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  • Originally posted by stolen virtue View Post
    CV-Peg, after I gave notice at the dressage barn I received all kinds of e-mails from the BM, not one of them profressional. I also had to have a check up during all of that drama and my blood pressure was extremely high-scary high. Being castigated as a client is just so wrong and while i have my hands full now, I think it is better for my health.

    Live and learn, it is just so hard when this is suppose to be our "happy place".
    I have had many more sleepless nights than sound sleeps over the past several weeks. Yours was a dressage barn, too?!? Never saw such garbage in my life. And I have several "heads on their shoulders" dressage friends, with significant talent.

    Not sure if you've read the sad story about the farmer here in upstate NY who, over the weekend, shot and killed 6 of his neighbor's horses who had continually trampled his fields over the years - apparently the herd included a stallion. It's a thread under Off Course. I asked the BT this morning if she had heard about it. Her response? Laughter, and "No, but it must be a good story!"

    Just gave my notice a few minutes ago that I'm out tomorrow morning. Going out to mow, then sitting here with my big dog by my side for the rest of the night. And luckily found a 3rd party to be present for when we go pick up B. So hopefully it will be a peaceful transition.
    But he thought, "This procession has got to go on." So he walked more proudly than ever, as his noblemen held high the train that wasn't there at all. H.C.Anderson


    • Originally posted by Dewey View Post
      Wooooooo hoooooooo, Opus! Way to go!
      Originally posted by spacytracy View Post
      YAY! Way to go!!! THat's so exciting!
      No riding for me for the past 2 days. Rain has set in, so hopefully by tomorrow it will have dried up.
      Thanks, y'all! I'm still grinning about it. My trainer was proud, since she prodded me for 2 canters (60M straight side) and I gave her a third all on my own. Hopefully next week I'll be able to take him all the way around.

      And spacytracy, if y'all don't need any more rain, we could definitely use some. It's so unnatural for it to be this dry here.

      CVPeg: Happy thoughts your way! I hope everything goes smoothly tomorrow and that there's no drama. Please let us know how it goes!
      The dude abides ...


      • CVPeg - unfortunately I know the feeling. I've had moments like that (people just totally totally ostracizing you). Thankfully, the facility I'm in a decent one, with a nice BM and if I can just manage to let all those people not affect me, it all works out. I hope you and B get moved without incident. The immaturity and cattiness of people just astounds me.

        Opus - congrats on the good ride It's great that your trainer knows to push you just the right amount! Can't wait to hear about more progress!

        Had a good dressage lesson (did I ever admit that I'm an aspiring eventer? Don't kick me out ....) on Tuesday with both Toby and I getting back into the swing of things. He's starting to move so nicely and I'm getting my leg strength back. There is so much for both of us to work on. Unfortunately now I have a nasty cold so I'm not sure how much saddle time (or what quality of saddle time) we're going to get in the next couple of days.


        • Way to go Opus!

          CVPeg good luck tomorrow. Let us know how it goes


          • CVPeg-I'll be crossing my fingers for your move going well.

            On a good note I'm learning so much about the baby. He is a total people horse, he still charged down the hill this evening but waited like a big boy in the cross ties for a free ring-waited for an hour ! during his turnout time in the ring he nuzzled all of the people watching and was especially attached to a young girl that was playing with him over the fence. He is so happy to be back , he just cannot be isolated and he is certainly not agressive, as i was told by the previous BM and yes, dressage trainer.

            The baby knows he is home and he is loving it ! I am sooooo busy at work but I will make this work, some how. It is almost 8:00 pm and dinner is still 30 minutes away...but my horses are happy.


            • Dewey-I'm in rural Oklahoma...that should explain everything! Everything is western here, but I was fortunate enough to find a english trainer who had moved here from California many years ago. So I pick up all the western lingo, especially as my husband has decided he wants to rope. I can ride Western but I don't love it the way I do english. I actually showed Western in my first open show this past weekend and did quite well (on a TB, in a roping saddle).

              TarheelJD- I want to eventually do hunter up to 3'6 but would also like to try some lower level dressage. His movement really would lend itself well to dressage. I have a variety of opinions on what to do...trainer says dressage to be safer and husband agrees. But I've always wanted to jump, just not very high. My horse has a good jump so training him hunter would not be too difficult.

              I've had two days off and I'm suffering horse withdrawal! I had to help my son with a project Tuesday and yesterday I had to use a gift certificate for a spa day before it expired. I've got a lesson tonight and I'm going to ride for a while before and after to get some transition work in!


              • It's done!!

                All went well. Gave notice yesterday, BO agreed to just accept per diem for this month. Early this morning met the driver and one of my friends nearby, drove to the barn. No BO or BT around!

                Took about a half hour to load. TG I brought a full bag of carrots with me and I enticed him on gradually.

                Uneventful trip. Stepped out of the trailer and puffed himself up. Looked at all the GREEN grass. STARED at the llamas.

                Rolled and rolled and rolled. (6 times while we all stood there talking for about an hour.) Made a nice muddy patch in the wet grass.

                Llamas, mini, the other 4 guys across the path & B - all seemed to accept each other.

                And now I don't have to write anymore angst filled tomes! And I have myself back. Phew!

                Photos to come later. Have a lot of work to do! - now that I can get back to it without so much worry!
                But he thought, "This procession has got to go on." So he walked more proudly than ever, as his noblemen held high the train that wasn't there at all. H.C.Anderson


                • So happy for you CVPeg. Glad everything went smoothly. Looking forward to the photos


                  • Photos!

                    Remembered where my card reader was.
                    Posted on FB. It's a pretty spot! Neglected to get pictures of most of the other horses. Should have had the camera on me when they first all lined up.

                    But I'd say he's settled in.

                    But he thought, "This procession has got to go on." So he walked more proudly than ever, as his noblemen held high the train that wasn't there at all. H.C.Anderson


                    • CV - YAAAAAAY!!!!!! Great photos - look at all that green grass! I'm sure he's thrilled and will be so much happier (and you will be too!). Enjoy!


                      • CVPeg, I'm so glad the move went well.

                        Would love to see the pics, but I can't as I am one of the last five people in the United States without a Facebook account. Can you make the link public for me? Thanks.
                        I heard a neigh. Oh, such a brisk and melodious neigh as that was! My very heart leaped with delight at the sound. --Nathaniel Hawthorne


                        • Originally posted by Dewey View Post
                          CVPeg, I'm so glad the move went well.

                          Would love to see the pics, but I can't as I am one of the last five people in the United States without a Facebook account. Can you make the link public for me? Thanks.
                          I did, Dewey...not sure what else I could do?
                          But he thought, "This procession has got to go on." So he walked more proudly than ever, as his noblemen held high the train that wasn't there at all. H.C.Anderson


                          • Original Poster

                            Cv that's awesome! He looks so happy!
                            I myself had a great ride today. Field was wet but we were able to set up a small X and my friend rode Lucky and I rode Leasie. Both were awesome!


                            • Oh, well. I don't know how it works. I only know that when I click on some FB links here on CotH, I can see the pics, while on others, I get the "content is unavailable" message. Wish I could see the pics, though.
                              I heard a neigh. Oh, such a brisk and melodious neigh as that was! My very heart leaped with delight at the sound. --Nathaniel Hawthorne


                              • Looking forward to lessons this weekend!

                                But I am a bit concerned that I may be limited due to the strangest injury. I have a chronic GI condition that makes me sick to my stomach on and off. It's been flaring up this week, and (sorry - this is kind of gross) I ended up barfing most of Wednesday night. Somehow, during one of my dashes to the bathroom, I pulled a muscle in my thigh. Sigh! I mean really, who pulls a thigh muscle while barfing? Back or neck, sure, but a thigh muscle? I am indeed a challenged person sometimes!
                                Riding a horse is not a gentle hobby, to be picked up and laid down like a game of solitaire. It is a grand passion.... ~ Emerson


                                • Yikes Tarheel - hope you feel better soon.

                                  Ok all - I need your good wishes. My barn is going to a hunter pace on Sunday and I am taking Finn. This will be quite a challenge for me on several levels: A: My fear balloon will be trying to be ginormous (as in my brain: omg what could happen) and B: as on trail rides, Finn is going to want to be first. He is also not going to be happy when his barn mates that will jump leave him behind with a, dare I say it, mare!!! One of the other ladies and I will do, or attempt to, the walk trot portion for a mile.

                                  I could take one of the barn horses, but I didn't buy my own horse to leave him in the barn when something gets challenging - so off we go. GULP!
                                  And nothing bad happened!


                                  • Tarheel - feel better!

                                    Jaslyn - good luck ... and make sure you breathe!


                                    I've been sick the last three days and haven't been able to get to the barn. Toby's been taken care of, but it's hard not seeing him as I'm usually there everyday. Hopefully I'll be able to get there tomorrow.

                                    Also trying to deal with clique behavior at the barn. Lots of little cliques/gossipy stuff. I just end up riding alone (or riding with one or two other people, but not people who socialize). I guess it's just boarding barn stuff so I'm trying to ignore it, but combine it with being sick and it's made for a rough week.


                                    • Get well soon, Tarheel and Dreamin!! Being sick is such a drag.

                                      Have fun at the hunter pace, jaslyn! Am so jealous!! Let us know how it goes.

                                      I am recovering from an all-nighter I had to pull Thursday night grading papers. Had to give up my ride Thursday to grade as well.

                                      Am not done grading yet. Next week is finals week, and it is going to be H**l as I had to take on an extra class at the end of the semester. I need some barn time!!
                                      I heard a neigh. Oh, such a brisk and melodious neigh as that was! My very heart leaped with delight at the sound. --Nathaniel Hawthorne


                                      • Wow, i'm sick too, nasty sinus infection that gets worse EVERY morning. It is in my teeth, my ear is infected and my face feels like someone hit me in the head with a bat. Tarheel that sounds terrible !

                                        I'm also not on Facebook and was able to look at the link...Dewey it is you and me that are the holdouts !

                                        I rode the little man last Thursday he was great, thank goodness since the instructors have agreed to ride him now. Work is crazy busy and I'm thinking I should have moved the baby back earlier when work was slower....Oh well gotta love a job that pays the bills.


                                        • Wow, stolen, what a drag. Hope you feel up to watching the Derby today!
                                          I heard a neigh. Oh, such a brisk and melodious neigh as that was! My very heart leaped with delight at the sound. --Nathaniel Hawthorne