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  • Oh, and we also jumped 3 feet again yesterday! The others riding with me said I looked nice and balanced, even if I didn't feel it (darn heel keeps coming up...). Ollie absolutely LOVES to jump bigger - I think he feels a lot more challenged.
    Blog chronicling our new eventing adventures: Riding With Scissors


    • That's funny, PaintedHunter. They can be so goofy. We have to tie our fence feeders down. .

      And you know, the minute you buy a HORSE toy, he will hate it! Feeders and hay rings are much more fun.

      And congrats on the jumping! Awesome.
      Last edited by ParadoxFarm; Nov. 26, 2012, 12:00 PM. Reason: Add
      “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
      ¯ Oscar Wilde


      • Thanks

        I am fairly certain if we tied/bungeed, etc. the feeder to the fence, he'd just rip the fence rail off, ha! He's broken more than a few fence boards already, the silly man. And about scooting the hay ring around.....yeah, that's all he needs is to develop MORE NECK MUSCLES. Have you seen his neck and head?! But you're probably right about the toys!
        Blog chronicling our new eventing adventures: Riding With Scissors


        • SV - so sorry about DH's scary ride. That is one of my biggies - the attacking dogs and the OTTB lighting out for anywhere but there and leaving me as the sacrifice to the monsters.

          PH - I can so sympathize. Finn's blanket lives in a tote when it is not on his body - otherwise it becomes a toy. At night, when the horses get brought in, Finn's halter gets put on the hook in some sort of Gordian knot - otherwise it becomes a toy. His feed pan - a toy. One of the other boarders at the barn had to tie her tack trunk to her horse's stall - he liked to see if he could flip it over.

          We have a draft mare at the barn that likes to get IN the hay ring. When she first started doing it, we all kind of freaked out - how to get her out. Turns out she is very smart, she knows how to get in and she knows how to get out.

          Event4 - or should we start calling you Jumper4Life now? - way to go with your rides on Duke!

          Congrats on the 3ft jump PH!!!
          And nothing bad happened!


          • Jaslyn- Finn sounds like a character too! And Ollie gets HALF in the hay ring... he gets his front legs in to paw around the hay remnants, then rears himself out.
            Blog chronicling our new eventing adventures: Riding With Scissors


            • Finn is a character, and I suspect I made him that way. When I bought him, he wanted nothing to do with that warm and fuzzy stuff. Don't rub my head - ewww. Don't pat me, play with me - nothing. And, if you value your life, don't touch my ears. Now, I rub his head, scratch his butt (ooooh, do it more....), and rub his ears, still can't clip em though. He especially likes it when I stick my fingers in his ears (not) and gives me the "Moooooooommmmmmm" look. I call him my dorse - sometimes he just goes where I go, no lead or anything. I think my best dorse moment was one day I was heading to the ring to watch others ride and was turning him out to graze. Took him out, dropped his lead and headed for the ring gate. He gave up grass to come with me!!!

              We have had a few issues - he went through a very mouthy period. As in trying to parts of me in his mouth. Big no. The first time he did it, was in his stall and he got seriously growled at and smacked (turned his back as if to say, What? I didn't do nuthin). The second time was at the end of a ride, I was running up my near side stirrup and loosening the girth when he turned his head with teeth. Reins still over his neck, I grabbed under his chin and, yelling like a banshee, backed him all the way across the ring. It was so hard not to laugh at him - I am yelling and he is going backwards with the giraffe head and bugged eyeballs. Then I was done. Went and sat on the mounting block with him at the end of the reins - didn't even look at him. He snuck up, one foot at a time to put his head in my lap. I'm sowwy mom - I won't eat you any more. Any he hasn't.

              It is only now, after a couple of years, that I think he is making the connection that the treat fairy on the ground and the rider on his back are one and the same. At least the bulb is flickering....

              Should have clarified that the mare does the same with the hay ring - gets her front half in and owns it. But she doesn't rear out, she very carefully, since she went in on the low point, backs up and picks her giant feet up until she is out.

              Sorry, as you can tell, I can gush for pages on the wonder my MY horse!!!!
              And nothing bad happened!


              • I LOVE the sound of Finn! He sounds a lot like Ollie...he too will follow me anywhere (though I suspect it's for the hope of treats), and he is VERY mouthy. he usually will just take his lip and gum at you or the nearest anything- very orally fixated. The first few weeks though, I had to carry a crop and smack him every time he tried to mouth with teeth, as it was apparent no one had enforced ground manners with him.

                Ollie loves to play little games with me... like he will stick his head sideways between two fence rails and ask me to boop his nose. He takes his head out, and 15 seconds later puts it back and waits for the next boop.

                Sweet as can be. And very thoughtful- when I go stirrupless, he totally flicks his ears to check on me and slows himself down without me asking. He wants to make sure I don't fall off The one time I fell and it was his fault, he was HORRIFIED.
                Blog chronicling our new eventing adventures: Riding With Scissors


                • Yeah, the times I have come off Finn (not many thank goodness), he has never headed for the hills, just stands near me as if to say, ooops, that wasn't supposed to happen. The last one had to do with the invisible monster in the woods. I was doing a lesson with him, a large part of is attention was elsewhere. All of a sudden, he went one way and I didn't. Only thing I really remember was hearing my trainer yell, let go (I had a death grip on one rein). So I did and he just stood.

                  Finn is getting there, during our out in the middle of nowhere rides where the number of bad things that can happen are endless last weekend (my terminology not his) - he was very alert but listening. Before, he would kind of ignore me and, when he got tired of my trying to get him to listen, would either lean on the bit or chew on it, or do the really fast bouncy trot that is so very hard to even attempt to ride. Last weekend was so very different. No bit chewing, no leaning. I just realized that!
                  And nothing bad happened!


                  • Pancakes how are you doing?


                    • Event4Life welcome to the h/j land! The fences are just as exciting, just not as scary, haha. I'm sure your parents will approve

                      I love reading about Ollie and Finn! They sound like such characters. It's like I know them already It's the stuff out of the saddle that makes them such wonderful creatures to own, sometimes...

                      Well my horse search continues. I had a really good prospect lined up to go see today but because of my work schedule I couldn't go any earlier. She sold him yesterday What a bummer! There is nothing in my price range right now. Everything that is suitable for me that is what I'm looking for is $3000 above my price range. I guess I should just wait a little more until I get my 3rd quarter bonus when I can afford something nicer. It's sooooo frustrating. There are plenty of horses in the $10k range, but nothing <$8k at the moment that I can find time in my schedule to go see before it gets sold. I will just have to be patient.

                      I rode my lease horse again this week and he was great! We jumped a course on Monday that was 2'6" and included a 3' vertical and I wasn't scared!!! I was more nervous about the 2'6" oxer. I have pictures and a video of it too which I hope to have soon. I'm working on my 2-point and jumping position more. I need to push BACK when I jump and keep my center of gravity over my saddle instead of jumping more ahead. Looking back to a year ago I'm leaps and bounds above where I was, so I'm not getting frustrated at not "getting" this position and muscle memory yet. And my confidence is increasing!

                      The weather here is GLORIOUS. Mid 70s and sunny but a cool breeze everyday...it makes it fun and easy to go riding anytime during the day.

                      Smartpak came through today too...my half-chaps from Tredstep broke at the zipper on one leg, and they're sending me a replacement pair today! Yay Smartpak


                      • Thanks everyone - I am excited about this foray into HJ land, next lesson is tomorrow! I don't know if I'll ever do hunters, at least not on this horse, but am looking forward to some jumpers! Whoo!

                        So yesterday I went to bring Duke in for our ride and he was standing in the muddiest patch of the field covered from head to toe in mud. He looked like a paint, and he's gray haha! The expression on his face was priceless. Anyway, we had a great ride very early in the morning (I had to work & had dive class afterwords), working on a lot of the stuff the trainer recommended. He doesn't like shapes very much and we had a couple of discussions regarding his outside shoulder; but we'll get there, I hope! My leg muscles were killing me after the canter - I'm trying to remind myself what a proper "working canter" should feel like! All in good time, I guess.
                        "Choose to chance the rapids, and dare to dance the tides" - Garth Brooks
                        "With your permission, dear, I'll take my fences one at a time" - Maggie Smith, Downton Abbey


                        • Pancakes, sounds like a awesome lesson. Good for you! Also, keep in mind that MANY people that ask 10,000 will often love to get 8,000. Just a thought. Especially if the horse has been on the market for a while.
                          “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
                          ¯ Oscar Wilde


                          • ParadoxFarm, I realize that! But unfortunately I don't have 8,000 right now :/ That may change soon-ish though, so I'll be patient I guess.


                            • Gotcha, Pancakes. I understand. . Don't rush. The right one will find you.
                              “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
                              ¯ Oscar Wilde


                              • It's funny. When I was doing lessons-only, I could ride 2x a week. Then when I was half leasing, it felt like it dropped to 1x a week. And now that I own, I seem to be riding Oliver about once a month. Oh, the irony.

                                But THANK GOD, the year's almost over. For all of Nov. and Dec. we've been trying to cram in the last of our vacation/furlough/personal days AND the workload will decrease and become normal again. And then I'll be able to schedule weekly lessons again. And have time to get out to the barn to just ride.

                                In the meantime, Oliver's doing well. He's done some wee x-country jumps with one girl, and he's still doing dressage with the other, and she hopes to be doing training level next year.

                                So, thankfully, he's being rode in my absence. The only changes I've noticed is he's a little less quick to pick up a trot, and now breaks from it sometimes. Of course, it's probably me, since my legs are all over the place from being out of the saddle for so long. We'll see how he does the next few months. Even if I take him out of the lesson rotation, I'll still have dressage girl ride him. She's hoping to take him to the state dressage finals next year.

                                Anyway ... Happy holidays everyone! Thought I'd check in before going AWOL during our holiday work increase.
                                The dude abides ...


                                • Well I did it.. I have no reason except weather of course to put off riding any more. Yesterday I bought a saddle and all the stuff I needed (including a helmet) I would need to ride. So I have no more excuse not to ride. And dh will be able to take me starting right after the stuff arrives soooo....
                                  Friend of bar .ka


                                  • Yay, Bumknees! I hope your stuff gets to you while the weather is still nice, and that you have many happy rides. You're also all set to go for 2013.
                                    It's 2018. Do you know where your old horse is?

                                    www.streamhorsetv.com -- website with horse show livestream listings and links.


                                    • A novel about my adventures at the farm yesterday:

                                      It was a surprisingly nice day outside yesterday. It was cloudy, but in the mid-forties with practically no wind. So, suited up in my layers, I ventured out to the farm where I board my three, which is nearly two hours from where I live right now.

                                      Everyone was happy to see me. Both girls had their heads out the dutch doors as I walked from the parking lot and nickered to me. Aaawwww! My gelding waited to nicker until I was in the barn.

                                      I worked baby Rose first. I haven’t had the surcingle on her in a little bit, but she stood like a good girl for me to stick the pads on her and lay the surcingle over. She did have to be reminded she’s not allowed to nip when I girth her up. She only tried it twice, then remembered, “Oh, yeah. I’m not supposed to do that.” She dove into her bridle like a good girl, I grabbed the side-reins, and off we went. Despite the fact that it was the afternoon and they hadn’t been turned out at all yet, she was quite the lady being led *way* out back to the round pen. To get there, we have to go through multiple gates (opening and closing along the way), we walk past a field with other horses out playing (usually a big distraction for her – she’s super friendly and always wants to leave me to go make friends. But yesterday, she was so good!), we walk through a field with alpacas in it (she’s still not sure of them, but she followed me easily), and finally we have to take down some hot tape to get through to the round pen. In the past, she’s always been flighty about that tape, because it flutters and moves funny and I think she can hear the electricity, too. But she was a solid citizen about it yesterday – good girl!

                                      She was full of herself in the round pen from being cooped up all day, but listened well. I let her canter around for a while to get the ants out of her pants, but despite her energy, she stopped every single time I said, “Whoa” and waited for me to come to her (to adjust the side-reins and fix the saddle pad – it kept slipping back. Note to self – lace surcingle through pad straps from now on). Eventually I got her to do all 3 gaits calmly in both directions so I called it a day and led her back to the barn. She was just as much a lady walking back as she was going out. My little baby is growing up!

                                      Next was Gabriel. I didn’t plan on doing much with him, so I decided to do something he and I hadn’t done in a while – just go for a walk. Literally – like how people walk a dog. Haha! It’s something he has always enjoyed, and I barely get to do it anymore. So, I stuck his halter and lead rope on and we just explored the back 10 of the property. He was loving it! His ears were forward and he had his happy face on. He even got to check out a new manure pile the BO just started – boy did he love that! He snuffed around that thing for about five minutes. Haha! And he stuck his nose in the air with his upper lip curled up a couple of different times as he smelled particularly interesting things. lol I adore him – he’s such a character.

                                      And finally, it was Velvet’s turn. I’ve mentioned before on here about my confidence issues with cantering, but apparently my confidence is getting worse. I went to the farm fully intending to ride her. But once I got there, I started thinking, “I don’t want to get on her. I feel nervous today.” Nervous to even get on! What in the world??? But as I groomed her, and she kept looking at me with that pretty, happy, ears-forward face of hers, I started to talk myself into it again. I decided to tack her up and take her behind the barn to ride.

                                      As I got back there, I discovered she’s becoming herd-bound. Oh, no! I’m gonna have to work on this with her. She and my gelding kept calling out to one another – probably a dozen times in the first 10 minutes I had her back there. But I tried to engage her brain by walking her around and doing ground-work stuff before I mounted. Finally, I got her brain engaged enough that she wasn’t calling to him anymore. BO’s hubby stopped working to come hold her while I got on (she stands still as a statue most times, but the last time I got on her, she started hopping around and bucking the moment my butt hit the saddle, so I wanted a safety net. Hhmmm – guess that’s why I was nervous to get on her yesterday), and he continued to watch us as we worked, just in case. I could tell she was still full of energy as we walked around, but she listened well. I asked her to trot once, and she didn’t take advantage and break into a canter. When I brought her back to a walk, she listened and continued walking even though I could feel her “asking” to trot again with her energy. I probably only rode her for about 5 minutes, but with my confidence being horrid that day, and her energy level up, I decided it was better to end on a good note than to keep pushing it. I must say, I am SO happy with her, ‘cause she stayed at a slow pace despite her energy-level. She really, really, really is such a good girl to put up with her wussy mommy! Haha!

                                      Good thing is, I felt solid in the saddle yesterday. So the loose-leg syndrome was “just one of those things” that happened that one time. Bad thing is, my confidence is getting shaken way too easily these days. I can’t wait to get back into lessons so I can squash those stupid fears of mine. I only have 6 weeks left until I’m finished with college – then I can pursue weekly lessons with someone. I can’t wait.
                                      ~*~*~*~Founding member of the Spotted Saddlebred Pals Clique~*~*~*~

                                      The equine love of my life: Gabriel
                                      4/6/1993 - 8/23/2015 ...RIP my big, beautiful boy <3


                                      • ClassyRide, good job on tacking up and getting in the saddle. Saddle one is the only thing that will help. Maybe next ride will be ten minutes, and that's okay. Keep it up. Good job!

                                        Bumknees, good for you. No excuses now. It's fun to ride with new equipment.

                                        Opus, hope you get to take lessons in the near future. It really does help with regaining confidence. Good luck!

                                        Update on my front, yes, I'm still in the leg cast and have at least seven weeks to go. Boo.

                                        On a good note, my other horse is doing fine. Probably enjoying the time off!

                                        Hope everyone is having a great weekend! The weather is lovely here in Mid-TN! I think I will go hobble outside now for a few minutes to visit the "boys" in the barn.
                                        Last edited by ParadoxFarm; Dec. 20, 2012, 10:29 PM.
                                        “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
                                        ¯ Oscar Wilde


                                        • How do they know???

                                          My BO and her DH had somewhere they had to be last night and asked me to bring in the horses and do the night feed. No problem, I have done this before. But last night got me to wondering.

                                          When my BO and her DH bring in horses, they can do it 3 or 4 at a time. I am not that skilled and know it. So, why is it that on the odd occasion that I do night bring in/feed that the horses all line up, one at a time for me to bring in?

                                          It is the most amazing thing to me - there I am at the gate, now that time has changed, it's dark. The only horse I can really see is the 17h paint. There is a yard light near the gate, but it faces forward, not into the pasture. Yet, here they come, one at a time for me to halter and take to their stalls. And I can't see who is who until they get to the gate. I did take a flashlight so I could match up halters. Everyone has fantastic manners - there is no pushing or shoving, just walk through the gate pretty as you please.

                                          The mares do the same thing.

                                          Horses never cease to amaze me!
                                          And nothing bad happened!