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Can we have an adult re-rider support group?

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  • I had a fantastic ride yesterday. The weather was BEAUTIFUL, nearly 70 so poor pony was hot hot hot. We kept it short - 1/2 an hour, and with lots of walking and only a short canter. The goal was to get a proper "working trot" before the end of the ride (He has a sticky, stiff western jog thats hard to work out of) while doing shapes etc. We accomplished that and he was trotting sooo nicely by the end of it we even got compliments from the girl and her mom who lease the BO's horse. They'd only seen me ride him once when I tried him, so it was nice of the mom to say he was "going really nicely." I'm still waiting to have a bad ride...lol....when is the honeymoon period over??
    "Choose to chance the rapids, and dare to dance the tides" - Garth Brooks
    "With your permission, dear, I'll take my fences one at a time" - Maggie Smith, Downton Abbey


    • Forecast today: 72 & sunny with a somewhat sweaty mare and an even sweatier old woman riding her. On the "to-do" list: continue to work on unbracing the old woman's right leg. Oh- and a lovely little hack in the woods to ice the cake.


      • Wow - SO MUCH to catch up on! Sorry it took me so long...

        Jaslyn - I'm SO happy you had such a good ride on your boy a week ago. Finn is such a character - I absolutely adore a horse with a big personality. Hahaha! I can just picture him going and getting his treat, then l saying, "Ok, Mom! Come walk me outside." And I know how you feel about the whole "monkey climbing a tree" thing. LOL I have that with my 2 adult horses. I've never been terribly flexible, so I always try to find the tallest place to mount from that I can. What a good boy Finn was to stand for you. He is a Wonder Horse! I'm continuing to look to you as an inspiration in conquering my own fear issues...

        Also, re: the horses lining up when you brought them in, isn't that incredible??? I've experienced stuff like that a few times, too. I don't know what it is - I swear horses are WAY more intelligent and intuitive than some people give them credit for.

        PaintedHunter - Ollie sounds so adorable! Hahaha! I have a friend with a super-playful TB that does stuff like what Ollie does with the feeder. I'm a little sad that none of mine are that playful, but my baby horse does have a Rubber Chicken that she plays with. It is her favorite. It used to squeak, so she would step on it again and again to get it to make noise. However, she quickly wore out the squeaker. Then she started tossing it into the barn aisle. I distinctly remember one time when I was grooming her and I forgot to grab treats (God forgive me!), so I walked to my trunk to get them. As I rounded the corner, I heard a "thud" so I poked my head around. She had tossed her rubber chicken into the aisle, and was looking at me like, "Hey! You didn't finish scratching my itchy spots yet! Get back here!!" I couldn't help but lol on that one.

        Pancakes - Many congrats on the course you jumped!!! It is amazing what you can learn in a year, isn't it?? I can't believe how much I've learned since I started riding again 7 years ago - it's shocking!

        Event4Life - All in good time is right! Adult muscles seem to take more time to get used to things than young, developing muscles. But you *will* get there! Time and patience are an adult re-rider's best friends. It does make it so much easier when you're having good lessons, though, right? Many congrats on getting your boy to trot on so nicely!

        Opus - It's always nice to know your horse is being well taken care of and kept in work even when you can't be there. Lucky you to have such great people around you! I always know my horses' care is in great hands, but I have nobody to work them when I'm not there. So, they've become as much "weekend warriors" as I have.

        Bumknees - Congrats on getting all the pieces together! I hope you have a fantastic ride! I'll be eagerly awaiting an update from you to tell us all about it.

        ParadoxFarm - You're so sweet. Thank you SO MUCH for the encouragement - I really need that right now. It's easier to make myself do things when I know I'm not silly for feeling the way I do, and when I know there are people behind me (even if it's online). Also, good luck with treating the ulcers. We (my BO and I) are pretty positive Velvet has ulcers, which we believe is part of why she acts up here and there under saddle, and also part of why she has become the Colic Queen in recent months. So, we're trying to treat them. Hopefully we can both get our horses fixed up re: the ulcers soon. So sorry to hear about the ringbone, though. I don't know much about it, but I'm guessing that a mild case is not too bad of a thing?

        Finzean - Woo-hoo! Sounds like lovely riding weather! Have a wonderful ride, and please don't forget to come back and tell us all about it.
        ~*~*~*~Founding member of the Spotted Saddlebred Pals Clique~*~*~*~

        The equine love of my life: Gabriel
        4/6/1993 - 8/23/2015 ...RIP my big, beautiful boy <3


        • So here I am without ANY riding info to report. Too much gun fire around the farm - yes, there's a story but it will give a detailed impression that life around the farm looks like an episode of Jerry Springer x Duck Dynasty x Andy Griffith Show (the episode where Opie kills the mama robin). I'd prefer to share just that info and everyone can assume what they want and invent their own details!! HA!

          In the barn, however, we were able to do some clipping and cleaning and grooming, and I moved the horse trailer to a new parking space in front of the barn. What a glamorous & successful day. Tomorrow has another phenom weather forecast...I can only pray for a farewell to arms...


          • Supposed to be in the 70s AGAIN tomorrow. Poor pony has such a fuzzy coat that I'm going to get out and ride as early as I can.

            ClassyRide - Thanks! Sounds like you are making progress with yours despite being so far away from them....slow and steady wins the race .

            Finzean - haha, we used to live in a hunting heavy area when I was growing up so I hear ya! We were ok to ride in the ring during the weekdays (though it was exciting when the fox hunt passed through in the midst of saturday lessons LOL) but trail riding was only allowed on Sunday and even then only with bright clothes and being as obnoxiously loud as possible. Hope you have a more productive day tomorrow...

            Funnily enough my muscles aren't nearly as sore as they were when I last "rerode" the summer I worked at the guest ranch. I think thats because I'm a lot more in shape now - that was in the middle of college! I'm also finding lessons way more productive than I did when I was younger. Haven't yet worked that one out, though I think its partly because I'm paying for them myself now so I'm determined to get more out of them.
            "Choose to chance the rapids, and dare to dance the tides" - Garth Brooks
            "With your permission, dear, I'll take my fences one at a time" - Maggie Smith, Downton Abbey


            • Bumkees: Wow! I can't believe how far you've come. I remember back when it first happened and now your typing is so much better and you're even going back to riding again! I'm very, very happy for you.

              Classyride: I'm going to be battling loose leg syndrome for the next several weeks, I'm afraid. And I hate the feeling. Especially after having a pretty decent leg when I stopped riding regular back in the summer.

              Event4Life: I'm debating on whether to have my trainer/BM give my guy a medium/high trace clip for the winter. Right now, we have highs in the upper 70s, although this will probably drop to mid-60s within a week. And if this winter is anything like last winter,

              Originally posted by jaslyn1701 View Post
              Horses never cease to amaze me!
              At our barn, about 1/2 to 2/3 of the horses know which stall is theirs and walk/trot off to it when released from the back field. There's one or two you have to watch, but most are really good about it. (Then there are those who can't be trusted, obviously.)


              * I have a lesson for tomorrow that I need to use before I lose it. I'm 90% sure it will be walk-trot with some poles. I may or may not decide to do some cantering. It all depends on how my legs feel. Then again, I've found I'm entirely more confident the night before a lesson. I think it's because my lessons are in the AM and I'm half asleep and tired from the 50-mile drive. (I also still think if I had group lessons, I'd feel braver, or develop some sense of competition with other riders. Alas, these aren't available.)

              * I've finally decided to get some tall boots after the holidays. I've been looking at the Mountain Horse Richmond field boots since I have large (16-16.25") calves. And these have an extra 3/4 inch stretch which is comforting.
              Last edited by Opus1; Dec. 4, 2012, 12:51 AM. Reason: Sense not since. d'oh!
              The dude abides ...


              • Good point about the benefits of group lessons, Opus! There are usually three or four others in my lessons, ranging in age from 24 to 34, and I'm 57. Some times it's hard to keep up, but most of the time I'm ok. In retrospect, the group lessons have been the biggest single contributor to my riding success. There's always someone to encourage me, and to push me through the rough spots. Love my lesson buddies!
                It's 2018. Do you know where your old horse is?

                www.streamhorsetv.com -- website with horse show livestream listings and links.


                • I do understand why so many people prefer private lessons to group lessons. But for me I kind of need a little push -- be it a little competition, or not looking like an idiot in front of a crowd, etc. (Maybe even add a little enthusiasm.) Plus, it's always a bonus to see someone do something first, just to prove you're not going to die doing it.

                  Once the new year rolls around, and I go back to regular lessons, I plan on asking my trainer to be harder on me and not letting me slide. Because that's what usually happens.
                  The dude abides ...


                  • Hi, everyone, I haven't checked in for awhile, but I have been following the thread! I will just say "ditto" to Classyride's most recent post! She always does a good job of responding to everyone!

                    The weather here has been beautiful, and I had a lovely ride on Sunday. I am looking forward to going back this afternoon, although I have a ton of work to do first. It's the end of the semester, and I have to get students' research paper drafts back so they can revise in time to turn in their final drafts. It's always such a crunch.

                    I will just add that Bumknees has made amazing progress in every way. I am glad to see Opus posting again, and to jaslyn: I am so sorry you lost your friend Mojo.
                    I heard a neigh. Oh, such a brisk and melodious neigh as that was! My very heart leaped with delight at the sound. --Nathaniel Hawthorne


                    • I can wait for all my " stuff" to arrive.. Dh says " do not tell me about it I do not want to know.. I just know you are happy and that you are still in shock that you spent all that money on your self all at once.." What he means by that is that I never spend that much $$ on myself my family comes first and I come last and there is normally nothing left for 'me' spending.. Dispite my family trying to get me to do otherwise... So they are all happy I finally spent on my self.. shocked I did it, but happy I did.
                      Friend of bar .ka


                      • Originally posted by Opus1 View Post
                        Event4Life: I'm debating on whether to have my trainer/BM give my guy a medium/high trace clip for the winter. Right now, we have highs in the upper 70s, although this will probably drop to mid-60s within a week. And if this winter is anything like last winter,
                        I was having the clipping conversation with one of the other girls at the barn last week. As she was saying, the problem is its a lot of extra faff with constantly taking blankets on and off, especially as the climate here seems to change so much! My lease horse is at a small, "private" co-op and I just can't get out there enough to be a huge help with the blanket issue so unless his owner suggests clipping (and she doesn't do as much with him as I do, hence the part lease) I think I'll just have to put up with it.

                        I got out early enough today that it hadn't warmed up (actually seems to be a lot cooler today than forecast said) so was able to do a bit more.

                        pony4me - I used to love group lessons when I was younger for that reason - they were a huge confidence boost as long as I was with the right people. I'd totally do a group lesson now if there were enough people at the barn, but the most we'd manage would be a semi private.
                        "Choose to chance the rapids, and dare to dance the tides" - Garth Brooks
                        "With your permission, dear, I'll take my fences one at a time" - Maggie Smith, Downton Abbey


                        • Event4Life - I went out this morning and was deflated as it was pretty chilly. Luckily the day warmed up! It's just beautiful outside right now (unless you're a shaggy grey mare toting an old lady around - I swear I heard my little mare ASKING to be clipped!! haha)

                          On another note - I've decided that I cannot get my leg issue fixed in this old hunting saddle (it's an old Passier I used to foxhunt & ride x-ctry in). It just does NOTHING to help me keep my right leg underneath me. First I took away my irons (literally took them off the saddle). That was fine until I started to do some trot work and couldn't post my fat a$$ out of the tack...swear I felt like I was having a baby again!!! So I put my daughter's dressage saddle on the mare. Wasn't thrilled with the fit but thought, hmm, we'll give it a whirl, she'll let me know if it's absolutely dreadful - it's just a little ring work. HA! It was worse than dreadful. I hate saddle shopping because I have a budget (i know, boo hoo, Joy, shut up...) so that means beating the bushes until the right thing falls into my lap. The good part is all the fun field trips. Rocking B this weekend; Barn Door in Aberdeen next Monday or Tuesday.

                          Didn't get much done today but the gunfire had subsided and a bleh ride is better than nothing at all!


                          • Like Dewey I have been lurking around, but haven't had too much time to compose a wonderful, long response like ClassyRide. So, like Dewey, I will adopt CR's responses.

                            On the group lesson thing, I feel the same as Opus1. I like a mix of private an group lessons. The private lessons allow me to focus on me, and the group lessons give me push to do more/better.

                            It was a gorgeous weekend in Georgia last weekend, and I enjoyed my time at the barn, but it was too hurried thanks to other social obligations. I love the holidays, but Lord are they exhausting. I need to stop trying to say yes to everything, so I have some down time.
                            Riding a horse is not a gentle hobby, to be picked up and laid down like a game of solitaire. It is a grand passion.... ~ Emerson


                            • I lessoned today. And by lesson, I mean putter around at a walk-trot while catching up with my trainer. I won't be able to lesson again probably until the end of the month, with work and the holidays. But I told her that once January rolls in, I'll be out on Thursdays to practice ride, then out for lessons on Monday mornings. And I'll be aiming to do a show in March/April.

                              Originally posted by Event4Life View Post
                              My lease horse is at a small, "private" co-op and I just can't get out there enough to be a huge help with the blanket issue so unless his owner suggests clippingvI think I'll just have to put up with it.
                              Yeah, I probably wouldn't do it either in that situation. Blanketing comes with board at my barn, so it's not something I'd have to look after myself. Plus, I ride in N. Fla., so it doesn't get quite as cold, even if it does fluctuate like crazy sometimes.

                              The trainer and I were talking about it today, and he's been pretty sweaty during his lessons, so I went ahead and gave her the go ahead with a trace clip.
                              The dude abides ...


                              • Got to the barn for my lesson tonight, and noticed that the pony I usually ride was being tacked up by someone else for another lesson right before mine. Sometimes that happens, but I always feel bad for the horse when it does. So I asked my trainer if I could ride my horse (Mr. All Better) and do the flatwork part of the lesson. He agreed, and horse was awesome! Totally sound w/t/c both directions. So we had a great flatwork session, and then I watched the rest of the group jump. My horse isn't cleared for jumping yet, but he's been w/t/c for at least two full weeks now, and has totally unrestricted turnout, so clearing for jumping is next. He was a bit spunky at the canter because he has not cantered in a group for over a year. Fun lesson, and great to be back on my boy!
                                It's 2018. Do you know where your old horse is?

                                www.streamhorsetv.com -- website with horse show livestream listings and links.


                                • Yay, pony4me!!! I bet that felt really good!
                                  Riding a horse is not a gentle hobby, to be picked up and laid down like a game of solitaire. It is a grand passion.... ~ Emerson


                                  • way to go Pony4me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


                                    • Great news Pony4me! Glad he was feeling well and that you had fun! (Who do you ride with? You can pm me if you want.)
                                      “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
                                      ¯ Oscar Wilde


                                      • Glad to hear, Pony4Me!!


                                        Quick question, slightly off topic for the thread regulars and/or lurkers:

                                        How much do you spend on your BM/trainer's Xmas gift? You can PM me if you like, but now that I'm an owner and boarder and not just a student, I was curious.


                                        ETA: Sorry if it's tacky to asking about price specifics. You can always say X% of a month's board if you'd rather. Or ballpark it. I think I know what I want to get my trainer, but I don't want it to be too much, y'know?
                                        The dude abides ...


                                        • Opus1 -- I spend about $125 to $150 on each of my two trainers/instructors.
                                          Riding a horse is not a gentle hobby, to be picked up and laid down like a game of solitaire. It is a grand passion.... ~ Emerson