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  • Hang in there Pancakes. Thanks for checking in. We're all here for you. Let us know how it goes this week with the horse trial. For what it's worth, the horse I was going to buy and had in on trial didn't pass the vet check. The second one is the love of my life (and was double what I was planning on spending!)

    Maybe you should think about meeting at Rolex? It would give you something to look forward to?

    Prayers for your aunt.


    • let me know who is going Rolex? we bought our tickets already..
      Had a really good lesson on our new guy then he goes and decides he wants time off and gets 12 stitches in his left hind leg! UGH!
      This guy is going to teach me so much. I just have to build my confidence and RELAX! so I can canter......anyone have any ideas other than a glass of wine before I ride?
      Mai Tai aka Tyler RIP March 1994-December 2011
      Grief is the price we pay for love- Gretchen Jackson
      "And here she comes. Is it a bird? Is it a plane? No, it's ZENYATTA!"


      • I'd like to go to Rolex. I haven't been in a few years.

        Hang in there Pancakes. I think going to see that horse will do you good, even if you decide it's not the right horse. But you won't find the perfect horse if you don't keep your eyes out. Have fun with it. Good wishes for your aunt.
        “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
        ¯ Oscar Wilde


        • Ivy62, when I was overly nervous to canter, I watched other people do it and knew that they could do it easily on my horse. Gave me confidence. Can you watch someone else canter your horse?
          “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
          ¯ Oscar Wilde


          • I watch my trainer all the time! I had a bad fall last summer off of another horse and it really set me back with my confidence. I just have to know I can stop him! He is so wonderful and I know he will teach me a lot...
            I have to talk myself into relaxing... Our last horse was my heart horse and he was so intuned to my issues and he never took advantage. Actually, he was more of a push ride instead of a go ride. It just made it easier for me...
            Mai Tai aka Tyler RIP March 1994-December 2011
            Grief is the price we pay for love- Gretchen Jackson
            "And here she comes. Is it a bird? Is it a plane? No, it's ZENYATTA!"


            • Makes sense, ivy62. Do you have a round pen you can ride in? Some small enclosure? That might help. Good luck and enjoy the ride. It'll get better.
              “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
              ¯ Oscar Wilde


              • ivy62 - I totally understand where you are coming from. I had a bad fall in the summer of 2010 when my horse stumbled at the canter, got a little freaked out about regaining his balance, and started bucking like a bronco. Ended up with a broken collar bone and bruising like I have never encountered before. It is now 2 years later, and I am much better, but I still have apprehensive days, and the doubt creeps in sometimes, particularly if my horse is acting up a bit, or the weather conditions are bad. I know intellectually that I will be fine, but the emotions take over occasionally. When I first started back, cantering in the round pen when I felt nervous was great. I also thought the Jane Savoie CD series "Freedom from Fear" was very helpful - although it is a little pricey.

                Hang in there Pancakes, prayers headed your way for your aunt, and for you that you can shake be remnants of your cold and spend more healing time with horses. And that you find your equine partner soon.

                pomy4me - I can't recall, have you had a chiro out to look at Mr. All Better? After being off for so long, he may need adjusting now that he is back in work.

                Event4Life - congrats on the new horse!

                If anyone who plans to go to Rolex wants to PM me, I will keep a running list of COTH names, real names, and email addresses and keep track so we can all coordinate meeting up at some point in Lexington. I promise, I am not a cyber-stalker who will reveal your info on the BB!
                Riding a horse is not a gentle hobby, to be picked up and laid down like a game of solitaire. It is a grand passion.... ~ Emerson


                • Hang in there Pancakes, prayers headed your way for your aunt, and for you that you can shake be remnants of your cold and spend more healing time with horses. And that you find your equine partner soon.

                  pomy4me - I can't recall, have you had a chiro out to look at Mr. All Better? After being off for so long, he may need adjusting now that he is back in work.


                  Ditto on best wishes and hugs to Pancakes. And in answer to your question, Tarheel, yes Mr. All Better is totally UTD on chiro and massage. Both are regular services at the barn, and he's on schedule for every visit. He should be back to work on Tuesday.
                  It's 2018. Do you know where your old horse is?

                  www.streamhorsetv.com -- website with horse show livestream listings and links.


                  • Originally posted by ParadoxFarm View Post
                    Ivy62, when I was overly nervous to canter, I watched other people do it and knew that they could do it easily on my horse. Gave me confidence. Can you watch someone else canter your horse?
                    This worked for me as well.
                    Lowly Farm Hand with Delusions of Barn Biddieom.
                    Witherun Farm


                    • Well, I just saw the Stubben Black Monday sale list, and thank goodness they didn't have what I wanted.

                      I have been in a fever over this the past couple of days. I have wanted a new Roxane VSS for a long time, and my excuse for getting one was that my faithful Siegfried that I bought used in 1979 is just a tad wide for Sky. But thank goodness they didn't have one in the width she would require. I don't really need a new saddle. I should just look into getting mine reflocked instead.

                      Some beautiful saddles on that list, though.
                      I heard a neigh. Oh, such a brisk and melodious neigh as that was! My very heart leaped with delight at the sound. --Nathaniel Hawthorne


                      • Hey folks, just a brief check-in as I am at work... Still sending "chin up!" feelings to Pancakes, and OMG I know how bad the "blahs" can get.

                        Vet called me last week while I was in California with my dad (this is a big source of the blahs... He is old, and declining) to say that she redid the X-rays on Feronia, and jogged her, and she was 100% sound! Vet now thinks the laminitis/rotation (such as it is) is *old* and wasn't detected before.

                        So I hopped on her on Friday and walked around for a bit. She was stiff and a bit grumpy about being "in work" again. By Saturday, she was bouncy and happy. Yesterday, she was offering to trot The new trim and shoes have really made a difference and we'll be back to our usual routine soon.
                        You have to have experiences to gain experience.

                        1998 Morgan mare Mythic Feronia "More Valley Girl Than Girl Scout!"


                        • ybiaw - that's so funny! And so true

                          Event4Life- congrats on the lease!

                          pancakes- good thoughts to you..hang in there. I really hope things look up for you soon.

                          Quietann- FANTASTIC NEWS! So wonderful.

                          I think Ollie and I are really starting to enter a real partnership now. I think we are clicking more and more, which I saw this weekend when he and I were performing much better over certain exercises at home, and he's figured out seat cues now (yay!). I've also figured out that he's so much more willing to give more effort when we try new things - I need to remember to switch things up for him to keep his mind moving, or else he goes on auto-pilot and is careless.

                          I know it sounds sappy and stupid, but as I was grooming him yesterday and he turned his head around to put his nose on me and lovingly snort, it just about made me cry thinking about how this boy is MINE. I feel more connected with him in 5 months than I did with my old boy in 1.5 years. There's something really special about him. To me, anyway
                          Blog chronicling our new eventing adventures: Riding With Scissors


                          • Pancakes- good to see you check in, hang in there.

                            Rode Thursday and Friday night (cold!) then was totally unmotivated Saturday as I didn't have anyone to ride with so I stayed home and knit (loserish, I know). Rode yesterday and went out on the trail with one of my friends. Plan was to do some trot sets as her mare is rehabbing, first set was complete, we were turning around to come back on the trail, got to the same place another friend's horse had been spooked the week before and... little grey mare did the whole staring, spook thing. Didn't see anything to worry her, friend got her mare to walk I off, I patted her, told her it was okay and nudged her off and... ride 'em cowgirl. Yikes, head straight up in the air, backing, etc. No bucking or feeling like she was going to buck but I thought a bolt might be a possibility. Thank goodness for a one-reined stop (though we sure did some circles). Thought I might have to bail but finally got her to stand and hopped off. Walked her back up the trail and she was still up. As soon as she got back to the jump field, she was fine. She had been doing really well on the trail, don't know what her issue was but my friend did say that she had seen a doe with two fawns jump out of the grass along the creek where she was staring. Think we will stay off of the trail on windy days for a few weeks.

                            Only working two days this week, then three days off, but I do have to work Saturday and then Sunday is Opening Meet. I really need to go down for that!


                            • Oh man, iechris- that's so terrifying to me when horses do that on trails! You never know what they're going to do when they see a monster in the woods. That's one of my biggest fears is the nervous trail riding behaviors, since there's nothing to contain you if they bolt!
                              Blog chronicling our new eventing adventures: Riding With Scissors


                              • Oldster at first HJ show

                                Yesterday I competed in the first HJ show of my life - at the advanced age of 52!

                                I went to the show with two goals: keep the horse between me and the ground, and not be disqualified.

                                Unfortunately, I didn't strictly achieve the first goal, because I fell off during the warm up when my horse over-jumped an oxer by what felt like 2'. Luckily nothing was hurt but my sense of dignity, so I had no trouble continuing with my day.

                                I was in the maiden hunter 18" (weenie) division, but the class was actually crossrails that were probably 12" at the center. So when I fell off, I had been schooling over what had been the 2'3" course from the previous day, which actually looked like 18" or 2' at most to us.

                                Everyone from our barn who came to this show has more of an eventing/dressage background, including our trainer, so we were all pretty confused by how the show was run. There didn't seem to be any logic to the order of go for classes. So we muddled through as best we could.

                                I loved that I got to go over the course multiple times, so we had a chance to improve our performance as we went along. We placed third, second and second in our over fences classes and won the flat 'under saddle' class. Somehow we ended up with reserve champion for the 18" division, which was much better than I expected for a first outing!

                                All praise goes to my horse, who is a lovely teenage tb with the best mind ever, and sound as a bell. The magic of this horse is that he is the same at a show as he is at home - perfect for me at this stage, and very confidence-building. I couldn't ask for more.


                                • Hey, guess what? I got to ride on Sunday!!! Hooray!!!

                                  It was absolutely beautiful out (for this time of year), probably about 45 degrees and sunny, but it was also breezy – and occasionally downright windy. So, between the wind, the cool weather, and the fact that the BO had a new piece of machinery sitting in the yard to try to put up spouting (a.k.a. A new horse-eating monster with big teeth), I decided to play it safe and just ride my saintly gelding, Gabriel. Even he was full of himself, but he didn’t even blink at the “monster” and listened really well. He just wanted to GO. Haha! We only did walk/trot, but it was a very enjoyable ride. And it was *so* nice to feel him so sound and energetic that he was actually jigging some here and there when I wanted him to walk. Yay!

                                  I have to say, though, that I was a little taken aback with one thing. I don’t know if this was just a fluke or not, but I felt rather loose in the saddle – not nearly as secure as I normally am, and that’s why we didn’t canter. Now I’m worried. For the last two and half years I’ve only been able to ride once every week or two because of school. Has that finally caught up to me? I can’t believe it would happen that quickly, though, because I still felt really good and secure the last time I rode (which was actually about 3 or 4 weeks ago because of soundness issues and uncooperative weather). Who knows – maybe it was just a weird day. But I’m a little concerned...

                                  So, add that to the mix of not riding-friendly circumstances and I decided not to hop on Velvet. Even though she is a saint 95% of the time, I didn’t want to chance that the day I wasn’t feeling secure in the saddle would be the other 5% day. So, I set up a couple of ground poles and just did some ground work with her over and around them. I feel like it’s good to go back to groundwork every once in a blue moon anyway, just to be sure they haven’t forgotten their manners. I also did the same groundwork stuff with baby Rose. Who, by the way, I’m very proud of because she is now *diving* into her bridle so she can get the treat I hold under the bit. Haha! This from a girl who, two bridling sessions ago was sticking her nose into the clouds trying to avoid taking the bit. What a good girl! I only use treats for certain things, but I’ve gotta tell you, a treat under the bit works wonders to get a tough horse to bridle.

                                  ...Sorry, but I’ll have to catch up on reading everyone else's posts later. I have way too much to do today!
                                  ~*~*~*~Founding member of the Spotted Saddlebred Pals Clique~*~*~*~

                                  The equine love of my life: Gabriel
                                  4/6/1993 - 8/23/2015 ...RIP my big, beautiful boy <3


                                  • PaintedHunter, sounds lik you have a special "pony". That's awesome. Some we just click with better than others.
                                    “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
                                    ¯ Oscar Wilde


                                    • Classyride, we all have day when our bodies don't cooperate. Some days my legs are loose as jello, some days I can't keep my shoulders back to save my life, and I distinctly remember a day recently when I was SO lopsided and rode with a stirrup nearly 2 half holes shorter than the other because...I don't know why? So if you're loose one day in the saddle, don't let it discourage you. If it keeps happening then you might want to try new exercises to strengthen your legs, or ride without stirrups a little.

                                      iechris, way to hang on! That sounds scary though...glad you're okay! Maybe sticking to the arena is the way to go for a while.

                                      Sdhaurmsmom, congratulations on the show! Whether you're jumping 2'3 or 12", a jump is a jump and requires solid basics. Sounds like you've got that, and a fantastic partner that can take care of you too. Congrats!

                                      Thank you everyone for all your support. *HUG* It makes me happy to know everyone also goes through these times, both in and out of the saddle.

                                      Good news: My aunt is doing well! She has pneumonia and is still on a ventilator, but she's doing almost all of the breathing herself and she is now sort of lucid and is responsive! I'm soooo relieved. Definitely we have something to be thankful for this Thanksgiving.

                                      I rode today too! I went to go see a horse for sale locally. He is green green green but very willing and smart, and a quick learner. I'd be lying if I didn't say some of his mannerisms made me nervous, but he never did anything dangerous with me, my trainer, or the owner. He flicks his head/nose a lot and he has no concept of stretching down at all (very up/collected). BUT he is super comfy. And a loose (stray) dog even ran up to him in the arena and was chasing him, and he didn't do anything stupid! He will probably take a good year or so to really settle down as he is an OTTB, but he is HANDSOME and athletic and very sweet on the ground. Tall, and well-built. I fit him well. The other thing is the cost...he's out of my price range but the owner says a good home is priority over price. But maybe money will talk? I just don't know if he's the *one* but she offered to let me have him on trial for a month, so it might be worth it... what do you think?

                                      Finally, I rode my lease horse tonight...we jumped a course (around 2'3-2'6") and it felt GOOD. He was such an angel for me! We really do fit well together...if only he was *perfect* for me. I am so thankful I have such a great horse to learn to ride and gain confidence jumping with, though. He is patient and forgiving with me.

                                      I have a few other prospects I'm considering, but it all comes down to price in the long run. Part of me thinks I should wait until I build up more of a financial cushion so I can afford a nicer horse, but isn't that always the case? Well, I'll just try to be patient and go with my gut. Thanks for listening.
                                      Last edited by Pancakes; Nov. 20, 2012, 12:56 AM.


                                      • So happy for your aunt's progress Pancakes, and for your good horse report! You were definitely due some good news!

                                        And such good news from everyone else about shows, good rides, and sticking some scary moments!

                                        I had a good trip o AZ this past weekend, but will be happy to get back to the barn over the holiday.

                                        We had a tragedy at the barn on Thursday. My trainer's 27 year old Anglo-Arab, who she had since he was born (she bought his dam when she was in foal with him) was hit with colic and did not make it. It will be so emotional to go to the barn Saturday morning and not see his beautiful face. My heart breaks for my trainer and her daughter (who also trains and instructs at the barn).

                                        But even though our group has seen some rough patches in the later part of this year, I have faith that 2013 will be great.
                                        Riding a horse is not a gentle hobby, to be picked up and laid down like a game of solitaire. It is a grand passion.... ~ Emerson


                                        • Im going to have to wimp out from riding this weekend...
                                          Two reasons well three really..
                                          cant fnd my helmet.. dont know where it is unless I gave it away when I thoght I wold not have another horse.. Or dh already packed it sily man... I dont know but I cant find it.
                                          And I cant find my chaps.. and concidering the weather we are suppsed to have this weekend.. #3 reason it is supposed Lake Effect do nasty white stuff that falls from the sky with highs in the low 30's.. no way will this body ride without chaps (full) in that weather and temp with out them Im not that young any more... Oh Lake Effect = could be a candy coating to your guess is as good as mine but you better have plenty of gas for your geneator... So best not to go aywhere till its done..
                                          Funny Im more intimated by the snow than I an than no helmet.. but then agin I strted riding in the days of the hunt caps only when jumping and ball caps when schooling...
                                          Friend of bar .ka