Honestly? I don't think its awkward. I have plenty of male married friends and acquaintances and often I WILL send a message as opposed to posting a comment if a discussion or comment may lead to a longer discourse, whether I know the person well or not. While my relationship with my SO is a more uncommon type, I don't presume that upon anyone else, but I also don't see ANY issue with developing completely platonic relationships with others of the opposite sex and single, married, or other. I don't think that a married man being friendly with an acquaintance is any reason to immediately jump to nefarious inappropriate ideas...he's a person, wanting to speak to another person. Gods help me if I didn't have male friends or speak to men I don't know well of various relationship statuses, I'd never have friends. Same for my SO, who mainly has female friends of various relationship statuses.
I blocked a Fb friend mostly because of my reaction to what I saw in the pics she posted, not anything extreme, sex or drugs or lillegal, just stupid a$$ed horse related stuff. Too skinny, equipment issues, like that. Worst of CL showing up on my Fb page, oh joy.
If it bothers you then ignore it. If you're like me and you get peeved about having it in your face and have a hard time just ignoring it, block or hide him.
I have unfriended people before and never got a comment about it, but this guy would probably notice, he's probably using the chat feature, just like the one friend might, so block or hide.
I'd unfriend him. The one message about not wanting to "pubicly" like something you wrote? Why the heck not, if you're above-the-board acquaintances who are members of the same club? That would set off my skeev-o-meter (as it sounds like it has with you) and I'd click unfriend without a second thought. Go with your gut, it's usually spot-on .
OP....Go with your gut on this. Instincts are usually right on. You can also set your Facebook settings to where he is still your "friend" but does not see anything you post. That way there is no awkward "Why did you un-friend me?" question next time your club meets. It will look like on your end you just quit posting on Facebook. You can also block him from seeing your chat light on.
"I'm an idealist. I don't know where I'm going, but I'm on my way."
If you are uncomfortable, then go with that. I would do as Jamie said, and hide his posts, and delete his emails. I bet he emails, and comments on so many people's threads on FB that he will never guess he's been eliminated from your page. I suspect that he thinks he's being friendly, but if you don't like it, then get rid of him.
I am to the point in my life where if someone bothers you in any sort of fashion, you delete them from data base. I am also a very superstitious lot, and never ever ignore the little voice in my head. Its really not about what he is saying, or how he is going about saying it, its about how you feel. As far as a later scene about why he was unfriended, blow it off with " I'm really busy and can only keep up with my close friends and family"
Maybe he can't quite figure out how to comment? Sounds a lot like my Grandma...
I don't think that you're off base though. If you have a bad feeling about somebody, it's always better to act on it than ignore it!
I concur on both counts. I have some aged relatives who took forever to get the hang of replying to posts, posting on a wall and sending PM's. Things were always in the wrong place for the longest time.
FWIW, while I respect intuition, I don't see anything even slightly amiss with his comments.
"Things should be as simple as possible, but no simpler." - Einstein
“So what’s with the years of lessons? You still can’t ride a damn horse?!”
To me, messages 2 and 4 in your examples sound like he's trying to establish some intimacy that really isn't there in your relationship.
Anyway, all that really matters is that the contact is making you uncomfortable. Doesn't matter what his intentions are, really. I don't use Facebook myself, but if someone were making me feel uncomfortable, I'd probably just "unfriend" them so they couldn't contact me...unless there is a business or social reason why that would be a problem. In that case, I'd let him know you aren't comfortable with the nature contact...if he didn't respect that and persisted, THEN unfriend him.