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  • #41
    So sorry to hear of your experience. I must say that you truly are an inspiration to all of us and your courage, innovation and determination are to be commended.

    It is obvious that you obtained professional help in an orderly fashion and this is something we may all need to be reminded of from time to time.
    I was wondering how your stomach problem presented itself? I do not mean to pry into personal business (please forgive me if it appears that way) but by learning more about your early detection, it may help save someone else who may have vague symptoms. I thank you for your revelation and feel the more we learn from friends like you, the better equipped we are to seek help and survive important treatment in a positive manner.

    I pray for a bright future for you with no recurring cancer. You are a very brave soul and your experience is a wake up call to many others in terms of listening to our bodies. May all your hard work bring you positive energy and long life.

    Thank you for your inspiration and may your best rides ever occur in days to come.


    • #42
      I'm so sorry to hear of your troubles CactusKate but happy that you are feeling well. My prayers are with you.


      BEQS clique
      Resident racing historian
      The early bird may get the worm but the second mouse gets the cheese.
      F O.B
      Resident racing historian ~~~ Re-riders Clique
      Founder of the Mighty Thoroughbred Clique


      • #43
        I pale beside you due to your wonderness, your strength, your bravery. We are all the better because of it.

        You are an insperation.


        • #44

          Thank you so much for your extraordinary letter. In the past several years many of my close friends and family have been diagnosed with cancer. While it's tempting to be angry and depressed, these people have taught me so much with their willingness to share their amazing strength with the people around them. I'm grateful and humbled to be in contact with people like you, with your marvelous strength and generosity of spirit.

          Bug WHitey and I will be thinking of you [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif[/img]


          • #45
            "I am not afraid of storms, for I am learning to sail my ship." (Louisa May Alcott)

            I will pray for smooth sailing ahead for you and yours.
            "My friends, love is better than anger. Hope is better than fear. Optimism is better than despair. So let us be loving, hopeful and optimistic. And we'll change the world." ~ Jack Layton


            • #46
              You are truly strength personified! Thanks for the reminder for all of us to live every second of every day. Here's a big hug to you, your husband, and Bud. I think attitude is one of the most important healing powers, so you've definitely got that going for you! You'll win this one.

              I know you'll draw even more strength from all the prayers and positive thoughts all these posters are sending your way. Add mine to them. You keep on shining.


              • Original Poster

                But I am not surprised, as we are a great bunch of cyber-friends and family. You too are an inspiration. There are too many fine statements to acknowledge all of them.

                As has been said by others, attitude is so much a part of healing, or just dealing with the hand you have been dealt. From the moment my wonderful Gastroenterologist gave me the news, my focus was "Well what the hell do we do now?" He was straight forward, gave the good case, bad case choices. I first stated I was not going to be "the crusade for cancer" and they were not going to make a "human toaster" out of me. Felt better saying it at least.

                But then I thought about an old joke, about the man that was caught in the flood. An SUV came by to offer him help when the water was at his porch, but he said, "No, God will take care of me." Then he was on the second floor and a row boat came by to rescue him. "No, God will take care of me." He is now on the roof and a helicopter hovers to help him, "No, God will take care of me." When he drowns and is at the pearly gates he asks God, "I thought you would take care of me?" God replied, "I sent you an SUV, a rowboat and a helicopter. What more could I do?"

                So I realized I must take advantage of all the medical resources out there to give myself every chance to beat this awful disease. Any energy I want to spend on good things, not what if it hadn�t happened, or why me? There is no answer to that question and it is a waste of my time. If my days are numbered as I said before, I am thankful for EVERY single one that I am able to be up and around and enjoy some of my passions in life. We are all born dying....at least I have a clue, I could have been in an accident and it all could have gone away instantly.

                And I am sure you will all enjoy this tale. I am in the doctor�s office; he has just explained the depth of my disease and recommended immediate surgery. I am sitting cross-legged on the exam table. Mind you this Doctor is a mild mannered man of Middle Eastern descent. He is wonderful. I suddenly burst out with, "God D##N it. I just ordered a $15,000.00 horse trailer and I will be hanged if I am not going to haul my horse around in it. I haven�t even taken delivery on it yet." Well isn�t it interesting the "important" things that come to mind at interesting times? His response was, "Well it is important to have a positive outlook." And as they say the rest is history.

                It was asked the particulars of my symptoms. I certainly would be glad to share and will email if you would like. This might not be the "forum" for all of that. I also have been doing a broadcast email progress report to my friends now and then, saves telling the same story over and over and over....if you want on the list just email me and I will put you on the list.

                One last thing, with the grace of the Mayo Clinic, I can�t say enough praise for them, do not fear chemo therapy. The medical technology and chemistry is amazing today. They prepare to counter side effects to minimize the discomfort. I can honestly say from both chemo treatments and the last one was 3 days in a row of 2 � hour infusions, I have only felt like I had a bad case of flu and took meds for the nausea and haven�t lost the cookies yet.

                Love to you all and we will be keeping in touch!

                "The older I get, the better I used to be, but who the heck cares!"
                \"The older I get, the better I used to be, but who the heck cares!\"


                • #48
                  You are an inspirational, brave woman! God bless you, and if it's any help, I'm thinking of you and how admirably you are confronting this. You go, girl! [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img]

                  ...I'm looking into my crystal ball and I see many trips with you and the horses in your new trailer.

                  "You just keep thinkin', Butch. That's what you're good at." -- The Sundance Kid


                  • #49
                    and you deserve to hear it a million more. Your strength and bravery are outstanding, remarkable, and to be commended.

                    Best wishes and good thoughts for your speedy recovery [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif[/img]

                    --Build a man a fire, and he'll be warm for a day. Set a man on fire, and he'll be warm for the rest of his life.
                    Life Goes On


                    • #50
                      Cactuskate- I don't know you, but I wish I did! Can I join your fan club too? [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif[/img]

                      ~Erin B #1
                      Step One: Boot up brain.
                      Erin B #1


                      • #51
                        bumping this back up for anyone who may not have seen it previously
                        In Honor of dublin aka Dee Dee 07/24/53-02/07/03
                        \"Of course, that\'s just my opinion. I could be wrong.\" - Dennis Miller
                        *Go Bruins - Go Niners*


                        • #52
                          Keep on keeping on.

                          chief feeder and mucker for Music, Spy, Belle and Tiara. Someone else is now feeding and mucking for Chief and Brain (both foxhunting now).


                          • #53
                            your grace and strength in dealing with this is awesome. let me add my prayers for your complete and swift recovery.


                            • #54
                              but Wow! CacktusKate you are a *true* inspiration! It seems that phrase is often overused but it is certainly applicable in this case.

                              I thrilled to see that you are still enjoying your horse. That must be one of the greatest blessings -- for both of you. I wish you many more happy, smiling riding days!!


                              [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img] I just haven't been the same since that house fell on my sister. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img]


                              • Original Poster

                                Heading to Phoenix today for my Mon, Tues, Wed stint at Mayo.

                                It was too dang windy yesterday to go out and ride. My allergies have been driving me nuts, so I figured I didn't need to be breathing half the Arizona desert!!! But I did get my cantle bag for my dressage saddle made for my oxygen, maybe next week? We'll see.

                                Later dudes!

                                "The older I get, the better I used to be, but who the heck cares!"
                                \"The older I get, the better I used to be, but who the heck cares!\"


                                • #56
                                  I'm sending you a cyber infusion of strength, courage and faith. All the pieces for healing are in place; commit yourself to healing and it will happen. We are ALL sending energy your way and MY! isn't that curbchain jangling getting LOUD!. Goddess bless you, your husband and Bud.

                                  "Always look on the bright side of life, de doo, de doo de doo de doo"
                                  ~Kryswyn~ Always look on the bright side of life, de doo, de doo de doo de doo
                                  Check out my Kryswyn JRTs on Facebook

                                  "Life is merrier with a terrier!"


                                  • #57

                                    "Just call me mint jelly cuz i'm on the lamb!--Grandpa


                                    • #58
                                      <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by FairWeather:

                                      "Just call me mint jelly cuz i'm on the lamb!--Grandpa

                                      Since not everyone reads all threads...

                                      This was bumped because CactusKate passed away this past weekend. There is another thread on this.


                                      • #59
                                        Last edited by Goodyfourshoes!; May. 20, 2007, 12:48 AM.


                                        • #60
                                          [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif[/img] So sad

                                          Forgive me all, but I'm giving this a bump. I guess I just want to see her name at the top of the page...