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I love my horse! UPDATE - she’s gone

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    I am so so sorry for your loss. She sounds like a gem of a horse and you are a fantastic owner.

    I admire your outlook and grace in this hard situation. It's inspiration to me since I too just lost a horse.

    Thank you. Hugs and peace to you


      I am sorry for your loss of your wonderful horse.

      You did the right thing, as hard as it was.


        I am so sorry for your loss. She sounded like a wonderful mare.


          I am so sorry to read this. That's just heartbreaking. Hugs. <3


            BigMama1 I am so, so, so sorry for your loss.


              I am heartbroken for you. It's always too soon. I have two (of four) 20+ in my barn, too, and always worry. Hugs.
              My hopeful road to the 2021 RRP TB Makeover:


                BigMama1 I am so sorry for you loss. How heartbreaking. I am glad you were at least able to spend the time with her that you did.


                  awful. so sorry for you and Caprice. ((hugs))
                  AETERNUM VALE, INVICTUS - 7/10/2012


                    OP you are so brave in the face of such heartbreak - you are truly inspiring.

                    You both gifted each other with your short time together on earth. You made her last days filled with love and kindness, and she so did for you.

                    I am so sorry for your sudden and tragic loss. So inspired by your bravery in a time of emotional crisis. Wishing only the best for you.
                    Being terrible at something is the first step to being truly great at it. Struggle is the evidence of progress.


                      My heart breaks for you
                      I\'m not crazy. I\'m just a little unwell.


                        I am so sorry for your loss.

                        Losing them so quickly is such a shock.

                        Over 20 years old is a very good innings for any horse.
                        It is better to ride 5 minutes a day than it is to ride 35 minutes on a Sunday.


                          I cannot find words to express how saddened I am. My deepest condolences. Kudos to you. Stay strong. I understand how emotionally painful it is to say good bye this way. Be kind to yourself.


                            I am so sorry for your loss. I remember having the horse of a lifetime and we were doing to well then I got the call no horse owner wants. Your horse is 3 legged lame in the field. It was broken...He was an amazing horse only had him for 18months but he taught me so much...Hugs to you
                            Mai Tai aka Tyler RIP March 1994-December 2011
                            Grief is the price we pay for love- Gretchen Jackson
                            "And here she comes. Is it a bird? Is it a plane? No, it's ZENYATTA!"


                              I'm very sorry to read this. Such a hard thing.


                                Oh no!
                                So long good mare Caprice. You brought joy to your person right to the end.

                                Giant warm hugs to you BigMama1.
                                One touch of nature makes the whole world kin.
                                William Shakespeare


                                  I am so sorry for your loss. That is so heartbreaking. How wonderful she landed with such a caring owner late in her life who got so much joy from the relationship with her and who made the most loving decision for her in the end. Hugs to you Big Mama.


                                    BigMama1 I'm so sorry to hear this. Colic is such a heartbreaker. Godspeed, good mare.


                                      Originally posted by BigMama1 View Post
                                      It might sound terrible but it was an easy decision. Getting the phone call, seeing her in pain, and coming home without her were all terribly, brutally hard. But deciding to let her go was black and white.
                                      No, that doesn't sound terrible at all, and I know exactly what you mean. My beloved heart horse who I saw born and owned from the time he was 5 days old did the same for me. I came out to feed him literally one year ago on Monday (Labor Day 2019) and found him with his leg badly broken. Like, so broken I could tell from the front porch and across the pasture that it was broken. He was 22 years old, and I loved him as much as anything in the world. But I stood there holding him, letting him eat his breakfast (amazing that he could eat with the shape that his leg was in), praying for the vet to hurry. I wasn't thinking about how much it was going to break my heart, how much it was actually going to change my life (and it did), and how much I was going to miss him. I was thinking that I could not stand seeing him in such an awful state (it was a hind leg and he 100% could not walk, it was broken in several places, including above the hock). I felt relief once he was down and at peace. It was the days and weeks that followed that were harder...when I missed him so much it physically did hurt. But the choice to put him down was...well, he made the choice for me, and I am grateful to him for that.

                                      You talk about how lucky you were to have your mare. She was lucky to have you to. Any horse who has a person that loves her so much she starts a thread on an online forum just to announce to everyone how much she loves her...that's a lucky horse.

                                      All of that said, I'm sorry for your loss. She sounds like she was an amazing girl, and I'm sure you'll miss her.


                                        Being prepared is never terrible and usually wonderful, in the heat of the situation.

                                        I am really so terribly sorry you had to say goodbye so soon. What a gift to have had that year and have one of your dreams come true!
                                        I hope you can remember the happy parts soon enough and that time will dull the sadness of the loss.
                                        Last edited by reefy!; Sep. 5, 2020, 07:44 PM.
                                        ~* Be kind to one another *~


                                          I'm so sorry about your grand old lady. I am glad that you got to be with her at the end and that she came into your life no matter how brief her stay with you was. RIP, Caprice.
                                          "Cats aren't clean; they're covered with cat spit."
                                          - John S Nichols (1745-1846,writer/printer)

                                          Don't come for me - I didn't send for you.