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  • Baby accessories that make it easier to get to the barn?

    I'm looking for a gift for a friend who's having her first baby. I'm looking for suggestions on things that helped you get to the barn even with a baby! Can you tell I don't know a whole lot about baby stuff?

    Thanks!

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    If you can, chip in with some other people for a BOB jogging stroller. They are expensive, but was a life saver when my little one was still in an infant carrier. All jogging strollers are not created equal! This one is awesome and goes over all sorts of terrain.

    Let's see, other things...a spare diaper bag kit (foldable travel kit to hold diapers, wipes, etc.). You always need at least one extra to travel. Another good thing are the little hanging colorful bugs that velcro to the infant carriers. Endless entertainment for the under 6 month audiences.
    Second Fiddle Farm

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    • #3
      I have no human kids yet but maybe a portable play pen to contain the kid safely while she's at the barn?
      www.rockhillfarm.net

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      • #4
        A front pack baby carrier, a portable and lightweight playpen with a screened top to keep the flies off the baby, a coupon for a babysitter, a coupon for a teenaged babysitter who will come to the barn with the new mom and care for the baby while the mom rides, antidepressants for the mom because she is not getting to ride or see her horse as much as she needs to see the horse...

        Now, to be more serious, it is hard to know what she needs without a little more info. If you are in frigid New England and the barn does not have a heated tack room, the front pack, playpen, and teenager aren't going to be a lot of help. You are good to think of the mom's riding needs. It is really hard to find a way to do anything other than constantly feed, change, and hold the (crying) baby for the first few weeks. It is exciting to have a newborn, but also overwhelming and exhausting. Offering to go along with her to the barn, and then holding the baby so she can visit her horse, is a good present. Prepared meals in disposable containers or gift certificates for the local carryout/delivery place are also good.

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        • #5
          DUH! She obviously needs an au pair!!
          "Dressage" is just a fancy word for flatwork

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          • #6
            When my baby was born (11 years ago), my horse was in my backyard, and I was ULTRA motivated to get out to him. But the only time I could was when Dad was home to take the baby.

            The baby days (weeks, months, years) are just not good times for mom to be with the horse, IMO. Sad, but it has its own compensation.
            I have a Fjord! Life With Oden

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            • #7
              A travel swing! I had one of those when mine where small and would park it ouside the arena and they would sleep while I was riding. Very rarely did that not work. Of course I tried to time my riding with his napping! I also had one of those exercise saucers or whatever they are called in the tack room to keep him busy while feeding!
              Hoppe, Hoppe, Reiter...
              Wenn er faellt dann schreit er...

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              forward is like love - you can never have enough

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              • #8
                a Pack and Play with wheels and a net for flies and bugs.

                when my babies were newbies i took someone to the barn with me that way i could just tack up and ride between feedings!

                honestly, if she isn't breastfeeding or she can pump the best thing would be for her to go to the barn alone and get some respite. she'll be a better mother for it.

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                • #9
                  You're a good friend to be thinking this way, and I have no real suggestions, just a gentle warning...

                  Her brain may well come out of her uterus along with the new small human.

                  Somewhere in the next 3-5 years she may find it again. Or not.



                  I'm not trying to be mean, but I completely, utterly lost my horsey best friend when she had her first child. I sort of understand the demand and absoulte infatuation and love for the new life she bore...

                  But she couldn't even hold a coherent conversation, not to mention a horsey one. I missed her desperately for the first year, then, sadly, moved on...

                  I don't think she's been on a horse since her first, five or six years ago now.
                  InnisFailte Pinto Sporthorses & Coloured Cobs
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                  Bits are like cats, what's one more? (Petstorejunkie)

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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by 4Martini View Post
                    I'm looking for a gift for a friend who's having her first baby. I'm looking for suggestions on things that helped you get to the barn even with a baby! Can you tell I don't know a whole lot about baby stuff?

                    Thanks!
                    a nanny.

                    Sadly, I"m serious about that. If you want your friend to have serious quality time with her horse, so some babysitting for her. She'll love you for it!
                    If i'm posting on Coth, it's either raining so I can't ride or it's night time and I can't sleep.

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                    • #11
                      A good babysitter!

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                      • #12
                        Babysitting coupons from a cooperative of friends & family she'll trust to leave the baby with. She needs time away...

                        ...and we don't need baby & baby contraptions at the barn...

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                        • #13
                          My mother was a horsey mom with all 3 of us and now she is going to be a grandma in the next few days, if mine decides to come on time! LOL! Anyways, she said a swing, playpen and backpack were her best items at the barn with us.
                          Unbridled Oaks - Champion Sport Ponies and Welsh Cobs

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                          • #14
                            A babysitter

                            You are a good friend! And, yes, it's true that your friend's brain may come out along with the baby (I laughed my butt off at this -- or was I crying?), but try to believe that this loss of brain may be as upsetting to your friend as it is to you. A new baby can really throw the mom and her friends for a loop -- even the mom may not know why she can't manage having a baby and being the same person she used to be. It's not rational, it's not predictable, but it's the truth. And, we're not always even infatuated with the new life -- it's just that Mother Nature comes along and blasts us with hormones we didn't know we had, and we become unable to think beyond baby. It's scary for the mom, too, not just to her friends who are watching the horrible transformation. :-)

                            I second that other barn members might not want the baby around -- if it's crying, it will upset everyone (including the poor exhausted mom who was desperately looking forward to some horse therapy), plus all that crap for the mom to carry around is not going to be doing her any favors. If it's a barn with other boarders and other boarders see the baby, they're going to either run in the other direction, making the mom feel bad, or they're going to feel awkwardly responsible for it (unless they're parents themselves) and they'll start avoiding the baby too.

                            I think the best thing is either for you to find her a babysitter, or be her babysitter, and be the type of babysitter who says, "Just hand me the baby and the diaper bag, and we'll see you in an hour and a half. You have my cell phone number if you need me." Then take the baby out of earshot and sight and stay there.

                            If there are other moms at the barn, you might ask them exactly what you've asked this board. Maybe the mom will say, "Oh, you know, managing a horse and baby is so hard; why don't you tell her to call me when she wants to ride and I'll see if I can't come hold the baby while she grooms, rides, etc."

                            Or, depending on the horse and your relationship, etc., you could give your friend "coupons" for you to exercise/love on her horse for those times when she can't get to the barn and is feeling like a failure for not being able to see her horse.

                            Ahhh, children.... :-) Good thing they do have some redeeming qualities.

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                              Thanks Everyone! I don't actually live in the same geographic area as this friend so I can't help with the baby directly or finding a good babysitter - but those are great suggestions! Also, this friend has a retired horse that she wants to be able to visit, groom and love on (the horse is boarded)- not ride if that makes any difference in what you're telling me...

                              She's a worried about neglecting her old guy with her new baby - so I'm looking for things/ ideas to make her feel better

                              PS - Good Luck Unbridledoaks!

                              ETA - she lives in MA and is due late summer/ early fall (so shhh! nobody's supposed to know yet!)

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                              • #16
                                This ? http://www.diylife.com/2007/10/08/do...ape-your-baby/

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                                  • #18
                                    These are some great suggestions guys! I'm an instructor at a beginner barn, so fortunately, my "work" will also be my horsey time, so that's a little easier.

                                    What I'm telling my clients who are asking what to buy me for the baby, I tell them (granted I already have a child, so have most things) but I asked them to all chip in and get me a gift certificate for a house cleaning service. That way I won't feel guilty for not being able to be home to clean the house and can therefore enjoy the barn more.
                                    Life is hard. After all, it kills you. - K. Hepburn

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                                    • #19
                                      http://www.attachedtobaby.com/Default.aspx

                                      I "wore" my baby a lot until she was about 2 1/2. For doing things at the barn with baby in tow, I used a mei tai (no, that's not mai tai) or on my back in a wrap. As well as being convenient, babywearing is great for bonding with baby, and makes for happy, secure kids. Attached To Baby has a great selection of carriers and awesome customer service. Anything on Angela's site is going to be more comfortable for mom and baby than a Baby Bjorn or other similar mass produced carrier.

                                      See also: http://www.thebabywearer.com/

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                                      • #20
                                        Originally posted by Nin View Post
                                        When my baby was born (11 years ago), my horse was in my backyard, and I was ULTRA motivated to get out to him. But the only time I could was when Dad was home to take the baby.

                                        The baby days (weeks, months, years) are just not good times for mom to be with the horse, IMO. Sad, but it has its own compensation.
                                        Can't you just leave the baby in the house while you visit your horse? If it is in the backyard, you'll be able to see if the house catches on fire or something. That's what I would do. That's probably also why I don't have any babies.

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