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    As I mentioned in my post last week, Cactuskate's sister has been in touch with me and has given me some information about her to use for a Chronicle obituary.

    Since most of us did not "know" Kathy very well, I thought it would be nice to share some of the info, with her sister's blessing. I have pictures, too! [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img]

    Ad update: we have $1800, and checks are still coming. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif[/img] Kathy's sister says that, for donations, for now, they're asking that they be sent to the Hospice of Yuma. (So that will be one option for our charitable contribution.)

    Kathy's husband and another close friend are working on setting up a memorial fund for riders. According to Kathy's sister, "They would like to designate a perpetual award to be given at a dressage event. They are talking about having the winner receive some sort of award that would enable them to receive training for a designated time." Details are still being worked out.

    I'm going to paste in the emails below... sorry for the funky formatting.

    <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>
    Dear Erin & fellow COTH members,

    I am so overwhelmed by the outpouring of concern, kindness and support
    you've all shown my sister, Cactuskate, AKA Kathy. She has been
    blessed to
    know each one of you and I know she found comfort in your thoughts and
    prayers.

    I want to say that Kathy was the best role model a little sister could
    have.
    Her high standards and level of integrity made her a tough act to
    follow,
    but one to certainly strive to emmulate.

    She has done so much for so many people. Always willing to offer a
    hand.
    And, now, even in her passing, she continues to touch others with her
    inspirational battle with cancer. She fought a good fight and lived
    her
    life to the very end. She could barely move her last day without
    needing to
    rest, yet when she finally conceeded to moving into a hospital bed at
    home
    (We knew she'd be more comfortable, but she "didn't want it to look
    like a
    sick person lived here".), she INSISTED on getting into the bed on her
    own...AND SHE DID. It took every ounce of her strength, but she did
    it!!

    I find comfort, and hope you all will also, in knowing that she never
    felt
    any pain and went so peacefully. I'm so thankful to have been with
    her.
    I'm also so thankful she was part of such a wonderful group of horse
    lovers.
    (I am one also...there's nothing like the smell of horse poop and
    leather!
    [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_redface.gif[/img])

    Let me end with a phrase that Kathy said about 18 years ago. We were
    both
    active riders and she had won a hunter class at a local schooling show
    in
    Eugene, OR (where??). Someone from our barn was all excited for her,
    but
    she quickly put it all in perspective as to her high standards and what
    she
    determined to be an accomplishment. She said this is nice, but...."I'd
    rather be the bottom of the top, than the cream of the crap!"

    Thank you once again for your kindness. Kathy, Cactuskate, will be
    missed
    so much. But we know she's up there riding the perfect horse.

    <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

    Another email:

    <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>
    Here is som bio information on Kathy:

    Born 9/5/50 in Corvallis, OR

    Graduated from Lake Oswego High School - 1968
    Moved to Eugene to attend University of Oregon

    While in Eugene, she also developed a line of luggage for tack for
    people to
    use to travel to horse shows. It was called "Equitogs". She made
    custom
    boot bags, saddle covers, etc.

    She was an expert seamstress. People would comment on how her clothes
    didn't look homemade and her response was, "Well of course not, that's
    the
    point, I don't WANT them to look homemade!!"

    Horses, of course, were her passion. She rode hunters - on the flat
    and
    over fences. And, for a brief time, early in her horse "career", she
    did
    show a horse Western...It was only a brief lapse in judgment..hee
    hee...but
    in retrospect, I believe it was an irresistable opportunity to get her
    hands
    on a nice horse. By the way, she won lots of classes on that horse.

    She was an accomplished golfer. It was merely a substitute for her
    true
    obsession....HORSES, but she still excelled at it.

    She also enjoyed trap and skeet shooting...and excelled at that as
    well.

    Basically, whatever Kathy decided to try, she did it wholeheartedly,
    with
    style and became accomplished at it. She was quite honestly (and
    without
    sisterly prejudice on my part) good at anything she attempted. She
    held
    very high standards for herself and most others.

    Judy
    <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

    <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>
    Here are a couple of pix. One is Kathy and Gary on their wedding day
    in the
    limo. The other is Kathy blowing out her birthday candles on her 18th
    birthday. She loved birthday parties and always insisted on having the
    hats
    and "blowies".

    Judy
    <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>
  • Original Poster

    #2
    As I mentioned in my post last week, Cactuskate's sister has been in touch with me and has given me some information about her to use for a Chronicle obituary.

    Since most of us did not "know" Kathy very well, I thought it would be nice to share some of the info, with her sister's blessing. I have pictures, too! [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img]

    Ad update: we have $1800, and checks are still coming. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif[/img] Kathy's sister says that, for donations, for now, they're asking that they be sent to the Hospice of Yuma. (So that will be one option for our charitable contribution.)

    Kathy's husband and another close friend are working on setting up a memorial fund for riders. According to Kathy's sister, "They would like to designate a perpetual award to be given at a dressage event. They are talking about having the winner receive some sort of award that would enable them to receive training for a designated time." Details are still being worked out.

    I'm going to paste in the emails below... sorry for the funky formatting.

    <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>
    Dear Erin & fellow COTH members,

    I am so overwhelmed by the outpouring of concern, kindness and support
    you've all shown my sister, Cactuskate, AKA Kathy. She has been
    blessed to
    know each one of you and I know she found comfort in your thoughts and
    prayers.

    I want to say that Kathy was the best role model a little sister could
    have.
    Her high standards and level of integrity made her a tough act to
    follow,
    but one to certainly strive to emmulate.

    She has done so much for so many people. Always willing to offer a
    hand.
    And, now, even in her passing, she continues to touch others with her
    inspirational battle with cancer. She fought a good fight and lived
    her
    life to the very end. She could barely move her last day without
    needing to
    rest, yet when she finally conceeded to moving into a hospital bed at
    home
    (We knew she'd be more comfortable, but she "didn't want it to look
    like a
    sick person lived here".), she INSISTED on getting into the bed on her
    own...AND SHE DID. It took every ounce of her strength, but she did
    it!!

    I find comfort, and hope you all will also, in knowing that she never
    felt
    any pain and went so peacefully. I'm so thankful to have been with
    her.
    I'm also so thankful she was part of such a wonderful group of horse
    lovers.
    (I am one also...there's nothing like the smell of horse poop and
    leather!
    [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_redface.gif[/img])

    Let me end with a phrase that Kathy said about 18 years ago. We were
    both
    active riders and she had won a hunter class at a local schooling show
    in
    Eugene, OR (where??). Someone from our barn was all excited for her,
    but
    she quickly put it all in perspective as to her high standards and what
    she
    determined to be an accomplishment. She said this is nice, but...."I'd
    rather be the bottom of the top, than the cream of the crap!"

    Thank you once again for your kindness. Kathy, Cactuskate, will be
    missed
    so much. But we know she's up there riding the perfect horse.

    <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

    Another email:

    <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>
    Here is som bio information on Kathy:

    Born 9/5/50 in Corvallis, OR

    Graduated from Lake Oswego High School - 1968
    Moved to Eugene to attend University of Oregon

    While in Eugene, she also developed a line of luggage for tack for
    people to
    use to travel to horse shows. It was called "Equitogs". She made
    custom
    boot bags, saddle covers, etc.

    She was an expert seamstress. People would comment on how her clothes
    didn't look homemade and her response was, "Well of course not, that's
    the
    point, I don't WANT them to look homemade!!"

    Horses, of course, were her passion. She rode hunters - on the flat
    and
    over fences. And, for a brief time, early in her horse "career", she
    did
    show a horse Western...It was only a brief lapse in judgment..hee
    hee...but
    in retrospect, I believe it was an irresistable opportunity to get her
    hands
    on a nice horse. By the way, she won lots of classes on that horse.

    She was an accomplished golfer. It was merely a substitute for her
    true
    obsession....HORSES, but she still excelled at it.

    She also enjoyed trap and skeet shooting...and excelled at that as
    well.

    Basically, whatever Kathy decided to try, she did it wholeheartedly,
    with
    style and became accomplished at it. She was quite honestly (and
    without
    sisterly prejudice on my part) good at anything she attempted. She
    held
    very high standards for herself and most others.

    Judy
    <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

    <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>
    Here are a couple of pix. One is Kathy and Gary on their wedding day
    in the
    limo. The other is Kathy blowing out her birthday candles on her 18th
    birthday. She loved birthday parties and always insisted on having the
    hats
    and "blowies".

    Judy
    <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

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    • Original Poster

      #3
      Crap, the pic is too big, and I'm at work and don't have photo editing software. Anyone wanna shrink it for me? Email me. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif[/img]

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      • #4
        and a feeling of having been blessed to know her even if only "virtually".

        Thanks, Erin

        "Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful committed citizens can change the world, indeed, it is the only thing that ever has." Margaret Mead
        "If you would have only one day to live, you should spend at least half of it in the saddle."

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        • #5
          Thank You, thank you, Erin [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img]
          http://community.webshots.com/user/cotswoldjr
          http://temp.hillcresttrainingnet.off...m/default.aspx
          [url]
          Starman Babies

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          • #6
            Thanks Erin. She helps me keep things in perspective. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif[/img]
            where are we going, and why am I in this hand basket?

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            • #7
              <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by rhymeswithfizz:
              She helps me keep things in perspective. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif[/img]<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

              I can't count the number of times in the past couple of weeks that thinking of CactusKate and our memorial has done just this for me.

              What a wonderful gift.
              "One person's cowboy is another person's blooming idiot" -- katarine

              Spay and neuter. Please.

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              • #8
                Thanks Erin.

                "Insanity is repeating the same behavior over and over and expecting different results"
                My horse's feet are as swift as rolling thunder, He carries me away from all my fears. And when the world threatens to fall asunder, His mane is there to wipe away my tears. ~Bonnie Lewis

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                • #9
                  It's amazing what one can intuit by a person's posts.

                  That Kathy was a woman/rider/sister of high standards, someone who always gave 110%, a woman of great common sense, compassion, and courage -- well, that's not surprising at all.

                  That we now sit with $1800 is awesome. We should probably take a poll to determine how best to donate the balance of the funds.

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                  • #10
                    You can email the pictures to me and I'll shrink them and post.

                    Comment

                    • Original Poster

                      #11
                      On their way, Heidi. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif[/img]

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                      • #12
                        Try as I have for the last half hour, I can't convert the file to jpeg. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_mad.gif[/img]

                        Anyone else want to take a stab at this?

                        [This message was edited by Heidi on Apr. 30, 2002 at 01:27 PM.]

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                        • #13
                          Send em this way, I'll give it a shot. I have nothing better to do at work today. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img] Its not month end or anything.

                          Can you tell I'm trying to avoid month end [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img]

                          "Insanity is repeating the same behavior over and over and expecting different results"
                          My horse's feet are as swift as rolling thunder, He carries me away from all my fears. And when the world threatens to fall asunder, His mane is there to wipe away my tears. ~Bonnie Lewis

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                          • #14
                            Thanks Erin. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif[/img]

                            (sniff) A little teary eyed here. (sniff)

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                            • #15
                              Ok, Pictures, Attempt #1

                              [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_mad.gif[/img] grrrrr, ok, gotta play around alittle.

                              "Insanity is repeating the same behavior over and over and expecting different results"

                              [This message was edited by FirstCry on Apr. 30, 2002 at 03:07 PM.]
                              My horse's feet are as swift as rolling thunder, He carries me away from all my fears. And when the world threatens to fall asunder, His mane is there to wipe away my tears. ~Bonnie Lewis

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                              • #16
                                Erin, drop me an email, I can convert them and shrink them for you!

                                Duct tape is like the force. It has a light side,a dark side, and it holds the world together.

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                                • Original Poster

                                  #17
                                  LOL... oh dear. Well, third try's a charm, I hope. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img]

                                  I can do it when I get home, I'm sure... I just don't have photo-editing software on this machine (at work). But we'll give it one more shot. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif[/img]

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                                  • #18
                                    This works!

                                    <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>
                                    Here are a couple of pix. One is Kathy and Garyon their wedding day in the limo. <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>



                                    Duct tape is like the force. It has a light side,a dark side, and it holds the world together.

                                    [This message was edited by second chance on Apr. 30, 2002 at 04:17 PM.]

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                                    • #19
                                      Kathy blowing out her birthday candles on her 18th birthday. She loved birthday parties and always insisted on having the hats and "blowies".


                                      Duct tape is like the force. It has a light side,a dark side, and it holds the world together.

                                      [This message was edited by second chance on Apr. 30, 2002 at 04:18 PM.]

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                                      • Original Poster

                                        #20
                                        Yay! Thanks second chance. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif[/img]

                                        You have to scroll all the way back up to my original post to find out what the pictures are OF... but there they are. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img]

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