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Can we have an adult re-rider support group?

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  • NJR, Iris is beautiful and you look great on her

    Soloud, congratulations! I follow the Mid-atlantic blog and thought Halfway House was gorgeous the first time I saw him.

    I'm so sorry - there has been so much activity since my last post I'm never going to be able to keep up! I hope that we all have some good rides, find a way to calm our nerves and for those with injuries that you heal soon.

    Finzean, remember the craigslist horse in SC? She's finally getting a butt! lol She was so skinny when she got here that she had nothing but now she's filling out and is getting cuter by the day. I'll have to post some pictures of her - she's a real lovebug. She loves her face rubs - she'll stand there and go to sleep while you're scratching.

    I'm sticking with Leif for now. My forward Fjord. lol

    Rode Saturday and Sunday and I'm pretty sure I got more of a workout than he did. It's a crying shame that a fat draftie can outlast me but he did.

    Lessons on him are very challenging but I've had some good rides on him lately and have decided that for now, I'm going to work with what I have. I've started taking more lessons on him and I think that's helping but I'm hoping to get a ride from someone to take him out on a trail ride so we both don't get ring-sour. Me moreso than him.

    I hope everyone has good rides this week.


    • Paradox - he's....different outside. He's less spooky, but more looky/distracted, if that makes sense! I AM hoping to ride outside for my practice ride on Friday because looky sounds less anxiety-inducing than spooky!

      I'm actually talking to someone right now about the possibility of riding her horse a bit - the horse is literally down the street from me and sounds like a sweet girl. Going to meet them this weekend and I'm really excited!


      • Button- TIP numbers are for off the track TB that are starting their new careers. With this number you can show them in the new for Tb only shows/classes. I think it is called the Tb incentive program.

        Bumknees- I hope your lesson went well and most of all you had fun!!

        Rolypolypony- A lot of people wear the vests all the time!! I say wear what you feel most safe in! I hope your next ride goes better and you are feeling better!!!

        Zacdos- I hope you are enjoying the new barn!! Keep us updated.

        Paradox- any luck with the horse you were checking out after the fair weekend??? I also hope that your ankle isn't as bad as it was previously!!!! Sending healing thoughts.

        I know I am missing people but I hope everyone is having good rides!!


        • Thanks superD, that sounds like a nice program, I assume it's for promoting the fact that they can do a lot more than run fast in circles? I think you should get Jack one!


          • Bumknees how did it go????????


            • Ruby girl thanks for the update!! I am so frustrated sometimes at not bein able to just ride off to the rescue. So good to know the mare is in good hands.


              • Well, I had a very good ride yesterday and even asked one of the barn girls to hop on SKy so I could watch her jump, which I had never done...that was fun.

                On a sad note, I talked to the coach about my little QH buddy, and it is just a matter of time before he is sold. She has three people very interested. I'm so upset...trying to be resigned and not resentful. I shouldn't resent all the work I put into training and showing him because I loved every minute of it. The coach also needs the money, so I have to think of that. If she goes out of business, I and so many others will be worse off...I love him so much, though...
                I heard a neigh. Oh, such a brisk and melodious neigh as that was! My very heart leaped with delight at the sound. --Nathaniel Hawthorne


                • Finzean, I know exactly what you mean. I see so many cats/dogs/horses in need and I can't do anything about them, except cry and want to beat some sense in some people.

                  Thankfully my boss had been looking for a project after putting her 29 yr old Fjord down and thought PJ would fit the bill. All I have to do is feed her and love on her, but that's the fun part, right?

                  Dewey, I'm so sorry about your QH buddy. You (general sense) get so attached to them, especially after all the work you put into him, and then they leave us.
                  Big hugs to you!


                  • Dewey - Crossing fingers he will end up somewhere great. The fact that he has a great set of job skills is like an insurance policy that will help keep him from getting dumped into unfortunate circumstances. YOU had a big role is creating that insurance policy for him. Give yourself a pat on the back and glass of good wine. Not all horses are so lucky as to have an insurance policy.


                    • had to reschdual lesson.. car would/will not start. So lesson on hold for now...
                      Friend of bar .ka


                      • Dewey - what Finzean said. The effort you put into this guy will stop him from ending up somewhere that won't treat him well. Letting go is really hard, but think of all the exciting things the horse will get to do with his new owners!

                        bumknees - bummer about the car and rescheduling the lesson. Fingers crossed its nothing serious w/ the car!

                        I had a great lesson today. I'm finally feeling like I'm getting somewhere with my riding after being back in the saddle for ~6 months. I feel like I've found my "place" in the horse world again which is really nice. I rode Derbe again (the 17hh 6 y/o WBXTB), who is SUCH A COOL HORSE. I still cannot really get over the fact I have the opportunity to ride such nice horses. We did grid work this time and the few times I "got it" it felt awesome...so I just need to remember that and recreate it every time, lol. Karen said my leg is looking better too, which is one of my biggest downfalls. I'm working on getting stronger/fitter by doing the couch potato to half marathon training, which involves a lot of "shuffling" which kills your calf muscles! Hopefully it will all pay off and by the time I can afford my own I'll be fit enough to ride/train it!
                        "Choose to chance the rapids, and dare to dance the tides" - Garth Brooks
                        "With your permission, dear, I'll take my fences one at a time" - Maggie Smith, Downton Abbey


                        • First off, I want to say that I really, really enjoy this group. I want to thank you all for being POSITIVE and supportive. It means a lot. I wouldn't post half the stuff I do to the list "at large". So, thank you!

                          Heading out to Ohio tomorrow, so may not be able to post till I get back. You all be good!


                          Event4LIfe, so happy to hear of your progress. Sure is motivational! Keep up the good work.

                          Dewey, I agree with the others, you certainly did do a good thing by working with the QH. Maybe you can ask to meet the new owner or at least get an email address and see if they might be willing to keep in contact with you on occasion and maybe you can check up on him. I do that with certain horses. Some people don't mind.

                          Sorry about your car bumknees. That stinks.

                          superD, thanks for your kind thoughts on my ankle. Keeping my fingers crossed. Oh, and looking at the TB this weekend on our way hom from Equine Affaire. So Sunday the 14th. Hope it works out. She really seems to be a horse that will be a good fit.

                          rubygirl, good job on your lessons. Sometimes the best lessons are those that you have to work hard for! I agree, a nice trail ride sounds nice, though. Especially this time of year.
                          “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
                          ¯ Oscar Wilde


                          • Paradox - I feel the same, have fun in Ohio!

                            Dewey - there's nothing I can tell you that someone else hasn't said, it sucks and I wish we could change it. Hugs!

                            Event4Life - Awesome! I hope I find this feeling soon too.

                            Ruby - I want to see pics of Leif the forward fjord! (try saying that 3 times fast )


                            • Bumknees, what a drag. Hope the car doesn't require major repairs. I know you were looking forward to your lesson, and we were looking forward to hearing about it.

                              Thanks so much, everyone, for your kind thoughts and excellent advice for dealing with the impending loss of my darling little QH. I am so so sad, but your points are all valid. Finzean, you are right: my little guy has excellent skills that will help to ensure that he is treated well. And you are right that I can take most of the credit for that--although it's hard to feel good about something that contributed to his going away. Still, I wouldn't change a thing. Deep down, I am glad he turned out to be such a nice horse, and I'm proud of him. You're right, Event4Life, that he will probably have a good new life and maybe even an owner who will love him as much as I do. I sure hope so. He's a doll, and he deserves it. And Paradox, I have considered asking the new owner if I can occasionally hear about him. That would take a little of the sting out of it. *wipes tears* I'm such a baby. He's not even gone yet, and I am falling apart.
                              I heard a neigh. Oh, such a brisk and melodious neigh as that was! My very heart leaped with delight at the sound. --Nathaniel Hawthorne


                              • It has been a while since I have posted. We have had horrible weather and riding even with an indoor was miserable. BUT we had spring today and I had an awesome lesson! I know we are going back to the basics but it is so nice that Marrakesch just goes and deals with my mistakes and goes on.
                                I am having a real issue keeping continual contact. I always seem to drop the outside contact! We are getting better..
                                I have missed a lot with this thread, we have been so busy at work and I have been doing overtime.
                                I hope everyone is doing well and moving forward and most of all having fun! I know I am.....
                                Mai Tai aka Tyler RIP March 1994-December 2011
                                Grief is the price we pay for love- Gretchen Jackson
                                "And here she comes. Is it a bird? Is it a plane? No, it's ZENYATTA!"


                                • Wow, lots going on. Thanks, everyone, for sharing your horse world with us. Dewey and Bumknees seem to be in the dumps, so sending good vibes to them.

                                  We seem to have a handle on my horse's breathing problems. He's getting turned out almost all day, and getting some noni juice supplement which has been recommended for shrinking tumors. We are assuming that a grey, 15 year old TB has some tumors somewhere that are interfering with breathing. So right now, he's 100% sound, and we had a great lesson Tuesday. Nice flowing, adjustable hunter course. On Saturday we did our first roll-backs, slices and jumper stuff. Very fun! We all know that nothing lasts forever, so I'm just making the most of my current excellent situation.
                                  It's 2018. Do you know where your old horse is?

                                  www.streamhorsetv.com -- website with horse show livestream listings and links.


                                  • pony4me - glad he's doing ok, and it sounds like you have a good mindset for taking things as they come.

                                    Update on my Schoolie - so I had a lesson this afternoon, and when I led him out of his stall, he was dead lame. Boss trainer is away in CA for a few days on an unexpected trip (I think something personal, not horse related), but assistant/hunter trainer said they were looking into some different treatments and injections for him before he left, and dear schoolie will probably start a new regimen in the next few days. So I rode her horse for my lesson.

                                    He's very different from my regular schoolie. He's about a half hand shorter, at least 300 lbs lighter (not surprising as schoolie is a clydesdale cross and this guy is an appy) and a hunter not a jumper. He jumps very round, but doesn't launch himself up in a jarring way (I was kind of surprised that he was so easy to stay with) and is very, very, well trained. He's got a motor on him for sure, but my initial impression that he's very honest and tries to take care of his rider. She's going to let me hack him on Mondays (my regular lessons are Wed and Fri) so we'll see how it goes. Sadly he won 7 year end championships/awards this year (between her and the junior she'd half leased him to), so she's decided to sell him, so it won't be a long-term thing (he's actually very reasonably priced, but I still can't afford it right now).


                                    • Event - congratulations! It sounds like you're in a really good place right now and that you've worked hard for it. It's such a great feeling when everything clicks

                                      Paradox - I hope your ankle heals soon and that it's better than everyone thinks - have a safe trip to Ohio and good luck on the TB you're going to be looking at.

                                      Button, I will get some pictures of the *fat* forward Fjord this weekend. lol He's a cutie! Have fun hacking the appy. I always enjoy riding different horses and learning their buttons, so to speak. I hope you enjoy him but I also your schoolie gets better soon.

                                      Ivy - Sounds like things are going well. Good luck with your outside contact work - I really struggle with that too.

                                      pony4me - I'm glad your guy is doing well for now and that you're having fun. I have to admit I have no idea what slices or roll-backs are, but I'm going to go google them! lol


                                      • Dewey - I am so sorry about your QH friend. But it will be nice for him to have a person of his own, and as others have noted, you have given him the skills to have a long, useful life. I know that doesn't make you miss him less though. My trainer is about to sell a horse we all really like as well. But that is the business end of what our trainers do.

                                        Great news on your guy pony4me.

                                        Tajar's abscess is still bothering him - he had a little bit more drainage yesterday when it was soaked. And since my backup schoolie is on stall rest for 3 months, it looks like it will be a "no riding" weekend for me. I may actually do some shopping!
                                        Riding a horse is not a gentle hobby, to be picked up and laid down like a game of solitaire. It is a grand passion.... ~ Emerson


                                        • Alright – lots of catching up to do!

                                          Event4Life – I do have Gabriel on a joint supplement. He’s been on it since he first started showing signs of a little stiffness – probably about 4 or 5 years now. It does seem to help a lot, and I think the amount of turn-out he’s getting in this new place (12-13 hours a day) is *really* helping, too. If worse comes to worse, I’ve pondered talking to the vet about joint injections. But I don’t believe that’s necessary yet.

                                          Sounds like you’ve been having some AWESOME rides! That’s wonderful!!! Keep it up – but do make sure to keep a water bottle with you at all times and sip consistently. In the Summer, I usually drink a few gulps every 10 or 15 minutes to be sure I won’t get heat exhaustion, which is HORRIBLE (ask me how I know).

                                          Zacdos – CONGRATS on finding a great instructor!!! It’ll make all the difference.

                                          Button – I’m sending your lesson boy lots of jingles so he’s no longer sore and comes right as rain for you.

                                          Soloundinhere – Your new boy is GORGEOUS!!! And it looks like he was having a blast at that show. You got a keeper there. I bet you’re so anxious for him to come home!

                                          Also, I don’t think anyone can judge about alters… That’s the whole point of an alter. You want to discuss something that might be a little controversial or otherwise uncomfortable for you, so you try to ensure anonymity via an alter. I know I’ve used an alter once or twice myself – though at this point I can’t even remember what the name was. If I ever wanted to alter up again, I’d have to create a new one. Hahaha!

                                          Finzean – Ugh allergies!!! I usually have trouble with them, too, but I *think* I may’ve lucked out this year (knock on wood) because my allergies tend to act up in Spring and Fall… For whatever reason, here in my part of the Keystone state we’ve completely skipped Spring and went straight from 30’s to 70’s. lol So far, so good on my allergy front – perhaps I’ve been spared?

                                          Tiger Horse – Riding horses is crazy complicated because you have to remember *so many things* to really ride well. I don’t think non-horsey people get that. But it sounds like you had an amazing lesson – good for you!!!! I’m so excited (because I’m living vicariously through you for the jumping stuff right now – lol)!!!

                                          ParadoxFarm – Have a great time in Ohio!!! Are you super excited about going to see the hopeful new horse on the 14th? I know I’m super excited for you – I can’t wait to hear how it all went! Btw, I’m SO glad all Chico needed was shoes – hooray!!!

                                          Tarheel – I’m sending jingles to your trainer’s horse and hope all is well after the stall rest. I’m sorry Tajar has an abscess. Gabriel has had a couple here and there and they really do suck. …Are you guys still planning to show him in a couple of weeks? If so, good luck with him! I hope he settles right in and you’re able to take him for a go in a class or two.

                                          RolyPoly – I’m a crier, too. I hate it, but I fully admit that I am. So I completely understand your not wanting to call the trainer. I’m sure your trainer will listen to your fears and help in whatever way he/she feels is best to keep you safe during your next lesson.

                                          SuperD – I’m so glad Jack is feeling better – poor boy! Your two babies are GORGEOUS – thank you so much for the photo! I’m excited to hear how Jack does at his next show!!!

                                          RubyGirl – Your Fjord sounds like a character. I *love* those little critters – so awesome! I’m glad you’re getting to ride, and just think – you don’t need a gym because he gives you a work-out. lol

                                          Bumknees – I’m so sorry your car wouldn’t start. Man – if it isn’t one thing, it’s another, right? You’ll get to a lesson soon, though, I’m sure of it. Just hang in there.

                                          Dewey – {{HUGS}} to you. I am SO sorry your little buddy is up for sale. I think everyone else really said it – you’ve ensured him a great home where he’ll be loved and appreciated for all his knowledge and his sweet personality. I know that doesn’t help very much, but you’ve blessed him with the abilities that will lead him into the arms of people who will *truly* appreciate him.

                                          Ivy – Congrats on the lesson! Woo-hoo!!!! It feels great to get back into the saddle, doesn’t it? Don’t worry about the dropping contact thing – you’ll get it soon. We all get rusty when we aren’t able to ride like we want to.

                                          Pony4Me – EXCELLENT news about your horse! I’m so happy he’s sound and that you were able to have some great rides on him. I’m sending jingles that he stays that way!

                                          Dewey, Tiger Horse, Tarheel, Paradox – Thank you all for the kind words. The idea of selling any of my horses is not an easy thing to deal with, but in the end, I’m having to just look at the bigger picture. And now that I’ve decided for sure to sell Velvet (ad is already posted) I do feel like a weight has been lifted off of me. It sucks, and I’m going to be upset when she leaves, but now I know I’ll no longer have to stress about all that stuff. And as for Rose, I’m going back and forth about posting her ad up. A part of me feels like I should wait until her 30 days is up because she really has been phenomenal so far – but another part of me says, “She’s SO GREEN!!! What if something happens because she’s SO GREEN!!!” I’m not sure what to do with her yet – all I know is that I adore her and don’t want to sell her, but if I don’t sell her, I can’t get something else as a transition horse from Gabriel, either.

                                          ….In relation to the horse selling situation, my friend recommended I look into Morgans, so I’ve contacted a Morgan breeder in CT who appears to have some fantastic horses. She told me a lot about their training program and it sounds like they’re very well trained, good minded horses. I also explained to her how terrible my confidence is right now and she said they have multiple horses that would be a fit for me. They aren’t a high-pressure sale place, so I’m welcome to just come up for a few hours and ride a few and see what I think. So, I’m going to do it. The only day that would work for both of us was this coming Sunday, so I’m going to make a homage on the 14th and see whether I like her horses and what I think about Morgans in general. When I was 10ish I went to a week-long summer camp and the horse I was assigned was a Morgan/Saddlebred – and he was the best little horse! Had a good motor and liked to be forward, but listened so well and he was a gem. I often think back on that horse, and he was part of the reason I ended up with Gabriel (Gabe is a Saddlebred).

                                          I’m hoping I find something I can feel safe on.
                                          ~*~*~*~Founding member of the Spotted Saddlebred Pals Clique~*~*~*~

                                          The equine love of my life: Gabriel
                                          4/6/1993 - 8/23/2015 ...RIP my big, beautiful boy <3