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Can we have an adult re-rider support group?

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  • Equisusan- good luck!

    DreaminOTTB- I think that sounds like a successful day! My JJ showed on Saturday with one of our teenage riders, and it ws his first real course at a show, even it was only 2'. Some parts were hysterical (he stopped and STEPPED over one jump one leg at a time, LOL), but you could tell he thoroughly enjoyed it, even if he didn't fully know what he was doing. Gotta take the small victories.

    So I HAVE NEWS. I bought a horse!!! I don't know what the heck I was thinking having two. I don't know how to do photos on this particular board, so here is a link. Meet Oliver/Ollie:http://i63.photobucket.com/albums/h1...l43/Oliver.jpg

    They are both going to live outside until JJ sells. i cannot BELIEVE my husband went for this!!

    16.2 dappled gray Percheron/TB cross. As soon as I sat on him, he felt like home. Easy-going, point and shoot, but STRONG, yet adjustable. Goes best in a Pelham. Going to have to get used to his size and stride, and need to work on ground manners (he is mouthy and pulls you around a bit), but I can work on that. He also already broke a fence board. It was hysterical. I got to the barn, walked up to his pasture, and he was just standing there straddling the fence and looking embarrased like, "I'm stuck. HELP." Moron didn't realize, oh hi, I'm huge and can hop my legs over this. We had to tap his butt with a stick to get him to hop over with his back legs:

    Blog chronicling our new eventing adventures: Riding With Scissors


    • dreamin and Hazel: well done! It sounds as if both of you had some good success.

      Hinderella: I agree about the Siegfried--they are almost indestructible. In fact, mine got wet yesterday and cleaned right up afterward. I do love that saddle, though, and wouldn't ride in anything else. I don't care if it's not fashionable--it makes me feel secure.

      As for your question on showing, I guess I do it to give myself little, achievable goals to work toward. It's not really necessary, but it does make me work a bit more because my horse and I are putting it out there for others to see. I don't think everyone has to show, though. One of my goals when I retire is to take piano lessons, but I'm going to keep looking until I find an instructor who doesn't insist that I play in recitals. Don't want to.

      CONGRATULATIONS, PH!! Now we have two Olivers in the re-riders thread: Yours and Opus's! Both very cute, I should add. I am so glad things worked out! Give your DH a big hug from all of us!
      I heard a neigh. Oh, such a brisk and melodious neigh as that was! My very heart leaped with delight at the sound. --Nathaniel Hawthorne


      • Bumknees- jingles for a good, steady recovery. I agree with the others, blame the spelling errors on autocorrect!

        PH- exciting news about the new horse.

        I did ride the 4 days before I went out of town and just got back in town last night. Of course, on the last day I really started to feel like I had it together again and had a good ride. I'm tired and hate to say it but not at all sorry to see it is raining today, I could use a night at home to rest after work.

        Quick not-horse related... I showed my little homebred girl in Bred By and won the class over 26 other females (huge win). Walking her back to the van to rest before winners, I felt her start taking off steps. I put her up, went back to our set-up and was told I was overreacting. Got her out before winners and my friends thought she was moving sound. We gave her some rimidyl and she stayed sound through winners, where she pressed the open bitch hard but lost. Judge sent us one more time around in Reserve, and 3/4 of the way around she went lame and I was excused. Heart-breaking. The owner of Winners Bitch happens to be a horse vet and she examined my girl afterwards and we suspected a bruised pad. She is okay today but I'm keeping her relatively quiet for the week.

        The forecast is for rain all week, with the worst of it today and tomorrow. So, I might not get back to the barn until Wednesday. Barnmates are showing this weekend, but I'm definitely not ready yet.


        • I suspect my childhood riding instructor had a bunch of Siegfrieds or whatever predated them. I know she preferred Stubben saddles. And when I returned to riding, one of the horses I rode had an ancient Stubben Loehngrin that was so comfortable... rock-hard but comfortable. That horse, and that saddle, are both deceased now (the horse is Trump, see below.)

          We had our usual Saturday lesson, though with a dressage schooling show on Sunday the jumpers guy didn't want to "heat up" Feronia too much. We spent a *lot* of time trotting and cantering squares -- that old inside-leg-to-outside-hand thing. Eventually we did do a little jumping... Trot in to tiny crossrail and count strides to a canter pole. As usual, the first time Feronia cleared it by at least 2 feet, goofy mare that she is. Phil decided that 8 strides was the right number and I had to adjust the excitable mare to keep it at 8. Her tendency when excited is to start bouncing up and down, so we got 9 a few times instead of 8, or 8 with a "long spot" to the pole. I also now know that she will screech to a halt if I say "Ho!" No other aids required She started to show a little bit of an old bad habit, drifting to the right after a jump, so we will be working with placing poles. Phil says that these little bits of jumping are "recess time" for Feronia but she's getting bored with the tiny crossrail so we need to up the ante a bit.

          Dressage show was... OK, not great. Much better than the last one, though, as she didn't spook at anything and more or less kept her attention on me. The competition was tough, so we tied for last place in one class and were 4th out of 6 in the other even with decent scores. She has become very herdbound to her trailer buddy, so we need to deal with that. We do it all over again this Sunday, except with a home barn advantage, and hopefully not too much drama when her buddy goes to the indoor to do her tests.
          Last edited by quietann; Jun. 11, 2012, 10:25 PM.
          You have to have experiences to gain experience.

          1998 Morgan mare Mythic Feronia "More Valley Girl Than Girl Scout!"


          • Congrats PH on Oliver - very cute!

            I too am tired of the rain - can't it fall after it's time for the horses to come in? We had a birthday party at the barn on Saturday - there I am - hair blown dry, no baseball cap, makeup and even perfume to go with my tacky rubber boots.

            Dinner time for the ponies - pouring rain. We go to the gate and holler, come no boys. Nope says they, we is under the tree and quite comfortable thank you very much. We melt in that water stuff falling from the sky, you know.

            Somebody had to go first, so I grabbed my boy's halter and in I went - dripping wet but in my rubber boots! They all stand and look at me and snicker - look at the drippy human!! As I get under the tree, I get, Oh, hey, what's up? Did you bring treats? We are hungry, starving actually.

            Halter mine and head back for the barn, the rest following. By then I was totally drenched and not a thank you from any of the ponies did I get for getting them in to dinner.

            Ungrateful sods!
            And nothing bad happened!


            • PH - Oliver is handsome! He's exactly what I wanted when I was horse-hunting! Instead, I ended up with a 15.3hh, chestnut OTTB gelding. Hmmm ...

              Where are all you people located that you're getting so much rain??? We are just today getting rain after DAYS of nothing. While we had some pretty weather, we really needed some wet days to keep the grass going or everything was just going to burn out. Thankfully it just rained today (and we may get a bit more tomorrow) so that should help a bit.


              • I'm in Georgia--we have standing water in our yard right now, but we needed all the rain we've gotten.
                I heard a neigh. Oh, such a brisk and melodious neigh as that was! My very heart leaped with delight at the sound. --Nathaniel Hawthorne


                • jaslyn, I can't decide if those horses were sensible or naughty, wanting not to get wet. Maybe silly is the best word...
                  You have to have experiences to gain experience.

                  1998 Morgan mare Mythic Feronia "More Valley Girl Than Girl Scout!"


                  • PH. Congratulations! That picture over the fence is too funny. You need to post one of you on him!

                    Quietann good luck with the upcoming show. Let us know how it goes!

                    Bumknees how are you doing?


                    • Dewey, I tried what you suggested in my " how not to lean" rant, Instead of telling myself not to lean I told myself to put my weight in my outside stirrup going around the turn. And guess what? It worked. It's not perfect by a long shot but it's certainly way better. Even my trainer noticed and said it was better. So THANK YOU!!!


                      • Yay PaintedHunter! Ollie is precious. I love the photo of him standing over the broken fence - too funny!

                        Hinderella - I guess there are several reasons I like showing. I like the comraderie of the folks from our barn, being there are cheering each other on. I like making friends with people from other "competitor" barns. I like seeing how other trainers work with their horses and students. I like seeing everyone dressed in their "Sunday clothes" and putting their best performance forward. I like that it helps me set and work on incremental goals. I like that it's something I can do a few times a year with my goddaughter who also rides. So, overall, I get a lot out of it. But everyone is different. One of my best friends hates showing, and I doubt she'll ever do it again (hasn't done it since she was a teenager). She finds it stressful. To each their own. Maybe give it a try. If you hate it, then you know and you won't do it again.

                        dOTTB and HazelG - congrats on good shows!
                        Riding a horse is not a gentle hobby, to be picked up and laid down like a game of solitaire. It is a grand passion.... ~ Emerson


                        • Originally posted by HazelG View Post
                          Dewey, I tried what you suggested in my " how not to lean" rant, Instead of telling myself not to lean I told myself to put my weight in my outside stirrup going around the turn. And guess what? It worked. It's not perfect by a long shot but it's certainly way better. Even my trainer noticed and said it was better. So THANK YOU!!!
                          I heard a neigh. Oh, such a brisk and melodious neigh as that was! My very heart leaped with delight at the sound. --Nathaniel Hawthorne


                          • i am do well. a lot bettel then last time. but i must admit it comes and and goes. i read a lot more than i typo which i find helps i dont know why but it does. then i have brain frats.. and nothing.. the everything all at once it like shouting in my head then silece...
                            i dont know ... its confosing
                            i had a drs apt yesderday and i and i want to cry she sad what dh sad all this time that that there had been signs i had i proborbably had a small ne back one bck may 6th my b-day.. but they fail to do mri with cntrast in order cath it.
                            i dont know wat do wht tht nfo i knw waht i what i what i do bt it not leagel...
                            Friend of bar .ka


                            • Bumknees, I'm still so very sorry for what you're going through. It actually looks like your typing has improved, so I hope that's indicative of motor coordination coming back slowly. I wish you all the best.

                              Showing.... I get all worked up about it too, and SO nervous, but in the end I do it as a test against myself to prove to myself that I am progressing and accomplishing my goals. It also lets me know what I need to work on. I too also enjoy the comraderie of my "teammates" at my barn, and meeting other riders. We always have a great time. (and burn a lot of calories, haha!)

                              Thanks for all the congrats on Ollie. I don't yet have a photo of me on him because of the rain we've been having! Since purchasing, I haven't even ONCE been able to sit on him. BOO! I hope I get to ride tomorrow ... it's clear right now, but this evening it's supposed to storm again. I sure hope I get a few days of riding in before the trial ends. But when I went out to see him at the barn yesterday and groom, he was already behaving better on the ground. Not even ONE nibble on me or my clothing, and he wasn't pulling me around. The days before, I had been carrying a crop around and smacking his shoulder when he would misbehave, so I think he's already respecting me more and learning what's not acceptable. Good sign! He also ran up to the fence as I was leaving again- he knows me already! ::sigh. Melt::
                              Blog chronicling our new eventing adventures: Riding With Scissors


                              • Bumknees, that's got to be frustrating. When you're feeling better, you can decide whether you want to pursue any sort of malpractice action if they missed a diagnosis earlier.

                                PH, Ollie is adorable! Those big horses do require a firm hand, but they're often very good natured. Is your farrier ready to work on those big feet?

                                Thanks for the replies on showing. I still think it's probably not for me. There are no adults at my barn that I would be showing with. And I think for me it would just be stressful. I even get nervous about my performance at our barn's little schooling show!


                                • Yeah, having other adults makes it SO much better. We have a fantastic group of adults that goes to shows, so it makes it so much fun. We have more adults than kids!

                                  And our farrier is totally prepared to work on his feet- we have a Suffolk Punch cross with feet that are even slightly bigger than Ollie's! And it definitely will be an adjustment with needing stronger arms
                                  Blog chronicling our new eventing adventures: Riding With Scissors


                                  • PaintedHunter: Ollie's so cute! I love the big drafty types. And had the perfect OTTB not come along, I'd probably be shopping for Ollie's older brother or cousin.

                                    Riding in the Rain: I'm not opposed to getting wet while I ride, nor do I think my horse would care, but we rarely ever get 'just' rain. From now until late fall, we'll be getting pretty wicked thunderstorms with plenty of lightning. Although come fall, I'll have to invest in the ride-on rain cover so I can get some extra ride time.

                                    Originally posted by Hinderella View Post
                                    Thanks for the replies on showing. I still think it's probably not for me. There are no adults at my barn that I would be showing with.
                                    A year ago, I thought competing, even at a local level, would be great. But I keep putting it off. And off. And off ... I haven't ruled out showing entirely, but I just don't have that urge to get out and compete like I did 10 years ago. I'd rather go on a group trail ride or just go to shows and watch. Which is probably why I've developed an interest in one day hilltopping with a hunt. It's not showing, but it's not a trail ride ... And it's not a trail ride, but it's not showing.
                                    The dude abides ...


                                    • I know this is silly, but ...

                                      I got all excited when my Smartpaks came in last night with the little plastic drawer. I was like, 'Awwwww. These are my *very* first Smartpaks!'

                                      I'm sure I'll be doing a lot of that the rest of this year. Hopefully for fun things and not bad things.
                                      The dude abides ...


                                      • Working adult vent! Now that I am officially a "weekend" rider, it is so frustrating when something interferes with those prized weekend lessons. Super mare is WAY in season and just uncomfortable everywhere, so until she is on the downside and can go onto whatever it is my vet is going to put her on (depo or regumate, we'll see) she's been off. We've just been doing 30 minute trail rides. Thank goodness my trainer + barn mate took pity on me and had me ride a barn mate's horse this weekend while she was out of town. We jumped 2'3" I think, and it felt nice to do something!

                                        *Grumble grumble unspecified random sore young mare issues grumble*

                                        She's getting fab care, chiro, vet, lots of turn out, and was relocated to a less "busy" stall so she doesn't go "AHH" when the boys walk by. She'll be fine, the off time is just making me cranky. I just keep repeating...I'm not in a hurry...I don't have money to show right now anyway...she's 5...

                                        My "probation" at the new firm is up Aug. 1, and that will entail salary negotiations. One of the things I think I will end up asking for are later days on Tues/Thurs - like come in at 9-9:30 and stay until 6-6:30 so I can lesson in the mornings again. Hopefully the partners think that is reasonable.
                                        "Look, I'm trying not to test the durability of the arena with my face!" (Because only GM can do that.)


                                        • quietann - definitely silly sorts - right out of Monty Pyton.

                                          bumknees - your typing and sentence construction is getting much better!! Am so sorry that an earlier incident may have been missed - like was said earlier - you can figure your options on a malpractice suit later on. Keep you chin up - we are all there for you!
                                          And nothing bad happened!