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    In case anyone is interested! Please pass this along to any equestrian friends you think may be interested! Thanks. The auction link is:

    Hope this works...I've not done an online auction before.

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      For an example on pricing for the TS wholesale shopping spree, Velcro women's breeches are $115 wholesale, and the minimum advertised pricing is $195. Sun shirts are $37.50 wholesale, and the minimum advertised pricing is $65.
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        Faye- stay safe- that sounds super scary with the sky. I’m excited for your new potential ride. Is he a back-cracker? I rode a schoolie like that once and I thought I was getting launched over his head every time we jumped. Trainer said he had a super bascule and I should be lucky to ride him. We didn’t click - pony/me and trainer/me so that was that 😀

        Should finally have some Pony time Sunday and hope to tune her up under saddle and in-hand for her riders. Selfishly I’m hoping for loads of snuggles- it’s been a loooooooong week.


          Sugar: That's what i'm doing right now taking lessons on him. Your silly horses!! So happy to see them play though right? I sometimes forget that it takes a few ride to get to know a horse, i had another ride on him the day before on the flat, and he really tries hard, doesn't do anything silly. When he "spooks" at something, he stands there and stare, way better than TSH's spin and bolt (he doesn't do it often, but every single time i get on him that crosses my mind)

          Lucky: I think its more like he's not very experienced, and if the distance is weird, he jumps weird. PF saw the video, she's more experienced so she can tell you. I say he does has a whomph when jumping, i hope i can get use to that. My trainer said the same thing, once i am used to this i will not go back

          Since the Orange sky fiasco, now we are all faced with the consequences of smoke. TC, how's the air quality on your end? Ours is bad, all lessons cancelled again, thur, friday and Sat.


            My heart goes out to you guys that are being affected by the fires. Please stay safe.

            Found a new riser pad just like my old one but larger and obviously in better shape. Rode him today with it and he was a good boy. Back seemed fine after I got off and while he got his after-ride bath and pampering. I hope to ride tomorrow, as it's always interesting to see how he is the day after/two days in a row. Today he was quite forward but relaxed and really trying hard to do what I was asking. The weather was nice today, not so hot, great breeze and overcast, so that helped.


              My heart also goes put to those dealing with smoke. There is a necklace you can get that is supposed to clear the air around you. They demonstrate it by putting it in a jar of smoke and it clears the smoke
              in the jar. It recharges with USB and it is not expensive on Ebay. Supposedly good for those with hayfever as well.

              I had a great ride on Sim. Again it is so long since I have ridden. I went and saw my instructor and he hadnt been out yet because he has lost 2 instructors. One to cancer who is on chemo which has lowered her bone density. She continued to ride and has bone fractures and can now get them from just walking.

              The other has had a baby.

              So they have advertised for another instructor.

              I have booked in Stars for lessons on a Tuesday starting in a few weeks time.

              Hubby said the new ute will be ready for towing in 2 weeks time, so we will see.

              I am at Mums now. They want the audits done on a Sunday now. Which means I do less on a Saturday and end up away from the horses, then do more on Sunday so may get home too late to play with horses.

              It is better to ride 5 minutes a day than it is to ride 35 minutes on a Sunday.


                Our air quality has finally improved! Now it's back to green in my area. That said, our horses has been breathing this shitty air for awhile and will need to get back to work and build back up.


                  Glad it's getting better for you, Faye! Hope the rest of you west coasters are doing okay! Check in when possible.


                  We took Surge to the local equine hospital today. There is a DVM podiatrist that works every other Wednesday there, and we had him put shoes on Surge. They are glue-on, so fingers crossed these last longer than his going rate of 2 to 3 weeks. All-in-all, he was a pretty good boy. We have been working on loading him in the trailer for the last five days or so, since he was pretty naughty about it at first. But he's gotten to wear at home we can load him right up. He was a bit hesitant today at the hospital loading back up. He probably figures we tricked him this morning. But he got it and home all in one piece. It was good for him to have an outing, anyway. He needs the practice.

                  Waiting on the results from my third dressage virtual show. One more in October, then done for the year. I have a jump lesson scheduled for Friday. It's been a while! Maybe that's a good thing.
                  My hopeful road to the 2021 RRP TB Makeover:


                    Faye- I’m glad things are better air quality wise. Still jingling and thinking of all our affected re-riders.

                    PF- so glad Surge was a good boy and jingles for a shoeing solution. What is it about some TBs that cause their feet to be harder to shoe?

                    Had a play time with Pony today. I got on, we walked with purpose, avoided the water hazard that was 3/4 of the ring 😀. Had zero motivation for werk. So we practiced in hand and had loads of fun. She will only be doing U/S at the show, since it would be too crazy to wrangle kids and horses for the morning session. I’ll try and get some good pics at the show- Sweetheart, Straight Fire, Pony and The Ghost are going for sure.


                      PF So glad you guys got into a specialist. It's so frustrating to not quite have the shoeing under control. I'm hoping these new shoes do the trick. Good luck at the auction.

                      Lucky sounds like you had a good pony session before the show. I'm really looking forward to adorable pics. I love the ones on IG

                      Suzy Happy to hear your ride with Sim was good and that things appear to be settling at your instructor's barn. Always good to have eyes on the ground that's for sure.

                      RNC one thing you could try to see if the saddle is fitting appropriately is to not groom before you ride and put a sparkling white pad on and your new riser. Check after your ride that the dirt patterns are uniform and even. One thing I didn't pay enough attention to when doing saddle fitting was being more aware of how much the saddle moves underneath you as you go. That can also indicate some work needs to be done to get a better fit.

                      Faye That sounds like a promising idea. For sure, the horses with the bigger jump force you to stay more around them. I think as long as that doesn't take away from your confidence it could be a good match. I'm so sorry about the smoke. I ended up missing the worst of it at the show but it was so bad even in LA.

                      We had a good show with the new trainers. Would have been great but Hudson came up with an abscess day 1. UGH. It was a pretty bad one, but it eventually has drained. He LOVED a week at the show with nothing but grazing.

                      Duty and I were back on form. We put more bit on which I was opposed to at first, but it does really help his balance and I do end up pulling less. Eventually we will go back to something softer.

                      I'm still struggling in the long bending lines, where I have a plan to do a certain number of strides and halfway through I worry if I'm taking out a stride instead of focusing on the next jump and riding off my eye. I end up pulling and adding like a chump. Duty is an angel and will jump from everywhere but I hate taking that heart out of him. Something to work on at home.


                      I love my new trainer, he really finds the balance of being encouraging and keeping things safe but still pushing for growth. After last show I wanted to move down to the 1.10s and get more organized. At the beginning of this show he just kind of gently encouraged me to try the 1.20m. It was going in the big Grand Prix field I'd never shown in, and I'm really glad he did. It gave me a shot of confidence that he believed we could do it.

                      ALSO my mom got to come to the show bc we entered her to do a timer walk on Duty. Duty was so confused why he was wearing all his show gear and going into the ring without jumping anything before! She was glowing all day.

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                        I will respond more later, but greys, I love that picture!! Happy girls and a happy pony.
                        My hopeful road to the 2021 RRP TB Makeover:


                          Greys- what is a timer walk? Love the pic, you all look so tickled😀

                          so I had an unexpected Pony time today after work. Went by to drop off a show shirt and got to groom on Pony. She was so snarky yesterday to Buddy and tweaked herself so she got the day off. I swear she’s lucky she’s so darn cute- every time she tweaks herself she’s being a thug. She was fine today and more than happy to be fussed over. Sweetheart was in the stall nearest the crossties so I got cuddles with her, too. She’s such a love bug- she kept putting her muzzle in my hand to be petted. Pony wouldn’t even watch. In-hand is back on, so I plan on being available to brush up Pony’s cues before show time if needed Friday. It’s going to be the biggest show I’ve ever helped at- over 100 stalls booked and who knows how many day haulers. Jingles for safety and sanity would be appreciated. I’m bringing snacks and lots of chocolate.


                            lucky, first, it was very nice to see you the other day. Thank you so much for the donation. They will easily sell at the silent auction. Second, good luck with the show prep. That's certainly a big show! Glad you got some fun pony time in.

                            greys, sorry for Hudson and the abscess. That stinks. For big creature, they sure are susceptible to little things, aren't they? You're doing great with Duty. Glad you're enjoying your new trainer. He sounds like a good one for you!

                            Faye, air still clearing up for you? I hope so! Any news on the possible lease?

                            Suzie, hope things settle at your trainers' barn soon.


                            Have you ever had "one of those rides" -- and no, not a bad one, but a really, really good one? I had one yesterday. As I've been talking about over the past several months, I've been trying to "fix" my jumping with Dante. There was just something off about it. Some jumps he would rush in, some jumps he would rush out and shake his head, just not quite with it. Well, my last lesson on Friday we worked on a few things, mostly me learning more to relax and be quiet up there. We had some really nice jumps and a few less-than-perfect. At one point he was rushing out of his jumps, so I had to bring him back down to the trot before the end of the arena. My second to last one he was naughty about it, and so I had to stop and back him up. He took a few stops then stopped. He wasn't really listening to my backing command. So we worked that out and went to the fence. Usually, he kind of is rushy after being reprimanded. But he took the final fence so nice and quiet. Even my trainer was surprised. He is thinking Tay was just not respecting me earlier. So we ended on that note. Yesterday on my own (with help of DH) I set up the pole, jump, pole we had been working on at the end of my lesson. I probably went over it a dozen times (small jump), but he was relaxed (and I was) for the entire time. He never rushed, he came down to the trot after jumping and was just a joy to jump. I was so thrilled. Now, maybe this is a fluke, but I really feel like I'm finally starting to "get it" with him. He's been a very different horse for me, but I'm learning to do things properly, which I love. I know I still need a lot of practice, especially as we add jumps, but it's a good start. Finally.
                            My hopeful road to the 2021 RRP TB Makeover:


                              Greys: Your videos make everything look SO EFFORTLESS and easy! And the pic of your mom is adorable! Same question as lucky, what is a time walk??

                              PF: Air cleared up tons last week but started creeping up back to 100 again today. Our trainer is a little on the conservative side, so nearly all lessons are canceled, only light hacks are allowed. So unfortunately, i've only had two jumping lessons on the pony. One of which I slid off after a not so confident approach to an oxer and i stared down, (i'm 100% ok, landed on my feet), but still shakes you up a little since my last fall was the concussion with TSH! That said, i still like him a lot, hoping i can get a few more jump lessons in to make sure he's not gonna wreck my confidence! I've hacked him a few times this week and he was great! We practiced some poles, not sure if he's still green? he tends to jump them if the distance is wonky, i felt like he will teach me to have a good pace and track :P

                              Lucky: So good to have extra pony time!! Super exciting to be helping out at that huge show!!!


                                Hi everyone! Newly upcoming re-rider here... Will be schooling for the first time in SIX years next week! Any advice? I'm nervous as hell but told my old trainer I wanted to start slow/with the basics. So far, the most painful part has been coming to terms with the fact that I don't fit into my old beloved TS!


                                  Lrp - welcome, welcome! My advice is give yourself grace and take each ride as just that. I had a hard time not comparing what I could do before to what i could do now. I have loads of anxiety that doesn’t help. A good schoolie and patient trainer make a world of difference.

                                  PF- it was lovely as always to see you, too. Still haven’t found the boots for next year.

                                  I’m getting as excited about this show as if I was riding in it. I can’t wait to see all the Gypsy and Color classes, plus reining and side saddle. And watch Pony do her thing 😀


                                    Welcome welcome welcome Irp. I am an Aussie so I have no idea what a TS is.

                                    Grab a foam mat at least 1cm thick and get a pilates workout DVD. Start now and do it daily until your first lesson. I have a Jennifer Kries one and virtually the whole thing is done lying down! It has a 15 minutes workout or it can be a warm up to an hour workout.

                                    Yes Faye -You end up where you look. Look down and you will end up down there.

                                    Repeat a thousand times. Every day I now look at the horizon while I ride.

                                    Yes PF we are constantly dealing with the respect issue here. On the lunge when I change direction I say trot. If they don't trot immediately I tap on the rump with the handle of the lunge whip to trot immediately. I only do this occasionally as they usually trot and it just sharpens them up.

                                    From afar without Sim or hubby knowing I was watching. I watched hubby do EXACTLY the same thing, because of course he has been told to so. Instead of trotting on Sim stood still and kicked at him. I have never seen such disrespect. I went over and told hubby that that was either disrespect or he is injured and in pain. I took the lead rope and tapped exactly as hubby did. It is not a hard tap or a forceful tap, just a tap and said out you go. Sim went out and cantered quietly around. So it was disrespect.

                                    Same with Toby when he was here. For me I taught him to stand still and groomed and tacked with no halter on as I do with all my horses. His owner said he tried to bite her when she was brushing, which surprised me, but nowhere near as surprised when I saw it. Once again the horse and human did not know I was coming. It wasn't one bite. He had his head turned and tried to bite 8 times in 4 seconds while wearing a halter. He stopped the moment I growled his name.

                                    For me - all horses want to please. Let them know what you want and praise. They will try to please. All horses like boundaries. This is what creates respect. You have to be fair but you never let them cross a boundary. That creates respect and confidence in you.

                                    Now this is done to start with with lead rope and halter, etc. In the end I get the same results from a look. It is not just that. It is your breathing. It is your confidence, etc, etc etc.

                                    But what this does mean is that I try not to interfere. I stay here and play on COTH, because hubby has to do it without me there, as me just being present means a different horse. I then go up and take over the ride and untacking, etc so as hubby can ride and still get to work on time.

                                    The last 3 times he has asked for a lesson I have changed something hubby has been doing. Each time Sim changes into a different horse.

                                    In that respect Sim has actually been a better schoolmaster than Dodge. Dodge is an old lesson horse so if hubby does something wrong Dodge ignores and gives hubby a nice ride. Sim does the opposite!
                                    It is better to ride 5 minutes a day than it is to ride 35 minutes on a Sunday.


                                      Originally posted by lrp1106 View Post
                                      Hi everyone! Newly upcoming re-rider here... Will be schooling for the first time in SIX years next week! Any advice? I'm nervous as hell but told my old trainer I wanted to start slow/with the basics. So far, the most painful part has been coming to terms with the fact that I don't fit into my old beloved TS!
                                      Exact same boat the TS are little tight but luckily my Old Harry Hall's are really stretchy. My first lesson back after 6 years is in two days. I am nervous and excited. DH was so helpful and said "if it makes you happy" and followed it with " if you get hurt again, I'll kill you". Had to be a joke because then he would have to do the grocery shopping.


                                        Originally posted by SuzieQNutter View Post
                                        Welcome welcome welcome Irp. I am an Aussie so I have no idea what a TS is.
                                        TS = Tailored Sportsman breeches. The breech that is very popular with hunter/jumper riders.


                                          lucky, I think you need to take pictures at the show! I'd love to see some of the costumes. If you get a chance. I know you'll be busy. Have fun!

                                          Faye, definitely make sure this boy doesn't shake your confidence. Nothing wrong with say, I don't think you're the right pony for me at this time -- if you don't think he is. But if he's a good boy, then do it. Just always be aware of your confidence level. Like greys was saying about her trainer, it's good to have some challenge, but it has to be a reachable challenge. We all need that little push to improve, but some horses tend to give a big shove, haha. Hopefully this one is not that type of horse. I wish you cooler weather and less smoke!

                                          lrp, a big welcome from TN! I know the feeling with breeches (Suzie, TS are Tailored Sportsman breeches). For now, just enjoy the ride, be safe, and have fun. I look forward to hearing more.

                                          Suzie, I think I have his respect on the flat, but maybe he gets a big sassier when we jump. I don't have any problems with flat work, dressage, so at least there's that. And really, I never noticed it much over fences, either, until he didn't want to back up more than two or three steps. So we'll be working on that when we need to.

                                          four2farm (you may become 42F for brevity! ) Welcome! It's okay to be nervous! Just go and enjoy yourself. And report back. Good point about your DH...he probably doesn't want to have to do the grocery shopping. ha. I'm with ya on that one.


                                          I rode before working today, since it was so nice out. And the days are getting shorter, so I will probably be doing more daytime rides. Dante was a very good boy. We did the little gymnastic jump, maybe 8 to 10 times (very low) and he was SO good. I am looking forward to my lesson on Thursday to see what we can accomplish!

                                          Getting ready for the St. Jude event. I need to start packing up the trailer! I will be leaving on Friday, home on Sunday.

                                          Waiting on the results from my last dressage show. They should be out today. Fingers crossed I hit my goal. If not, I will hit it in October!
                                          My hopeful road to the 2021 RRP TB Makeover: