Question: There’s a new boarder in our barn. I’ve met her twice, and we’ve chatted about our horses, etc. Yesterday, I was introducing her to one of the trainers, and I completely blanked on her name. It was so embarrassing! What should you do when you’ve made yourself look like a complete goofball?

Answer: I’ve done one better. There’s a trainer that works at my old barn that I have repeatedly introduced to others as Laura, even though I know darn well her name is Andrea. Yet, Andrea still speaks to me. Why? The self-flagellation helps, but this scenario also calls for a sincere apology.

Don’t panic, because as you’ve just read above in exhibit A, you are not alone. It would have been much worse if you avoided making the introduction altogether, fearing that you might make a mistake. I can’t stand it when people don’t make introductions. It’s a basic common courtesy, and when you don’t do it, it stands out as this big, weird awkward moment.

So the next time, just be straightforward. If you’ve forgotten, admit it. Say, “Karen, this is our new boarder…..um…..” then look at new boarder with a desperate yet soulful look in your eyes. At this point, new boarder should get the hint and throw you a bone by saying, “Jennifer, I’m Jennifer.” If she doesn’t, then dive right in and say, “Oh my gosh, I’ve just drawn a complete blank on your name!” Then she’ll speak up. Apologize and move on. Try to silently commit her name to memory. One mistake is forgivable, a repeated offense makes you look harried and brain dead, just like me!

If you’re ever in a situation where you’re the one being introduced and suspect someone has forgotten your name, help them out! Extend your hand and say, “Hi, I’m Elizabeth. It’s nice to meet you.” The person doing the introducing will appreciate your thoughtfulness.

If you have a barn manners question, let me know! Email me at Elizabeth@sheridesIpay.com.