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What would you give the wonderful neighbor as thanks?

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  • What would you give the wonderful neighbor as thanks?

    You might remember me mentioning something about our wonderful neighbor who is absolutely wonderful. He lives next door and our house used to be his parents' farm. Their parents passed away and we bought the house and they've just been amazing, always helping us out with little things here and there. Winter is amazing... he's come over and plowed our driveway every.single.time it snows. He probably pities us since we don't own a tractor yet. DH calls and thanks him every time, but I want to show my appreciation. The first words out of the guys mouth are always "sorry I couldn't get all the way down. Hope it's ok!") I get the feeling he feels kind of fatherly towards us (we're younger and he has kids our age that are gone) and it's probably partially because of sentimental reasons since we own a piece of his family's farm.

    What would be something nice we can do for him? We have nothing to offer help/farm-wise really. I know monetary offerings are usually a slap in the face for us "country-folk". Maybe not? Homemade cookies? Doesn't seem like enough... Gift cert. to the one chain restaurant in town? I guess I don't know what farm people protocol is!

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    Can you cook?
    Invite him and his wife over for dinner. I always think that is very neighborly
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    • #3
      I think if he lives alone, or if it is just him and his wife (you mentioned that his kids are grown up now), that you could invite him over for a meal with you? It would be a good way to get to know him better also. Or if he has animals to feed, a gift certificate to the local feed store might be a nice idea also.
      There are friends and faces that may be forgotten, but there are horses that never will be. - Andy Adams

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      • #4
        I think that a warm plate of homemade cookies would be great! I know that people really know you are grateful because you put the time into it. anyone can run to town an buy a gift card. but not everyone really puts their heart into it like you can with a plate of cookies!

        My sister and I love to bake and are always making stuff for our BO because she is always blanketing out horses, washes and repairs blankets and sheets, gives extra turnout, adds supplements etc. all with no extra charge, she just wants to.
        The BO and her family really appreciate a plate of goodies!

        That is sweet of you to want to do something for him. So many people in this world just take things for granted. You have a kind heart!

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        • #5
          I would give him a gift card to a local restaurant and a gift card for gasoline/diesel.
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          • #6
            I vote for inviting them over for dinner AND the plate of cookies or brownies that they can take home with them. I wish you guys were all MY neighbors; I haven't had really nice or friendly ones in a long time!
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              #7
              Thanks for the idea. He does live with his wife. I don't really cook though. I mean, I can get by, but I wouldn't want to put him into an awkward situation pretending to like my food. But in all seriousness, DH and I are vegetarians, and I don't know if I could cook something that would live up to their expectations of a "come over for dinner" type thing. Aside from that... we had a flooding incident and almost our entire house is subfloor right now so that would be a little embarrassing. I've also been leery because we've changed a LOT of stuff in here in the past year we've moved in from what it used to look like when his parents lived here, so I'm probably foolishly just afraid of hurting their feelings or something. Does that make sense?

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                Also.. nope, no animals for a feed store gift cert.

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                  Originally posted by chemteach View Post
                  I would give him a gift card to a local restaurant and a gift card for gasoline/diesel.
                  This. With Cookies

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                  • #10
                    Are you friendly with his wife? Most people really love their tractors - and she might know of something he might like for his tractor. Or another tool or accessory.

                    I like the gas card idea. If you can't think of just one thing - you could make up a little gift basket with a gas card, gift certificate to a local restaurant, and some cookies.

                    Will you be my neighbor?
                    Brothers and sisters, I bid you beware
                    Of giving your heart to a dog to tear.
                    -Rudyard Kipling

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                      #11
                      I've sadly not met his wife. I've gone over there a few times and she wasn't home. I keep trying to meet her, but it hasn't happened yet. I did used to work evenings and weekends, and she still works during the day somewhere so it was near impossible. I think I like the idea of making a little gift basket with cookies and a couple of gift certificates. Thanks for all the help!

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                        #12
                        cookies do solve all of life's problems don't they?

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                        • #13
                          I would vote for cookies, brownies or a good coffee cake but since you don't cook those ideas are out (store bought is just not the same). Food is still a good choice that is appreciated by most people.

                          I know you said you and your husband are vegitarians, however, if you aren't morally opposed perhaps you could take them a nice ham or some steaks or something like that.
                          Auventera Two:Some women would eat their own offspring if they had some dipping sauce.
                          Serious Leigh: it sounds like her drama llama should be an old schoolmaster by now.

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                            Oh don't get me wrong, I can bake! I woman has to have SOME standards. Baking doesn't count as cooking to me.... maybe that's why I'm overweight. Hmmmmm.

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                            • #15
                              Originally posted by JSwan View Post
                              Are you friendly with his wife? Most people really love their tractors - and she might know of something he might like for his tractor. Or another tool or accessory.

                              I like the gas card idea. If you can't think of just one thing - you could make up a little gift basket with a gas card, gift certificate to a local restaurant, and some cookies.

                              Will you be my neighbor?
                              That gift basket with a few little things and a gas card.
                              If you don't cook, some of those green Andes mints make a good basket filling.

                              I think that all my friends are addicted to those mints and our local jerky.

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                              • #16
                                Invite them over for dinner! Or cook something and take it to their place.

                                If not, you can always bake some cookies, or make them a fruit/gift basket. Gift cards always work!

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                                  #17
                                  Originally posted by Bluey View Post
                                  That gift basket with a few little things and a gas card.
                                  If you don't cook, some of those green Andes mints make a good basket filling.

                                  I think that all my friends are addicted to those mints and our local jerky.
                                  Good idea. I was addicted to Andes mints for the longest! It was when I could find the ones that were green on the outside with the thin chocolate layer in the middle. Can't find them anymore here. Well, maybe that's a good thing...

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                                  • #18
                                    Originally posted by dmalbone View Post
                                    cookies do solve all of life's problems don't they?
                                    Yes.

                                    Especially chocolate cookies.

                                    eta - I think I know what you mean about having made changes to his parents home. When we moved here, we made a lot of changes, including tearing down an old barn. For a couple of years we'd get a visitor now and then. An old friend, or an adult who remembered visiting the place as a youth. They'd tell us some stories and show us where they'd played as children, or gone hunting, I'd show them around... and they looked a little sad.
                                    Brothers and sisters, I bid you beware
                                    Of giving your heart to a dog to tear.
                                    -Rudyard Kipling

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                                      #19
                                      Yeah. I can definitely see how it could be sad for them. The children (next door neighbors) did live here for a while as well. The house went up for sale when their mother went into a nursing home and then she passed away. I've always wondered why none of their kids ever moved into this one. At closing I told the daughter (not the neighbor, but lives close) that she was welcome to stop by anytime and she got choked up and said she didn't think she'd be able to do that for a while, but thank you, and started crying. We replaced all of the carpet (well, which right now is just subfloor), and painted. All of the walls were just plain white and I like COLOR. Our living room and kitchen are turquoise for instance. They're huge vaulted ceilings so it definitely makes a statement lol. Completely our style, but the overall feel of the house is completely different. We took down all of her old homemade curtains that they left. He's said how it will be nice to have horses nearby so I know they're happy about that, but the inside of the house is totally different... I mean when they passed away they were in their 80's and we're in our 20's so our styles are totally different. I just think it would be really awkward for them. I can't see them turning us down to come over for dinner, trying to be polite, but I guess I just don't want to make them feel like they have to put themselves in that situation.

                                      ETA: Plus, it seems like it makes a difference, but their parents are the ones who actually built this house and were obviously the only ones to ever own it. There is even a big box in one of the cabinets with all of the receipts from the home building... down to trips to the local hardware stores (no longer in existence) for extra boxes of nails.

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                                      • #20
                                        A hearty homemade vegetarian soup, homemade bread, salad, wine and homemade cookies for dessert all make a fine meal on a winter's evening. Nothing fancy but perfect comfort food. (Or good mac and cheese instead of the soup.) Besides it's the company, not the food, that makes for a memorable meal.

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