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  • Oh, Alterageous, need you even ask our opinion?? YES GET HER. She is adorable! In seriousness, keep us posted! I do think she's a cutey.
    “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
    ¯ Oscar Wilde

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    • I think I am going to go see her this weekend. I asked hubby-to-be his opinion and he said "you know you could buy a BMW for what board costs?" and I tried to explain that I could dress the pony in pink and she'd give slobbery kisses, but I think it was lost on him. The only horsepower he's interested in is an engine bay.

      I think she is super cute and I am just looking for something to have fun on. And her price is less than my first quarter bonus that is coming in 2 weeks...and it's getting warmer outside...
      Originally posted by PeanutButterPony
      you can shackle your pony to a lawn chair at the show...so long as its in a conservative color.

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      • She is adorable!! What else do you know about her?
        I heard a neigh. Oh, such a brisk and melodious neigh as that was! My very heart leaped with delight at the sound. --Nathaniel Hawthorne

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        • Originally posted by Dewey View Post
          She is adorable!! What else do you know about her?
          Only a little bit from the sellers. She is 6, been used as a kids trail pony. Just starting arena work and doesn't know much, which combined with the color/spots and not being kid safe (since she basically only has steering and brakes), adds up to her (very low) price tag.

          I need to go see her in person but if her canter is good and her walk is good I want to take her home. If nothing else, she'd be a good resale project.
          Originally posted by PeanutButterPony
          you can shackle your pony to a lawn chair at the show...so long as its in a conservative color.

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          • I think you NEED this pony!!!

            Thanks everyone for the welcome!!! I will be going to give the boys some much needed bathes if the weather predicted for tomorrow is true! I might even ride the monster as well

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            • Go see her ASAP! She sounds like fun...and she is sooooo cute!
              I heard a neigh. Oh, such a brisk and melodious neigh as that was! My very heart leaped with delight at the sound. --Nathaniel Hawthorne

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              • Originally posted by Alterageous View Post
                I tried to explain that I could dress the pony in pink and she'd give slobbery kisses...


                Best. Argument. EVER! What more need you say?? Besides, she's completely adorable and has a very sweet expression.

                Go get her. Now. You need her.
                ~*~*~*~Founding member of the Spotted Saddlebred Pals Clique~*~*~*~

                The equine love of my life: Gabriel
                4/6/1993 - 8/23/2015 ...RIP my big, beautiful boy <3

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                • Well, it sounds like many of us are in the Soggy Season (and have been for far too long). You know how motorcycles are sometimes referred to as “steel horses?” I tell people my horses are my “dirt bikes with fur.” It’s just too bad they aren’t submarines with fur – then we’d be able to ride them in the waterlogged arenas and trails.

                  Tarheel – Sounds like all in all the clinic was a success. The weather making the footing bad is a total bummer, though. And I’m so sorry your boy got into a fight – my word! Isn’t that so scary??? Gabriel is usually a very friendly horse, but every once in a while he meets a horse he just *hates* for no apparent reason. I’ve only witnessed him go toe-to-toe twice, and it was REALLY scary! Thank god everyone was alright!

                  Tiger Horse – Congrats on the good lesson! I can’t wait to get jumping again – I’m living vicariously through you and some of the others in this thread for my jumping fix. So, keep posting!

                  Bumknees – Yay; you found your bridle!!! That must be a load off. Sorry about the breast plate. But just think – this is the perfect excuse to go shopping in a tack store!!! I don’t know about you, but I’m always like a kid in a candy store when I go. Also, that’s so awesome that Toby has become a young man. I’m learning with my little one that it’s amazing to watch the transformations as they grow up.

                  ParadoxFarm – I’m SO happy you’re jumping again and the ankle is doing well! Hooray!!

                  SuperD – I hope you get to ride!!! I’m keeping my fingers crossed!

                  …….
                  I went to see my three again last night. I am LOVING them being so close! We had to use the indoor because everything was soggy and muddy outside. The indoor is small (only room for W/T), but at least we have a place that’s dry. Only crappy thing is that the rain coming down sounds like hail on the tin roof and the wind makes things creak and bang. Thank god I have some really sensible critters.

                  I did my first long lining session with Rose last night. I just continue to be more and more impressed with this little filly! We worked for about 15 minutes. In that time, I got her to flex her neck both directions, steering at the walk (if a little drunkenly, but what can you expect – this is the first lesson), and halting, all with just the bit. We had almost no antics. The only thing she did was turns circles when I first asked her to flex, then the first time I asked her to Whoa she reared up some. But it lasted all of a second. Then she came back down and put her thinking cap on and quickly realized that meant Stop. She was fine with it after that.

                  I hopped on Velvet next. She was awesome. I did W/T and some bending with her. I have to admit, I had the creeping Scaredy Cat monster in my head when I started tacking her up. She is a *very* sensible horse, but of my three she is the easiest to come unglued just because she's a sensitive lady. And with all the wind and rain, I started worrying that something would spook her. But, I squished those worries down and just did it. And nothing bad happened! (<-- Jaslyn’s signature, and my new motto) She was awesome and couldn’t have cared less with the noises. I think it helped my psyche that I’d just had the baby horse in there and *she* didn’t have a problem with it. So, if my not even 3 year old can handle it, my 10 year old can, too.

                  Lastly, I took Gabriel in there and just free lunged him. He appreciated the attention, did awesome with following my cues, and then snuggled with me when I took him back to his stall. <3 I adore that gelding.
                  ~*~*~*~Founding member of the Spotted Saddlebred Pals Clique~*~*~*~

                  The equine love of my life: Gabriel
                  4/6/1993 - 8/23/2015 ...RIP my big, beautiful boy <3

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                  • Originally posted by ClassyRide View Post


                    Best. Argument. EVER! What more need you say?? Besides, she's completely adorable and has a very sweet expression.

                    Go get her. Now. You need her.
                    I think this one speaks to me. I really don't know why as I really don't like palominos and I said I didn't want a paint and she's short (even for 5' tall me...)

                    But for some reason she does and I am calling on her today. I'll figure out a way to make the cost work out.
                    Originally posted by PeanutButterPony
                    you can shackle your pony to a lawn chair at the show...so long as its in a conservative color.

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                    • She's adorable. She reminds me of the palomino paint mare we had when I was very young..... These days I'm drawn to horses that remind me of my childhood ponies! let us know how it goes

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                      • Originally posted by NRB View Post
                        She's adorable. She reminds me of the palomino paint mare we had when I was very young..... These days I'm drawn to horses that remind me of my childhood ponies! let us know how it goes
                        Seller has not returned my phone call asking for an appointment to come see the pony. So we'll see if she actually would like to sell a horse or not.
                        Originally posted by PeanutButterPony
                        you can shackle your pony to a lawn chair at the show...so long as its in a conservative color.

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                        • Oh wise COTHers, I need some advice please!

                          Just wondering if anyone has any tips/ideas on how to ease my DDs fear about me riding - esp jumping.

                          Back story: We lost my DH very unexpectedly mid July last year (he died in his sleep - 55 years old). DD went back to college in August, she's a Sophomore, school is approx 5 hours from home. We talk several times a day. She comes home when her schedule allows - maybe once a mo or so. She knows my barn schedule and I always text her when I get home.

                          We talked about me starting jump lessons and I thought she was OK with it, but lately she seems very fearful about me getting hurt while riding/jumping. I have ridden since my teens (I am soon to be 55 ), the only break I have ever had was when I was pregnant with her. I can't imagine not having a horse to care for, not riding. She knows I wear a helmet, and now a vest, every ride. I don't take chances. My horse can be silly, but overall he really tries very hard to take care of me.

                          My DH always supported and encouraged my "horsie" passion - even though he never quite understood it. So, I'm kind of at a loss here . . . any words of wisdom?
                          http://fromdressagehorsetocowpony.blogspot.com/

                          "I am still under the impression that there is nothing alive quite so beautiful as a thoroughbred horse." -- John Galsworthy

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                          • I'm sorry, Tiger Horse. Tough situation. There may not be ANY good way to explain your riding for her to approve and make sense of. I'm sorry you lost your husband and she lost her dad. That is very sad. You can explain to her that this is very important for your mental health to continue with horses. I know it would be for me. If you want, you can do research on the dangers of riding compared to other sports and even other everyday activities such as driving a car, riding a bike, etc. obviously this somehow has to be done in a sensitive way since this fear is very real to her. I would also kindly have her consider talking to a therapist which will help with all her feelings and insecurities. Good luck!
                            “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
                            ¯ Oscar Wilde

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                            • Originally posted by ParadoxFarm View Post
                              I'm sorry, Tiger Horse. Tough situation. There may not be ANY good way to explain your riding for her to approve and make sense of. I'm sorry you lost your husband and she lost her dad. That is very sad. You can explain to her that this is very important for your mental health to continue with horses. I know it would be for me. If you want, you can do research on the dangers of riding compared to other sports and even other everyday activities such as driving a car, riding a bike, etc. obviously this somehow has to be done in a sensitive way since this fear is very real to her. I would also kindly have her consider talking to a therapist which will help with all her feelings and insecurities. Good luck!
                              Thanks Paradox - I won't deny that it has been extremely hard. We were best friends, she was the apple of his eye and we both adored him.

                              DD did have some counseling when she went back to school, sometimes it seemed to help, sometimes not. So hard, grief and grieving is so very different for each individual. In her heart she knows that horses/riding are part of my DNA - and that whether I ride or not - stuff happens. Maybe we should try going to a therapist together.
                              http://fromdressagehorsetocowpony.blogspot.com/

                              "I am still under the impression that there is nothing alive quite so beautiful as a thoroughbred horse." -- John Galsworthy

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                              • Tiger, I think Paradox's advice was excellent. Family therapy would be a good idea, IMO.

                                So, so sorry to hear about the loss of your DH. I can't imagine...
                                Last edited by Dewey; Mar. 1, 2013, 10:14 AM.
                                I heard a neigh. Oh, such a brisk and melodious neigh as that was! My very heart leaped with delight at the sound. --Nathaniel Hawthorne

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                                • Alterageous, any word yet on the pony?
                                  I heard a neigh. Oh, such a brisk and melodious neigh as that was! My very heart leaped with delight at the sound. --Nathaniel Hawthorne

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                                  • Just have to share that Sky has been soooo good the last few days. Yesterday, we jumped a few courses with a couple of 2'9" fences in there...that's the highest I've jumped her yet. She was very relaxed cantering around and jumped great.

                                    The next show is away. That will be the next big challenge as she has not been on a trailer or off our farm since she arrived ~ 2-3 years ago. I have no idea how she will react. I may ask BO if I can load her once or twice before we go just to see how she does.
                                    I heard a neigh. Oh, such a brisk and melodious neigh as that was! My very heart leaped with delight at the sound. --Nathaniel Hawthorne

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                                    • Originally posted by Dewey View Post
                                      Alterageous, any word yet on the pony?
                                      Seller still has not returned my call.

                                      There is a local horse dealer here near me that just posted up several horses that I like the looks of. I made an appointment for tomorrow. At least with these guys I know what I am getting into as I've dealt with them before.
                                      Originally posted by PeanutButterPony
                                      you can shackle your pony to a lawn chair at the show...so long as its in a conservative color.

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                                      • Tiger - I'm so sorry you lost your DH last year, and I'm sure it's been extremely tough on both of you. To lose someone you love is never an easy thing. I agree with Paradox and others that counseling could be a fantastic way to help DD get through some of these feelings and make sure you're both on the same page with things.

                                        Alterageous - Good luck with your search! It's a shame the sellers of the pretty-pretty-pony haven't gotten back to you. But, I always say that if it's meant to happen, it will - so I guess it just wasn't meant to be.

                                        Dewey - Congrats on the awesome rides on Sky!!! I am SO delighted that she seems to be quite healthy and doing so well for you. I'm living vicariously through you with the jumping. I haven't jumped in, oh, 3 or 4 years - and even then it was like crossrails and stuff. I *want badly* to show in Jumpers and I know I have the horse to do it in Velvet and/or little Rose. I just need to find a trainer that can take me there. Also, good luck trailering. I think Sky will do just fine - I'll send "good behavior" vibes to her. Really, though, Gabriel hadn't loaded in 2+ years when I moved them the other weekend, Rose hadn't in 1.5 years, and Velvet hadn't for almost a year; and they loaded great. May your experience be as good as mine was.

                                        ........

                                        I went to the barn last night. I got to the gate of the field and they were aaalllllllllll the way at the other end of the pasture, so I called to them. Rose nickered loudly to me and started trotting quickly toward me. Velvet saw Rose start going and tore off after her. When Gabriel heard me, he gave the biggest buck I've ever seen him give (he literally was 5 feet off the ground) and then tore off toward me, as well. Thankfully, everyone is polite and stopped a couple of feet away. However, being that I was tired and they were obviously full of themselves, I figured it was a good night to play and not try to do anything too complicated. I handwalked Gabe to give him a "tour" of the rest of the farm (he was up, but listened well. Good boy!), then took both girls (one at a time) in the indoor and free lunged them. Fun times.

                                        Saturday I'm going out again. The farrier is coming and my friend says she's going to give me a riding lesson. I'm super excited, but very nervous at the same time! I haven't lessoned in 3 or 4 years, I know my equitation is *not* what it used to be, and frankly, I'm worried she's going to make me canter. I know, I know - here I go again with this. But, I haven't cantered in months now because of the bad footing at the other place, so now here I am again, completely afraid of it. I'm such a weenie.
                                        Last edited by ClassyRide; Mar. 1, 2013, 07:43 AM. Reason: Got my "years" mixed up.
                                        ~*~*~*~Founding member of the Spotted Saddlebred Pals Clique~*~*~*~

                                        The equine love of my life: Gabriel
                                        4/6/1993 - 8/23/2015 ...RIP my big, beautiful boy <3

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                                        • Tiger Horse - I cannot even imagine what you and DD must be going through and I'm so, so sorry. Having said that, as I'm probably fairly close to DDs age I can sort of understand how she feels about you riding. However, as a horse lover I can totally understand how you feel too. I agree with the others that counseling together to work through this is probably a good idea. Try to make it her idea if you can so she'll be more receptive. Again, I'm really sorry.

                                          Alterageous - I hope they get back to you about the pony!!!! So so cute!!

                                          Dewey - YAYYYYY!!! I'm so glad Skye sounds completely recovered from her ulcers & is jumping so well. Patience & hard work pays off!

                                          CR - I love your updates on your crew. Funny about them galloping towards you. My lease guy and his friend did that once. I went out & called, first he ignored me, then a split second later I hear thundering hooves, look up, and they were practically on top of me. It was quite impressive!

                                          As for me, I have a completely un horse related update as I haven't ridden since Monday. The barn has been under so much water only the small ring is vaguely drained and I've had a ton of work to do. However, my exciting update is I AM PICKING MY DOG UP TODAY!!! This is the first pet I am fully responsible for, so that's kind of scary but I am so so so excited!!!! She's a black lab/flat coated retriever mix, ~3 years old. EEEEEEEEE.
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