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  • Thanks Dewey! And velvet helmet-ers, unite! So sorry about your trainer's maybe-decision to sell your beloved former project...that has GOT to hurt I can't imagine how difficult it would be to invest so much time and love in a horse and then see your beloved little guy get sold. Hopefully it was just an off-hand comment meant to show how much she values the guy.

    My trainer and her husband, just for fun, put a cordless mic on me and video-taped me for a ride...and then edited it down to just the stupid moments of me riding/talking. It was hilarious, and cringe-worthy at moments too. I have a huge potty mouth! And I need to work on distances and equitation with my heel coming up and moving too far forward. Ugh.
    Blog chronicling our new eventing adventures: Riding With Scissors

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    • Thanks for your kind words, PH. Your post made me tear up.

      (Had to smile, though--can't picture you as a potty mouth!)
      I heard a neigh. Oh, such a brisk and melodious neigh as that was! My very heart leaped with delight at the sound. --Nathaniel Hawthorne

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      • Oh I am the WORST when it comes to being a potty-mouth while riding! My barnmates always are incredibly entertained by me You might be able to convince me to share the video via PM if you promise not to send it around!
        Blog chronicling our new eventing adventures: Riding With Scissors

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        • Well...hahaha...It might be fun to hear it!
          I heard a neigh. Oh, such a brisk and melodious neigh as that was! My very heart leaped with delight at the sound. --Nathaniel Hawthorne

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          • Sky has been lugging on me lately, so we played musical bits last week to find something to use in the show, so we could get around the course without ending up at mach 3. We ended up with a jointed rubber pelham with a very short shank. She went pretty well in it on Friday afternoon when I jumped her around the course. The jumps had all been moved to a big field and decorated with pine boughs, flowers, and shrubs, and she was very "looky" but good. She has come a long way since last spring when she freaked out over a cross rail with flowers under it.

            Saturday, she was just super. We jumped a warm up round then both courses in the 2' division, and she was better every time around. The last class, she won. I was thrilled with her. Later in the day, she went in Pleasure Horse in her regular bit, and went around very nicely on a loopy rein, so I was very proud of her.

            This morning we had a clinic with the judge, and he told me she was a very cute mare, a great jumper, and was as "brave as snot" to the jumps. I would have paid the clinic fee just to hear him say that. He gave me great exercises to work on to get her to relax, and he helped me with my equitation as well. Great couple of days though I am wiped out!

            Here are some pics from the show. They aren't pro pics; one of the barn girls has a really nice camera and a good eye for a shot. Yes, it's true: I wore my safety vest in the show.

            http://i841.photobucket.com/albums/z...sfbe28bc1.jpeg

            http://i841.photobucket.com/albums/z...sdf9bac7b.jpeg
            I heard a neigh. Oh, such a brisk and melodious neigh as that was! My very heart leaped with delight at the sound. --Nathaniel Hawthorne

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            • Training Rides

              Hey All!

              Is it a fair goal to wean oneself off of training rides and go it alone with trainer in three times weekly lessons?

              How many of you are doing it mostly yourself with a young horse while receiving pressure to have trainer show/train horse in perpetuity?

              At $3K a week to show, I am not inclined to continue to watch trainer ride and show horse as I sit on the sidelines.

              Appreicate anyone's thoughts...horse is five, I'm not going off him and realize there is a lot of growing up to do on his part. : )

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              • Hi, ballisticgirl, and welcome! Is your screenname a description of yourself or your horse?

                Several of us are working with green horses including yours truly. I don't know how to answer your question, though, because I don't ride at an A show barn, and it sounds as if you do. My coach is very experienced and competent, but she does not do "training rides" for riders. The concept of training rides and paying a pro to ride one's horse at a show is a foreign world to me. I know a lot of people do it, and it is considered quite normal, but personally, I wouldn't buy a horse for someone else to train and show. I'm not judging you; that's just my own outlook. Keep in mind that I have never showed at an A show in my life and probably never will.

                I gather from your post that you are tired of the expense and maybe are feeling frustrated that someone else gets to ride your horse all the time. Are you experienced enough to bring your horse along yourself with regular lessons?
                I heard a neigh. Oh, such a brisk and melodious neigh as that was! My very heart leaped with delight at the sound. --Nathaniel Hawthorne

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                • Hey Dewey!

                  Long story about the ballistic thing....but I am about to go ballistic with my horse situation. LOL!

                  I am a competent rider and have been back at the sport for two years. My barn does local and A shows so a blend of clients. I really wish I could find a program like yours as it would be much more rewarding to make progress without being hand held along the way. It seems most barns in the area are of like mind. I often review show results (horseshowsonline) and a good portion of results on horses have pros in the tack. It's exasperating, really....It's just I want great care and clean facilities and well, then there comes the "Your horse needs me to ride it and you can't show for a few years" conversation.

                  I will keep looking around until I find a place where I can accomplish my goals over a longer period of time and without the added cost.

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                  • BG, I wish you luck. I would find your situation very frustrating. It sounds to me as if you are capable of training your horse yourself, especially as you are taking so many lessons. Is it possible to just go to the local shows? Would you get the same flak from the trainer about riding the horse yourself?
                    I heard a neigh. Oh, such a brisk and melodious neigh as that was! My very heart leaped with delight at the sound. --Nathaniel Hawthorne

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                    • Originally posted by Dewey View Post
                      This morning we had a clinic with the judge, and he told me she was a very cute mare, a great jumper, and was as "brave as snot" to the jumps. I would have paid the clinic fee just to hear him say that. He gave me great exercises to work on to get her to relax, and he helped me with my equitation as well. Great couple of days though I am wiped out!

                      Here are some pics from the show. They aren't pro pics; one of the barn girls has a really nice camera and a good eye for a shot. Yes, it's true: I wore my safety vest in the show.
                      Dewey - Look at those kneeeeees! She is super over fences. And congrats on your accomplishments. Love the judge's comments as well!
                      But he thought, "This procession has got to go on." So he walked more proudly than ever, as his noblemen held high the train that wasn't there at all. H.C.Anderson

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                      • Congratulations on a great show and clinic Dewey. The pictures are fantastic, you both look awesome !!

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                        • Thanks, CVPeg and Hazel! I have been staring at the pictures off and on all day! I knew she was a good jumper, but I didn't quite realize how good! Love the expression on her face, too! Do I sound like a proud mama?!
                          I heard a neigh. Oh, such a brisk and melodious neigh as that was! My very heart leaped with delight at the sound. --Nathaniel Hawthorne

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                          • Dewey, that's all so awesome!! What great news, and look at those legs- cleared with a foot to spare! I think you have a potential superstar on your hands

                            I had an amazing day- I somehow talked myself into jumping three feet, and did it twice. It felt so good afterwards!
                            Blog chronicling our new eventing adventures: Riding With Scissors

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                            • 3 feet?! Wooo hooo, you go, girl!
                              I heard a neigh. Oh, such a brisk and melodious neigh as that was! My very heart leaped with delight at the sound. --Nathaniel Hawthorne

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                              • I could hardly believe myself! My trainer encouraged it, as I'm usually a weenie. I'm lucky, though, in that my Ollie will ALWAYS go over - or through!- anything I point him at, and tolerates a LOT.
                                Blog chronicling our new eventing adventures: Riding With Scissors

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                                • Well, congrats on your milestone.
                                  I heard a neigh. Oh, such a brisk and melodious neigh as that was! My very heart leaped with delight at the sound. --Nathaniel Hawthorne

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                                  • Originally posted by ballisticgirl View Post
                                    Hey All!

                                    Is it a fair goal to wean oneself off of training rides and go it alone with trainer in three times weekly lessons?

                                    How many of you are doing it mostly yourself with a young horse while receiving pressure to have trainer show/train horse in perpetuity?

                                    At $3K a week to show, I am not inclined to continue to watch trainer ride and show horse as I sit on the sidelines.

                                    Appreicate anyone's thoughts...horse is five, I'm not going off him and realize there is a lot of growing up to do on his part. : )
                                    Like Dewey the thought of a Pro ride is a concept that is forgen to me. Back in the Day we didnt have "Pro Rides" we did the horse our selves it didnt matter if they were push button or firebreathing dragons. Thats not to say our trainers did not get on our horses if we had problems with them, but it was not " expected" that they rode our horses instead of us riding them.

                                    What if you said "no i think Im going to ride my own horse with you only riding IF I have a PROBLEM and SHOWING me how to correct the PROBLEM." to your trainer what do you think she would say. ( be sure to use the word problen not "issue" for you would have a problem not an issue if she was needed to ride your horse). She may have a fit if so it is time to leave the barn for one where you dont have to have a "Pro ride" your horse and let this "pro" know that also. Let her know you are willig t leave her barn to seek out one that dosent reqire a pro ride and one that dosent say that you cant ride your own horse. Let her chew on that and see wha says.

                                    She insuts you by saying "Your horse needs me to ride it and you can't show for a few years" if you cant ride your ouw horse then why did you buy it? She is after $$$ from you so take it away from her by saying "NO".

                                    I would have left her a long time ago. ( if I was healthy that is) I see her as a money grubing person who thinks her clients shoud support the way she wish to be accosom ( kinda like my MIL who think her DIL should).
                                    Friend of bar .ka

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                                    • Originally posted by Dewey View Post
                                      Well, congrats on your milestone.
                                      Thanks! I still feel on top of the WORLD today! I have a feeling trainer's going to be really pushing me now- she said his form over bigger fences is so much better, and we got better spots than usual.
                                      Blog chronicling our new eventing adventures: Riding With Scissors

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                                      • It sounds like people are really doing well. I've been in the "Oh I'd never jump that high!" camp, and guess what, I did! (Highest I did before my accident was 3'3", in the form of one fence on a 2'6" to 3' course...) If I can do it, so can you

                                        Meanwhile... Feronia's lame It happened very suddenly yesterday, of course during a dressage test in front of a judge. She didn't want to go from walk to trot (very odd, for her), I tapped her with the whip, she trotted and bam. Head. Bobbing. Lame. on the right front. Farrier just saw her... we were hoping abscess or stone bruise, but he thinks it's something higher up. Vet comes tomorrow. I am very worried... I've kept her duct-taped together for 2 years now, knowing at any time she could come apart on me. I so hope it's not happening now.
                                        You have to have experiences to gain experience.

                                        1998 Morgan mare Mythic Feronia "More Valley Girl Than Girl Scout!"

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                                        • Oh, Quietann. Jingles for Feronia. I hope it's just something simple. Let us know what the vet says.

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