking something out of malice. Sometimes they really are just trying to be friendly. I know I was.