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Ever want to just 'run away?'

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  • Ever want to just 'run away?'

    SIGH! Stupid, hypothetical thread warning.
    But, I'm curious...those with horse and trailer....have you ever just said "I need to load up, and get away'....go somewhere outside of your reality and obligations. NOT a planned, orchestrated trip...but the fantasy of: Head out to the barn, pack stuff in the trailer and get pony and go. Somewhere, away from any life drama, barn drama----just a go away.
    I know the joy of being on the back of that horse you share everything with, being alone on a ride...but those rides end up back at the same spot you drove to, or started out with the same issues earlier.
    Ever wanted (or have done?) a trip where you just WENT. Were somewhere different, just your horse and you.....and escaped?
    "Indecision may or may not be my problem"
    --Jimmy Buffett

  • #2
    Desperately would love to run away! But would want to leave the horse behind! Let someone else worry for a bit.
    In an age when scientists are creating artificial intelligence, too many of our educational institutions seem to be creating artificial stupidity.—Thomas Sowell, Is Thinking Obsolete?


    • #3
      Originally posted by minnie View Post
      Desperately would love to run away! But would want to leave the horse behind! Let someone else worry for a bit.
      Ditto - If I ran away (temporarily of course) I'd leave the nags, the barn chores, and the mud behind!


      • #4
        LOL...many days I agree with Minnie. I'd love to run away somewhere with room service, a view of a snowy mountain landscape, a fireplace and tons and tons of napping. No cleaning, no cooking, no mucking, no feeding 4x daily and sleeping in!
        But...if I had a horse van and lived within a reasonable driving distance to a spectacular national park...I'd love to do that too! I could imagine a few days to a couple weeks of wandering aroound Yosemite or Alagnak Wild River or anywhere with very few people, spectacular views and wildlife, etc.
        Or a cattle drive!
        You jump in the saddle,
        Hold onto the bridle!
        Jump in the line!


        • Original Poster

          Funny how life works...because I THOUGHT I was posting this on Off course.....and of 'course' (!) if its on the farm thread, the answers would be different!!!...(as in, with the obligations otherwise, in farm/horse care, of course folks would want to get away from those obligations once in awhile!)
          But, perhaps, in life's round about 'see it this way' insights, it was good that I posted here instead.
          I don't yet (!) own/maintain my own barn....thats in the cards for later, and will occur. But for now, I 'could' drive out, pack up, and vanish for awhile. I've just, in my low times, never had the gumption to do it. But do, and have, dreamed of it.
          A spot with no one else....a spot with safe haven for my horse, but no homelife connections, NO one else to answer to ...a quiet, unscheduled time...no one to judge, no one to comment. Just me, my own truck and trailer, and my horse.
          "Indecision may or may not be my problem"
          --Jimmy Buffett


          • #6
            I would pack up the rig, the pony, and a tent and get the flock out of dodge!

            But, I have had a huge hankering for some high desert air lately... Not that things are going bad at home, I just think it would be a great little weekend.
            Originally posted by dizzywriter
            My saddle fits perfectly well. It might be a little tight around the waist, but I take care of that with those spandex things.


            • #7
              I ran away last year for just an over nighter to take a couple of lessons in Southern Pines. Boy am I ready to do that again.
              But the worst thing, last year I went to Disney for 6 entire days! I hadn't done anything like that since I was in High School, 30 years ago. BAd now, because I am dieing to do it again!


              • #8
                I'm with the "leave the horses/worries/chores behind" crowd. I'm pretty worn out with it -- a number of elderly animals and issues recently, *sigh*. Also, too much rain, sucky mud and just miserable conditions. I could go for a nice warm beach and a good book with a gourmet restaurant and wine bar close by. No phones and no schedules and no red flags.


                • Original Poster

                  no doubt...I can see your reasons, reflections of "not going with a horse!"..........but again...I obvioulsy posted this in the wrong spot.
                  Because I was more interested in those who HAD a desire to escape life WITH a horse...go somewhere just the two of you...with none of the OTHER aspects of life in the way. No difficult previous planning...no organized, 'meet another horse person there' situations...(I've had so many of those fall thru)
                  More of a 'arrive at the barn, load up, say you'll be back in a week' and disapeer kinda thing. A time alone, somewhere with a horse---with no obligations in life to anyone. No hubby, no horse friends, no job, ---just a run a way, with an equine friend....oblivious to all around you in life.
                  "Indecision may or may not be my problem"
                  --Jimmy Buffett


                  • #10
                    unfortunately, my ponies are hot house flowers. To ask them to "camp out" would be such a culture shock to them that I wouldn't enjoy it.

                    I have daydreamed about sending said hothouse flowers out for their own "vacation" to a pack mule string up in the mountains for a season so they can learn to get over thyselves! I can stay home relaxing on my couch with some coco and a good book waiting for them to come home from camp. I'm thinking one of those "Vagrant Teen Back Country Boot Camps" for a couple of my nags!
                    ...don't sh** where you eat...


                    • #11
                      I want to run away, but for a different reason! I am SICK AND TIRED of rain and MUD!!! It has been so awfully wet here, my driveway is ruined, my arena is under water, it is jsut horrible, I want to run away somewhere warm and DRY! And honestly somewhere that their are no hungry horses wanting me to feed them twice a day!


                      • #12
                        I am always threatening to run away!

                        My horse is the only reason I don't run away! I have a lovely little island, way up north that is my favourite place on earth. It is off the grid and entirely self sufficient. I could live up there happily on Pike and blueberries. BUT....not horse friendly so that fantasy is usually fleeting. The dogs would love it though!
                        "look deep into his pedigree. Look for the name of a one-of-a-kind horse who lends to his kin a fierce tenacity, a will of iron, a look of eagles. Look & know that Slew is still very much with us."


                        • #13
                          I want to run away someplace where we don't have mud up to our knees...the rain that just won't stop..and so on. My horse is pretty tired of the mud to. I gave him some cookies yesterday and he looked pretty miserable standing in the mud.

                          I was in just in Florida in December but spent it with in-laws.
                          OTTB - Hurricane Denton - Kane - the big dog!
                          Tuggy - RIP 9/12/2016 - Wait for me at the bridge
                          Foster LolaMaria AKA LolaBean (Boxer)


                          • #14
                            Yes! And only with my good horse buddy.

                            I already know how to pack up and go to multiple day shows by myself, so I know the escape plan could be done.

                            In my "anywhere but here" moments, I imagine throwing a dart at the map of the US and going where it directed.

                            Then reality sets in. What if I "miss" and sign my horse up for 1,500 miles in a bumper pull trailer? What if, as I have discovered, "rural" doesn't automatically mean cheap board, ample T/O and also a high standard of care? I don't go into the other bit of reality-- making enough money in said podunk town to support my horse in the manner to which he has been accustomed.

                            But I like to hold onto the idea as a psychological escape hatch.
                            The armchair saddler
                            Politically Pro-Cat


                            • #15
                              There have been times plowing, driving the tractor around and around and around in the field, the expressway within sight, cars and trucks whizzing by to who knows where, it was tempting to just park the silly thing and walk to the highway.

                              Once there, just thumb it somewhere, anywhere, where there were no responsabilities other than find the next meal and shelter and take long naps.

                              The truth is that we really can't escape our responsabilities, even if we run off.
                              They are stuck to us and will stay with us, no matter where we go.


                              • #16
                                There are times, when I am riding around on the tractor, in the rain emptying the spreader, that I think, what a silly way for a grown woman to make a living.
                                And more snow this weekend. I could cry. I need a break.


                                • #17
                                  Hell, yes! I came very close to booking a ticket to somewhere hot and sunny on Friday, and just saying to hell with it all. I'd had a fight with hubby, Asp had managed to split her rug from neck to hem, Rue refused to walk over the mud (that he's been stepping over every day for weeks now) and work was getting me down.

                                  So yep- I even had my debit card out, looking at flights. Scared me how close I cam just to jacking it all.
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                                  • #18
                                    Originally posted by ayrabz View Post
                                    no one to judge, no one to comment. Just me, my own truck and trailer, and my horse.

                                    Forgot your dog!! You have to take your dog with you.
                                    You know why cowboys don't like Appaloosas?" - Answer: Because to train a horse, you have to be smarter than it is.


                                    • #19
                                      Originally posted by shawneeAcres View Post
                                      I want to run away, but for a different reason! I am SICK AND TIRED of rain and MUD!!! It has been so awfully wet here, my driveway is ruined, my arena is under water, it is jsut horrible, I want to run away somewhere warm and DRY! And honestly somewhere that their are no hungry horses wanting me to feed them twice a day!
                                      You said it, sister!
                                      "Kindness is free" ~ Eurofoal
                                      The CoTH CYA - please consult w/your veterinarian under any and all circumstances.


                                      • #20
                                        "Ever want to run away?"

                                        Every morning at 5am.
                                        Some riders change their horse, they change their saddle, they change their teacher; they never change themselves.

                                        Remember the horse does all the work, we just sit there and look pretty.