I have been debating on whether or not to post, but feel the need to connect with those that have also lost their spouse and to get on my soapbox about flu shots.
My husband of 27 years passed away in early January from complications due to H1N1. We NEVER got flu shots. We didn't meet the guidelines for those in danger. We were not old or young, nor really had any underlying health problems. But let me tell you, I will get one from now on. This year's flu does not discriminate. He was a relatively healthy 57 year old man. Came down with a cold, then BAM. What that virus did to him, and the others in the ICU along side him, was vicious and brutal. When he died, all of his systems were failing - circulatory, respiratory, kidney, liver. The only things keeping him alive were the ventilator and the medications, which were enough to kill a room full of people.
My closest friends have been amazing, but they really don't understand. I know that sounds harsh, but they don't. I have connected with a few women who have lost a loved one, and they have been very helpful. I am grateful to be able to share with them - this crazy, emotional roller-coaster I am now on. It will take a while to find the 'new normal'.
Bottom line, GET A FLU SHOT. It might save your life.
I am so very sorry for your loss, and thank you for sharing that story. It may help save lives. Fifty seven is very young.
My healthy daughter contracted the flu three years ago, aged 24 at the time. We had been in Canada for Christmas and got stuck in the Chicago airport for hours flying home to the east coast. I firmly believe it was a combination of someone who worked outside (horse farm) and not around a lot of people, and then being stuck inside of planes and airports for hours.
Why I didn't get it, at age 59, who knows? Maybe because I work in an office and am around people all day, have built up resistance.
She was so sick, went to the emergency room twice in two days and stayed for hours.
We both have not failed to get flu shots since that time! It is a serious illness, people.
Only part of me worries...the other part doesn't believe in it.
Wings of Desire
I got the flu one year. After that, i have gotten a flu shot every year. insurance covers it, and i sure as hell don't want to go thru that again. What bothers me is people who have the common cold going around saying they have the flu. No, you have a cold. a cold is bad, no doubt, but it is not as bad as the flu. i hope the OP can find Peace and heal.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I had put off getting the shot for my girls and I, but when a young boy died in a local hospital (and many more people in my state and the neighboring state which I live close to) I went and got them. It was a fight to get one of my girls to do it, but in the end she did. I hate needles with a deep burning passion but one needle vs the flu I'll take the one needle.