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    Another boarders horse - overly attached to mine

    A retired horse recently moved to the barn where I board. Unfortunately, he came from the barn my 3 y.o. was born and raised. Since he knew her previously, he latched onto her immediately (and unfortunately, the BO put him in the pasture with my horses). When I take my horse out of the pasture to ride, he screams and runs the pasture fence the_whole_time_we are riding (even though we are in the indoor where he can't even see her). He is not out there alone--there are 2 other horses out with him and another 10 on the other side of the fence. None of the other horses give a hoot if their "BFF" is taken out to be ridden--they go hang with someone else. I thought the behavior was just going to last a couple weeks or so, and he'd adjust. It's now been about 2 months and he still isn't giving it up. It's driving me crazy!

    I have to say, for my mares age, she has handled it very well. She calls back occasionally, but still is focused under saddle. But, I am only riding in the indoor right now. Once it gets nicer out I plan to ride out in the hayfields and in the outdoor ring. Unfortunately, the fields and the ring are all alongside the pasture where "Mr. Separation Issues" is. So I'm concerned that he is going to be a constant disruption to our rides. I can't really expect a greenbean to be in a good learning mode when her buddy is screaming his bloody head off and running back and forth along the fenceline. It doesn't help that he is retired and his owner never comes out and takes him out to do things. He really doesn't have a life.

    So, anyone have any ideas or ways that they have solved this kind of situation?

    Ugh, you KNOW how I hate pathologically attached horses!

    I'd start by asking to have them separated in turnout. That way the drama and screaming isn't only happening when you ride--eventually he WILL burn himself out.

    If that doesn't help, earplugs are a worthy investment if Bizz is distracted.
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      Poor fellow. It will be best for everyone to permanently seperate them. I had several oldsters move here from one farm and it was hell getting them all happy in turnout. One guy was as you described, jst paced and screamed. I finally had to put him where he could never see "his" mares and now he is totally happy with his new boy friends.
      Good luck.
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        He needs to go into a different field for turnout. It isn't fair to you and your mare and it really isn't fair to him either. Poor boy could get hurt running up and down the field in a panic, and I'm sure no one wants that.

        You could also find out if he can be put in a stall with some extra delicious hay in front of him while you're riding if this continues to be a problem.

        I'm impressed your youngster hasn't become a hysterical wreck right back.


          Coming from the person that owns that horse (not the exact one in your post but same personality) I would have NO issue with you politely telling me my horse is very stressed and I would go with you and talk to the BM about separating them.

          If he's retired the owner might not be out there enough to know how he's acting. I've had to move Jay because he gets VERY attached to other horses, especially mares.

          I don't want him to be stressed and I def. don't want him to annoy other people!
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            Thanks for the responses. I wish the owner were you, Meredith! She is completely absent--and I don't even know if she lives in the area. When the BO comes back from FL, I may need to see if she can change something. The annoying part is that the field that will separate them the most, is in the upper barn and it costs more for the board. I'm certain the retirees owner will not pay extra $$, and I don't think *I* should have to pay more because her horse has issues. Sigh. Maybe I'll get those earplugs in the meantime!


              I used to have a retiree like that. He was definitely obsessed with mares. I think keeping them in the same pasture probably makes it worse.

              I'm not sure if I'm correct on this, but I remember reading sometimes this happens with older geldings around mares. I keep any of the horses that I think will have this attachment disorder as far as possible from the mares.

              Good luck-I'm impressed that your mare is being so good about it!


                I've personally known 3 geldings that absolutely couldn't be with mares period. Had nothing to do with their age. One of the geldings (totally quiet and laid back horse normally) would even go nuts if he was stalled next to a mare in heat or ridden in the arena with a mare in heat. If she wasn't he could care less.

                And yes, they were geldings.

                One of the other geldings, a pony, would jump big fences to get in with the girls!

                I never mix the sexes based on these lovely experiences.
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                  I've got a boarder who has 3 horses at my farm. 2 mares and a young gelding. I expected the youngster to be a bit herd bound, but the 7 year old DWB mare is that one that is driving me crazy. There are only 6 horses out here, I just have a small place, and no real way to keep them apart, really. The mare is already a difficult horse, and it certainly doesn't help things at all when she is only focused on her friends back in the field. Interestingly enough, I trailered her to a nearby farm (my ring isn't finished yet) with one of my geldings, and she was amazing! Stood perfectly in the cross-ties, was on task while riding, etc. Here, she's a spook, a looky-loo, and won't stand still in the cross-ties to save her life. (Sigh) I feel your pain, Slp2. I feel your pain. I hope you get some good suggestions, since it might help me, too!


                    Originally posted by deltawave View Post
                    Ugh, you KNOW how I hate pathologically attached horses!

                    I'd start by asking to have them separated in turnout. That way the drama and screaming isn't only happening when you ride--eventually he WILL burn himself out.

                    If that doesn't help, earplugs are a worthy investment if Bizz is distracted.

                    I agree! Your BO needs to separate them before a horse is injured. I always separate my mares & geldings. In a few weeks when she begins her stronger cycles it WILL make the problem worse! Even if he is not a "studdy" gelding.
                    "If you don't know where you are going, any road will take you there"