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Can we have an adult re-rider support group?

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  • Cute pictures Event4Life! Thanks for sharing them.

    As you can tell by my COTH name, I am partial to NC. I spent all of my undergrad and grad school years there.
    Riding a horse is not a gentle hobby, to be picked up and laid down like a game of solitaire. It is a grand passion.... ~ Emerson

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    • Sorry if this isn't where I belong, but I thought I might find someone thats going through what i'm going through now.
      Not so sure I'm a re-rider, as through out the 30 years I've been riding, I've taken planned breaks, and no so planned breaks. For the last 10 years I've been riding steady, only with a coach the last 5.
      But this year I've had to take two unplanned breaks. One 6 months ago when I was behind my horse and accidentally spooked him. Got double barrelled twice and ended up with internal organ bruising (we got me in the pelvis) and two broken ribs (from being slammed against the wall). It was on the ground learned my lesson, and have ensured now I know for certain my horse is aware if I go behind him. That had me off for 12 weeks. Then I just started to get back into lessons, started jumping again at the 2'6 height where we had left off before the last injury.

      And then due to a bunch of stupid things, my horse bronced me off on Saturday and I ended up rebreaking those ribs, damaging my spleen and severe deep muscle bruising in my tailbone, lower back and hip. So now I'm on bed rest.

      This dump (and I probably have over 50 dumps in my lifetime of riding) scared me. And it terrified my 19 year old son, and non horsey hubby.

      So we have my coach putting 60 days on him, and I've promised to buy a vest - although I'm thinking the air vests would have worked on my last 10 falls to protect me more then the standard vests. Expensive but I don't bounce any longer.

      Now jumping I LOVE(d). But now as I lie here in bed trying to heal, looking at all sorts of video's of ugly dumps (as I was researching vests) I have to say I suddenly am not sure I want to ride anymore. And that scares me more then anything. When we spoke to my coach yesterday I was thrilled to get a plan in place for my horse, and even the discussion of the vest made me feel so reassured, but now I'm just sitting here thinking - this is a crap load of money, and I am so sore, I'm kinda scared. I keep thinking, its not so much the riding that scares me, but now if I'm jumping it does scare me again.

      I know its early, but I don't want to focus on the fear - I'm not sure if I should just make little mini goals for myself, or just change everything - I'm not a pretty enough rider to really do well in hunters or dressage, although its not like I'm out trying for the Canadian team.

      Has anyone gone through this? What did you do?

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      • Bigbutt:

        You are not alone. I took a bad fall in the summer of 2010 and ended up with a broken collar bone. My initial post on COTH right after that was basically "oh Lord, I am too old, and don't bounce, and I have so many people that count on me, that I don't think I am going to be able to ride anymore." I was on drugs, and in pain, and worried about how people at work would be able to cover for me while I got better. I was seriously feeling sorry for myself!

        The best advice I received from other COTHers was to take some time to let myself heal before making any assumptions about what the future would hold, and just take it one step at a time when coming back from the injury. Your whole mindset will be different once you feel better physically.

        You may have some apprehension about riding again once you are physically able, but you may not (or it may be less than you think). There are many books, DVDs, CDs, etc. that can help you through that. I listened to Jane Savoie's Freedom From Fear series when I started riding again, and I found it helpful. I won't paint too rosey a picture, I still have some apprehension from that fall and broken bone, but the great fun days far outweigh the "bad."

        As far as the images in your head from vest shopping, try not to dwell on those. Those are, by their nature, worst case scenarios. When you go to drive your car, you don't dwell on all the bad accidents you have seen, right? Riding is a dangerous sport, but you could get hurt doing anything in everyday life too.

        For now, just take care of yourself.
        Riding a horse is not a gentle hobby, to be picked up and laid down like a game of solitaire. It is a grand passion.... ~ Emerson

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        • Originally posted by TarheelJD View Post
          Bigbutt:

          The best advice I received from other COTHers was to take some time to let myself heal before making any assumptions about what the future would hold, and just take it one step at a time when coming back from the injury. Your whole mindset will be different once you feel better physically.

          As far as the images in your head from vest shopping, try not to dwell on those. Those are, by their nature, worst case scenarios. When you go to drive your car, you don't dwell on all the bad accidents you have seen, right? Riding is a dangerous sport, but you could get hurt doing anything in everyday life too.

          For now, just take care of yourself.
          Totally AGREE! I think a lot of us have battle bruises and old injuries and where in we once had that invincibility gene, we now have the falibility [sic] gene. I broke 4 ribs, then only rode about 3 times before retiring my aged mare & am only now - 5 years later - getting back in the saddle. I gotta be honest and say that despite my physical limitations of 2 really bad old injuries that give me a devil of a time....it's the mental stuff that really beats me down. For now, I'm sticking to my safety net Connemara pony. I'm sure as I get my seat back & get more confident things are going to change...and I'm going to celebrate every teensie little victory!!

          OH - and I think you should focus on the GOOD YouTube videos where no one train wrecks. Happy Healing!!

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          • Event4Life - "Suffering Pines" is really Southern Pines. As a former working student, we coined that name for the summer days when the heat index was 115 and the sand hills served as mirrors bouncing back every bit of heat at us!!

            The Foundation is Walthour Moss Foundation right on Hwy. 1. Lots of folks go there to hack out/trail ride. Back in the day, Southern Pines Horse Trials was there...there used to be a h/j schooling series in a field over on May St. I'm not sure what all happens there anymore since Carolina Horse Park was built. There was something about the trees in your photos that made me think you might live nearby. Was going to give you a shout if/when I head that way to wander around the foundation on my little grey mare.

            For all that - we should put together a spring time COTH NC "trail ride" there....
            Last edited by Finzean; Dec. 7, 2012, 09:09 AM. Reason: $ is not a 4

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            • Originally posted by Finzean View Post
              Event4Life - "Suffering Pines" is really Southern Pines. As a former working student, we coined that name for the summer days when the heat index was 115 and the sand hills served as mirrors bouncing back every bit of heat at us!!

              The Foundation is Walthour Moss Foundation right on Hwy. 1. Lots of folks go there to hack out/trail ride. Back in the day, Southern Pines Horse Trials was there...there used to be a h/j schooling series in a field over on May St. I'm not sure what all happens there anymore since Carolina Horse Park was built. There was something about the trees in your photos that made me think you might live nearby. Was going to give you a shout if/when I head that way to wander around the foundation on my little grey mare.

              For all that - we should put together a spring time COTH NC "trail ride" there....
              hahaha in the back of my head I was thinking, "Does she mean SOUTHERN pines?" I do know where that is, lol.

              I'm pretty sure the jump series is called foundation something or another, but can't remember...either way, a ride in the forest sounds great :-D. I'll have to see if the BO fancies it too because she has a trailer!
              "Choose to chance the rapids, and dare to dance the tides" - Garth Brooks
              "With your permission, dear, I'll take my fences one at a time" - Maggie Smith, Downton Abbey

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              • Bigbutt, welcome to the group. I am so sorry you are busted - heal quickly. As the others have said, get well first, then see where you want to go. I am lucky, have not managed to break anything from my involvement with horses, it's the mental stuff that gets me most of the time. The What If monster that is clenched on my shoulder. Some days all I can do is groom and let my horse graze; some days I just walk and trot around in the ring (my safety net - at least mentally), and then there are days when I can leave the net and ride in the jump field with no fences!!!!

                Take it one day at a time - and we are always here to help.
                And nothing bad happened!

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                • Thank you everyone,

                  Part of me knows that this is just the physical pain thats making me feel like this. I know I need to give myself time to heal on this, I'm just very impatient!
                  And lying in my bed is definately wasn't part of my plan.

                  Thank you everyone for your kind words.

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                  • Welcome, BigButt. Everyone has given you SUCH GOOD ADVICE so far, I am not sure I have a lot to add. I will re-emphasize though, that you should think about healing first, get physically better, and then take things slow before making any final decisions about what the future will hold. I broke 3 ribs this past March and though I rode immediately afterwards, I never stopped thinking for months about that fall and it bugged me every time I got back up on the horse, even if just to walk around. These are serious animals. They can hurt you. But, you may find that you can't help but want to get back up there and start again. I think a vest is a good investment for the future, just in case, but mentally you have to move past the events and injuries and take each day as a new one. Caution is good, but don't write anything off just yet. You will definitely feel better as you heal and gain more confidence in yourself. Get better soon! Lots of advil and rest!

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                    • Event4Life, VERY cute. Looks like you have a winner there! Enjoy.

                      Bigbutt (I feel mean calling you that since I don't know you ). Like others have said, just take it each day. Too early to make a decision. I know how you feel. I'm in the middle of resting a broken ankle. I've had a cast on for 5 weeks, and still have 7 to do. It's very frustrating. Good luck.

                      I don't always get to comment on everyone's post, but I DO read them all. Hope everyone is doing well.
                      “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
                      ¯ Oscar Wilde

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                      • Originally posted by Event4Life View Post
                        Ask and you shall receive!...

                        https://sphotos-a.xx.fbcdn.net/hphot...78370733_n.jpg ....and this is why we'll never do the hunters! LOL And ugh I need a bigger saddle.

                        https://sphotos-b.xx.fbcdn.net/hphot...19704194_n.jpg so stikin' cute. I am so glad I found this horse :-D
                        Wow! He is cute! It also helps that he looks just like Oliver in the face.
                        The dude abides ...

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                        • BB try reading some equestrian sports psychology books. I had a huge anxiety issue in the show ring (read complete inability to think or function as soon as I walked through the ingate) and my trainer suggested these books. There are a few chapters on fear and coming back after a fall or injury. I can't tell you the exact titles or authors but I ordered them off Amazon so you can just search on there. It will give you something else to do while you're lying in bed healing

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                          • Originally posted by Opus1 View Post
                            Wow! He is cute! It also helps that he looks just like Oliver in the face.
                            Now I'm going to need to see a picture of Oliver because I'm late to the game and have missed previous ones youve probably posted! I love horses that have that "pony" face. Dukes 15.1ish but totally has a pony personality, in the best way, & I LOVE it.

                            Thanks for all the compliments on him everyone. I won't tell him because he's conceited enough already :-P.

                            BB - I think everyones covered it nicely, but I would emphasize TAKE THE TIME YOU NEED TO HEAL and FOLLOW YOUR DRs ORDERS. I had a fall that landed me in the hospital a few years ago. It was XC and put me off jumping for a very long time. I then took a break while at uni/year abroad so for nearly 4 years. I am just now getting back into jumping, though I have had a lot of fun on the flat. I spent one summer working at a guest ranch and took a course of polo lessons at uni, though spent most of that 4 years out of the saddle. I found Jane Savoie's books on fear are also useful.

                            When you do get cleared to ride, don't pressure yourself at all and maybe think outside the box. You can have a lot of fun learning something new, as I discovered.
                            "Choose to chance the rapids, and dare to dance the tides" - Garth Brooks
                            "With your permission, dear, I'll take my fences one at a time" - Maggie Smith, Downton Abbey

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                            • So despite my crazy right leg that I am tending to brace while doing ring work (imagine pressing down on the brake of your car/truck really hard! ick!)...

                              Our church is presenting an outdoor drama this weekend - Journey to Bethlehem - complete with shepherds, a marketplace, inn, village, wise men, critters, manger, etc. as well as a census taker and (drum roll) a Roman soldier on a well-humored bay mare. Yours truly will be riding the mare - both of us in costume. Requesting jingles in advance for an uneventful evening of "soldiering."

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                              • Bumknees, any update on your doggie?

                                Event4Life, great pictures! He is a cutie! And you look as though you are having so much fun!

                                BB, I don't have any advice to offer other than what the wise folks on this thread have already posted. I haven't had a bad fall since I started re-riding (knock on wood), but I am very conscious of my age especially since I ride a green, scaredy-cat mare. I did buy a vest after reading descriptions earlier in the thread of people's bad falls. For some time, I had been aware that I have been lucky. I bought a Racesafe vest from a tack shop in the UK after researching and deciding what kind of vest I wanted. They had many more fit options (and colors, if you care) than were available here, and I was able to buy an extra-small with a short back (good for me as I am only 5' tall). It only took a few rides to get used to it, and now I wear it every single ride. I even showed in it over fences! I wore it right over my show coat.

                                Anyway, here's a pic of me wearing my vest (bonus: you get to see how cute Sky is):

                                http://i841.photobucket.com/albums/z...kyJune2012.jpg
                                I heard a neigh. Oh, such a brisk and melodious neigh as that was! My very heart leaped with delight at the sound. --Nathaniel Hawthorne

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                                • Well he seems to be doing better. BUT I dont know if that is the drugs or if it is him actually doing better kwim.
                                  Last night for the first time in awhile he slept next to me like this close to me... every time I move to give my self room he would move that much closer. As if to say " dont move I need momy time" I moved until I was almost off dh's side of the bed and he was right there with me. And we have a king size bed if you dont take away for the dogs that have taken over most of it.
                                  He is eating again. Accrding to Ds who feeds the dogs because he goes to work at O'dark thirty he ate all of his breakfast this morning. So hopefully this is a good sign... Actuall his exact words were "he inhailed his breakfast this morning."...
                                  I have no illusions that this could be a temp. thing andit could be just the feel good effect ofthe drugs he is on. But I will take it if it means Ihave some good days to remember him by. It will still break my heart.. but I wll have them remember.. I can hope it is not but remember it is a posibilty..
                                  Friend of bar .ka

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                                  • That is wonderful news, bumknees! Let's hope he continues to improve.
                                    I heard a neigh. Oh, such a brisk and melodious neigh as that was! My very heart leaped with delight at the sound. --Nathaniel Hawthorne

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                                    • well the Piggie has made another step as if to say Im back "to normal" but I have seen enough anmials here who have seemed to have come back only to take a nose dive...
                                      He woke me up at 3this morning by barking.. and he has only one volune.. very very did I say very loud enough to wake the dead loud bark. And hm bouncing on my bed... So I had no choice but to wake up... and make my way down the dark hallto my DS door with Pig barking all the way.. I guess he likes to hear himself echo.. Pig sitting outside Ds door.. barking ( Ds feeds Piggie and other dogs in morning because he normally m-f sometimes sat) I knock get groan from DS which his dog took as "come in" so he went follwed by Pig followed by the "normal" growl"and"snap" between Pig and Dash( Ds dog) and Pig comes out barking at me as if to compian about Dash.
                                      Yup things appear normal but how long will they last.
                                      Friend of bar .ka

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                                      • bumknees that is GREAT news!! Jingles this new development STICKS and it's the legit on ramp for the road to recovery.

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                                        • OH - I'm checking in to report that I'm alive after my crazy decision to participate in our church's outdoor drama. I was a Roman soldier on a horse. I knew our little Penny was a solid citizen but this mare shocked everyone last night! Baby strollers, kids racing up to pet her, a dozen fire pits, torches, a stock trailer full of other 4 legged furries, hollering/screaming in the village marketplace...I could go on. I was worried if she wigged out I would become an inpatient, but she was great. It was good for me to work on my whacky right leg, too.

                                          Today the weather is pretty surreal for December. Going to do a little conditioning on the grey mare and maybe head back out to Bethlehem if these old bones can take it!!

                                          I hope everyone gets a chance to ride today!! Trot on!!

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