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The heartbreak of saying goodbye...

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  • The heartbreak of saying goodbye...

    My beloved German Shepherd, Norman, crossed the Rainbow Bridge yesterday after a valiant struggle with pain and mobility. It was truly the most difficult decision I've ever had to make. His loss is just something I can't quite grasp, but the heartbreak and emptiness is very real. He was my constant, loyal companion for 11 years, watching over me with love and concern. He was the most noble creature I've ever known and it was a privilege to have his company for that short time. I am just devastated -- it just hurts so much. Heaven is certainly a better place with Norman there. I love you, Norman, Godspeed and wait for me. Kommandant vom der Krugerrand 1/27/99-1/29/10.

  • #2
    RIP Norman ~ knowing you are and always will be loved. Thoughts and prayers and hugs for all who enjoyed Norman's life and times. So very sorry for your loss.
    Zu Zu Bailey " IT'S A WONDERFUL LIFE ! "


    • #3
      The only fault with dogs is that their lives are too short. I am sorry for the passing of sweet Norman and hope that soon, fond memories replace the sadness your are feeling today. ((Hugs))


      • #4
        Having to put down my beloved GS Zelda was perhaps the most painful yet beautiful moment of my life. Beautiful in the way she went - with grace, dignity and still trying to make sure I was ok - right to the end.

        She developed osteosarcoma at age 3. We took her to the oncologist who determined she would be a good candidate for a program working with T-101 cells. The had to try it on dogs but it showed promise for treating human cancers that had mastasisized (sp). She had the leg amutated, started chemo and led a very wonderful healthy life for 3 more wonderful years.

        She was my angel and taught me so much - as most of you have learned with your interactions with animals. It's us that come away with a new appreciated for love, life and all that is truly important in this world.

        May you find peace in your memories and take with you the love - always know they are always close by, and I choose to believe that we will be with them again.

        Blessed be.
        "A lie doesn't become truth, wrong doesn't become right, and evil doesn't become good, just because it's accepted by a majority." Rick Warren


        • #5
          I am so sorry. I understand the emptyness as we had to let our Gs girl go last year after she'd been with us 12 years.
          Finding out that she'd had a problem that Vet said had to have caused her a lot of pain for a long time and she'd kept hidden from us didn't help. Finally she couldn't hide it anymore.

          For months I would "see" her here or there and the pain would freshen when I realized that I didn't really.

          It does get better but I'm so sorry you have to go through it. Wish I could say something to make you feel better but, of course, we all know there is nothing that will do that. I do want to say that he was lucky to be so loved. Many many dogs live their whole lives and don't know that love.
          You know why cowboys don't like Appaloosas?" - Answer: Because to train a horse, you have to be smarter than it is.


          • #6
            Then a woman said, "Speak to us of Joy and Sorrow."

            And he answered:

            Your joy is your sorrow unmasked.

            And the selfsame well from which your laughter rises was oftentimes filled with your tears.

            And how else can it be?

            The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain.

            Is not the cup that hold your wine the very cup that was burned in the potter's oven?

            And is not the lute that soothes your spirit, the very wood that was hollowed with knives?

            When you are joyous, look deep into your heart and you shall find it is only that which has given you sorrow that is giving you joy.

            When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.

            Some of you say, "Joy is greater than sorrow," and others say, "Nay, sorrow is the greater."

            But I say unto you, they are inseparable.

            Together they come, and when one sits alone with you at your board, remember that the other is asleep upon your bed.

            Verily you are suspended like scales between your sorrow and your joy.

            Only when you are empty are you at standstill and balanced.

            When the treasure-keeper lifts you to weigh his gold and his silver, needs must your joy or your sorrow rise or fall.

            ~Kahlil Gibran
            Brothers and sisters, I bid you beware
            Of giving your heart to a dog to tear.
            -Rudyard Kipling


            • #7
              I am so sorry for your loss.


              • #8
                Sorry his time came, he is gone.
                Dogs don't seem to live long enough, do they.


                • #9
                  thanks jswan

                  thanks for posting that Jsawn!


                  • #10
                    JSwan, that is beautiful.
                    There is nothing quite like a good dog. So sorry for your loss.


                    • #11
                      ((hugs)) TKR. I am so sorry for your loss.


                      • #12
                        So sorry for your loss - we are in your shoes as it looks like we have to put our berner down on monday - still hoping for good results against all the odds but don't think that is going to happen.


                        • #13
                          godspeed Norman.
                          i am so sorry for your loss.


                          • #14
                            Rest in Peace, dear Norman and Godspeed! Hugs to you....it is so hard but let good memories help to fill the hole in your heart.


                            • #15
                              Hugs from VA - so sorry for your loss.
                              stained glass groupie


                              • #16
                                JSwan - as ususal - just beautiful
                                "A lie doesn't become truth, wrong doesn't become right, and evil doesn't become good, just because it's accepted by a majority." Rick Warren


                                • #17
                                  My deepest sympathies on you loss, RIP Norman.

                                  Originally posted by MoonWitch View Post
                                  JSwan - as ususal - just beautiful
                                  Amen to that.
                                  There are friends and faces that may be forgotten, but there are horses that never will be. - Andy Adams


                                  • #18

                                    Your post was wonderful, JSwan.
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                                    • Original Poster

                                      Thanks for your many kind and caring responses. This will hurt for awhile and I'll continue to look for him .... but I know he's out of pain. It's helpful to know others understand.


                                      • #20
                                        Godspeed Norman. Hugs to you for being brave enough to take his pain away and make it your own.
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