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  1. #1
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    Default Soon to be X boyfriend is moving out, but, still wants to board his horse at my farm

    hes a jerk ... too long of a story to go into... you all know the type


    anyway
    ...... is this going to turn out bad??????



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    yes.
    Kerri


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    Don't do it.

    Cut ties and don't look back.

    It will not work out like you hope.
    "If you think nobody cares about you, try missing a couple payments..."


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    Yes, it will be bad.
    http://www.youtube.com/user/NBChoice http://nbchoice.blogspot.com/
    The New Banner's Choice- 1994 ASB Mare
    Dennis The Menace Too- 1999 ASB Gelding
    Dreamacres Sublime- 2008 ASB Gelding


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    Yes, it will end badly. Be glad it's just his horse and not children.
    "We can judge the heart of a man by his treatment of animals." ~Immanuel Kant


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    Yes, there is not one even tiny upside to this situation. Don't do it.

    I have a story about my husband, his ex-wife and chihuahuas...(shudder) I can't imagine any ex coming on property anytime they want to see their horse.

    D O N O T D O I T !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!


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    Another vote for this is going to end badly.


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    Bad idea. Very, very bad. Kick him out.
    the "I'm In My 20's and Hope to Be a Good Rider Someday" clique


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    It will end worse than badly. Don't do it.


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    I don't see a way this will benefit you much at all. You don't make enough money on board to justify the emotional trouble this will cause you.

    Get out now!



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    LOL - NOTED

    that didnt take long.... I will let him stay until he finds a place for him (I do love the horse ) but, I will give him a time frame.. sigh......


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    Quote Originally Posted by Jumpin_Horses View Post
    LOL - NOTED

    that didnt take long.... I will let him stay until he finds a place for him (I do love the horse ) but, I will give him a time frame.. sigh......
    Just be sure you stick with the time frame. If you say 30 days, then you need to MEAN 30 days.

    Good luck with it.

    As an aside, I've lived next door to my SO for 10 years with no problem, but then again, we didn't have to deal with each other on anything.


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    Well it all depends. Is he well mannered? Does he behave in large groups? Does he hit on all females? Does he have any vices? Does he behave when you are alone with him?

    So much for the ex-BF.

    Well as for the horse now, if he's a good horse and behaves himself, and if his owner pays the board on time, and if it won't bother ex-BFif you have a new guy and it won't bother you if he brings out some topless dancer to see his horse, well then OK. I've been friends with a few ex-boyfriends, but none of them had horses. (and most of them were bad boys, so the answers to all questions in my first paragraph would be "no."



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    Quote Originally Posted by tidy wabbit View Post
    Well it all depends.
    Quote Originally Posted by tidy wabbit View Post
    Is he well mannered?
    in front of others, yes, when we are alone.... NOPE...

    Quote Originally Posted by tidy wabbit View Post
    Does he behave in large groups?
    Yes

    Quote Originally Posted by tidy wabbit View Post
    Does he hit on all females?
    yes, and they hit on him too... sigh

    Quote Originally Posted by tidy wabbit View Post
    Does he have any vices?
    oh, yes

    Quote Originally Posted by tidy wabbit View Post
    Does he behave when you are alone with him?
    oh... big - N.O......
    Quote Originally Posted by tidy wabbit View Post
    So much for the ex-BF.

    Well as for the horse now, if he's a good horse and behaves himself, and if his owner pays the board on time, and if it won't bother ex-BFif you have a new guy and it won't bother you if he brings out some topless dancer to see his horse, well then OK. I've been friends with a few ex-boyfriends, but none of them had horses. (and most of them were bad boys, so the answers to all questions in my first paragraph would be "no."
    yea, I wouldnt care if he had girlfriends, but, I do care who is around MY animals/stuff. Im not a boarding stable, im a private farm. Im not sure how he would react to a new guy in my life.....

    I will draw up a boarding contract, that states move out date... AND have him sign.... (I watch enough Judge Judy, LOL)


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    Yupper - especially since he doesn't behave in private. Would guess if the horse gets an eyelash out of place, it will all be your fault, no matter how civilly you ended it, nor how fastidiously you care for his steed.

    So if you'd prefer to avoid the drama, I'd say end the boarding. But if it's water off your back, he'll sign the contract, and you can use the money, it's a consideration.
    Being right half the time beats being half-right all the time. Malcolm Forbes


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    I would say, being an ex and wanting to still stay in your life shows lack of common sense.

    In such situations, you need to make a real break, have him move on or you move on if it was his place and world, as much separation as you can, so you both can go on with your lives separately.

    I think that to still have a recent ex in your life in any category will just make for uncomfortable situations, unless you both were wonderful friends that just parted ways, but still think much of each other.
    Sound like you don't think much of him, so why keep him around?


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    This would only work if the split was relatively amicable and the guy was able to transition into the role of boarder without dragging up past relationship issues (ditto for you being able to transition into role of BO).

    Doesn't sound like that is remotely the case here. Give him a firm deadline and good riddance.


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    Be sure to lock up all your stuff (tack, etc.) until he is gone just in case he wants some "mementos" of you.
    Crayola Posse - Pine Green
    RIP Whinnie Pine (June 4, 1977 - April 29, 2008)


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    oh yea, thanks

    he can buy his OWN bug spray from now on.... and dewormer... and horse cookies... and..... etc......

    I will also lock up the $$$ items... just so there is no confusion


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    And don't forget to change all of the locks on the house, and any other places, such as tack or feed rooms. You never know when someone acquired a key that you don't know about, or if you have a hideout key buried or hidden, then move it. Make sure all windows and doors lock securely also. Get his horse gone ASAP, or you'll be on here wondering why you let the horse stay.
    You can't fix stupid-Ron White


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