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Can we have an adult re-rider support group?

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  • "Circle of death" We certainly weren't working on striding yet - more like let's "look where you are going" and let's "maintain some type of rythmn"!
    http://fromdressagehorsetocowpony.blogspot.com/

    "I am still under the impression that there is nothing alive quite so beautiful as a thoroughbred horse." -- John Galsworthy

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    • Originally posted by ParadoxFarm View Post
      Welcome, superD. This is a great group here. (Well, I think so!). We can all relate to feeling less than confident at times.

      Do you think your not wanting to ride has anything to do with being talked into eventing? I know I am comfortable jumping, say, 3'6" in the arena, but I don't feel remotely comfortable jumping 2' in the field in XC. Maybe because you're gearing your horse to event you're not comfortable? Maybe come back to something you are comfortable with and enjoy more and don't worry about what others say about that decision. Horses are expensive to own and upkeep and it's hard if you're not enjoying it. Or maybe you're just not as comfortable with a younger horse? I had to sell two youngsters because I just was not having fun with them. I now have a teenager that I LOVE. And I'm enjoying riding again. A lot. (Well, was before broke my ankle...long story).

      Good luck finding the fun, and welcome.
      Thanks!! I am not sure what my hang up is. Eventing was always something I wanted to do. I love hunter paces and am much more happier out of the ring. My youngster is dead honest and has the best brain in the world. My older man is a much harder ride and he can be very unpredictable.

      I hope it was just a case of having the wrong trainer when i had a bad fall off my old man. She wasn't supportive and deemed my boy " dangerous" . I eventually found out that he really just needed more turnout than she was able to give him. I took him to a back yard type place and we both took some time off to get our heads back. He became very ridable once I brought him back, but I think the damage was already done in my mind.

      I will school my horse when we go cross country schooling and my trainer will then get on him to do the higher stuff. We would like to get him going at least Training this summer so maybe he can go prelim next spring.

      This is the first winter that I haven't had an indoor to ride in and I am at a much smaller barn. I really think this has something to do with it.

      I am enjoying reading all these posts though!! What a great thread.

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      • Originally posted by superD View Post
        Hi everyone!!
        Thought I would join your posts. I am an adult rerider who has struggled with confidence issues for a few years now. ( only with jumping) I own 2 wonderful geldings one of which is my heart horse.

        I was doing really well up until this year. I was unsure where I wanted to be riding wise. I do not have the talent I had before i took my 5 year break. I retired my heart horse after many illnesses and lameness issues and started my green bean after i bought him about a year and a half ago. Got the basics on him and started his jumping ( he is uber talented!!)

        A friend talked me into trying eventing and I moved the boys over last summer. I put my young guy in training and he took to eventing like a duck to water.

        I have now lost all desire to ride!!! I want my trainer to compete him to the higher levels and I just be the owner/groom.

        I haven't ridden him since early December and I can only afford for my trainer to ride him twice a week. He is not fit to start competing in the end of March when the first trials begin. I really hope it is just the winter talking and once the weather warms up a bit I will want to ride again!!

        UGH I hate winter!!!!!!!
        Don't berate yourself for taking a break. Most of us in this group have (hence the re-rider title!) and that is completely ok. I got kind of burnt out, and had a scary cross country fall that landed me in the ER senior year of high school. I rode half heartedly throughout my first year of college & half of my second. Then I chose to move abroad for University, and consequently sold my mare. Best decision I could have made for her and me (she's a diva and would have hated Scottish weather, lol). I had an awesome 4 years trying loads of new things - rugby, hillwalking, lots of traveling - to name a few. I got really involved in the university hillwalking club committee & made some amazing friends I'm still in touch with even though I haven't lived in/been back to Scotland in nearly 2 years. I lived in South Africa for 6 months and France for 6 months. Both offered very different challenges and my time in South Africa helped me figure out my career goals. I'm now back stateside for grad school, and working at a local stables part time.

        That's the long version. The short version is none of the above (an awesome abroad uni experience & year traveling) would have been possible if I'd had horses in my life. I absolutely don't regret the decision to get out of riding, but am absolutely glad I'm back riding again. See some of my previous posts for more details :-P.

        Wait it out till spring. Take a break if you want to. If you still want a longer break when Spring (finally!!) comes, reevaluate. There's so much else you could do/experience with the time and money you spend on horses.
        "Choose to chance the rapids, and dare to dance the tides" - Garth Brooks
        "With your permission, dear, I'll take my fences one at a time" - Maggie Smith, Downton Abbey

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        • Thanks!!!!!

          I really got into skiing and tennis during my break. I loved both but came back to the horses. I want to be at the barn and with my boys but then i get the whole, well it's dark and cold and no ones here and my grey horse is now chestnut....... then i give them treats and clean them up and go home.

          Come on spring!!!!!!!!!

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          • Pancakes - I still fell that way some days, and I have had my boy for 3 years!!! There is always so much to learn.

            Hope everyone is doing well. Half way through February, so spring is getting closer, thank God.

            I have to ride in our first ever dressage clinic this weekend, and I haven't ridden in 3 weeks thanks to a mix of work exploding, getting sick and having company in from out of town over that period. I am super nervous that we will look stupid
            Riding a horse is not a gentle hobby, to be picked up and laid down like a game of solitaire. It is a grand passion.... ~ Emerson

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            • Wow – what a weekend! On Saturday I went to the Horse World Expo up in this area. I’ve got to admit, I was a little disappointed with the expo, but I got to spend the day with one of my very best friends, so it’s all good.

              Sunday I decided the horses had settled in enough that I got everybody out and played with them. I was going to long line little Rose, but she’s never done that before. And being that it was very windy out, chilly, a new barn, etc., I decided to minimize brain overload by just round penning her. I still stuck her bit, bridle, and surcingle on, but no side reins. She led to the round pen like a champ, did W/T/C/Whoa both directions on voice commands, changed direction like a pro – she was a complete superstar. I shouldn’t have been worried about frying her brain. She totally focused on me and nothing phased her (outdoor arena gate swinging in the wind, stuff banging around, my other horses calling to her – she ignored it all).

              I rode Gabriel in the outdoor arena. He also was a complete champ and took everything in stride. We just did W/T/Whoa/Back, some bending and a little yielding via a couple spirals. Mainly, though, it just felt amazing to be back in the saddle (I didn’t realize it, but I think it’s been about 2 months or more since I even sat on one of my horses!). Gabriel was *awesome*. I rode him for a good 20 minutes. That doesn’t seem long, but I sure can feel it today! Yikes! My friend Erin took a couple of pics and my eq has *really* gone downhill, too. Time to find a trainer to start yelling at me.

              Velvet was a little full of herself. Maybe it was the wind, maybe it was something else – I’m not really sure. Either way, Erin hopped on Velvet for me (she’s a better rider than I am). She took her into the indoor (less possibility of seeing spooky things) and did W/T/Whoa and got her head back on straight. She wasn’t even being that bad, she was just kind of on edge and being a little pushy. Erin did a great job of relaxing her and bringing her back to her normal sweet, couldn’t-care-less state of mind.

              I am SO happy my horses are closer. I feel like I can finally get back to enjoying life again (via my horse habit). I hope everyone else had a great weekend, too!
              ~*~*~*~Founding member of the Spotted Saddlebred Pals Clique~*~*~*~

              The equine love of my life: Gabriel
              4/6/1993 - 8/23/2015 ...RIP my big, beautiful boy <3

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              • I am sooooo done with this weather. Dear North Carolina, I left Scotland for a reason. Kthanksbye! Apart from that, all is good here. I haven't ridden much because on the days it has been nice the arena has been under a foot of water - the drainage is sooo bad. I have been spending a lot of time with horsey friends though which has been fun :-D.

                CR - I'm glad things have been going so well with your horses! It must be a relief to have them closer.

                Tarheel - Good luck in the clinic, I am sure you will do fine. Remember the goal is for it to be a learning experience, not show, so even if pony isn't perfect you'll still learn!
                "Choose to chance the rapids, and dare to dance the tides" - Garth Brooks
                "With your permission, dear, I'll take my fences one at a time" - Maggie Smith, Downton Abbey

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                • Yes, it's raining again here, too. We had one lovely day (yesterday)--just a teaser. Tomorrow, we are getting more rain as well. My yard is waterlogged, and the rings at the barn are full of ponds. Well, Sky is getting some good trail practice trotting through them.

                  ClassyRide, sounds as if things are going well after the move.

                  Tarheel, how was the clinic?
                  I heard a neigh. Oh, such a brisk and melodious neigh as that was! My very heart leaped with delight at the sound. --Nathaniel Hawthorne

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                  • Event4Life -- I always have to remind myself this is for fun!! Occupational hazard and personality trait make me a bit competitive sometimes -- but mostly just competitive with myself.

                    So, the clinic was a challenge in some ways, and great in others.

                    It rained like crazy last week in the Atlanta area. Both Friday and Saturday consisted of riding in cold, windy mist that was bone chilling. And unfortunately, the arena footing was quite bad -- just too much water in too little time for any meaningful drainage to occur. The weather Sunday warmed up to the lower 60s so that was great, but the footing issues were still a limiting factor for what could be accomplished.

                    So, on a personal note -- my trainer rode my horse with the clinician on Friday, and luckily I was able to get out of my office and go watch. They did some good work, even with the challenging footing, because even though the arena was wet, since it was the first day, things weren't horribly churned up.

                    Saturday morning I arrive, and my horse is understandably a bit anxious. He had been boarding at the farm hosting the clinic since Thursday evening, we did not bring any other horses from our barn, and because of the swampy status of the paddocks, he wasn't getting any turn out. I took him out of his stall and we walked around a while, then when we were headed back to his stall, we needed to pass close to a paddock, and my horse proceeds to get in a fight with a horse on the other side of the paddock fence! I have never seen my horse do anything remotely like this before! The two horse were rearing and kicking at each other, with the fence in between. Thank God no one was hurt -- human or equine! Although my horse does have a big spot on the front of his chest where the other horse's hoof made contact, and all of his hair there was scraped off! That'll look great in the hunter ring in a few weeks! But again, I am lucky that is all that happened!

                    Given the cold and wind and mist on Saturday morning, and those crazy antics, I had decided not to ride that day. But we let him settle, and free lunged him in a round pen, and he was back to his normal self. So I did go ahead and ride that day, but I took it very easy. We basically just worked on our walk!! Thankfully, in dressage, there is a lot of work you can do on your walk! HA!

                    Sunday my horse was 100% settled and back to normal, but all we were able to do was walk-trot because the footing really was too dangerous to canter in.

                    But the clinician, Richard AG Watson, was wonderful, and we got a lot out of the clinic at the end of the day. I absolutely do not regret going, even with some challenges and limitations created by the weather.

                    Hope everyone had a great weekend with lots of time with your horses!
                    Riding a horse is not a gentle hobby, to be picked up and laid down like a game of solitaire. It is a grand passion.... ~ Emerson

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                    • Originally posted by Event4Life View Post
                      I am sooooo done with this weather. Dear North Carolina, I left Scotland for a reason. Kthanksbye!
                      I am checking in to report that I HATE winter and I'm sick of this rain and if mud was worth anything, I'd be wealthy.

                      signed Angry.

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                      • Originally posted by Finzean View Post
                        I am checking in to report that I HATE winter and I'm sick of this rain and if mud was worth anything, I'd be wealthy.

                        signed Angry.
                        We should start a spa business or something. We'd be bazillionaires if it was the fancy mud they use for spas. I've had it up to here too...every time I think the arena has FINALLY dried out and I can FINALLY do more than walk, nope, next day it rains AGAIN. And we're under a foot of water AGAIN. I love living by the (flat) coast, but I miss the mts. Natural Drainage = a good thing.
                        "Choose to chance the rapids, and dare to dance the tides" - Garth Brooks
                        "With your permission, dear, I'll take my fences one at a time" - Maggie Smith, Downton Abbey

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                        • TarheelJD thanks for the report - sounds like it was fun and very worthwhile.
                          Awfully tired of this weather as well - but, at least I have an indoor to ride in.
                          ClassyRide sounds like everyone settled in nicely.

                          Had another good lesson on Sunday and this week we did work on striding. Managed to get around the course a couple of times and added a box jump for a change of pace.
                          http://fromdressagehorsetocowpony.blogspot.com/

                          "I am still under the impression that there is nothing alive quite so beautiful as a thoroughbred horse." -- John Galsworthy

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                          • I FOUND MY BRIDLE!!! In a box of things that goes into my breakfront??? How it got there I will never know. It seems though my breast plate got left behind...Which really sucks as I've had it since mmm 198something...
                            81 maybe 79. And the chances of retreving it are slim to none as the house we were living is now in rubble. So I have to get another one hope I can find one.

                            I cant wait for winter to be gone as this weather is really getting to me. One day snow the next 40's or higher then the next 20's and more snow.. Today haven't figured it out yet but low 30's and rain??? Normally when it is that cold it is the white stuff.
                            But mostly because I want to ride. I want ot so bad I can taste it. But I don't want to ride outside in this weather or risk Toby's legs as right now they has no marks on them no splint's, to windpuffs, etc. and I want to keep that way them as long as possible.
                            I think that this unplanned time off has helped Toby as according to the BO he has grown up a lot in the last year ( that 4-5 year). And while he still has his moments ( like removing his stall door) he "is such a gentleman now" ( quote the BO) the last year has been good for him. So I think the chances of him launching me have been reduced.

                            I will def. be in Louisville Ky. the end of July. (the 19th-24(25)th) for the VFW National Convention. Anyone in the area? Perhaps we can meet up. There is a lot of down time at these things during which time they encourage us to see the local attractions. And I figure if anyone wants....

                            Tarheal I love dressage even though my heart belong to the hunter ring. I rode with a dressage trainer who was also my hunter trainer
                            when dressage was a "dirty word" in hunters. It helped so much with my almost out of control QH mare( when TB where the horse to have on the hunter circuit) who actually won. She was the most filexable horse on the circuit before they counted strides..

                            Super D Belated welcome. A many said we for the most part all have taken breaks from riding. some for school, some for family, some for illness. For the most part many of us found something to fill the void. I "found" photography. I still use film. I have many photos of places I have been and many more of riders both well known then, and some who may have become know since I took their photo like the one member(as in she was the only one on it) of the Bahamas equestrian team of the early 90's. I got called back to horses and got slid lined many times since then but always came/come back. so welcome back.
                            Friend of bar .ka

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                            • bumknees - congrats on finding your bridle! Maybe your breast plate will turn up yet.

                              Also a very belated welcome to Super D - you will love this group!
                              http://fromdressagehorsetocowpony.blogspot.com/

                              "I am still under the impression that there is nothing alive quite so beautiful as a thoroughbred horse." -- John Galsworthy

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                              • I found a pony on equinenow that I am dying to buy. She's only 13.2, a solid medium. I think it would probably not fly for me to show this pony in the adults.

                                But I WANT her, and she's super, super cheap. Like, cheap enough that I would consider not having her vetted. Just go with the trailer and a check, watch her jog, and come back with a pony.

                                Someone tell me I am completely insane.
                                Originally posted by PeanutButterPony
                                you can shackle your pony to a lawn chair at the show...so long as its in a conservative color.

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                                • Event4Life...at least you've got some sand! I follow Denny Emerson's FB page and I'm not sure whether I'm enjoying all his photo posts of riders these days. He's in So. Pines this time of the year and the sand drains just beautifully. I'm more jealous of his riders as they are out almost every day. The mud here is just unreal and it's NOT drying up. So frustrating!! I've got access to a wonderful covered - 20 minute haul - but it's $25 per use...adds up fast. OK - bitchfest over. Being grateful for my barn & horses

                                  Paradox!!! LOVE! At this point I think I could do the first few jumps (so unfit) but would likely get into the 2nd & 3rd at a bad spot and have to throw the reins away and myself upon the mercy of a horse with a better eye than me!! You rock!

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                                  • Originally posted by Alterageous View Post
                                    I found a pony on equinenow that I am dying to buy. She's only 13.2, a solid medium. I think it would probably not fly for me to show this pony in the adults.

                                    But I WANT her, and she's super, super cheap. Like, cheap enough that I would consider not having her vetted. Just go with the trailer and a check, watch her jog, and come back with a pony.

                                    Someone tell me I am completely insane.
                                    Wait - this is COTH - we are enablers - go get her!!
                                    http://fromdressagehorsetocowpony.blogspot.com/

                                    "I am still under the impression that there is nothing alive quite so beautiful as a thoroughbred horse." -- John Galsworthy

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                                    • Alterageous, post the link! We can enable much more effectively with pictures!
                                      I heard a neigh. Oh, such a brisk and melodious neigh as that was! My very heart leaped with delight at the sound. --Nathaniel Hawthorne

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                                      • Originally posted by Finzean View Post
                                        Paradox!!! LOVE! At this point I think I could do the first few jumps (so unfit) but would likely get into the 2nd & 3rd at a bad spot and have to throw the reins away and myself upon the mercy of a horse with a better eye than me!! You rock!
                                        Aww. thanks, Finzean. Some days are better than others!! haha. I jumped the other day (nothing over 2'6") and I felt my timing was off bit since it's been almost 4 months. But the ankle felt good, and it was FUN. I'm on my way. NOw I have to lose the extra pounds I gained on my "immobility" vacation!
                                        “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
                                        ¯ Oscar Wilde

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                                        • Originally posted by Dewey View Post
                                          Alterageous, post the link! We can enable much more effectively with pictures!
                                          Nobody better steal her if I do!
                                          http://img.equinenow.com/equine/data...s/683032_4.jpg
                                          Originally posted by PeanutButterPony
                                          you can shackle your pony to a lawn chair at the show...so long as its in a conservative color.

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