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  • I'm new to this thread/board and so glad to see others in the same boat, although I haven't had the time to read the whole thread yet. Three kids and a husband leaves little time for things like reading! I just got back into riding after nearly 20 years off, my 5-year-old daughter wanted to take lessons so when she started I couldn't resist getting back into it. After two lessons, as luck would have it, a wonderful Zangersheide jumper came to our trainer to be sold and my loving husband agreed to purchase him for me. It's been a month and I get so discouraged that I'm not the fearless teenager I once was. I plan to compete in low adult jumpers next season and I'm already stressing about the nerves. Plus my body isn't as lean and flexible as it once was.

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    • Welcome, kelsma03!!!

      Happy New Year to all. I actually got on my horse today for the first time in about a month (one thing and another). It was not a long ride (late night/early morning LOL), but it was a ride. There was even a New Year's Day appearance from the Invisible Monster that Lives in the Woods, which resulted in a spook, but I rode it. After being off for the better part of a month, needless to say, the boy had his TB brain in, but he was pretty darn good considering the monster, the wind, etc.
      And nothing bad happened!

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      • Kelsma03, welcome! I understand your nervousness, just remember to take things slow and enjoy the ride There's no rush to the finish line.

        Happy New Year's! I hope everyone up North is staying warm

        Sooo...my patience and persistence has paid off, I think! I drove 260 miles each direction (500+ round trip) today to see a horse that I fell in love with. I LOVE everything about him. He has some health things that are minor which require no maintenance, but they make him unsuitable for what the owner had in mind so he went up for sale. Did I say I love him? He's exactly what I'm looking for in every way, and has the best personality. He's so quiet and lovable, and he's a dream to ride... More details to come as things get finalized, and if all things go according to plan he's going to be home here in 11 days. I can't wait!!

        I haven't had any riding since I got sick with the flu, which has been almost a month now. Tomorrow I'll get back in the saddle and help work off some of these holiday pounds!

        I made out like a bandit at Horseman's Outlet while home for the holidays, and I got a used but like-new Mattes sheepskin half pad for $60 and a set (front/hind) of white Eskadrons for $50. Steal! Also got a pair of the black sticky stirrup grip pads and a pair of stirrup leathers for Christmas, so I am excited to use those too

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        • Hooray, Pancakes - that's wonderful. Can't wait to see pictures!!!!!
          And nothing bad happened!

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          • I'm feeling whiney so pardon my mini-rant about this dreadful weather. I absolutely HATE winter...can't seem to ever get warm unless I sit in the truck, parked in full sun with the heat set at 90. I have a really, REALLY difficult time being motivated to go outside. The cold on top of the cracked rib, then the rain & swamplike conditions....well, my plan to get on did not come to fruition. I need to embrace a Nike attitude...oh well.

            Today we're off to Dover for some Xmas exchanges & a new helmet for me as the hunt cap just ain't gonna cut it now that I'm embracing "fossils over fences." LOL One of my old friends is sending me her big TB mare for a time so I've got a new ride coming. Mare is a a BIG bodied 16.3+...I'm excited but nervous having gotten used to the little Connie X mare. I don't feel as brave. What's that country song from way back? I'm not as good as I once was, but I'm as good once, as I ever was...well, let's hope so if the big mare decides to do any spooking hard business. I should also pick up some Sadltite! HAHA

            Warm wishes to everyone...well, wishes for warmth, actually!! Trot on and stay warm!!

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            • I feel you, Finzean - I hate winter too - even though I am in Florida. It's a whopping 46 right now. We had planned to ride this morning, but too cold.
              And nothing bad happened!

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              • Welcome Kelsma03. Care to share any pics of your new "pony"?

                Pancakes, AWESOME! Can't wait to hear more about your new guy. How exciting.

                Jaslyn, congrats on riding the spook. The more you do, the easier it feels.

                Finzean, have fun with the new big mare!

                I'm finally getting over my monster cold and on Tuesday I get this cast off and get a walking cast! There is light at the end of the tunnel. Can't wait to ride.
                “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
                ¯ Oscar Wilde

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                • I am sort of a re-rider, though I have been for a year. Multiple things have held me back/slowed me down.

                  I've been working on re-building the muscle memory for properly posting and jumping. I got really decent at sitting the trot over the past year but my trainer taught me to over-post by a lot. I've been working on controlling the movement and keeping me upper body at a nice 30 degree angle in front of the vertical (I'm too far forward right now). It's tough. My dad has pictures of me riding when I was younger and I looked so much better with my equitation back then. I really do feel like I'm starting from scratch

                  I need to ride a lot more often than I have been, but that's mostly thanks to winter.

                  The other day I sat through a spook where the horse took off at a full on gallop. I did lose my stirrups and come out of the saddle and onto the horses neck but in less than two seconds I pulled myself back into position. Then I circled her around the thing that made her spook at a trot until she calmed down and paid more attention to the inside of the ring instead of what was scary and outside.

                  I'm proud of myself for that. I have sat through a few temper tantrums as well. I've also been riding a four-year-old who doesn't always quite understand what I'm asking him. Horses are so fine-tuned to movement that I make slight mistakes and he ends up off, or at least that's what I feel is going on. His owner who I ride him for thinks he just doesn't understand what's being asked yet and is still guessing. I think he's too smart and is being ultra specific Funnily enough I have an easier time riding him and a 3-year-old filly than the 7-year-old broke, calm mare I leased last year. The mare was too calm... I could make mistakes left and right and never pay the price for it.

                  My riding's improved a lot since I started riding the greenies consistently. I keep calling myself green but the trainer and owners tell me not to. Ah well. I'm green until I can post the trot without over posting and sit the canter using my seat instead of my shoulders.

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                  • Welcome ladyfreckles! We can be sort of neighbors, my son lives in Seattle! I know what you mean about the smart ones - one of the horses that taught me so very much, was actually, size wise, a pony. But knew more about being ridden and being ridden properly than anything I have ever been on. Do it right and it he was a total joy. Do it wrong, and while he was not mean or ugly, he just wouldn't do what you thought you were going to do. Look at jump - he would run out. Lean too far forward and he would rush. Great teacher!
                    And nothing bad happened!

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                    • Originally posted by jaslyn1701 View Post
                      Welcome ladyfreckles! We can be sort of neighbors, my son lives in Seattle! I know what you mean about the smart ones - one of the horses that taught me so very much, was actually, size wise, a pony. But knew more about being ridden and being ridden properly than anything I have ever been on. Do it right and it he was a total joy. Do it wrong, and while he was not mean or ugly, he just wouldn't do what you thought you were going to do. Look at jump - he would run out. Lean too far forward and he would rush. Great teacher!
                      These are my favorite kinds of horses! I suspect my Ollie has a bit of this in him; as I become a better rider, some of his quirks are going away. Either that or he's so dumb that he doesn't KNOW what to do unless very precisely asked, haha!
                      Blog chronicling our new eventing adventures: Riding With Scissors

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                      • Welcome, ladyfreckles. Sounds like you're well on your way to getting back to your riding shape! Good job on sitting the power spook. I hate those!

                        My current horse is somewhat of a horse that needs good riding. He's not hard for me to ride, but I have had to learn how to ride HIM. I now find him easy, but I'm reminded that he's not an easy ride whenever someone else gets on him and tells me so. He may not be perfect, but he's perfect for me! This is the first horse I've had in many, many years that I've really loved. He's special.
                        “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
                        ¯ Oscar Wilde

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                        • Yay Pancakes. Can't wait to hear more!

                          Finzean - I loathe the cold too! Dreading having to brave it tomorrow!

                          Welcome ladyfreckles!
                          Riding a horse is not a gentle hobby, to be picked up and laid down like a game of solitaire. It is a grand passion.... ~ Emerson

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                          • Originally posted by jaslyn1701 View Post
                            Welcome ladyfreckles! We can be sort of neighbors, my son lives in Seattle! I know what you mean about the smart ones - one of the horses that taught me so very much, was actually, size wise, a pony. But knew more about being ridden and being ridden properly than anything I have ever been on. Do it right and it he was a total joy. Do it wrong, and while he was not mean or ugly, he just wouldn't do what you thought you were going to do. Look at jump - he would run out. Lean too far forward and he would rush. Great teacher!
                            Yay, neighbors!

                            I think horses like that are good teachers. It's a balance, though. Some green horses can just be nutcases under saddle that quickly get out of control if you don't get it. I know some broke horses like that too, though. The trainer trusts me to ride them because if the situation did get out of hand I would be able to handle it without getting angry or scared into doing nothing. I might not have he best seat or balance but I for some reason have a knack for dealing with green horses. It gets them used to a less balanced seat without putting someone who doesn't know what to do on them.

                            I'm guessing my ability with that comes from the years of riding I had beforehand. I "know" how to deal with those situations it's just a matter of muscle memory. Most riders who look the same as me in the saddle would not have any idea what to do if a horse started bucking (and I've sat quite a few of those over the last for months ).

                            That being sad, I'm a little annoyed that none of the trainers I work with (2 different barns) will put me on a lunge line. They don't think I need it but I just know if I got on a line for a few days I'd fix the issues I had at the posting trot.

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                            • Happy 2013 everyone, and welcome to new group posters! Add me to the list of people who hate the cold. I've been riding regularly thanks to duo-fold undies, and some toe warmers. Today was my first whole (w/t/c/j) lesson on my horse since his injury. We (and I mean HE) has a lot to work on. The "go" button is rusty. The "keep going" mechanism does not work well. The "canter on after the jump" program needs to be re-installed. And the "you mean I have to WORK?!?" attitude has got to go. At least he was quiet! So we will spend January re-installing buttons and working on general fitness. I'm not too concerned because we were in the indoor. Trainer is going slowly, and horse's job is to be an adult ammy packer, so we want to bring him safely back to full work. I think he would have had a lot more get-up-and-go if we were in the outdoor ring, but it was frozen. We also have his feed cut way back, and can increase it to add some energy. It's only been 10 days since he started trotting some low jumps, but he's staying sound. So far, so good. Glad to have 2012 behind us.
                              It's 2017. Do you know where your old horse is?

                              www.streamhorsetv.com -- website with horse show livestream listings and links.

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                              • Hello, everyone! I haven't been posting lately, but I have been reading, so I know what everyone has been up to! Pancakes, CONGRATULATIONS on the new boy! I know we're all keeping our fingers crossed that things work out this time! Can't wait to hear all about him and to see pictures!

                                Welcome to all the new folks! We have a very good group here, nice and supportive!

                                I rode today and had a scary experience. After riding in the ring, I took Sky outside the ring to ride a little loop around the edge of the farm (as I often do) to relax and get her used to being outside the ring. Today, a kid on a four-wheeler came barreling down the dirt road toward me. I saw him before he saw me, and I didn't know what to do--there was no place to go--so I just stopped. He came flying around a turn at top speed, his vehicle making all kinds of noise, saw me, and stopped dead missing us by no more than ten feet. Sky wheeled around and started to bolt--she made about three or four gigantic leaps before I was able to stop her. Fortunately I stayed on. I was able to turn to face the kid even though Sky was still terrified. He turned off his engine. I was upset with him, but I will say that his face was as white as a sheet as he realized I could have been killed. I calmly told him to stay where he was--he nodded--and coaxed Sky by him and walked on. After I turned the corner, I yelled back at the kid that he could turn his engine back on and go, but he waited a few more minutes before doing so. I don't think he will forget this experience in a hurry. I sure hope Sky forgets it, though! I am hoping to eventually get her to enjoy trail riding.
                                I heard a neigh. Oh, such a brisk and melodious neigh as that was! My very heart leaped with delight at the sound. --Nathaniel Hawthorne

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                                • Ugh, Dewey! I HATE those d@mn atvs and the motos.. Our best trails some 20 years ago were taken over by mtn bikers and I'm not sure that wasn't worse b/c you never even heard them coming. Ware anything on wheels! I hope the next ride is a little more peaceful.

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                                  • I had a similar experience this summer Dewey - but not as scary as yours. We heard a couple of those ATVs revving their engines and tearing around on the other side of the fence from our barn's back pasture where we were hacking around. We never actually saw them, but given how loud it was, they had to have been right on the other side of the trees. My horse and I were both freaked out, as were 2 of the horses we were with. I was shaking! I got off and we walked back, and I did not ride in the pasture for quite some time. I have still only been back there a handful of times since.

                                    Glad things are going so well with Snickers, pony4me. I know how relieved you must be.

                                    Had my first ride of the year on Tajar (for the new folks - pronounced like "badger" but with a "t") today, and he did really well. A few moments of testing me to see if I really was going to make him work, but not too bad. Some very nice cantering. The weather actually wasn't too bad. Got up to about 50 degrees, and there was no wind at all.

                                    ladyfreckles - I would be really aggravated about the reluctance to allow you lunge line lessons as well. In fact, I plan on having a lunge line lesson on one of my trainer's been there, done that horses tomorrow so I can concentrate on my leg. We do this quite often, when I have a specific equitation issue I want to work on, and find it very helpful. My trainer attended riding school in England and is BHS certified, and they worked their students on lunge lines a lot. I don't understand what your trainers' issue with it is?
                                    Riding a horse is not a gentle hobby, to be picked up and laid down like a game of solitaire. It is a grand passion.... ~ Emerson

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                                    • Originally posted by TarheelJD View Post
                                      I had a similar experience this summer Dewey - but not as scary as yours. We heard a couple of those ATVs revving their engines and tearing around on the other side of the fence from our barn's back pasture where we were hacking around. We never actually saw them, but given how loud it was, they had to have been right on the other side of the trees. My horse and I were both freaked out, as were 2 of the horses we were with. I was shaking! I got off and we walked back, and I did not ride in the pasture for quite some time. I have still only been back there a handful of times since.

                                      Glad things are going so well with Snickers, pony4me. I know how relieved you must be.

                                      Had my first ride of the year on Tajar (for the new folks - pronounced like "badger" but with a "t") today, and he did really well. A few moments of testing me to see if I really was going to make him work, but not too bad. Some very nice cantering. The weather actually wasn't too bad. Got up to about 50 degrees, and there was no wind at all.

                                      ladyfreckles - I would be really aggravated about the reluctance to allow you lunge line lessons as well. In fact, I plan on having a lunge line lesson on one of my trainer's been there, done that horses tomorrow so I can concentrate on my leg. We do this quite often, when I have a specific equitation issue I want to work on, and find it very helpful. My trainer attended riding school in England and is BHS certified, and they worked their students on lunge lines a lot. I don't understand what your trainers' issue with it is?
                                      They just don't think I need it. I *never* understood that mentality. I'm leaving one of the barns soon (they don't jump... and my passion is H/J). The other I'm still considering while I juggle job offers to go work at a couple other places in exchange for lessons and board. The H/J barn said they'd do it but they kept forgetting.

                                      I'm a lunge line fanatic. Last summer I saw a huge improvement from just 3 lessons on it. Because I haven't been on the line I've been using my hands for balance. Luckily once the whole barn thing gets suited out I'll find someone. if not... I'll be posting ads asking around for who'd be willing to do it.

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                                      • I love lunge line lessons! Gives me a chance to work on me without having to worry about the pony. And, because my trainer is in charge of steering, keeps me from being handsy and makes me use my seat more.
                                        And nothing bad happened!

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                                        • So I finally managed a lesson today! After barely riding at all this week I was worried we'd be awful, but we weren't :-D. We did a mini 2'6 course including a swedish oxer and he was fabulous! Trainers want us to do the jumpers at a local C show in a few weeks, aaahhhh!! Duke's never been to a show before and I haven't been to one in years, and never for the jumpers, so I'm glad we're starting low. 2'6-2'9 felt huge today though! Anyway I'm excited, and I think Duke will love it - his little ears prick straight forward when we jump, and he loves having an audience.
                                          "Choose to chance the rapids, and dare to dance the tides" - Garth Brooks
                                          "With your permission, dear, I'll take my fences one at a time" - Maggie Smith, Downton Abbey

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