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Can we have an adult re-rider support group?

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  • Finzean, so sorry you had to let your dog go. It's such a tough decision, but the right one.
    Buttons, hope you're recovering quickly from your unplanned dismount.
    SuperD, when I want to put weight on, but don't want to go the grain route, I add oil. Beet pulp makes no sense to me as it is relatively low in calories. It's a great filler and good for horses that need more water, but not as a weight gain type food. Many will disagree with me, BTW.
    Soloud, this will be a new adventure for you and it sounds like the right decision.
    As for me, although it's really nothing, I'm still proud of myself that I rode alone for the first time in months. Of course, she was absolutely fine, even though I am sure she could feel my nerves. Not sure if I mentioned, but I have a chronic type of brain injury, so I actually have a reason to worry, I'm not just a major weenie. Actually, I'm not supposed to be riding at all, but we all know how likely THAT is.

    Your beliefs don't make you a better person, your behaviour does.


    • Button - hope you are on the road to recovery.

      Finzean - so very sorry for your loss. Bless you for giving an older dog a wonderful home and a peaceful end. It sounds like you had several happy years together.

      SuperD - not sure what the answer is, although my guys top line has improved quite a bit with correct work. I have also found that good hay does wonders.

      Soloud - congrats on the upcoming move! I was not able to go out to check the barn I'm considering, but will be there next weekend for the show.

      NJR - You are an inspiration!

      I had a pretty good lesson this morning. Rode in my show clothes and felt quite proper! Started with my dressage test and did pretty well, I did remember it - woohoo! Couple of pointers from trainer and we were good to go. Changed tack and went outside to do a course or two. Course next week will be 2", so that's what we did (our norm is 2'3,2'6). Trainer had me do 2 courses, both were more complicated than usual, but I remembered them and did both fairly well. So, I guess we're ready. Now, I just have to get the nerves under control - we were joking about mimosas before mounting . . .

      "I am still under the impression that there is nothing alive quite so beautiful as a thoroughbred horse." -- John Galsworthy


      • Tiger Horse - I had to check back in real quick to see how the lesson went! - Yay!!

        I'm all for a mimosa before dressage!!


        • Finzean-that happened to our collie (got him at a rescue) he had one major one and then was never the same. He was 15 (and 120 pounds) when we had him put down.

          Had a lousy ride, baby was weird so I lunged him, he loved it. DD took the older guy for a trail ride he was running up the hills. I guess he feels better. Feeling like 3 steps back right now with the baby.


          • Finzean - I'm so sorry! At least he had a good home and a family who loved him.

            soloud - glad the new place is going to work out.

            Thanks for the kind words everyone, the lump went down but I'm black and blue! Wine and bath went down a treat though, ice cream may also have been involved


            • Finzean - I'm really sorry about your dog. Letting one go is one of the hardest decisions to make. You have the comfort of knowing you gave him a peaceful end.

              Button - ouch! Glad you are okay. Do you think he just got overwhelmed by the questions being asked or was generally being bratty/testing you?

              Soloud - Good luck at the new place, that's great that you get to move so quickly! I drive further now than at my last place, and I think its totally worth it.

              TH- Glad you were able to have a good lesson despite the difficulties at your barn. "Liquid Courage" (in small quantities, lol) before the test would probably relax you...I know someone who takes a shot before she rides! Not very conventional, but hey.

              SuperD - Have you tried adding oil to your guys food? Could you get him on some kind of senior feed or do you have to go with what the barn offers?

              sv - sorry for the lousy ride. It is frustrating to feel like your taking steps back with the young ones, but sometimes that is what they need to process.

              I think thats everyone - sorry if I missed someone out, it was not intentional!

              As for me, I haven't ridden since Wednesday. I had surgery on Friday (no big deal, I'm fine) and was hospitalized overnight not because of pain from the surgery itself but due to nausea/dehydration/extreme low blood pressure from the anesthesia. So annoying! Anyway the good news is I'm doing well enough that I should be able to ride something quiet by next weekend! Whoop!
              "Choose to chance the rapids, and dare to dance the tides" - Garth Brooks
              "With your permission, dear, I'll take my fences one at a time" - Maggie Smith, Downton Abbey


              • Event4life - definitely a dirty stop(s). I've seen him jump the same gymnastic at 3' with another rider, so 18" was def not a challenge. He's just stubborn and ocassionally a jerk. Glad you're recovering though, anasthesia after-effects are not fun.


                • I have not yet caught up on everyone's post, but Finzean, oh, I'm so sorry. That sucks. Obiously you did the right thing, but it's not at all easy, I know. My dogs are my family. My heart goes out to you.
                  “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
                  ¯ Oscar Wilde


                  • Just a quick update on my end. I have had some really good rides this past week or two. The new girl (we've been calling her Maya recently) has settled in nicely and is doing well. I really do like her. And also important, my DH likes her and is taking good care of her. He's been doing most of the riding, but I'll ride her today. Chico has been doing well, too. I think he's conditioning has picked up nicely. Last weekend I was working on my first "course" type work. Nothing big, really. One vertical may have been 2'6", the rest likely 2'3" or even 2'. He was a little "up" as he can get jumping, but he's a good boy. My problem was that with the bad ankle, I'm having trouble staying balanced in the saddle. I tend to put more weight in the good ankle, which makes my saddle slip to the good side. It's frustrating. Not so much on the flat, but over fences. I did end up lengthening my stirrups one hole this weekend, and though the feel long, I think it did help some. I'm not sure what else to do. Yesterday we just worked on gymnastics, and that was fun. My DH is my coach at home.

                    Button, sorry to hear about your incident. Hate when that happens. I hope by now you're starting to mend!

                    superD, what works for my senior (Chico is 19) is Triple Crown Complete. It's a complete feet, but I feed it just as a normal feed, and he gets hay as well. But he keeps his weight on well. I've also had good results with hard keepers using Purina Ultium. I've had a few PICKY geldings that did realy well on Ultium. The topline will do better if you continue to work him a bit. But as they get old, they will lose their shape. Good luck!

                    Finzean, hope you get some quality non-riding time in. Sorry about the rain. Blech. We had a MASSIVE storm here Saturday overnight. My Malinois was so scared he hopped into our bed (they sleep in their own bed by our window) and he was shaking. I felt really bad, so I let him stay up there till the storm passed. Of course when the Mally is up in bed, the Ridgeback needs to come, too. So we were quite crowded for a few hours!

                    twelvebelles, even though you had an easy ride, I bet it was really nice just to go out and enjoy the weather and not worry about a lot. That's okay. Enjoy those when you can!

                    soloud, AWESOME on finding a good barn. I hope it's a great fit! Keep us posed. May 15 is just around the corner. Yay!

                    NJR, I'm proud of you! Be careful. Glad you pony was an angel.

                    Tiger Horse, sounds like all your prep work is in order. Great job! I think you will be ready. Try not to be too nervous. Always have in the back of your mind that you are well prepared and this is fun.

                    stolen, babies are babies. I know it's frustrating. But you had a positive workout in your lunge session. Perfect.

                    Event4Life, hope all is well post surgery. Don't push it if you don't have to.
                    “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
                    ¯ Oscar Wilde


                    • Button, I'm glad your lump is going down. Sounds as if ice cream, alcohol, and hot baths are excellent therapy--not all at once, though!

                      Finzean, I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your dog. Mine is 13, so that time is coming.

                      This is for you:

                      I heard a neigh. Oh, such a brisk and melodious neigh as that was! My very heart leaped with delight at the sound. --Nathaniel Hawthorne


                      • Oh, Dewey...how beautiful! Just when I thought I was done crying...but the words are so true! I feel this way about my horses, too. My timeline of my life - and I'm sure other animal folk are the same - is marked by the animals that were in it at any given time. Emmett was my first boy post divorce. He was the man of the house, my shadow & confidant. He was a quiet presence...always there, but never begging to be noticed. He was a perfect gentleman with an eye for expensive things. He HATED to be left behind & refused crate training by simply destroying the crate from the inside out. On several occasions I had to leave him behind when he did not want to be left behind. On those days he chose something expensive and let me know of his feelings: week old Dansko clogs (chewed the backs off of them, left the front perfect); a leather messenger bag, a cell phone, and perhaps his greatest masterpiece, a red leather Coach handbag. Aside from peeing IN a pair of fairly new Sperrys (and the aforementioned) he NEVER did anything wrong.

                        It is going to be difficult for our next canine family member to reach the bar he set but he was such a wonderful part of our family, we cannot imagine life without a dog. That's how well he did his job as a good dog.

                        Thanks so much for sharing that piece. I've printed it out for DH. I think we might not be done with this business of our eyes "sweating" profusely, yet.


                        • Event - take care of yourself!
                          Paradox - sounds like you are making steady progress. So nice to have eyes on the ground - I envy you!
                          Dewey - that was beautiful - thank you for sharing with everyone.
                          Stolen - sorry about your ride - I sure don't have the patience for babies, I really admire those that do.

                          As for me - the show, although very small, is a go! My dressage test is at 9:48. Stadium will be after all the dressage tests are done (approx 10:40). I am the only one doing CT . . . I will consider this show a smashing success if:

                          1. I remember my test (show nerves and all)
                          2. I stay on
                          3. I remember the stadium course
                          4. I stay on

                          A fellow boarder videoed my "dress up" jump lesson on Sunday - I hope to be able to add a link later tonight . . .

                          "I am still under the impression that there is nothing alive quite so beautiful as a thoroughbred horse." -- John Galsworthy


                          • Finzean, I can tell Emmett was special and much loved. My dog destroyed many a pair of shoes as well, but never a Coach bag! I can tell that you have forgiven Emmett for all his chewing, a small price for the love he gave you.

                            As for the piece from the Oregonian, it's been reprinted many times and appears all over the Internet, sometimes as a poem, often shortened. I like to send people the original piece in its entirety. It always makes me cry even though I haven't lost a dog for a long time. A dear friend gave me a copy after I lost the dog before the one I have now. That was in the 90s. Ever since, I always pass it along to friends who have lost dogs, and it always touches people. I'm so glad you liked it.
                            I heard a neigh. Oh, such a brisk and melodious neigh as that was! My very heart leaped with delight at the sound. --Nathaniel Hawthorne


                            • Good luck, Tiger Horse! How exciting! Let us know how it goes!
                              I heard a neigh. Oh, such a brisk and melodious neigh as that was! My very heart leaped with delight at the sound. --Nathaniel Hawthorne


                              • Good luck TH and remember to have fun. Make sure to post and let us know how it goes.

                                Update from Canada is that it has finally stopped snowing and we are riding outside. Unfortunately, I seem to have forgotten how. Nothing seems to work right. Trainer says I'm just rusty, not doing anything wrong. First show is in 2 weeks. I think I will go and do the schooling and if it is terrible I might just wait until the next one. On the positive note my daughter and her pony are just rocking it. Trainer is really pleased with her and she's so excited for the first show.


                                • Paradox - I hope the ankle sorts itself out, sounds like things are pretty steady otherwise.

                                  Finzean - he sounds like such a good boy. If it makes you feel better, mine recently unzipped a seat cushion cover on the couch and shredded the cusion inside. It's strange the things our beloved pets choose to destroy! But we love them anyway, because they make us feel complete (me anyway).

                                  Dewey - I can neither confirm nor deny the timeline of aforementioned bath, ice cream, and libations.

                                  Tiger - updates!

                                  Hazel - I'm SO jealous right now, we're in the low 100's

                                  Update for me - rode my friend's lovely appy on monday, but was still sore from Friday's crash and it was 100 out, so we didn't do much. Had a lesson tonight on the dirty stopper, it was weird, almost like he could tell I was freaking out about riding him and decided to take pity on me (though not enough to change leads on demand). As we're heading out of the ring trainer says 'go tack up the schoolie (my favorite boy who went lame) and bring him in here.' Apparently he's now at the point (trainer is) where he has to make a descision about what to do with him (schoolie) and wanted to get an idea how he's recovered during layoff. Farrier suspects hoof changes due to insulin resistance, but apparently schoolie has always had issues with left front and has to be worked daily to keep from getting stiff (as reported by pervious owner), but regardless a decision has to be made about him soon.

                                  I can't even describe how happy I was to be riding him again, it was almost embarrassing. Despite the bucking, bouncing, and piaffe instead of a walk, it was great. I trust him, even when he's being silly, I know deep down he's just too lazy to do anything really bad. I realized it's the first time I've been truly relaxed in the saddle for awhile. He wasn't 100% to the left, so fingers crossed he comes back with regular work and it's not hoof changes.


                                  • Hazel, I'm in Canada too...SW Ontario.

                                    Button, hope your boy gets better and you can enjoy him more often.

                                    Tiger, keep us updated on your adventure.


                                    Had a fantastic lesson tonight, just w/t, and a heart to heart with my coach. He said he KNOWS I know all this stuff, I've shown First level and I (basically) just need to put on my Big Girl panties and ride in order to get over this fear that is holding me back. He is right, and things are better and I just need to keep plugging along until I get past all this.
                                    Easy to say.
                                    Now, I can't ride for a week because I'm having a procedure done on my shoulder, so I'm just going to have him ride her. Maybe get a good video as well.
                                    Your beliefs don't make you a better person, your behaviour does.


                                    • Thanks guys - not a lot to report - other than cleaning tack, packing my little show trunk and trying not to get too wired already. Not too worried about the dressage test anymore - now I'm just worried I'll forget my course! Definitely having some liquid courage before I mount - I'm to bring the orange juice

                                      NJR congrats on the lesson - we know you can do it!

                                      Button - glad you are back in the saddle! I hope the schoolie continues to improve.

                                      I rode outside Tuesday night - W/T/C both directions without any major issues - a major win. (He can be pretty silly the first few rides outside.) Weather might be a bit dicey this weekend, so show may be inside - which is fine by me!

                                      Happy riding everyone!

                                      "I am still under the impression that there is nothing alive quite so beautiful as a thoroughbred horse." -- John Galsworthy


                                      • Eyes up & kick on, Tiger!! I once did my canter circles at A & C instead of E & B...oops! Didn't realize it til I came out of the ring! All was well and I was 5th after dressage in a field of 11. haha My Pony Palace teensies always ride better when they are smiling. And remember Peter Pan? It was his happy thoughts that gave him the power to fly. You'll do great and JUST HAVE FUN!!

                                        We are in the throes of end of year homeschool testing around here. blech! But the weather and footing suck right now...maybe some saddle time tomorrow...

                                        Hope everyone is doing great!!


                                        • Hey, soloud, isn't this you on the front page of the CANTER Mid-Atlantic site?

                                          I heard a neigh. Oh, such a brisk and melodious neigh as that was! My very heart leaped with delight at the sound. --Nathaniel Hawthorne