I did take the time to go back and read all of your posts n here. Noticed you re-located to Richmond and were looking for a trainer? did you find one, a trainer with a student w/ your buy power certainy would/should have a network to locate you a horse if she is giving you lessons and knows your ride scope.
The 8yr 17H TB G in Mo for $35K was pretty close to perfect juding by his video. Those horses around here jump 4ft plus from the trot and he sure looked relaxed and supple as well as careful. If I had your budget I would have bought 3 with 1/2 the money used the other half for board and kept 1 and sold 2..