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    Studies have shown that people who post a lot on FB tend to score high on a narcissism scale. I think that explains half of it, but my observation is that people who post a ton on FB are either 1. narcissistic or 2. lonely. Sometimes both.

    Now, VERY RARELY, you will have that friend who posts amazingly insightful and/or funny things that warm your heart. But mostly it's my mom's friends posting photos of THIS DOG WILL DIE IF YOU DONT ADOPT IT HAS 1 DAY TO LIVE PLZ SHARE. And babies, oh lord the babies.

    I'll never quit FB, though. In too deep.


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    Quote Originally Posted by vxf111 View Post
    oh, so facebook is where chain letters/emails went. Good, keep 'em. I don't miss 'em!
    I guess that's one good use for it!
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    I dis-like Facebook. I have it to keep in touch with family and real friends that live all through the world. My friend count is 28 all of whom I have met and actually know. Ugh Facebook for me is 2 thumbs down
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    Quote Originally Posted by CiegoStar View Post
    Studies have shown that people who post a lot on FB tend to score high on a narcissism scale. I think that explains half of it, but my observation is that people who post a ton on FB are either 1. narcissistic or 2. lonely. Sometimes both.

    Now, VERY RARELY, you will have that friend who posts amazingly insightful and/or funny things that warm your heart. But mostly it's my mom's friends posting photos of THIS DOG WILL DIE IF YOU DONT ADOPT IT HAS 1 DAY TO LIVE PLZ SHARE. And babies, oh lord the babies.

    I'll never quit FB, though. In too deep.
    You forgot the "I KNOW WHO MY REAL FRIENDS ARE WHO SHARE THIS"
    ugh, those drive me nuts.


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    "70 percent of people won't share this..."
    D@mn right!


    I'm guilty of a few of the op's complaints. Food pics, but I try to reserve that for an unusual dish (ie the horse cookies I was obsessed with creating a few years back) and/or GORGEOUS presentation. Trust me, I'm not eating share-worthy stuff 350 days of the year!
    Selfies, particularly in the car, heh heh heh. Just did one of those yesterday, but it was after leaving the salon with darkened and blown out straight hair, which alone is so crazy different looking for me also will post pics of the dogs and myself snuggling or if I'm going out for a special event (whiiiich is about twice a year, given how socially active I am haha).

    I have written so many whiney posts but then delete almost every one before I post it. Something about typing it out feels good but then I think nope, I wouldn't care to read that coming from someone else...
    Vague booking is so annoying, agreed. But it IS really funny when someone will post super emotional (bitchy or whiny) posts, and some Omg so hungry posts, and then a vague I love my boyfriend/hubby so much!! And I just KNOW the preg announcement will be forthcoming. It's happened four times now! And even just tonight I think another acquaintance might be pregnant now. She posted some things about being hormonal (not that exact term but she was really frustrated), then later today a vague post about how much she loves her husband and having him by her side for all the changes that are coming. I'm thinking baby....

    But despite any annoying people on my feed I can't hide them! I'm just far too nosy for that!! (plus, if their political views are SO drastically different from mine, I want to know what they're posting/reading, if only to find out the holes in their views/discover the blatant spin/resource bias on whatever it is!)
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    I make very liberal use of the 'unfriend' feature. My page is nothing but kittens and horses, dogs and knitting. I like some of the inspirational/motivational things...I'm always trying to loose weight. But you can keep your drama, keep your politics and keep your hate. It's just about fun!

    If people can't measure up to that, then "click" and gone! And when people unfriend me, I don't mind a bit. Sometimes it just isn't a love match. ;-)
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    Quote Originally Posted by CiegoStar View Post
    Studies have shown that people who post a lot on FB tend to score high on a narcissism scale.
    I assume you're talking about the U of Michigan study, and if so, that's not quite what the study said. The study didn't say that everyone who posts often on Facebook is a narcissist. They said that middle-age narcissists, meaning people who tend to score high on a narcissism scale, tend to post a lot on Facebook. Younger narcissists tend to post more on Twitter.

    That said, there's certainly a lot of annoying behavior on Facebook (as there is IRL, no?) This is a funny-but-true-and-awesome article on that topic, called "7 Ways to Be Insufferable on Facebook":
    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/wait-b...b_4081038.html
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    I find it useful for sorting out who in my huge net of casual acquaintances is actually insane.

    I meet a lot of people between my two professions, and usually either receive or pursue friend requests shortly thereafter. I can't tell you the number of times after a handful of posts ill think: Oh, I'm sorry. You're insane. Completely nuts, totally bonkers. I didn't realize. Thanks Facebook for filling me in. "

    Some of them I defriend. Some I keep up with because their brand of craycray is entertaining. But it allows me to learn things about people I might have gotten in to a relationship with (professional or personal), only to be sucked in to the vortex of crazy.
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    DH's SIL posts selfies all the time. Like, not always attractive ones either, to include the Just-Finished-Working-Out, I'm-Wasted, I'm-Sleeping (no you aren't, you're taking a piccie!!), etc. And she's, um, in her 50s or on the cusp thereof.

    But I post Odie updates. Or random horsey updates about my lesson, or that Rory got stuck in the donkey paddock... Not to mention all the pictures and videos. I'm sure I'm hidden from 60 percent or so of my friends' list
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    Quote Originally Posted by mortgagemyhorse View Post
    I tend to note facebook phases if you will:

    The newest for me because of my age is people with babies or pregnant people. I love hilarious baby posts-"that's not where I left my baby" or just funny stories of what their kids did that day. They have to be legit funny. Or cute: here are the babies using the Lab as an armchair. I don't care that little Timmy went to class and was an angel. I want to hear that little Timmy went to class, pooped in the corner then blamed it on the class hamster. What annoys me to no end are pregnant people complaining about being pregnant "oh I am so sick today" "the baby is really kicking today!" "Really need baby (enter last name) to come out now!" Don't care, you are getting deleted, hope the rest of your pregnancy rocks. "Elenor loves reading X books" Elenor can't read, she is a year old. You could probably read East of Eden in happy voices and Elenor would just love it. I do however, love a good witty we are pregnant photo, and am always happy and excited for my friends who are pregnant. And, my legit friends never post nonsense baby stuff. That's why they are my friends
    Ugh. This. My SIL is pregnant with twins and posts a picture of her baby bump EVERY SINGLE WEEK. When she was 8 weeks pregnant she made an album and posted 14 pictures in it of her absolutely nonexistent baby bump and ALL of the ultrasound pictures they had so far (including the ones where it looked like a speck). Posts all the time about the size of her babies in comparison to fruit and whether or not she likes that fruit, what they must look like, what she hopes they look like, what she thinks they are doing in there etc. I had to put her on ignore, she was making me crazy. She was like this about her wedding too, so I guess Im not all that surprised.
    I am also currently pregnant (about three months ahead of her), and she was absolutely astounded that I was not making it "facebook official." No crazy, I personally told all the people that need to know and I will just keep it at that.

    It also makes me INSANE when people refer to their fetuses by their names before they are born "James Michael is really kicking today!!" WHY


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    Just by reading some of these posts, it makes me sad.
    I have no friends in real life, and facebook well that place is a recipe for depression. I do not post a lot, I share some fun things and try to comment on some friends posts. I think many people rely on facebook as a way to feel connected.
    "you can only ride the drama llama so hard before it decides to spit in your face." ?Caffeinated.


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    Quote Originally Posted by jn4jenny View Post
    That said, there's certainly a lot of annoying behavior on Facebook (as there is IRL, no?) This is a funny-but-true-and-awesome article on that topic, called "7 Ways to Be Insufferable on Facebook":
    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/wait-b...b_4081038.html
    I'm sharing this on FB lol
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    Pointed comments! As in 'SOMEONE does not deserve my friendship' or 'SOME PEOPLE have no taste in fashion', 'SHE can't even ride' etc etc etc. Everyone will think it's aimed at them, and it's downright rude if the person is recognisable.

    Or posts where people post a status like 'meh' or 'depressed', and when people reply asking what's up, they say 'I don't want to talk about it'. WHY POST A STATUS THEN, YOU ABSOLUTE KNOB.

    Or photos of horrendous animal cruelty. Yes, I know it exists, no, I don't want to look at it over my morning coffee. I have taken in a rescue horse and rescue rodents, I'm a vegetarian, I know people aren't always pleasant to their furry counterparts, but I don't want gore on my newsfeed.

    I have very little patience.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Sannois View Post
    Just by reading some of these posts, it makes me sad.
    I have no friends in real life, and facebook well that place is a recipe for depression. I do not post a lot, I share some fun things and try to comment on some friends posts. I think many people rely on facebook as a way to feel connected.
    I started using facebook for a similiar reason - my aunt has severe MS, and she has trouble getting out of the house or doing much of anything, really. Facebook helps her feel connected to the rest of the world.

    And I don't have many real life friends either. While I'm certainly not as bad off as my aunt, I have Ehlers Danlos Syndrome and Fibromyalgia, so I have days where I'm just too tired and achey to do much of anything. Since I don't know how I'll feel on any given day, I'm always a little afraid of making plans. So a lot of my friends have just sort of drifted away. But like my aunt, I can still keep in touch with them at least a little bit on facebook.
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    I have to laugh at all the shares of those lottery winnings. You know the ones that say if you like and share I will pick a winner to share my winnings with? Some of them are over 2 years old and are still going around!

    I can"t stand the posts about feeling angry, sad or FML with no reason to go with it. They leave you hanging and sometimes never say what is going on.

    I also am so over the selfies with the duckface and butt sticking out, but the worse for me is all the pics with their tongues sticking out. Not very attractive.



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    Quote Originally Posted by bits619 View Post
    "70 percent of people won't share this..."
    D@mn right!
    Only 70%? My feed is filled with "93% won't" memes. I don't repost on principle.

    I'm guilty of a few of the op's complaints. Food pics, but I try to reserve that for an unusual dish (ie the horse cookies I was obsessed with creating a few years back) and/or GORGEOUS presentation. Trust me, I'm not eating share-worthy stuff 350 days of the year!
    Same here. I can cook up a storm, but I suck at food porn pics

    Quote Originally Posted by jn4jenny View Post
    But Facebook is what you make of it. Learn to unfriend people, unfollow people, use the Lists feature (<--hint: you are missing 90% of content from your friends and Liked pages if you're letting Facebook dictate what you see in your News Feed, but with a List, you see all the content from all the people on that list).

    And above all, if you use Facebook from a computer not a mobile device, for God's sake install Social Fixer and start using the filter function. You can use it to edit out almost anything from your feed: Buzzfeed, political posts, etc. Social Fixer is freeware, but I find it so useful that I threw the guy $20 after I'd used it for six months. http://socialfixer.com/
    YES YES! Social Fixer is da bomb! I have a number of lists (also, this makes it easy to share only with people of like-mind--you're not overwhelming non-horse people with horse related stuff)

    Quote Originally Posted by Groom&Taxi View Post
    Any post that has chain-like characteristics. "Share if you support a cure for cancer". Cure for cancer would be great, but I only share things I think are worth sharing.
    Cancer survivor here: I HATE those. I don't care to be reminded that my body tried to betray me.

    Facebook as a recipe file is a major peeve. If you want to save the recipe, figure out how to copy and paste it to a file, don't "share it so it will be on your timeline."
    The "share to keep" thing only works IF the original poster doesn't remove the recipe and IF you use a #hashtag in your share. FB doesn't have a decent search feature. You have to tell it specifically what you want. Unlike Google, it can't figure out what is likely to be a recipe and what is not. Share to share, but copy/paste to keep

    PS-the most annoying person in my feed was my idiot sister and her constant shares of this stupid multi-level marketing scheme that is the latest way she's gonna make it Big. She unfriended me in October and has texted me twice/otherwise refuses to acknowledge me since, because I found and shared proof on my own timeline (without naming her!) how the thing was a scam. Also got yelled at by our parents and one aunt for making Idiot look "gullible and clueless." I don't miss her at all.
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    I don't post selfies, but when I do, I'm wearing a fabulous hat

    FB is whatever you make it. One friend does post a ton of selfies. But she also is a fantastic writer so I give her a pass, she's hilarious in almost every non-selfie post

    I use it to communicate with our GMO- it's quick, easy, and I can instantly see oh good, 137 peeps saw this post and they can quickly shoot me a question.

    I was THRILLED when our Iranian friends who used to live near us but moved home many years ago, were in Boston last month visiting their daughter and the husband messaged me a hello and miss you to DH and me. Just thrilled.

    It's what you make it, people.

    And yes, I unfollow radically-anything people, it's exhausting and not what I'm interested in chatting about or reading.


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    The "unfollow" feature is your friend people. If someone on your friends list constantly posts statuses that you don't like, just unfollow them and the statuses won't appear on your newsfeed. So easy.
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    People who hate Facebook: clear out your friend list and start over. Focus less on "social" and more on "networking" and I think you'll find it more enjoyable.
    Yeah, well, you know, that's just, like, your opinion, man.


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    I use Facebook to share the sarcasm that people who don't see me on a daily basis are missing. It's rare for me to post anything serious there.

    Now if I get this job that I had a 2nd interview for yesterday I am going to have a Facebook party - everyone will just need to know. (I want it REALLY badly because my current job is sucking the life out of me!)


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