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  • Bumknees, I haven't heard a thing. You are part of our group, and I hope you stay.
    I heard a neigh. Oh, such a brisk and melodious neigh as that was! My very heart leaped with delight at the sound. --Nathaniel Hawthorne

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    • Bumknees, I haven't heard anything either. I wouldn't judge you on a blind PM, anyway! Don't worry about it. This is a huge forum. There are always some out there that don't play nice.
      “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
      ¯ Oscar Wilde

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      • Alterageous, are the prices way different? I'd be inclined to go with the Circuit if they were priced very differently. And I've actually heard good things about them. If the prices are close, then go for the higher quality Prestige. Just my opinion of what I would do! Good luck.
        “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
        ¯ Oscar Wilde

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        • I had a really hard lesson yesterday. It brought me to the realization that I need more leg strength. I just wish I rode tougher skinned horses more often. It's a little unfair to expect me to build any leg strength when I'm on push button horses 90% of the time and once every few weeks you put me on a horse that's dead to the aids.

          I'm just whining. I will get stronger and work my legs out more. I rode in a new saddle that was very painful to ride in and did not fit me well at all, on a horse who I previously had only ridden with spurs and a crop but was expected to ride without either, on a day when I was tired. All I thought the whole lesson was that I couldn't keep doing it, like my instructor was asking too much of me.

          In retrospect I was being a big baby. I pushed through the lesson but I was losing my nerve and getting so upset over not feeling strong enough that for the first time in months I left a lesson feeling as though I'd accomplished nothing. The entire lesson felt like a failure. I was on the verge of tears, getting angry at the horse for the fact that I was sweating profusely and in pain over an attempt to move him slightly over to the side and he still ignored me and blew through my leg. NEVER do I usually blame the horse but I was in such a state of mind that I wanted to. Maybe my trainer just gave me way too much to put on my plate. She totally missed the balance of "enough of a challenge to make it interesting but not so much to make it feel impossible".

          I guess I just wish that, if building leg strength were truly the goal, they'd just put me on a horse for a few weeks because it goes against all exercise logic to claim that a hard workout like that once very few weeks is actually beneficial. It's better to do it consistently if not 2x a week. Boooooo. She says I did fine but I don't believe her.

          Time to hit the gym, haha.

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          • Don't be too hard on yourself, Ladyfreckles. It really is hard when you're on different horses and they are all different. I'm a little more concerned that your saddle was bad for you. That right there makes your whole ride miserable! Sorry you had a crappy lesson. Can you talk to your trainer and tell her/him your goals?
            “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
            ¯ Oscar Wilde

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            • Originally posted by ladyfreckles View Post
              I had a really hard lesson yesterday. It brought me to the realization that I need more leg strength. I just wish I rode tougher skinned horses more often. It's a little unfair to expect me to build any leg strength when I'm on push button horses 90% of the time and once every few weeks you put me on a horse that's dead to the aids.

              I'm just whining. I will get stronger and work my legs out more. I rode in a new saddle that was very painful to ride in and did not fit me well at all, on a horse who I previously had only ridden with spurs and a crop but was expected to ride without either, on a day when I was tired. All I thought the whole lesson was that I couldn't keep doing it, like my instructor was asking too much of me.

              In retrospect I was being a big baby. I pushed through the lesson but I was losing my nerve and getting so upset over not feeling strong enough that for the first time in months I left a lesson feeling as though I'd accomplished nothing. The entire lesson felt like a failure. I was on the verge of tears, getting angry at the horse for the fact that I was sweating profusely and in pain over an attempt to move him slightly over to the side and he still ignored me and blew through my leg. NEVER do I usually blame the horse but I was in such a state of mind that I wanted to. Maybe my trainer just gave me way too much to put on my plate. She totally missed the balance of "enough of a challenge to make it interesting but not so much to make it feel impossible".

              I guess I just wish that, if building leg strength were truly the goal, they'd just put me on a horse for a few weeks because it goes against all exercise logic to claim that a hard workout like that once very few weeks is actually beneficial. It's better to do it consistently if not 2x a week. Boooooo. She says I did fine but I don't believe her.

              Time to hit the gym, haha.
              Ask your trainer for exercises you can do at home/the gym to strengthen the right muscles for riding. They are very specific, but obviously anything you do at the gym will help your overall fitness which will help your riding.

              I agree with the suggestion to have a goal discussion with your trainer. You need to be on the same page (or at least in the same chapter!) otherwise you'll just end up this frustrated at the end of every lesson.

              It is frustrating riding different horses, but ultimately it is the best way to improve our ability as a rider. At the moment I am riding 4 different horses regularly and they range from an ex barrel racing pony to a Thoroughbred 2nd level dressage horse. Try to see riding different as an advantage and maybe discuss changing the "goals" of your lesson with your trainer depending on the horse. Next time you ride a dead to the leg horse a good exercise might be pole work where you're doing lots of 2 point practice, for example, because the horse should be nice and steady for you.
              "Choose to chance the rapids, and dare to dance the tides" - Garth Brooks
              "With your permission, dear, I'll take my fences one at a time" - Maggie Smith, Downton Abbey

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              • Bumknees ignore the PM. You are among friends here.

                Good plan on the meds Dewey. Let us know how Sky responds.

                Very very weird weather up here. Pouring rain the last 2 days, back to freezing cold and snowing. Colic weather for horses, virus weather for the kids. I want to crawl into bed and pull the covers over my head and not get out until spring. Gotta love Canadian winters

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                • 48 Days until Spring!!! Whatever that may mean for where ever you live, at least we're all getting closer every day!! I'm SO ready for this whacko weather to end.

                  HazelG - in 2 days in NC we went from 70 degrees (yes, 70) & sunny to 70 degrees and rainy with tornado watches and warnings, and today we are back to COLD and windy with tomorrow's high right at 40. I'm sure that doesn't compare temperature wise, but these shifts are making me nuts!

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                  • Bumbknees, I have someone who trashes me every OT day. This person writes like I actually know her/him in real life. I have had to PM a couple of posters to say that I do not know this person, in real life or otherwise. I think the cyber world can bring out some real crazies....

                    We know who you are, and no, don't leave.

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                    • bumknees - just echoing what everyone else has written. I haven't received anything & would ignore it if I did.

                      I love COTH but...dang...a few days ago I was basically called in idiot outright. Most of the time the way someone "talks" about us says much more about them than it does us.

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                      • bumknees - I missed it earlier, sorry, but what everyone else said. Who cares what someone who is sending you anonymous PMs thinks?! If they don't have the balls to come out and say it to your "face" as themselves then screw them. I wouldn't believe it if I got it either. Take everything said on the internet with a large grain of salt.
                        "Choose to chance the rapids, and dare to dance the tides" - Garth Brooks
                        "With your permission, dear, I'll take my fences one at a time" - Maggie Smith, Downton Abbey

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                        • Thanks.. I knew I could count on you. I just shook me up so bad. I mean how dear that person give my name out just because I happen to question one or two of her replys on a OT days, it's as though she has it out for this person and has decided to transfer it to me.
                          Friend of bar .ka

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                          • Originally posted by HazelG View Post
                            Bumknees ignore the PM. You are among friends here.
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                            Ditto what HazelG said!
                            http://fromdressagehorsetocowpony.blogspot.com/

                            "I am still under the impression that there is nothing alive quite so beautiful as a thoroughbred horse." -- John Galsworthy

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                            • Originally posted by HazelG View Post
                              Very very weird weather up here. Pouring rain the last 2 days, back to freezing cold and snowing. Colic weather for horses, virus weather for the kids. I want to crawl into bed and pull the covers over my head and not get out until spring. Gotta love Canadian winters
                              We've had the same and I'm in the NW Suburbs of Chicago. It was almost 50 here a few days ago - today's temp when I got in the elevator at work - 0!
                              http://fromdressagehorsetocowpony.blogspot.com/

                              "I am still under the impression that there is nothing alive quite so beautiful as a thoroughbred horse." -- John Galsworthy

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                              • I am so far behind, it is crazy!!! It has just been a really busy 2013 at the office and other non-barn areas of life. Yuk!

                                So, first of all, a pox on the houses of those who encouraged me to add up what I spend monthly on my horse habit. I am at about $900 per month (board, supplements, farrier, chiropractor, insurance, general vet bills, dentist). If I added up lessons, clinics and showing, I'd run screaming into the night, so I am going to stay in blissful ignorance on that. And I am about to start up with some training rides to get Tajar fine tuned for show season, so Lord knows what my total monthly bills will be. But, I don't have kids, and I work hard, and it makes me happy - so what the hell!

                                Event4Life - congrats on getting paid for an equine related job! How wonderful!

                                Conversely, jaslyn - I am sorry to hear about your job drama. I hope that resolves itself soon.

                                Dewey - I am so glad you and your daughter had a good talk, and know we are all still thinking of you as you grieve. It really is just so hard to see the ones we love cross the bridge. A friend of mine who lost her dog this year shared this Dr. Seuss quote, which I love: "Don't cry because it is over. Smile because it happened." I also feel that animals have souls -- and I think St. Francis of Assisi would agree. Hope all is continuing to go well for Sky on the ulcer front.

                                YAY Paradox on being cleared to ride!!!!! And some of the best days I've had at the barn were when I went out, the weather got bad, so all I did was groom and hang out with my boy.

                                twelvebelles -- I know what you mean about being frustrated with a plateau. I am at the point right now, because I haven't had enough saddle time in the last 6 months (between work, and sarcoid removal, and various other things). I think it just goes with the territory for adult re-riders who have conflicting demands on their time. As others have said, I just need to keep reminding myself that I do this for fun, and not to be so hard on myself.

                                Tiger -- any update on the teenager who was working the old schoolie so hard? Maybe you posted it and I missed it, because admittedly I had to skim multiple pages to catch up with everyone's news. I hope she doesn't end up hurting the old guy!

                                Pancakes -- Bugatti is awesome, and I am so happy for you. You definitely deserve some smooth sailing after everything you went through a few months back. How is his infection healing? That is great that he is settling in so well at his new home.

                                bumknees -- ignore the nasty PM. Don't even justify it by discussing it or thinking abut it further. If this person continues, report it to the Mods.

                                As for me, I have been busy at work, and I took all of last weekend off from work and the barn to host a baby shower for a dear friend who I've known since we were kids. She and her husband went through the ringer to get pregnant, and I am so happy that this pregnancy has gone so well for her. Pancakes - the funny thing is, since this baby cost so much to bring into the world, our group of friends has been calling her "Baby Bugatti." When you posted your new horse's name, it made me laugh!

                                Tajar and I are scheduled to do our first dressage clinic ever at the end of February, and I am starting to get a bit nervous. I've only ridden him in the new dressage saddle a few times, and I am hoping we don't end up looking amazingly stupid! I was planning to get more riding in in January, but I was rear-ended in early January, and my back and neck were a little stiff/sore until about this week actually, so I have had to take it easy and stick with pretty mild rides.

                                My trainer's awesome, been there, done that horse who I take occasional lunge line lessons on was injured yesterday. He got into an altercation with a much bigger gelding, and ended up with a defensive wound just above his coronet band on one leg (not sure which one). I desperately hope he is OK -- everyone at the barn would be devastated if something bad happened to him.

                                First hunter show this year is a local one, the second weekend in March, and I am getting nervous about that too! We only did one show last year, so we are really out of practice. I really have to pull it together. That weekend will be here before you know it!

                                Hope everyone has great rides this weekend!!!!! And stays warm!
                                Last edited by TarheelJD; Feb. 1, 2013, 07:09 PM. Reason: typo
                                Riding a horse is not a gentle hobby, to be picked up and laid down like a game of solitaire. It is a grand passion.... ~ Emerson

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                                • Tarheel JD-My daughter is an IVF baby, she knows she cost $10,000.00 for the cycle (she was cycle 2 with a surgery so it was much more) but she annouces in her sex ed classes that she is "an IVF baby and I was wanted very much".

                                  Your friends child will know that they are loved and wanted, one of the benefits of being hard to conceive.

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                                  • That is funny stolen virtue -- amazing what kids say! And yes, this baby will know that she was very much wanted, and is very much loved. In our close circle of friends here in Atlanta, everyone is a transplant with no close family near by. We call our group the Urban Family, and we do treat each other like family, warts and all. And the Urban Family is going to spoil the heck out of Baby Bugatti!

                                    I plan to have her on a pony as soon as her parents will let me!
                                    Riding a horse is not a gentle hobby, to be picked up and laid down like a game of solitaire. It is a grand passion.... ~ Emerson

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                                    • well, I found THE SADDLE. I went into a local tack shop just to pick up a hair net and pair of socks (penguins on them!) and they had sitting, with a little halo of angel light on it (perhaps that bit is my imagination) a perfect, like it was made for my butt, very good condition county innovation. I bought it on the spot, for a very fair price. Totally happy and cannot wait to ride!
                                      Originally posted by PeanutButterPony
                                      you can shackle your pony to a lawn chair at the show...so long as its in a conservative color.

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                                      • Congrats Alterageous - enjoy it!

                                        Tarheel - I have not run into the teenager lately, I think she is riding earlier, which is fine by me and most of the rest of us who ride after work.

                                        Hope to get my lesson in tomorrow, just depends on the temp. Stay warm everyone!
                                        http://fromdressagehorsetocowpony.blogspot.com/

                                        "I am still under the impression that there is nothing alive quite so beautiful as a thoroughbred horse." -- John Galsworthy

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                                        • Originally posted by Alterageous View Post
                                          well, I found THE SADDLE. I went into a local tack shop just to pick up a hair net and pair of socks (penguins on them!) and they had sitting, with a little halo of angel light on it (perhaps that bit is my imagination) a perfect, like it was made for my butt, very good condition county innovation. I bought it on the spot, for a very fair price. Totally happy and cannot wait to ride!
                                          I love purchases like this.... You went to buy a hairnet, probably the cheapest item in the store and came out with a saddle, probably the most expensive! My favourite is when my mom and I went to "look" in the pet store when I was about 10 for hamster stuff and came out with...A PUPPY. The SPCA had a stand outside.

                                          TarheelJD - That would be me. *hangs head in shame*. Thanks for the sum up though, it really does help to hear from actual people rather than making guesses based off barns website. And I have no idea about regular vet bills so all that stuff helps too (when I was younger my parents dealt with the vet, yes I was lucky).

                                          Anyway. moving on. I didn't ride yesterday - was ridiculously windy & crappy. Trail ride got cancelled yesterday and today due to weather (though today is fine...I guess my Scottish idea of fine and Wilmington's idea of fine are two very different things!). May go out and ride later this afternoon; I'm going out tomorrow to meet the TBs owner so that'll be fun .
                                          "Choose to chance the rapids, and dare to dance the tides" - Garth Brooks
                                          "With your permission, dear, I'll take my fences one at a time" - Maggie Smith, Downton Abbey

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