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  • Thank you PF!!! For a young horse, he is very self-assured. I think that's bc the breeders focused so much on the ground working and trail riding etc. Under saddle, I remember half halting and he came right back to the walk and I was like oh, maybe he's a little lazy but then when we were doing some jumping, he was really ready and happy to get back to work. He is just very workmanlike under saddle.

    He kind of has that stallion confidence and awareness of everything around him, but none of the intense ego you have to manage. I have a suspicion they gelded him fairly recently bc he has that really nice coat and mane and tail. His registered name is Imre Doc C and his barn name is Doc, which I don't love.

    He is by Indoctro, and he has Ramiro on the motherline, so I was thinking Indorami for his show name. But I may keep his show name to respect the breeders. I don't love Doc tbh. This is him jumping with Susie Hutchinson in the 5 year olds.
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    • AHHHH OMG. I'm so excited. Look at that pretty boy jump!! Hmm. Okay will think of name ideas. Doc does conjure up a quarter horse, doesn't it? Indie? This will take some collective thought. Again, congrats!
      My hopeful road to the 2020 RRP TB Makeover:


      • Greys - Congrats!!! He is gorgeous!! And a great mind to boot. =) Imre is a common men's name in Hungary, I believe it translates to Henry so how about Hank for a cowboy barn name!


        • I like Hank. And I love Henry.
          My hopeful road to the 2020 RRP TB Makeover:


          • Greys- Love, love the new boy! And Susie Hutchison- double wow. I love Henry too and Hank totally makes me think of a guy with swagger.

            I'm bringing my boots to the barn Sunday for Fab to see, and I may end up riding in them, or I may chicken out and bathtub them on a Sunday when I'm not working or riding and break them in first. Getting my right leg stuck rather traumatized me about the whole thing

            On a funny note, Granny Dot has been sneaking Granddad Oneal some liquor at his Assisted Living. She mixes him Jack and Coke or his favorite Cold Duck wine and brings it in an old Ensure bottle. The folks just think he loves the Ensure a lot. Hey, when you're 92 (or higher), you can have whatever you want.


            • Awww Greys, it looks like you are one that needs a new name!
              It is better to ride 5 minutes a day than it is to ride 35 minutes on a Sunday.


              • Anyone actually riding in this heat? Sheesh. I have been in court all week, so I've been busy, but I wouldn't have ridden anyway. Maybe very early tomorrow I can get out and ride. My trainer is back in town, and I don't have a horse. Unless I split lessons with DH and Jazzy. Happy Friday, all.
                My hopeful road to the 2020 RRP TB Makeover:


                • I'm gonna brave it Sunday morning- riding at 9.

                  What brand/style of show jackets do you guys have? I'm in search of a new/new to me jacket. I need something with some give to fit the curves and short enough as I don't have long arms.


                  • Originally posted by ParadoxFarm View Post
                    Anyone actually riding in this heat? Sheesh. I have been in court all week, so I've been busy, but I wouldn't have ridden anyway. Maybe very early tomorrow I can get out and ride. My trainer is back in town, and I don't have a horse. Unless I split lessons with DH and Jazzy. Happy Friday, all.

                    we have decimated our herd and I am feeding them outside our property with temporary fencing. One cow and one cow and calf left. All the rest are young heifers and the bull, to hopefully start again with if we survive.

                    We were taking the horses outside our front gate in the other direction to graze until our neighbours let their cattle out there and they ate all the feed.

                    There is not one blade of grass on our property of 100 acres. In the newspapers farmers have not seen it this bad in their lifetime.

                    We are solely feeding the horses. There is no point paying a fortune to feed them and then running off the calories riding them.

                    It is fairly hot during the day. It is winter. There is no moisture or vegetation on the ground to freeze. So far a thin layer of ice on a horse trough one day.
                    It is better to ride 5 minutes a day than it is to ride 35 minutes on a Sunday.


                    • Had a good bit of fun with Pony today. We had a group lesson, and OMG it was like herding cats. I've never done so many circles and random shapes to stay out of the way of walking horses when we're to be trotting. I think we all (3) were going to same gait two or three times in the hour. Pony got a mini break before she went again- which of course meant awesome Pony snuggles- she's such a lovebug- I brushed her favorite itchy spots on her face and she promptly fell asleep resting her head in my arms.

                      Fab and I were talking about Eq classes and no stirrup work. She said it's not uncommon to be asked to drop stirrups while posting trot and then pick them up again while trotting. She asked if I could do it, to which I replied "we're about to find out". Pony was a flipping metronome- we did it, I didn't eat dirt, and we didn't stop.

                      I hit one of my new goals today- I didn't walk until it was requested by Fab, and man did we have some long trot sets, rising and collected, while Fab dealt with rider/horse issues. I was quite proud of myself


                      • Awesome ride report, lucky! Good for you. Hard work pays off.

                        suzie, hope you get some relief soon.


                        I rode early on Saturday to beat the heat. Chico was a good boy. I still don't ask for much from him. Just a nice ride. I think it's good for him to move, too.
                        My hopeful road to the 2020 RRP TB Makeover:


                        • Hi everyone!! I know i only pop in here like once a year or even less, but I have been thinking about you all!! And keep up with those who are in IG

                          I want to drop by to share some life updates. I sold TSH. *sniff* . He is a very good boy and taught me so much, but i cannot handle the stress of ownership. Money and time. If i can consistently have a leaser for him then it's totally fine, but it's not easy to find one. And lets be honest, it is a great way to get away from my trainer who i know yall adore so much.

                          I don't want to make this a long story. I don't want to appear to be someone who gives up easily, but after i fell off and had a concussion, ambulance to the hospital (I'm totally okay, but that was scary as hell!), and he has someone who LOVES him to pieces and wants to buy him, it was time to let go.

                          I feel so much relief because i don't have to worry about lack of time, and how much $$ i'm spending a month on a hobby. Remember never grew up riding, it is a concept i still don't quite get :P . In the bay area, boarding is 1K, plus training, and omg, why does his shoes costs so much? everything adds up and i'm so relieved.

                          I took a month off and i'm back taking lessons. I found a barn i like, unfortunately in my area, nothing is cheap, but the lessons are not too bad. For once, i had a lesson that the trainer is not on the phone the whole time sitting on a chair, and did not tell me I'm not trying hard enough. In my trial lesson, she wanted an idea of where my riding is, and just set up some low fences, then strung 3 fences together and gave me some simple things to think about and work on. I'm really easy to please

                          I think this is a very good decision for me. Travel is crazy at work. TSH and I checked off some bucket list items. We did an eventing show and nobody died . He's now in a good home (staying at the same barn), so all is good.


                          • Faye, it's wonderful to hear from you. I've thought of you often. I'm happy that you are okay from that scary sounding fall. It happens. And you know, horse ownership is a big commitment in both time, and money, and stress level. So you did what was right for you, and that's good. And you found pony a good home, so no problems. Enjoy the lessons. I'm actually quite happy you found a new barn and a trainer that pays attention to you. Good!!
                            My hopeful road to the 2020 RRP TB Makeover:


                            • PF: One of the reasons for the lack of participation here is that despite the words of wisdom, i stayed with my old trainer for too long. Honestly, this seems a little like Stockholm syndrome to me. I know the situation is bad but i make excuses, but it wasn't working at all. I went into the eventing trial without her schooling us for the dressage test at all. I had no idea what to expect. Also some of the comments of her made me feel absolutely shitty. I'm hoping to have a new start . And since i'm just enjoying lessons, if things don't work out, i have a much easier way out!


                              • Faye I'm so happy to read your post. I wish more people could be so brave and take care of themselves and what they need, while making sure to take the best care of their animals. I have definitely been in situations with trainers that were really not positive and stayed for way too long. It's so hard, and kind of embarrassing. I totally get not wanting to talk about it. I'm so glad you're in a better situation that works for you and what you want from the sport. My hat is off to you.

                                PF I really feel you on the heat, it gives me ZERO motivation to ride the horses, it just feels miserable for everyone! I can see the dawn of fall on the horizon and hopefully it gets more comfortable soon!

                                Suzie WOW it sounds absolutely brutal where you are. I'm so sorry. Is this very atypical?

                                Lucky sounds like a really terrific lesson! Well done with the no stirrups, that's a great achievement as well as hitting your goal. How were the boots? I ride in Equiline coats and when it's really hot the Alessandro Albanese motion lite coats. They are ventilated and super comfortable. But I worry them may be too long for you. Maybe look on a used website (tried equestrian is awesome) for Cavalleria Toscana coats, they are beautifully made and will last you forever and they run much shorter.


                                Thanks everyone for the kind words about the new horse. He has settled in very well to his temporary home. He can be a bit naughty on the ground sometimes, a little hop here or there, but generally good boy. We jumped around a small course this weekend and it blew me away how easy he is. I think he's easier to jump around than Sandro, just no spook and he almost feels happy when you point him in front of a jump. And despite looking a bit old fashioned, he has oodles of blood when you jump, so I think in a couple years, he could be quite competitive. For now, we're just getting to know each other. The horses will go to trainer bootcamp next week and then ship up for Split Rock in Sonoma. I'm excited.


                                • Greys: Makes me so happy to hear that ! I am so embarrassed about this whole thing. I am very glad this is over though. And congrats to getting your baby horse!! He is SO CUTE!


                                  • Faye, I know it's easy for me to say, don't be embarassed. If it makes you feel any better, most of us here have gone through situations similar to you. And like greys said, kudos for you for making a decision that works for you! Please, come here any time. We missed you. Give Tobey a kiss from me.

                                    greys, did you come up with a new name for the new boy? I can't wait to hear more about him. And it's awesome that you already feel like he has a great way of jumping. I think you two are going to be awesome!

                                    My hopeful road to the 2020 RRP TB Makeover:


                                    • Greys- thanks for the recs on coats. I will be breaking in, aka bathtubbing, the boots a week from Sunday, since I won't have a lesson or anywhere to be so I can wear them til they dry, so stay tuned for another update. I absolutely LOVE your new guy- I'm super excited for you.

                                      Faye- I've been thinking about you a good bit, and hoping you were safely traveling for work and all. I'm proud of you for taking the plunge, both in doing what is right for you and for TSH, instead of hanging on and making yourself miserable. I'm so glad you can enjoy riding and horsey time without any pressure. You deserve a trainer that sees how awesome you are whether you have a horse or not!


                                      • Lucky: thank you !! It was not an easy decision and it all happened with the right timing. I would’ve gotten out when I didn’t own. I don’t know why I felt the need to stay when the situation was so bad.


                                        • Thanks, Meg, lucky, Mustang, and Greys! The encouragement is much appreciated, and it’s fun reading along with everyone’s news and progress here. And Greys, congrats on your new boy!! Wow, look at that jump he's got!

                                          So, I had my first lesson in almost two decades on Tuesday and despite the heat and humidity, it was fantastic. As an aside, though: WOW, riding on the East Coast in summer is way worse than the West! I *miss* California!! And why did I choose to start in August?! And please baby Jesus, let my backordered half chaps come in soon, because riding in friend's winter boots was "toasty"!

                                          I rode an ex-jumper schoolie and he was lovely (if a bit lazy). He was a *saint* putting up with out-of-shape, loose, bouncy me – thank god! And the trainer was great too. I really like her. She helped me get over my nerves, she praised what I did well, she pointed out the things that I wasn't doing well, and afterwards she went over my strengths and weaknesses so I know what to focus on. She was very encouraging.

                                          I was a little (a LOT) nervous and scared on the mounting block but once I was in the saddle, the fear pretty much went away. It just felt like home. Prior to getting on I also had a weird, pathological fear that my out-of-shape body wouldn't be able to swing my leg over for the dismount and would kick him in the butt, but that proved unfounded. I did it more or less like I have always done with both feet out of the stirrups and came off just fine – albeit less gracefully.

                                          As I mentioned before, I think a lot of my fear comes from my lack of physical strength – i.e. being scared I'm too weak to stay in the tack, especially through spooks and bucks, etc. Well, I survived three spooks! Ironically, I am glad he had a bit of spook in him. I think riding through them (or realizing I am able to ride through them) made me less scared. So, I still need more time in the saddle and more time in the gym to get strong enough for me to calm my crazy, but the ride did a lot to quiet the crazy too.

                                          As for the actual ride, my muscle memory was there, as was my subconscious use of aids and my ability to get the correct leads and find/feel my diagonal without looking. So that was exciting. I was really expecting to have to do things in a very conscious, step-wise fashion, so I surprised myself there. As for the muscle memory, my muscles remembered *what to do* but just weren't strong enough to do it effectively or well.

                                          It was really tough to get him to move forward with my nonexistent leg, especially at the walk. He stopped to poo, he stopped to bite and kick flies, he stopped just because my brain thought I was asking him forward but my legs just couldn't cut it. Ha! So my legs need a LOT of work. And don't even get me started on my two point – I had to grab a bit of mane and was a bit mortified at that. He was more forward at the trot and the canter, but still required a lot of leg, which was torture for me. Sure did make for a great workout! I was drenched with sweat and exhausted during and afterwards.

                                          So, it was physically challenging and I sure have been paying for it since. I'm pretty sore!! I need to do a lot more core and leg work at the gym and in the saddle, and focus on loosening my tight hip flexors, on ankle flexion (heels are down but apparently I bend at the toes/ball of feet?!) and on getting my shoulders back and down. I will say that I'm less sore than I was after my first few gym workouts, but very sore nonetheless. I can't imagine how bad it would have been if I hadn't started The Rider's Fitness Program. I am really out of shape.

                                          Anyways, it was such great fun, and in some ways it was easier than I thought it would be (mentally, muscle memory, even balance) but in other ways (physical strength, flexibility and stamina) it was much harder than I thought it would be. We took a lot of little breaks (though as mentioned, the walk was still a workout!) All in all, though, I was super pleased with how it went.

                                          I also really enjoyed the horsemanship aspect. I got him from his stall and groomed and tacked up myself, and afterwards I untacked and bathed him and put him away and cleaned all the tack. I was thankful they trusted me to do all that (helps that a friend referred me to the barn), and it was confidence building for sure. It was nice to remember my horsemanship and to just spend time at the barn. Forgot how much I missed that!

                                          Sorry for the novel here, I'm just so excited and grateful to be able to share all this with you guys. (My non-horsey friends and family don't want all the details. Ha!)

                                          Will keep y'all posted, and thanks again for all the great advice and encouragement here... I don't know why I waited this long to do this.

                                          I'm going back this weekend and I can't wait! Looking forward it, but first: a whole lot of stretching for me. OUCH!