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Can we have an adult re-rider support group?

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  • CVPeg - so glad your new barn is working out so well! I am sure that once he's acclimated to his new environment, he'll be more cooperative again. Sounds like you are doing everything right. Good luck Tuesday with your lesson.

    stolen virtue - hope your COTH break is good, and that we'll get an update when you get back on the BB. You'll be missed while you're gone.

    dreaminOTTB - the sarcoids are caused by a virus, similar to HPV (but from some sort of bovine source originally). So, basically, my poor horse has a mutation on an STD! HA! I think horses with the virus are generally exposed as youngsters, when their immune systems are lower.
    Riding a horse is not a gentle hobby, to be picked up and laid down like a game of solitaire. It is a grand passion.... ~ Emerson


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      Hi all! Hope you've had great weekends, Happy Mother's Day to the moms on here! My Mother's Day has been kind of uneventful. Hubby made breakfast and then cleaned the kitchen (woo!!!!). Then took Kiddo to Pappy's house to go fishing. I went back to bed and took a nap around noon. I'm pathetic! But I had a really lousy night's sleep and I NEED alot of sleep. I hoped to ride but there's still time. Currently eating wine and cheese in bed and reading COTH!

      I'm kind of freaking out because Devon Lead Line is in 2 weeks and the pony hasn't shed out yet! I might give him a bath tonight to help loosen up that hair. Thankfully its been in the 80's during the day so I'm hoping he gets sweaty enough to let some of it go. And I've been using a shedding blade on him every day. Its patchy - Neck and chest are good, back is good, but belly and butt and head are still hairy. And legs, but that's easy enough to fix.

      Rode the horses yesterday. Leasie was ok, he's getting a little buddy sour so that's an issue, but hopefully once I'm off from work (1 week! YAY!) and I can ride more that will be a thing of the past.

      Hope everyone is doing well!!!


      • Hi all- trying to catch up, since I've been MIA for a while. I've decided to sell JJ, quite sadly. After working out his physical issues, he just isn't the right horse for me after all. He really needs a more regular program to stay calm, and he knows I'm not confident enough to make him 100% behave, so the bucking continues with me. He's a fantastic horse for more confident people, and he did wonderfully yesterday when taking photos and video for his ad.

        If any of you Georgia people might know someone who'd be interested, let me know! Here's his ad: http://www.equine.com/horses-for-sal...d-2134720.html. He's incredibly brave, loves to jump and has lovely gaits. His jumping is a bit rusty only because he really hasn't been jumping over 2' with me, but he is so willing to jump whatever is put in front of him. He just needs practice! He has so much potential.

        Jumping video will be up there soon, as soon as YouTube cooperates with me and finishes posting it.

        I am very sad about this decision, but after a lot of soul-searching, I am convinced it's the right one. BIG SIGH.
        Blog chronicling our new eventing adventures: Riding With Scissors


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          Painted, I'm sorry you've come to this, but if you are anything like me, after the initial pain goes away, you will feel free. I was so sad deciding to get rid of Dublin but after he was gone, I was ok with it. And there are so many horses out there that will fit your needs, better for both of you to find your perfect matches!


          • Sorry Painted Hunter - I have not been in your position, but I can imagine it is very difficult. It sounds like spacytracy knows what you are going through, and you can take solace in her experience.

            I am sure the right horse is out there waiting for you! And that JJ's right owner is out there looking for him.
            Riding a horse is not a gentle hobby, to be picked up and laid down like a game of solitaire. It is a grand passion.... ~ Emerson


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              I definitely felt like a big fat failure, but at the end of the day, I want to have FUN riding and have a horse that will be the same regardless. Lucky is for sure that horse for me. Every other horse I've had has not been able to do that. If only he was a hand taller! Oh well. I think this year we'll try jumpers.


              • CVPeg, absolutely on the TB's I'm probably not quoting George Morris just exactly right, but what is he says? "They're lighter, smarter, and faster than any other horse out there." And he means it as a good thing. And so do I. There's two or three on the Maker's Mark Secretariat Center I'd grab right now if I had the budget for them.
                Blog: The Continuing Adventures of an (ahem) Mature Re-Rider without a Trust Fund...but, finally, A Farm of Her Own!!


                • CVPeg- glad to hear the new place is working out so well!

                  Painted-I'm sure it was a tough choice for you but it really sounds like the right one. Life is too short and time to ride too limited

                  Tarheel- are you under water? We got over 4" of rain up here in SC yesterday and more today.

                  New adult at the barn, she works too and is going to lease one of my trainers green horses while she horse shops. We are going to be in lessons together (she did the Junior Hunters back in HS) and are going to try to ride together after work. Yesterday and today are literally wash-outs and the forecast is not promising.

                  Unintentionally funny moment was when she said she wanted to show this summer and I said that was my goal too. Except I'm trying to make it to long stirrup at the locals and she is thinking the A's. Had to explain that neither horsie nor I are up to the A's.


                  • iechris -- all it did was rain yesterday! I am pretty sure the arena and pasture are a swamp. But it did not rain at all today, and I thought it was supposed to. I may try to make it out to the barn tomorrow after work. Try to stay dry up there in SC!
                    Riding a horse is not a gentle hobby, to be picked up and laid down like a game of solitaire. It is a grand passion.... ~ Emerson


                    • CVPeg you sound so much happier and more relaxed.

                      Dewey how is Sky doing?

                      Spacytracy how are things going with your new lease horse?

                      PH tough decision but I think it's better to find a better match for both of you than pressing on and making each other miserable. Takes courage and strength to do what you are doing. Hold your head high.

                      Well I made it through the first show of the season relatively unscathed. My son did great, I was so proud of him, and his horse, who was a hunter and rocked the jumper ring for his first time too. As for adult re-rider me, my horse and I did okay too. I changed a lot of things this year, including my attitude, and it seemed to work much better. First course was ok, second course not as good, and third course was just an oops. But I did manage a 4th and 7th ribbon, which I am proud of since there were 29 in the division. My trainer called it "a good start". The weather was beautiful, postcard perfect, my horses were happy, and we get to do it all again next weekend.

                      Belated happy mothers day to all of you. I spent mine in the company of my children, both two and four legged, at a beautiful horse show on a beautiful day. Felt very fortunate and grateful indeed.


                      • Hi, everyone--

                        PH--So sorry to hear about JJ--his ad is very cute, and I hope you find the right person for him. I know it was a painful decision, but I trust it was the right one.

                        Hazel, congrats of the show. Sounds as if you had a lovely day! What do you mean by "changing your attitude"?

                        I am out of town just now. DH and I are in Rochester, NY, at my sister's--we drove up here to pick up DDs after her first year of college.

                        It's been a happy reunion for the most part...however, when I mentioned DD ppossibly riding Sky this summer, it was the start of an emotional reaction, and we ended up having a bit heart-to-heart about the horse. DD has a lot of resentment as I had told her for years that we could not afford to buy a horse for her, and her heart horse, Jack, was recently purchased by another little girl at the barn. I explained till I was blue in the face why buying Jack was somewhere in between impractical and impossible and how the stars aligned to make Sky's purchase possible. She still feels the resentment even as she acknowledges my arguments. So it's putting a bit of a damper on our reunion.
                        I heard a neigh. Oh, such a brisk and melodious neigh as that was! My very heart leaped with delight at the sound. --Nathaniel Hawthorne


                        • Thanks, everyone - this has been a really hard decision, but everyone is right- I can't keep fighting him. It's not fair to me or him, and he really does perform better with a more confident rider now that his pain issues are taken care of. JJ will make someone a wonderful horse! I would love to see him do cross country. I am already looking at some new QUIET horses, and it's helping me start to try to emotionally detach. I'll still cry like a baby when he leaves, though.
                          Blog chronicling our new eventing adventures: Riding With Scissors


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                            Of course you will! But.....isn't it kind of exciting to think about a new quiet horse?

                            Leasie is doing good. had a slight mishap yesterday coming in, he slipped exactly the same way Dublin did and so today I went to tsc and bought $150 worth of rolled mat, and laid that down the aisle.


                            • It gets better!

                              Well, as if I couldn't be happy enough with my lovely new barn and friendly, competent owner, her visiting trainer is a gem! I met her the day I met my new BO. Trainer was running a mini-clinic & show nearby. She was here today, and BO and I took a lesson this morning. Love this trainer. Turns out she is friends with, and reminds me very much of, my old show trainer - who I would love to work with again, but she is too far, and now committed to one owner. With great common sense, not abusive, just tells it like it is, and can see an issue, and tell you exactly what to do to resolve it.

                              I think we'll go far now. With this trainer, we already tried today, and should be able to determine finally, if the root of his bucking problems at the canter are his back, or if it's just behavior. Have conjectured before with the vet (lameness/ortho specialist), and others that it is a learned behavior, and he still just doesn't know what to do with himself in the ring when asked to canter. Heaven knows, when bucked off previously, it was just because he wanted to "go"! (last time from a walk!)

                              I already had a feeling we'll be doing better here, as yesterday when I longed him, which so far had been almost all W/T, he easily slid into a canter - something he either burst into explosively before, or I had to get after him to do. Previous BO was constantly bragging about her expensive footing. Well, it's better at this private barn! (Either that, or could it be, turn outs are the key?!?)

                              Just pinch me!

                              PS And, this trainer also theorizes it's best to incorporate lots of trail riding for greenies, and she includes those kinds of behaviors in her training. Be still, my heart!
                              Last edited by CVPeg; May. 15, 2012, 05:38 PM.
                              But he thought, "This procession has got to go on." So he walked more proudly than ever, as his noblemen held high the train that wasn't there at all. H.C.Anderson


                              • Spacy - How's the hair coming?

                                PaintedHunter - hang in there - know the decision about JJ was tough, but when it's the right one - best for both of you. And, as the others have said, what fun to be looking for your next baby! Will be so much easier not having to worry about him so often when you ride.

                                HazelG - congrats on yours and your son's success at the show! I'd say those are impressive placings with such a large division.

                                Dewey -so sorry to hear about your discussion with your daughter. As they "learn" so much at school, they seem to become more certain of their positions... At least my son has. And, as I told him, there is one priority in college. Now that he's done, he does seem to see how many more options are open to him, other than that megabucks car stereo system, or the megabucks car! And summer after freshman year? She'll probably be so busy, it will soon be forgotten.

                                Everyone have a good week with great rides, and great lessons. I have "homework" assigned by my new trainer. Love having a plan!
                                But he thought, "This procession has got to go on." So he walked more proudly than ever, as his noblemen held high the train that wasn't there at all. H.C.Anderson


                                • Dewey, I feel for you. I know that must have been a very hard conversation for you to have with your daughter. As mothers we always try to do everything we can for our children, including much sacrifice of our own hopes, desires, "things", time etc etc etc. I know how much you thought about the decision to buy Sky. I wish we were all millionnaires and could give our kids everything, but the reality is that we aren't and that learning about money and budget and possible or impossible is one of the difficult lessons that it is our job to teach them. If you are like me (and I would guess that all of us in this little group are similar) the horses are really the only thing we do "just for us". I know it is that way for me. And yet I still feel a huge amount of guilt around my horse. But I am learning to accept that feeling, and keep riding just for me because I have finally decided that I matter too. I hope your daughter understands why Sky is possible and Jack wasn't, and I hope it won't make you enjoy your time with Sky, or your daughter, any less.


                                  • Tarhell JD-Thank you for the kinds words, it really means a lot.
                                    Dewey-Funny but the horse my daughter wanted, and I could not buy for her was named "Jack". I loved him but he is a 2'6" maybe horse and I just could not buy another horse with soundness issues. So , I may be in your shoes in a couple of years.

                                    Painted, so sorry but knowing what you need is so important. He will be fine for someone else. Hazel-i so wish my son rode....

                                    My guy is doing well, I am just so busy at work, I could be less busy if the Project Manager had an ability to focus and get something done... oh well, it keeps me employed. My little man is growing up and has his moments but they are fleeting and he can recover.

                                    My body is so out of shape.....15 minutes of riding is enough right ?? I have so much work a head of me right now, I am hoping for the best. Getting to know another horse is still strange for me, he is still so cute but those "moments" are tough, it is getting better. Wish I had a regular trainer but everything is working out well, so far.


                                    • Tarheel- we got over 4 inches of rain Sunday too. Monday we got a bit but yesterday was clear. I didn't even bring my riding stuff with me as I figured the barn would be a mess but apparently it was ridable last night.

                                      Dewey- I'm sure that was a tough discussion with your daughter but at least it is out in the open now instead of one of those things that just festers until it totally blows up.

                                      Went out to the barn and rode this AM. Did a little trotting and cantering and a lot of walking and chatting with my trainer. I'm so hoping I will be able to really get back into going to the barn a lot and that my skills will come back. I get tired so easily right now (which might in part be due to the massive amounts of allergy meds I'm on).

                                      In other news, I've been on a diet for 2 months now and while I'm not weighing myself, I can really tell a difference in how my clothes fit. I still have a long way to go.


                                      • Man, I feel like I'm having trouble keeping up! For those working on getting back into shape ... I'm right there with you! I'm trying yoga at the moment, but trying to keep it up is hard! I just want to come home at the end of the day and collapse!

                                        Hazel - congrats on the show! It sounds like it went great! Talk about some good placings in a big class!

                                        Painted - so sorry for you, but you will be so happy when you find that one that is just PERFECT for you!


                                        My first show post-surgery (well, surgeries 2 and 3) is going to be this weekend!!!! Just a small schooling show and we'll be doing some small stuff (crossrails, etc.), but I could not be more excited! We've been planning this for awhile now, but then all my trailer plans fell through. I don't have a truck/trailer of my own so I rely on finding rides from others at the barn. Everything fell through last week and I couldn't find alternate plans for the life of me. Well, it finally came together today and we are good to go! I am nervous, excited, thrilled .... Eek!


                                        • Iechris good for you! I Just received my " success in the saddle" dvd's. Haven't actually had time to open the package yet but I will let you know how it goes.

                                          Dreamin good luck with the show this weekend!! Let us know how it goes. My son and I show again this weekend too. The weather is supposed to be beautiful so I'm quite looking forward to it.