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I love my horse! UPDATE - she’s gone

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    Very sorry for your loss. Good for you, though, to let her go quickly. Saying goodbye is never easy, but at least you were there - the last horse I lost happened unplanned as I was on the other coast.

    Remember the good times!


      So sorry for your loss; how devastating on top of an already devastating year. At least you were with her. ddx


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        Thank you everyone for the kind words. I’m still in shock, honestly. You think you will be prepared for an emergency like but when the time comes you discover you’re not prepared at all. I know they are all special but she really was extraordinary.

        Being horseless is a weird feeling too. After driving 2+ hours to and from the barn several times a week I suddenly find myself with plenty of time to do all the work and chores I’ve been putting off, and zero motivation to do any of it lol.

        I have no budget for another horse and really struggled to justify the cost of keeping Caprice in full training. I’m so thankful for my part boarder who made it just about feasible. She doesn’t want to stop riding either so we may look for a free lease to share when the time is right - surely there’s another Caprice out there ready to step down but not ready to retire.

        But right now it still hurts to breathe, so I’ll give it some time. Your messages and comments really do help, thank you.
        Last edited by BigMama1; Sep. 8, 2020, 05:09 PM.


          I am so very sorry about the death of Caprice,'s just so shocking. Unfortunately, I've btdt, have the t-shirt to prove it, and it took months for me to get the motivation to ride again, even though I had a green bean and a retiree standing in my pasture whinnying to me every day. Eventually, I sold lad's saddle to a friend, bought a new saddle for green bean (who is my favoritist horse evah) and bought a long yearling. Green bean is 3rd level now and totally awesome, and yearling is a big dumb 9yr old who makes me laugh when he's not doing something incredibly annoying. I can't believe it's been that long since Lad died, his head craddled in my lap, me sitting in the snow surrounded by my other horses. He will always have a place in my heart, as Caprice does in yours. ((((Hugs))))


            Oh, BigMama1, my heart hurts for you. I'm so glad you were able to find such an amazing dance partner even though your time together was cut so cruelly short. Colic freakin SUCKS. Sending you all of the comforting vibes and good juju as you grieve and cherish the memories you and Caprice made together. </3


              I am so sorry for your loss. It's always so sad to lose one and doubly so when it is unexpected. May remembering the good times bring you some comfort.


                I am so sorry for your loss. I can totally empathize. Years ago I got a wonderful horse who for me was the horse of a lifetime. Gave me confidence and taught me so much. I was just starting out learning dressage and he was an eventer that had evented to Intermediate with a pro. He was kind and tolerant of my mistakes. I finally move to a really nice barn and 7 weeks later I get the call your horse is 3 legged lame in the field... Broken, probably kicked by another horse. We had him 18 months and my daughter loved him. She was 9 and he had already taught her the big horse canter..
                Hugs to you...
                Mai Tai aka Tyler RIP March 1994-December 2011
                Grief is the price we pay for love- Gretchen Jackson
                "And here she comes. Is it a bird? Is it a plane? No, it's ZENYATTA!"