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NO PARKING, RIGHT UP NEXT TO THE BARN! Is it too much to ask? (Bit of a rant)

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  • NO PARKING, RIGHT UP NEXT TO THE BARN! Is it too much to ask? (Bit of a rant)

    Okay, I never had this problem before, with my former BM (who was a bit of a control freak).
    But seriously, I've got TONS of parking spots in my front yard, for cars, trucks, trailers etc... Yet people INSIST on parking RIGHT NEXT TO my barn!!! Right where there are horses and riders milling about.
    I just painted a railroad tie with "PARKING HERE" on it, where people ought to park. A lady coming to ride even stopped to talk to me while I was painting it AND SHE STILL DROVE BACK TO THE BARN TO PARK!!!!!!!
    WTF???
    How do I impress upon my new BM and customers that they need to park in the yard? That it is unsafe to park right up by the barn?
    BTW parking in my yard means a 100-200 second walk to the barn!
    "Reason is, and ought to be, the slave of passions." David Hume

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    It sounds like you rent the barn to someone (BM) who runs a boarding operation? Have you told the BM that parking by the barn is forbidden and that parking is permitted only in the area designated? Have you spoken to the clients themselves as you find them "in violation?"

    For instance, the woman you mentioned who spoke to you while you were painting the sign: Did you go to the barn and tell her that she needed to move her car to the designated parking, that parking is not allowed by the barn?

    If not, that would be Step One. If you don't tell people otherwise, they will assume what they are doing is OK.

    If you have spoken with people, perhaps take a look at how you have addressed the problem. Perhaps you need to state very plainly: "BM, I don't think I have been clear before. I do not want people parking by the barn. You and your clients are allowed to park only in the area I have designated. Please make sure that parking by the barn stops now. Thank you"

    And if you actually see someone yourself, say something at the time: "Betty, I think I have been unclear on this before, but you must move your car to the designated parking. Parking by the barn is not allowed. Yes, please move your car now. Thank you."

    Your reasons are irrelevant. (I personally have seen parking by barns with no safety issues, but I do not know your layout, and it doesn't matter; your property, your rules!) You do not need to justify yourself. You own the property. If this is how you want things done, just calmly insist, smile and correct any "errors" that occur.
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    • #3
      Originally posted by Zarafia View Post
      Okay, I never had this problem before, with my former BM (who was a bit of a control freak).
      But seriously, I've got TONS of parking spots in my front yard, for cars, trucks, trailers etc... Yet people INSIST on parking RIGHT NEXT TO my barn!!! Right where there are horses and riders milling about.
      I just painted a railroad tie with "PARKING HERE" on it, where people ought to park. A lady coming to ride even stopped to talk to me while I was painting it AND SHE STILL DROVE BACK TO THE BARN TO PARK!!!!!!!
      WTF???
      How do I impress upon my new BM and customers that they need to park in the yard? That it is unsafe to park right up by the barn?
      BTW parking in my yard means a 100-200 second walk to the barn!
      You explain *why* this is a big deal: Because a fuel tank next to a barn makes a fire into a cotton pickin' inferno. Then you get serious about it and create some consequences.

      A friend of mine managed Stanford's Red Barn years ago. Parking was next to the main barn. The rule was you left your keys in the ignition. If she walked out there and didn't see your keys, she'd hunt you down, pull you off your horse if necessary and make you move your car. She took no crap from anyone about this and boarders who "got it" helped newbs get on board with the program.
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        #4
        Yes, I am renting the barn and facilities to a new BM. He is such a sweetheart that I try to not be a bitch about things. But then things get my bloodpressure so high that I feel like I'm about to explode.
        I feel that I've been clear with the BM, but I need to assert myself with his customers if he wont control them. The way my barn is set up it is surrounded by paddocks. There is room for trucks to come unload feed and hay, but only when no riders are present IMO.
        Thank you Coloredhorse. I will do as you suggest.
        I could use some more ammo in terms of why I don't think it's safe to have parked cars around my barn. Just a few days ago there was a post from someone who had some idiot park next to her fractious horse and when the horse impacted the car the car owner wanted ins info. I could see the same sort of thing happening here, or worse, a horse and rider impacting a car and the rider being injured!
        "Reason is, and ought to be, the slave of passions." David Hume

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          #5
          Originally posted by mvp View Post
          You explain *why* this is a big deal: Because a fuel tank next to a barn makes a fire into a cotton pickin' inferno. Then you get serious about it and create some consequences.

          A friend of mine managed Stanford's Red Barn years ago. Parking was next to the main barn. The rule was you left your keys in the ignition. If she walked out there and didn't see your keys, she'd hunt you down, pull you off your horse if necessary and make you move your car. She took no crap from anyone about this and boarders who "got it" helped newbs get on board with the program.
          Thank You!!
          "Reason is, and ought to be, the slave of passions." David Hume

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          • #6
            You don't need to justify having boarders park in certain spots. It's your property and your rules. If you really want, stripe the area off as a fire lane or loading zone, but it's still your place and your rules.
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            • #7
              I was just going to say the same thing. It's your barn, your rules. If someone questions why just say "Because I say so and it's my barn." End of story.

              Yours is the only opinion that counts!

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                #8
                Originally posted by ReSomething View Post
                You don't need to justify having boarders park in certain spots. It's your property and your rules. If you really want, stripe the area off as a fire lane or loading zone, but it's still your place and your rules.
                Thank you, good advice.
                "Reason is, and ought to be, the slave of passions." David Hume

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                  #9
                  Originally posted by saddleup View Post
                  I was just going to say the same thing. It's your barn, your rules. If someone questions why just say "Because I say so and it's my barn." End of story.

                  Yours is the only opinion that counts!
                  Bless you . In this economy I am nervous about scaring people off LOL.
                  "Reason is, and ought to be, the slave of passions." David Hume

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                  • #10
                    In addition to what everyone else said (with which I agree), I would also be sure to be consistent. EVERY time you see someone park next to the barn, go to them and make them move their car immediately. Tell them they cannot ever park there, and show them where they are to always park. Then tell the BM that you saw this person parking next to the barn and told them where to park. Explain to BM every time that he must make sure clients park ONLY in the designated parking area. If it is your property and those are the rules, I wouldn't hesitate to let BM's clients know directly when they are breaking the rules.


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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by Zarafia View Post
                      Bless you . In this economy I am nervous about scaring people off LOL.
                      I wouldn't. People tend to respond to reasonable rules, so long as they are professionally and consistently enforced. When I used to board, what bothered me most of all was when rules were inconsistently enforced (i.e., playing favorites or the rules changed based on the BO's mood). Rules themselves, so long as they were reasonable and clear, didn't bother me.


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                      • #12
                        As everyone else has said, you don't have to justify yourself. You don't want parking by the barn, therefore it isn't allowed.

                        Offering explanations just opens up the conversation for argument about why thus-and-so is a special circumstance. Keep it simple. No parking by the barn. Period. Because I said so. (All said with a charming smile, of course.)

                        And it's not "bitchy" to clearly state what the rules are and insist that they are followed. It's professional.

                        Phaxxton also makes an excellent point about consistency.
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                          #13
                          Thank you guys, very much.
                          In one particular case, yesterday, when I drove up to the barn with a round roll and found FOUR cars/minivans parked around the front (and in my way to deliver the hay) I was informed by the BM's dear friend that one car owner HAD to park there because she was too large to walk up to the barn to get her daughter. I didn't want to be impolite and suggest that the daughter was in fine shape to walk anywhere she liked. Plus they were thinking about summer camp, which is always a good money maker for the year.
                          I need to learn how to keep my tone of voice and words polite and professional. (So far, I just try to avoid the public unless I have something nice to say LOL)
                          Now that everyone is gone I can drive up to my own barn and deliver the feed in the back of my truck LOL.
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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by mvp View Post
                            .

                            A friend of mine managed Stanford's Red Barn years ago. Parking was next to the main barn. The rule was you left your keys in the ignition. If she walked out there and didn't see your keys, she'd hunt you down, pull you off your horse if necessary and make you move your car. She took no crap from anyone about this and boarders who "got it" helped newbs get on board with the program.
                            I can't for the life of me figure this one out. Was the plan if the car burst into flames that she would get in the car and move it away from the barn? That can't be it. Explain please.
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                              #15
                              And yes, I can see that consistency would be necessary for enforcement.
                              "Reason is, and ought to be, the slave of passions." David Hume

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                                #16
                                Originally posted by Laurierace View Post
                                I can't for the life of me figure this one out. Was the plan if the car burst into flames that she would get in the car and move it away from the barn? That can't be it. Explain please.
                                I'm thinking that if the barn caught fire then the fuel tanks on wheels could be moved away.
                                "Reason is, and ought to be, the slave of passions." David Hume

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                                • #17
                                  Originally posted by Zarafia View Post
                                  I'm thinking that if the barn caught fire then the fuel tanks on wheels could be moved away.
                                  I believe I would be more concerned with rescuing any horses inside than rearranging the parking lot in such an emergency.
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                                  • #18
                                    How about a sign in front of the barn that says: NO PARKING in front of the barn. Please park in the parking lot out front. No exceptions. Thank you.
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                                      #19
                                      Originally posted by Laurierace View Post
                                      I believe I would be more concerned with rescuing any horses inside than rearranging the parking lot in such an emergency.
                                      You wanted to know the thinking behind the post. There it is! This thread is not about how one would deal with a barn fire!
                                      "Reason is, and ought to be, the slave of passions." David Hume

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                                        #20
                                        Originally posted by VCT View Post
                                        How about a sign in front of the barn that says: NO PARKING in front of the barn. Please park in the parking lot out front. No exceptions. Thank you.
                                        I just painted and placed one . Thank you. (I will paint a second sign with the details tomorrow)
                                        "Reason is, and ought to be, the slave of passions." David Hume

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