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  • hi Amandine, I've heard great things about you and CWD!

    In any case, good luck with everything! Have you found another job? Still in the saddles or tack business?
    Last edited by fluffy_pony; Oct. 26, 2012, 08:55 AM. Reason: requested by poster of quoted text


    • aw, thanks! *blushing smiley*

      I know the girls in the office are doing a great job, although Jenny left a few months before I did. She works with Antares now, so I'm sure you'll get great customer service there too... I trained her well hahaha.
      There is a new Jenny in the CWD office, so customers tend to be all confused I only worked with her for a few months, but she is great too
      I stay informed of all activities and gossip through my best buddy Ludo who is the LA rep.

      No, I haven't found a job yet... trying very hard to come back to the US but still stuck in France for now. Visa sponsors are kind of hard to find. The good thing is I get to spend time with my family and my horse, and I haven't lost hope of finding my dream job soon.



      • Oh boy, Quietann. I hope you figure out your mystery lameness. It sounds too much like what my horse had last year, which turned out to be a coffin bone stress fracture and collateral ligament injury. Now, thirteen months later, we are still rehabbing. It's been long, slow, expensive and depressing. Jingles for your horse!

        We get yet another vet check next Friday. So far we are trotting all the way around the ring going his "good" way, and just trotting straight lines going the "bad" way.

        Hope you all are enjoying the nice weather before it gets cold and rainy. This fall has been beautiful down here. It's been in the 80's all week. The last Brownland Farm show of the year is this week, and all of my friends who are showing over there are enjoying the beautiful days and wonderful facility.

        Tarheel, tell hubby he done good! Have a fun trip!
        It's 2018. Do you know where your old horse is?

        www.streamhorsetv.com -- website with horse show livestream listings and links.


        • Pony4me, the Xrays taken so far show nothing unusual in the coffin bones... but eek! I've already done the surgery and lengthy rehab with her once, and I really don't want to go through it all again.

          Here she is in her ginormous wrap as of this evening. This was before I put the standing wrap back on her other foreleg:
          https://picasaweb.google.com/103634878102801472104/October252012#5803438900441076466. She is tolerating it all very well so far.
          You have to have experiences to gain experience.

          1998 Morgan mare Mythic Feronia "More Valley Girl Than Girl Scout!"


          • Originally posted by quietann View Post

            Here she is in her ginormous wrap as of this evening.
            Pretty big indeed!

            Poor girl, I hope you find out what's wrong.


            • Quietann, , so sorry about Feronia...I hope you get some answers and some healing very, very soon!

              CVPeg- that's so incredible! Congrats

              Tarheel - congrats on the saddle purchase! I've been toying with the idea of taking some dressage lessons at some point as well, as Ollie has some training in dressage, and he's a quite lovely mover with incredible transitions that we've been working on. And how wonderful for the London trip! What a fantastic present.

              Welcome to all our new people!

              My husband said last night that he might get me new boots for Christmas - the Tredstep Donatellos. Tried them on at Dover, and they sure fit me well.
              Blog chronicling our new eventing adventures: Riding With Scissors


              • PaintedHunter...love the Donatellos. They were MY Christmas present last year!

                Re-rider here, too. Started back about 2 years ago. Had some confidence issues with another horse I had (came off twice when she would prop/buck at the canter). Since then have gotten different horse, and started lessons again. Just now starting to feel confidence and like I'm learning again. Whew.
                “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
                ¯ Oscar Wilde


                • Originally posted by ParadoxFarm View Post
                  PaintedHunter...love the Donatellos. They were MY Christmas present last year!

                  Re-rider here, too. Started back about 2 years ago. Had some confidence issues with another horse I had (came off twice when she would prop/buck at the canter). Since then have gotten different horse, and started lessons again. Just now starting to feel confidence and like I'm learning again. Whew.
                  Your story is MY story to a T! Started back two years ago, bought a horse, he did a 180 and ended up totally wrong for me - sent my confidence backwards and my butt into the dirt repeatedly. Got a new horse in June, and I have accomplished more in 4 months than I did the previous almost two years! It's AMAZING what the right horse fit will do for you.
                  Blog chronicling our new eventing adventures: Riding With Scissors


                  • Originally posted by TarheelJD View Post

                    I went a little crazy in the last couple of days! I just today bought a friend of mine's County Competitor dressage saddle (she was selling it because it does not fit her new horse). Tajar and I have done a couple of very low level combined tests, and they were a lot of fun -- I'd like to keep doing 2 or 3 a year. So, I figured I might as well start taking the dressage component seriously. Before I "test rode" the saddle last night, I had never ridden in a dressage saddle in my life. Holy smokes -- it's different!!! I think this dressage saddle will be a fun new toy, and it may help my perennial problem of leaning too far forward!!

                    Headed out of town this weekend. I hate to miss good riding weather, but my husband gave me my Christmas present early -- we are going to London to see the opening of the new James Bond movie! I am a little bit of a James Bond fanatic. It's just a quick trip - tomorrow through Sunday. I can't believe he planned the whole thing on his own, and kept it a surprise!

                    Hope everyone continues to have great rides, and that any and all injuries to horses and humans are on the mend!
                    Wow! Jealous on both accounts ... the saddle and London! I want to get a dressage saddle, too. It makes transitions and sitting work so much easier, plus, the horse I ride is going to be 25 this year, so less and less jumping for us.

                    I am a bit obsessed with Jane Austen and other British authors, including TV and film adaptation. I just love Colin Firth and Matthew Macfadyen who played Mr. Darcy. If I could go to one of their premiers, I would! Daniel Craig is nothing to sneeze at though!
                    You hate that, don’t you? Do you like oysters? You have to acquire a taste for oysters and the deep distance.”
                    -- George H. Morris on learning to love the deep distance


                    • Boy, you get away from this board for even a week and all kinds of stuff happens!

                      Welcome to the newest members!

                      Jingles for the lame and hope a cause is found soon.

                      Handstands to the jumpers out of the comfort zone and riders in the field with no airs above!'

                      I have had some serious issues riding my boy. When we do lessons, all three of us, trainer, me, and horse all end up pissed off and frustrated - mainly because of me. I get so worried about what I am/am not doing that I screw it all up. Things that should be relatively simple turn into quantum physics - i.e. circle to the right without bulging. Nope, not happening.

                      It got to the point that my trainer talked to me about another person who might be willing to trade their somewhat been there done that qh mare for my tb. Said I should consider it. Can't tell you how badly I felt at that - logic had no part in it - just felt like a total failure. But, said I would ride the mare and see. As it turns out, that is not an option.

                      See, on the ground, my horse and I are so in tune. I walk out into the pasture with his halter he comes to meet me, even if it means pulling his head out of the hay. When I dismount, he will follow me around the ring. Just today, four horses out grazing in the "yard", the troublemaker of the group says "we run now" and off they all go into the front pasture (gate was open). I get there, call mine, he immediately stops what he's doing and comes to me.

                      In the saddle, not so much. But, I rode him today. There is a hurricane off the coast, cloudy, windy and all that. He was a total jewel. We even managed the dreaded right circle without bulging. We trotted all around the arena on a loose rein. He was a totally good boy.

                      Now, I am thinking I just need to pull my head out of my ______ and just ride my horse.

                      Sorry this is so long.......
                      And nothing bad happened!


                      • jaslyn, have a look at today's post in the Mugwump Chronicles blog:

                        You have to have experiences to gain experience.

                        1998 Morgan mare Mythic Feronia "More Valley Girl Than Girl Scout!"


                        • Thank you so much quietann - that hits the nail on the proverbial head!
                          And nothing bad happened!


                          • Quietann, that's a GEM of a post.

                            Jaslyn, here's what I have to say on this matter: sometimes when you think you aren't learning anything, or not progressing- that's when you are actually learning the most. On my gelding that I just sold, it was more than 1.5 years of disaster after disaster. I wasn't feeling like I was getting anywhere with him, and was scared to even canter on him after a while. Hell, sometimes even scared to trot. There was spooking, bucking, tension, overjumping, ducking out - you name the problem, we had it as a team.

                            Then I got Ollie, and I still had my old guy for a few months before he got his new home. I started taking lessons on Ollie, and my fear and regression in riding started to slowly dissipate. I got braver and slightly more confident, and started to ride my old guy some more after a few months. Suddenly, what I found was: I knew how to handle his issues a LOT more than I thought I did. Our 1.5 years of "failures" were actually a really long lesson in how to handle his kind of temperament, greenness and sensibility. I started being able to ride him BETTER than the much better and more confident rider who was training him a bit, because I had spent all that time on him, but suddenly could handle more. I anticipated his spooks, I knew how to settle him, and knew when to push and when not to. He still wasn't a good personality match for me, but I realized in the end that he had actually taught me WAY more than I thought I had been learning, and I'll be forever grateful for that.

                            Now as for you? You're learning. You're developing. Trust that you are. Sometimes you just have to have more confidence and faith in yourself that you ARE a good rider. I'd say to take some lessons on some old schoolies and get that sense of accomplishment back in you. I am guessing it's going to help you get your head back and realize that you CAN, in fact, ride your guy and do so much more than you think you're capable of.
                            Blog chronicling our new eventing adventures: Riding With Scissors


                            • Thank you all for the support.

                              Rode the boy three days in a row. Friday was one of the best rides I have ever had on him - even the dreaded right turn without bulging!

                              Yesterday, I had melt down. As in tears running down my face for hours. And yet, thinking back it wasn't that bad. It was windier than Friday. He did a sideways spook and I rode it. A little later, he did a butt scoot spook, and I rode it. Both times, his "reward" was getting whacked in the face. We even did a little trotting.

                              Thank goodness for super wonderful barn friends who don't let you feel too sorry for yourself for too long and are able to point out the good that you managed to accomplish.

                              Came home, sniveled some more and slept for about 9 hours.

                              So, today is blue skies, cool, but not cold, gentle breeze. When we get ready to ride, I have to hike out to the pack a lunch part of the pasture/woods to get my horse. This is after he made a brief appearance, but then took off for the rest of the herd. Gotta love those hikes - can't see where the ponies are in the woods. Stomping and cursing and calling. Finally find them in the farthest back corner they could be in and your horse looks at you as if to say, "Oh, hey, were you calling me?"

                              I get my horse and start the long trek back to the barn. And I wondered if his brain came with him - he tried to drag me; he lagged behind, he called to his pals - all things he normally does not do. Great, I say to myself, just great.

                              Get him back, get him tacked up and all is good. I get on and we start walking around and it does seem that his brain made the trip from the woods!

                              I ask for the trot - and feel like we are both about to fall down. Step, gimp, step gimp. Try the other way - it's worse. Ok, I get off, adjust the tack, check feet and get back on - same thing. I get off and go back to the barn and check his feet, rearrange my pads just in case, and go back out and get back on. Same thing - he's lame. Can't find any soft/sore spots, but he is most definitely lame.

                              But, I got the trots I wanted, was posting along on the three legged horse, so it was, all in all a good ride.

                              Thanks again. I will keep pushing forward!
                              And nothing bad happened!


                              • Some random thoughts and updates.

                                -- Still not riding, but will hopefully be back in the saddle next Monday. Weather and work permitting. I've actually enjoyed the time off. I miss Oliver, but it's hard trying to focus on riding and improving while managing work problems in your head at the same time. And the heat. The heat really got to me this year, even though we had a milder summer.

                                -- Since the weather is changing, I'm taking Oliver off One AC until April, and until then, trying out Grand Hoof. His hooves really aren't that bad -- for a thoroughbred -- but he's barefoot right now and I'd like to keep him that way.

                                -- After not riding for 3 months, I'm ridiculously happy that I continued to let the teen at the barn keep riding him. She loves him and spoils him like I do. And it keeps him in shape. She showed him this past weekend (dressage) and walked away with 2 red ribbons!

                                -- First of the year, I plan on getting my old Crosby PDN taken apart and flocked with wool and maybe getting some extra pads put in for his withers. Well, assuming there's nothing wrong with the interior parts. I can probably do it for around $300-400 ... which is still a lot better than buying a new saddle. He's not complaining, but he has shark fin withers and while my saddle fits good enough, it's not as good as it could be.

                                Dewey, she looks great! She's got a huge jump -- and those knees!!

                                Bumknees: I haven't officially posted in a while, but I've been keeping up with you and your posts and you're doing great! There's been a huge change. I hope it continues going well!

                                Everyone else, please know I've been reading your posts and sending jingles your way!

                                And WELCOME to the newbies! I hope you all find the support and encouragement you need here, or at least some of it. It's so much easier when you have friends that understand.
                                The dude abides ...


                                • I know I haven't written much yet. I'm trying to catch up on this thread. . Anyway, thought I would ask for some jingles. I have an appointment tomorrow to go over my MRI results. About seven months ago I whacked my ankle when I was cantering in the warmup ring at a show. Just wasn't paying attention, was looking right, and whacked the left foot on a fence post. It STILL hurts. So finally had the MRI on Friday. Hope I don't have to stop riding for any amount of time. Not when I am just starting to feel like my riding is improving!
                                  “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
                                  ¯ Oscar Wilde


                                  • aw
                                    Jingles to you ParadoxFarm, let us know how it goes!


                                    • Thanks, fluffy. I will. Fingers crossed.
                                      “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
                                      ¯ Oscar Wilde


                                      • Any news ParadoxFarm? I hope the MRI results were good. Sometime soft tissue injuries take a really long time to heal, so you could just be nursing a really awful, deep bruise.

                                        Back from London -- it was great, and now it is time to start focusing on riding more and getting in better shape! I am determined to have a good training winter so we are ready to have a successful show season next year! Progress in the hunter ring, as well as a 2 or 3 schooling events, mostly to test our dressage improvement.

                                        jaslyn -- I totally empathize with your frustration, and I agree with PaintedHunter, I often have to remind myself that I am not as big of a mess in the saddle as I feel some days. So odd, because I have self-confidence to spare in the "real" world at work, etc., but I have such a lack of confidence in my riding ability. I don't really undertand it, other than that the bad fall I took in July, 2010 may still have me shaken up.
                                        Riding a horse is not a gentle hobby, to be picked up and laid down like a game of solitaire. It is a grand passion.... ~ Emerson


                                        • Well, shoot. Results in. Talar dome fracture lateral and medial. Basically a crushed ankle. I came home in a full hard cast. No riding. Heck, no anything for a while. After the hard cast comes off in three weeks I have to be in a boot cast. I can't believe it's taken seven months to get to the bottom of this pain. I'm embarrassed to say I'm a little depressed right now.

                                          I don't think I relayed how this accident happened. I was at a schooling show in the warmup ring. A girl had fallen off her horse and was down at the other end of the arena. I was cantering to the right and looking over my right shoulder to see if the girl was okay. Well, I got too close to the fence and whacked a fence post with my ankle. It made a popping noise. Ouch. I then went in and did my class. (Dummy). I did drop my second class, though. But that's what happened. I continued to ride since then and it has been okay in the saddle. It's walking that could stop me in my tracks. Sigh.
                                          “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
                                          ¯ Oscar Wilde