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Can we have an adult re-rider support group?

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  • Re-rider checking-in, really itching to get back into riding. I'm planning to move at some point next year to be closer to the office. Have a dilemma - start riding in my hometown now or wait until next year until I move? I'm only moving 30 mins away, but far enough that I couldn't continue to ride at the same barn. I need to save up enough for the mortgage and other expenses, and I have no clue as to when that's going to happen.

    Would appreciate any feedback! I can hear those horses calling my name...:P


    • Welcome, Accio!

      I completely understand your dilemma, as I'm in a somewhat similar situation myself! Ultimately, I think you'll just have to determine what the best move is for you, because I feel like it's a personal judgement call...

      I have my 3 horses in a stable where I *know* they are very well taken care of. Unfortunately, the stable is 2 hours from home. Work is a little close to the stable, but it's still about 1.5 hours. And I have a SS (Step-Son) at home that I have to take care of in the evenings. That means no weekday horse excursions for me! I depend on the weekends to get my horse time in....

      This'll all get better for me when my Fiance and I build our house and barn this Summer. Then I'll have horses and home all in one place! Until then, I've decided to keep horses where they are for a few reasons (including saving up for that upcoming mortgage! Board at this farm is pretty cheap), but I have to say, it is VERY DIFFICULT some days to not get to be around them.

      ...Sorry, my own blue-spell is coming into play. On a positive note, congrats on making plans to get back into riding! I'm sure you'll have a blast whenever you decide it is right for you to start again!
      ~*~*~*~Founding member of the Spotted Saddlebred Pals Clique~*~*~*~

      The equine love of my life: Gabriel
      4/6/1993 - 8/23/2015 ...RIP my big, beautiful boy <3


      • Originally posted by PaintedHunter View Post
        Thanks! We did just a schooling show- Rolling Hills. My barn doesn't tend to go to rated shows, as most of us are working adults without the rated-show funds! Not that we're ready for bigger shows, anyway. Maybe one day. We're actually looking at changing up some shows next year- any recs for local shows in the area, up to a 2-ish hour drive or so?
        I totally hear you about not being ready for rated shows, and frankly not having the desire to pay for them at this point.

        I did one Rolling Hills show when I first started back riding, on a horse that belonged to my trainer. I like the people, but Wills can be a bit much. I don't find it very user friendly and the tree in the warm up arena is interesting!

        We did the New Classic Horse Show series in 2011 and that was good. A well run, personable local series. The footing could have used improvement though.

        I only did one show this year -- too busy with work and then Tajar had the whole sarcoid removal drama.

        Have you thought about doing the HJ Fox shows at Conyers? My barn hasn't done them yet, but I think we are going to next year (first show is March 9 and 10). I have some friends who have done that series for a while and love it. Great facilities, great footing, good judges, lots of divisions for all levels, and really affordable for a 2 day show. I think I calculated it would be about $300 total to do the classes I was interested in on both Saturday and Sunday, and that included stall, shavings, etc. One day was about $200. That obviously doesn't include hauling or trainer fees.

        Last edited by TarheelJD; Nov. 12, 2012, 04:03 PM. Reason: Add link.
        Riding a horse is not a gentle hobby, to be picked up and laid down like a game of solitaire. It is a grand passion.... ~ Emerson


        • My barn apparently did some HJ Fox shows a few years ago before I got there, and they had some bad experiences with the judging, and they aren't inclined to go back. I think they are considering Horse Show Ventures, but I don't know anything about that series. I think they're looking at Cheryl & Co. shows as well.

          And oh gosh YES on the tree in the warm-up ring! It also gets nuts toward the end of the day when the running ring people come in and commandeering the warm-up ring riding around really crazy. There was actually an incident with that causing a shouting match after a near-crash this past weekend. The people are so generally supportive of each other, though, and it is a happy sort of environment with low pressure. I hate how few adults are in the hunter and beginner rings though! I feel a bit out of place with my baby beginner re-rider self.

          We'll definitely need a show series with all levels, including jumper classes in 3' or above for some of our more experienced jumper riders. I'll only need 2'6" and under for me and my lug If we can get those darn lead changes this winter, I think by the end of next year we can be doing 2'6" at shows.
          Blog chronicling our new eventing adventures: Riding With Scissors


          • Paintedhunter, I'm with you. I hate being the only adult in a class. Sometimes you can't help it though. As I move up in height, it doesn't bother me quite as much.

            The warmup ring...I HATE!!! At every show I go to, it's a dangerous place to be. Kids especially tend to get in the way, stop in front of jumps, etc. Scares me. I try real hard to school at an odd time to lessen the chaos.

            If the ankle heals quickly, I would love to show at a local December 30th jumper-only show. Crossing my fingers.

            Classyride, thanks. Yes, my hubby is a keeper. . And it was fun to watch him have a lesson. He usually watches me.
            “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
            ¯ Oscar Wilde


            • Pancakes where are you? Check in and let us know if you're okay


              • I agree Paradox - warm up rings are generally harrowing! And I try to get there before they get too crowded, or sneak in right at the end of the day, when most people have already finished.

                PH - I am not surprised that there was a near crash this weekend in the "tree" ring. I have seen some insane near misses in there. I have heard good things about the Cheryl & Co. shows, and we were considering doing some this year, but as mentioned above, this season ended up being a wash. Maybe we can coordinate going to one of the same shows next year! You are more advanced than me, a we won't need to worry about competing against each other

                And yes, Pancakes. Give us a shout out when you get a chance.
                Riding a horse is not a gentle hobby, to be picked up and laid down like a game of solitaire. It is a grand passion.... ~ Emerson


                • Thanks for all the good wishes, folks! We really do appreciate it.

                  As for those of you who want/need a good unrated show series, I wish you lived closer to Nashville. My barn has a wonderful show series with good judges, nice looking jumps, good schooling area, limited overnight stabling, good food at the concession stand, reasonable fees, and very pretty ribbons and year-end series awards. You would NOT be the only adult in the class. And even the 3' classes fill. They usually do a hunter show on Saturday and a jumper show on Sunday afternoon. www.hunterscourt.com for more details.

                  And now, welcome to Accio! My suggestion would be to start riding now because none of us are getting any younger, and every day not spent riding is a day you will never get back. You can work on basics, figure out what half chaps and paddock boots you need, and during the winter months it may be possible to get more personal instructor time. That's just my opinion, and your individual circumstances may dictate a different course of action. Whatever you decide, we will offer support.

                  Looks like I'll have at least one more big vet bill, but I'm very excited about it. While at the Alltech National Horse Show, my trainer met up with a very renowned lameness specialist who worked on some of our horses, and who is scheduled to come to TN on Thursday to look at a few more. We're going to have her look at my horse just to make sure he really is all better and good to go.

                  Stay safe, and stay warm!
                  It's 2017. Do you know where your old horse is?

                  www.streamhorsetv.com -- website with horse show livestream listings and links.


                  • Hey folks. I love reading about your lesson triumphs, and I totally sympathize with those trying to do (quality) shows on a budget. The warmup ring always feels like a circus to me with lots of screaming "HEADS UP!" though no one is listening. Ugh.

                    Well this weekend has been harrowing and stressful to say the least. My aunt nearly died on Thursday but she's mildly better today. She had surgery successfully to take the packing material out that was keeping her from bleeding to death. She lost 2 human bodies worth of blood during the first surgery. Then all of the consequences to deal with that go along with the transfusions...she's still on the ventilator and they can't wake her up yet. My long-lost cousin flew in from CA with my other long-lost cousin, and my mom came in. With my other aunt, we had a nice family reunion under not-so-nice circumstances. It's been hard to be strong, drive back and forth from Miami daily, and try to get along in life. I called out of work this weekend and felt terribly guilty for it.

                    I DID get some barn time/horse therapy in, though...it was good. I spent 2 days at the barn and hung out with my trainer and helped her, and the lesson kids. I got to just go trail riding around the property. Seeing my halter and fly mask and bridle for the non-existent horse was hard, though. I'm definitely going to still look for my own horse still because I feel like having horses is that much more important in my life when the going gets tough. I know you all understand how that feels

                    So that's me. I'm hanging in there, barely. Riding hasn't been great lately and I'm out of shape, but whatever. OH! And one more thing... my half chap zipper split right open when I rode! The stitching is coming apart from the zipper and pulling on it in such a way it busts open in the middle. They are Tredsteps that I got from Smartpak. Do you think they'll take them back, no questions asked, and exchange them?


                    • Pony4me, I'm right around the corner from Hunter Court!!

                      Pancakes, good to hear from you. Sorry about your aunt. And try not to worry about calling in to work. You needed it.

                      I say keep going to the barn when you can. It's good for you.

                      Tarheel, I do the same thing. I school the night before. Then I actually skip the morning school in the big ring and just warm up before my class as lightly as I can.
                      “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
                      ¯ Oscar Wilde


                      • Pancakes- hugs, you are really going through a lot. Hope that posting here helps you some and you must know you have a lot of support.

                        Jaslyn- congrats on the successful show!

                        I'm terrified of the warm up ring as I tend to get a bit crazy just being in a lesson with a bunch of people going different directions.

                        I got sick the weekend before Halloween, some sort of cold with my allergies, missed almost a week of work. I had to cancel my dog show trip to FL but was able to send my dog with the co-owners. Finally got back out to ride Friday night under the lights and had a lesson Saturday. I was really pleased with how my lesson went especially since I had not ridden in over two weeks and it was a crowded lesson. Should be back in the swing of things this week if the rain holds off.

                        Hope everyone is staying warm and getting some riding in.

                        I decided to knit fingerless mitts for all my barn friends for Christmas and so far I've got 5 pairs done! That leaves me 4 more pairs and then I'm done with the barn folks.


                        • Thanks Classyride and Pony4Me! I've been riding on and off for the past 22 years, not consistently due to finance and employment issues. I do miss riding terribly, although I have a lot of confidence and anxiety issues that I need to work through. Looks like I'm leaning toward riding in my immediate area, for the simple fact that I know that I won't be moving out until late spring/early summer.

                          I have acquired quite a bit of riding gear and other tack over the years, so I think I'm set for that. (I'm saving up to eventually buy my own horse.) Although I have a nagging suspicion that my breeches no longer fit me...did you miss me, Mr. VISA?


                          • Pancakes, it certainly sounds as if you are going through a lot. I am so sorry about your aunt--sounds like really traumatic surgery. May you and your relatives have some meaningful time together. Keep going to the barn, and I'd definitely give Smartpak a call. They may surprise you. We're here for you.

                            iechris, long time, no see! So sorry you have been sick! I'm glad to hear you had a good lesson, and I'd love to hear more about the dog! What kind of showing do you do?

                            pony4me, great news about Mr. All-Better! Keeping my fingers crossed! You are lucky to have such a nice show circuit nearby. We have a decent local circuit, but I wish it was better attended. Fortunately, I am not the only adult.

                            Welcome, Accio. We'd love to hear about the riding you did when you were younger. I echo the other advice you got--I'd start riding now and getting in shape before you move.

                            ParadoxFarm, keep up the healing!

                            PH, what an adventure you had at your show! I'm proud of you for sticking it out. Congrats on your success! can't wait to hear about your continuing quest to jump higher!

                            ClassyRide, may you get your horse time in soon! I would be a basket case without my barn time!

                            Thanks to all who indulged me by commenting on my pictures. I'm looking forward to next season when Sky will be in our pre-green division (2'3"). That will start in January. I'm already dreaming about taking her to a bigger show someday. Maybe a QH show--there are several in Georgia. She could do the Working Hunter and/or Hunter Hack, maybe in a year or so. I need to start saving my pennies!

                            Tarheel, how are you and Tajar doing?

                            Hazel, how are you doing?
                            I heard a neigh. Oh, such a brisk and melodious neigh as that was! My very heart leaped with delight at the sound. --Nathaniel Hawthorne


                            • Tarheel- that would be fun to coordinate a show attendance! I'll keep you updated on our schedule.

                              Pancakes - I know it's a bit far from you, but this is the horse I saw that thought you might be interested in: http://www.gahorseevents.com/directo...mare-for-sale/
                              Blog chronicling our new eventing adventures: Riding With Scissors


                              • Thanks Paradox and Tarheel for the encouragement and resources! I've signed up for Jane Savoie's website and have also got a book on overcoming riding fearfulness on my Kindle. This week I'm taking a break as my instructor is out of town at a show, so I'm planning on reading and doing some work on my core via yoga and Pilates. Hopefully the stronger I get the more confident I'll be!

                                Accio, welcome to the world of re-riders! I just started back myself a few months ago after many years away. It's been fun, if more than a little frustrating at times!


                                • We Cantered!

                                  :Wimpy re-rider finally cantered on Rico!

                                  I kept waiting for the perfect conditions. Finally, Saturday I just 'went for it'. We were trotting and he got pissy with me, bucked and then broke into a canter. I made him stop. Trotted a few more circles, then thought 'what the heck' - asked him to canter, and it was great!

                                  Such a small thing. A little over a year ago I was afraid to canter on a school horse, let alone on Rico, who I feared would be unpredicable and unbalanced. Turns out, he has a really nice, smooth, uphill canter. Can't wait to get him on some good footing!
                                  Lowly Farm Hand with Delusions of Barn Biddieom.
                                  Witherun Farm


                                  • Good for you Trevelyan! Way to go.

                                    Thanks for asking about me Dewey. Not too much exciting up here. Show season is long over for us and we are back to doing equitation in the indoor already. The weather has been lousy and with the time change it's dark by the time we head out to the barn. It's going to be a very long winter. Think I might have to join the adult winter rider thread soon. Horses are healthy so far, work sucks, the weather sucks. Thank goodness for soft muzzle snuggles from my four-legged best friend. And thank goodness for this thread. Are we still thinking of meeting up at Rolex? That might get us through the winter........


                                    • Just wanted to post a quick "Congratulations!!!" to Trevelyan96 - that's AWESOME!!!! I was scared to death the first time my instructor told me to canter my OTTB mare. I figured she would take off with me. Low and behold, she was a very good girl, and her canter is smooth as silk and super easy to ride! It's amazing when you not only conquer your fear, but also find something wonderful because of it.
                                      ~*~*~*~Founding member of the Spotted Saddlebred Pals Clique~*~*~*~

                                      The equine love of my life: Gabriel
                                      4/6/1993 - 8/23/2015 ...RIP my big, beautiful boy <3


                                      • Way to go Trevelyan! That's awesome It always feels good to break through those barriers!
                                        Blog chronicling our new eventing adventures: Riding With Scissors


                                        • Go Trevelyan!! That is awesome!

                                          Can't convince myself that it is a good idea to ride this AM since the temps are in the low 40s and windy. I'm a wimpy Californian transplanted to the south. Burrrr.... (trainer is an Arizonian transplanted to the south and doesn't like the cold any better than I do!).