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  • dreaming-so sorry about not going to the barn, sounds like Dr is worried about infection but really those germs at the barn are not that bad...

    CVPeg-sounds like the sh##t I heard about my horse, "he is agressive so we isolated him for the sake of the other horses". He is Mr. Chill but still a 5 year old, and he was suppose to be with his neighbors except when i was there mid-week and still isolated. No wonder he is losing weight....Tired of the BS from the BO (really just the barn manager).

    I don't even want to be around the woman, so now I am waiting counting the days when i can bring my baby home to his "home" barn.
    Last edited by stolen virtue; Apr. 7, 2012, 11:36 PM. Reason: KateKat: sounds like the assistent trainer has some issues with trainer. Ignore her and keep going with your guy. He is good

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    • Kate- it sounds like your experience was not unique, sadly, and that you may not have been the only one who had been rubbed the wrong way by her advice. Half of skill needed as a trainer is *how* to deliver criticism and teach and not just the message itself. Your trainer sounds like she is probably more qualified anyway to assess the needs of you and your horse. Glad it worked out for you.

      Dreamin - Get better soon! Don't rush things

      CVPeg - I hope your voice is heard soon. I am not good in the ways of barn drama, but I hope that your advocacy for your horse's needs is taken seriously.

      A lot more happened when I have been at work this week with everyone! I'll try to catch up..

      Some sad news. Dash is sold. I am really sad. She is going to a good home though, where she'll be happy. She's going to be primarily a trail horse, which is a shame, since we've taught her so much (how to go over 2'6" courses quietly and in a frame and get her simple changes). But I know she'll like it.
      Today was my last day riding her. I took her out on a long trail ride. We galloped on the track on the grounds like she was a racing pony and I had nowhere to go... We cantered in the huge grassy fields like you see in the movies. The weather was perfect. I cried a lot and I hugged her. I put my arms around her neck and cried onto it. It's amazing how attached I got to her.

      I guess part of it is that she was there for me to listen to me when I got dumped not once, but twice... a 5 year relationship left with nowhere to go but down the drain. He has, during the time he was seeing me, found someone he loves more and considers his gf. He wants to be "just friends." I don't want to lose him as a friend...but I can't hang out with him and just flip a switch and that's it. I'm so torn. Those days when I felt like my heart was breaking, Dash was there for me. She was gentle and understanding and we grew together. I'm going to miss her a lot, for better and for worse.

      The only bright side to this is that we can now move forward on Paisley who is happily willing to jump anything and try his heart out. We can do a lot more with him. I learned a lot on Dash about horse training and I taught her a lot, but I can focus on my equitation now too. And...we get to go horse shopping again! So time to start looking...

      One last thing as a tribute to Dash: Our show rounds. Enjoy.

      Flat class

      Over fences round one (not our prettiest!)

      Round two

      I need to two-point more but it's hard over the small ones...

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      • Ohh, Pancakes sorry about the sale of the horse. I will say this since I have had a couple glasses of wine, that is why many of us buy our own horses. It is to protect our hearts !

        I am so sorry. I need to fall in love and know that my lovely horse will be there for me, because I bought him and I am responsible for his care.

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          Hi all,

          Dreaming, glad the surgery went well. Hope you can find some distractions for the next 2 weeks!

          Kate - sorry about the trainer thing but it sounds like it wasn't just you.

          CV - I'd be livid! I'm not used to different kinds of turnout. Everywhere I've boarded, all the horses go out, and come in, at the same time. Unless there's an injury.

          Welp, as for me, a couple of us went to a little dinky schooling show yesterday and had a blast. We all placed really well! Granted, we competed against little kids but whatever! We had fun and the other two that went are adult re-riders too, and were taking their horses to a show (and on a trailer) for the first time. So good experiences all around!
          Last edited by spacytracy; Apr. 8, 2012, 12:03 PM.

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          • Wow--so much has happened!

            CVPeg--I don't blame you one bit for being upset! Is it possible for you to make an appointment with the BO for a one-on-one discussion of the issues that are bothering you? If I were you, I would write out my complaints. You don't need to send the letter, but doing that will calm you and help you focus, I think.

            KateKat, if the assistant trainer was trying to solicit you as a client, she had an odd way of going about it. Sounds as if what needed to happen happened--don't feel bad--put it behind you.

            Dreamin, let me know if you'd like some links to entertain you. I love the show jumping nostalgia site, for example. There are also some terrific horse films on youtube. (I admit it, some cheesy ones, too, but I have watched them all.)

            Spacytracy, I cannot see the pics. I am one of the five people left on the planet who does not use FB.

            Pancakes, my heart is breaking for you. Loved watching the show clips of you and Dash. She looks fab--(and I must say, she would be perfect here at our barn!! ) and it's apparent you've done so much with her. Don't forget to snag a bit of her tail as a memento before she leaves...
            I heard a neigh. Oh, such a brisk and melodious neigh as that was! My very heart leaped with delight at the sound. --Nathaniel Hawthorne

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            • Thanks everyone for the support! I've just needed to vent, because I am so livid. The barn owner is a drama llama with a domineering personality. I've been walking on eggshells since I've been there, and I'm no push over. But now that the weather is improving, and she's showing up more (sheeeeeee doesn't ride in the winterrrrr), I can see that there will be more nonsense popping up.

              Pancakes, I am so sorry... That is so tough - to say goodbye. Hope someone else captures your heart soon, and returns the same to you. I'm really sorry.

              Funny, Dewey, that you said that. I wrote her an e-mail last night, then left it in "draft".

              OK - headed for the barn for our daily work. Fists clenched. Breathe! Breathe!
              But he thought, "This procession has got to go on." So he walked more proudly than ever, as his noblemen held high the train that wasn't there at all. H.C.Anderson

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                Pancakes, if you do snag some tail hair, I can make a bracelet for you!

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                • Had the dreaded emergency vet visit last night. Ugh. Trainers had come back late from a show, and as they were unpacking, one of them heard some very labored breathing and coughing coming from a stall. She called the vet, called me, gave horse some ace and banamine so he'd be more comfortable while we waited for the vet.

                  Vet only heard lung sounds on one side, and an ultrasound showed only one lung working correctly. No apparent cause, but possibly an alergic reaction to something in the hay, or in his turnout. We had a heavy rain Thursday, so there was some fresh grass and clover growth, but nothing that ever has given him problems before.

                  He got lots of meds; antibiotics, cough suppressant, IV DMSO, bronchial dialators, more banamine, a blood workup, and probably some more stuff I don't remember. Today he looks A-OK. Vet recheck on Monday or Tuesday. This will probably delay the lameness recheck which was scheduled for Wednesday, as right now he is so pumped full of meds that he'd be completely sound for anything up to and including a Hunter Derby.

                  I am very grateful that he lives at a good barn, with trainers and staff that live on site. I've been riding there since 1983 and have a great deal of respect for how they run their business and take care of the horses.
                  It's 2017. Do you know where your old horse is?

                  www.streamhorsetv.com -- website with horse show livestream listings and links.

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                  • OMG Pony4me! That must have been so scary for you. I HATE that emergency call, when you're driving to the barn with your heart in your throat! I'm glad he is looking better today. Let us know how he is doing. Yes thank goodness your BO caught it, I also have great ones (after moving from a place where the opposite was true) and they are worth their weight in gold.

                    Sorry I have been absent for a bit I have been working all weekend which sucks. Have been reading up on everyones lives on breaks so thanks for getting me through the weekend. Happy Easter everyone

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                    • Emergency barn call

                      Prayers going out to you and your horse Pony4me. Hoping today brings a turn for the better. Please keep us posted on how you are both doing.

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                      • Originally posted by bumknees View Post
                        Opus with that color scheme one would almost believe you are the fan of the ponious nut named Brutus... and has experiances at least one skull session... Of course if you have no idea what I am talking about....
                        http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Brutus_Buckeye
                        http://tbdbitl.osu.edu/?action=a075
                        Whoops. Missed this earlier.

                        Nope, not an Ohio fan. And since I went to an all-women's school, I don't really have a preferred FB school. Although I suppose I do support the Gamecocks. If only because they're not UGA or FSU or UF, and my area's crawling with their fans and alumni .
                        The dude abides ...

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                        • Originally posted by frmvt View Post
                          Prayers going out to you and your horse Pony4me. Hoping today brings a turn for the better. Please keep us posted on how you are both doing.
                          Indeed. Please let us know how everything goes, pony4me. Sending jingles your way.
                          The dude abides ...

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                          • Wow, pony4me, I'm so sorry - I wouldn't know where to begin to deal with that. How lucky you have such a great barn that handles issues so well.

                            Certainly hope he is fine in every way very soon.
                            But he thought, "This procession has got to go on." So he walked more proudly than ever, as his noblemen held high the train that wasn't there at all. H.C.Anderson

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                            • Good thoughts for you and the your pony Pony4me!

                              Have I ever mentioned how much I love my trainer! A few weeks ago, she and I sat down and had a conversation about fear - mine mostly. I have this really nice horse, why am I afraid to ride him. Never really thought about that much, but realized she was right. So, time to face my fear.

                              Today we had the First Annual Easter Trail Ride. There were 9 of us, and yes I went. Finn is a I have to be the leader all the time horse. Ok, fine, I can deal with that. However, he and I need to talk about leadership. If you are going to be the leader, you also have to be somewhat brave and understand that mud puddles, circles of white sand and shallow ponds are not horse eating monsters.

                              But, I had a great time with great friends! Happy Easter to all!
                              And nothing bad happened!

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                              • Kudos to you on your trail ride

                                Congrats Jaslyn1701. I know that riding outside of the ring is the hardest for me these days. Don't know how that happened, because it used to be my favorite thing. Too many "what-ifs" bouncing around in my head. I'm always worrying about a really big spook, therefore I quite often cause several of them. Poor horse is looking around for Sasquatch because of all my clutching and tension! Sounds like you did great. Your an inspiration to us all. Thanks for sharing.

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                                • Pony4me, that sounds so terrifying! I'm sorry you had to go through that! Glad he is better, and keep us posted on his progress!
                                  I heard a neigh. Oh, such a brisk and melodious neigh as that was! My very heart leaped with delight at the sound. --Nathaniel Hawthorne

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                                  • Hi guys- lurker, occassional commenter here.

                                    Pony- So sorry to hear about the vet visit. Glad things seem to be on the mend.

                                    Jaslyn -- KUDOS to you on managing your fear. VERY BIG DEAL! Now whenever you have fear you can look back to this moment and say, darnit all, I CAN do it! I DID do it! I just had a long sit down w/ my trainer about my fear issues as well. Been doing a LOT of work w/ a mental coach, which has helped tremendously (she says in a somewhat shocked tone-don't know why I am so surprised therapy works -- i've done it before! LOL)

                                    Pancakes - so sorry to hear about the sale, but loved your tribute.

                                    Just found out the niggling back injury that's causing myriad muscle spasms down my leg is a sprained sacroiliac joint. ?!?! Didn't even know I had one! Am living on NSAIDS, muscle relaxers, assorted Ben Gay and Tiger Balm products -- getting older is no fun. Then again, this is nothing compared to what others deal with, so I am blessed in that respect.

                                    Was feeling a bit sorry for myself and took a pic of my medicinal war chest. At that moment the DH walked in and asked what was for dinner, how was i planning to get the kids to soccer, lax, etc, and if it hurts so much, why do you still ride? GRRR.

                                    I retaliated by creating Equestrian Hugh Jackman. Passive aggressive much? Maybe!! LOL But fun!
                                    Me&MyBigGirl
                                    My Blog: A Work In Progress

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                                    • GREAT blog, abv! Hope you keep it up!

                                      Would write more but I have to go to class...
                                      I heard a neigh. Oh, such a brisk and melodious neigh as that was! My very heart leaped with delight at the sound. --Nathaniel Hawthorne

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                                      • Originally posted by abv1269 View Post
                                        Just found out the niggling back injury that's causing myriad muscle spasms down my leg is a sprained sacroiliac joint. ?!?! Didn't even know I had one! Am living on NSAIDS, muscle relaxers, assorted Ben Gay and Tiger Balm products -- getting older is no fun. Then again, this is nothing compared to what others deal with, so I am blessed in that respect.

                                        Was feeling a bit sorry for myself and took a pic of my medicinal war chest. At that moment the DH walked in and asked what was for dinner, how was i planning to get the kids to soccer, lax, etc, and if it hurts so much, why do you still ride? GRRR.

                                        I retaliated by creating Equestrian Hugh Jackman. Passive aggressive much? Maybe!! LOL But fun!
                                        Outstanding!!
                                        But he thought, "This procession has got to go on." So he walked more proudly than ever, as his noblemen held high the train that wasn't there at all. H.C.Anderson

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                                        • LOL! Thanks CVPeg and Dewey!

                                          Obviously the Equestrian SoandSo concept is not a new one and I am standing on the coattails of some great stuff done previously, but I thought it was time to have one of these for those of us who have, shall we say, been around the block a few times??? LOL And as Hugh is not only HAWT HAWT HAWT aaaaaannnnnndddd a well known SuperDad and Hubby, who better?

                                          Ugh, I really should work now.
                                          Me&MyBigGirl
                                          My Blog: A Work In Progress

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