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"Hi! Can I bury my Mother on your Farm Property?"

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  • "Hi! Can I bury my Mother on your Farm Property?"


    Oh yes.

    Would you allow it?

    How about ashes?

  • #2
    Does the deceased have some past connection to your farm?


    • #3
      I would never allow burial of human remains on my property. I doubt it's legal, but even if it's not, well... creepy, so no way.

      How big's the property?
      I might allow ashes to be spread in a remote corner. But you might be opening yourself up to fruitcake visitors who now claim permanent free access to your land.

      Sounds like "Sorry. I'm afraid that's just not possible" is the best response. This one falls under the 'no good deed goes unpunished' category.


      • #4
        $475/mo for eternity...maybe....


        • #5
          Ashes? No problem...if the person requested that for a final resting place or if the family knows that's where the mother would have loved to be scattered I wouldn't have a single issue with it.
          A casket...ummmm, no. Not even sure how you'd bring that one up to town hall anyways.
          You jump in the saddle,
          Hold onto the bridle!
          Jump in the line!


          • #6
            Is Mother dead yet?

            Or were you planning on driving her out, killing her here, and then just pushing her into the hole?

            ----sorry, couldn't resist. I've never imagined the subject coming up, but I guess I would not have any problems with spreading ashes so long as EVERYBODY understands that they do not have any future right to access the property. Actual dead bodies? Um, no.................Large Stupid Dog drags home enough deer parts as it is. I don't even want to go there........
            Incredible Invisible


            • #7
              Is Mother dead yet?
              Aspirated coffee on that one Quin!
              You jump in the saddle,
              Hold onto the bridle!
              Jump in the line!


              • #8
                In our County you can bury someone on your property. Yep. My friend has her husband buried almost in her front yard. What she had to do was set aside an acre of land that can be used for nothing but a cematary forever. I personally would not want dh in my front yard but whatever floats her boat.
                You know why cowboys don't like Appaloosas?" - Answer: Because to train a horse, you have to be smarter than it is.


                • #9
                  Years ago, we had a car come up the driveway and a gentleman and very old lady got out. The man explained that he was taking his mother for a drive because she grew up in this area. She recognized the house and barn because "that's my old home place!" We took her through the house and she told us stories of her mom cooking food on the fireplace, and of the old fruit trees that used to be on the property, some of which are indeed still standing. Her son was grateful that she got to see the place one more time. We never saw them again, but if there was a request to bury mom on the property, we probably would have allowed it.
                  It's 2020. Do you know where your old horse is?


                  • #10
                    Ashes, I'd have no problem with. A coffin, and a grave? Mmmmm, no.
                    Click here before you buy.


                    • #11
                      No! That would creep me out!

                      Quin and Bayou Roux


                      • #12
                        Ashes, no problem. My mother is in her favorite spot beside a pond in a glade in someone else's woods, so I'd be happy to pass on the favor.

                        A whole body? Nope. Not because it would be creepy, but I'm in a watershed area so I can't bury my horses, so no bodies here. I'd also prefer to not be responsible for someone else's relatives, deceased or not. I have enough trouble with my own.


                        • #13
                          *is having thoughts* alas... too many people know who I am in real life.... ;sad;
                          If i'm posting on Coth, it's either raining so I can't ride or it's night time and I can't sleep.


                          • #14
                            My first horse is buried here. It ain't legal, but that's too bad. They can come and talk to me about it...

                            My Mother? Let's not go there, today

                            Ashes- OK. Body...not so much. Blech.
                            When someone shows you who they are, BELIEVE them- Maya Angelou


                            • #15
                              we unearthed quite a few skeletons when building the arena last year. And good thing I have pitbulls, because these guys keep knocking on the door trying to sell aluminum siding, or offering to cut the grass but driving a back-hoe. well, at least my dogs have free bones for a long time and I don't have to worry about those pig ear chew snacks, what with the swine flu and everything


                              • #16
                                Before anyone considers a grave with a coffin in the back 40 consider two things:
                                1. Is it legal to plant humans on your property-and don't forget the coffin will deteriorate someday leaving a big void in the dirt.
                                2. Will you own the property forever (it would be very unfortunate to have a backhoe find Mom someday)

                                And scattering ashes in some places used to be illegal so keep it quiet. No big bon voyage parties might be a good idea.
                                You can't fix stupid-Ron White


                                • #17
                                  our cemetary on this farm dates to belongs to another family but we allowed them to place a new headstone for a grandfather this year...permission they needed to get before crossing one of our fancier alflafa fields to get to it...

                                  another neighbor,who lives on a tiny tract our family sold him,erected a little cabin and soon died there and is buried in his yard right next to the hay field boundary...

                                  one year soon after the headstone was erected, I hooked a too low phone line in front of his now empty house and in being distracted about that, nearly drove onto the grave after not unlocking my front tire breaks

                                  old Bill would have had a good hoot about that....he wondered about women drivers anyway....

                                  Production Acres,Pro A Welsh Cobs
                                  I am one of the last 210,000 remaining full time farmers in America.We feed the others.


                                  • #18
                                    Sure, what the hell. Wouldn't bother me. Not sure why it would be creepy? People drop over every day. Gotta stick them somewhere.


                                    • #19

                                      Part of my dad's ashes are out in my pasture. Most of them went to AP Hill (VA, I think) as he loved military history, having been in WWII. Since I wasn't able to make it, my mother sent me a little baggie of his ashes to spread out myself. My kids thought it was the grossest thing they'd ever seen or heard of, even though ashes are completely sterile.

                                      For me, I was glad I got to spread a little of him since he supported my riding so much.


                                      • #20
                                        Heck I told my Dad that when he died he's going to have his ashes spread in the manure pile.

                                        And he thinks that I'm joking!!! I figure he spends enough time shoveling poop he might as well be with it.